INSIGHT FROM TAUREANS?

Me and my cousin were discussing this earlier...I personally have never had this experience with a Taurus concerning rejection of gifts...so I thought to ask on here...she thought since I m friends with a Taurus I might understand but I really don't as ive never seen or heard of it...so here it goes...

She apparently got our Taurus grandmother a just because gift years ago..she said our grandmother just looked at the gift said thanks and didn't even take it out of the box...she also always heard how our grandmother wanted a home make over...so when our grandmother went on vacation her and her boyfriend repainted her entire house got new floors etc...when our grandmother got back she was so angry it wasn't even funny...from what I heard she made my cousin cry...it took a while for our grandmother to soak everything in...she even took some of the paint off trying to get it the way it was...she eventually just left it..her Taurus ex boyfriend she also had this issue with...she got him for example one x-mas lots of clothes and cologne etc...just nice things...on x-mas day he opens everything says "thanks" just like our grandmother and starts getting ready for work...my cousin says "thanks? did you like your gifts or not?" he said they were nice but not what he wanted..apparently he had said he wanted a particular razor or something like that..not sure but anyway...now she s having the SAME issue again with her Taurus gilfriend..who wont take money or "gifts" from her...from a Taurus perspective what is she doing that s off? Why are these Taurus always rejecting her gifts or offers to help?...

The thing she did with her grandmother would've PISSED ME OFF LIKE CRAZY.

"I want to redecorate"
"Okay I will secretly do it when you're away without asking you for colors or furniture or anything"

No. Just no. Did I mention no?

With her bf...if the guy mentioned a razor, why didn't she buy that? She could've bought what he wanted and then add smthg extra if she felt so inclined. But the guy told her straight up.

I think the problem is she's not paying attention to them. They should be grateful for what they get of course but if you want to gift someone anything..and they tell you straight up what they want then why not buy them that?

ok the whole house thing I have to agree makes sense...I m not a Taurus and I would also be frustrated if I came home and everything was different w/out my consent...but with the xmas gift for her boyfriend she said she couldn't find it so got him other stuff..anyway but this is what everything...such as even little gifts aren't accepted..even if shes eager to help in some way they don't seem to like that...and if she gets them a gift they seem "obligated" I guess to get her one...its just strange and I have never experienced this with them...

The obligation to give back is the bad part. If you gift someone something..do it without expecting anything in return.

Maybe they feel she is expecting something costly in return and they don't like that? Just a guess, I don't know your cousin..what sign is she?

I am extremely house proud. Territorial. I may grumble about something but I love every stick of my home. It's my haven and solace. If anyone upended that without my knowledge I'd be gutted. Angry too. It's not the same as it was.

As to someone getting me gifts. Tbh most are a let down. It equates with not truly being listened too or known. Especially when I go out of my way to pay attention to wants/needs and likes/dislikes to get just the absolute perfect thing for someone special to me.
I'd be moved to tears to receive something long admired or a pretty stone from a child's hand. A bread machine or a 'hey I had an afterthought here ya go!' ehhh, not so much.

*challenging my inner taurus in this thread*

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Thumbs up to that ^^. Grandma prob had a specific idea in mind, if at all...we're persnickety like that. And it's truly annoying to know ppl don't know us well enough to come up with something we'd enjoy.

For instance, I always make sure to get my sisters useful or practical gifts for bdays/Xmas. I remember one of them (Cancer) actually got me a salad shooter -- really?! I am notorious for being the family junk food junkie, since when do I eat FKN salads?!? It can be quite unnerving to receive a gift with no thought behind it. Why bother.

Sorry if that sounds rude but as Damnata said, why didn't they pay closer attn?

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Even from a good place it shows lack of respect for Grandma's turf. And her feelings on the matter.

Better approach? A lovely gift card to her favorite nesting haunt or home improvement place.

*CHANNELING

*shakes fist at merc retro*

The Aries would always fret one month before my birthday. Me telling him stuff across the year would go into one ear and our of the other. Then, the month before...panic would hit. I'd leave him fret for a few days or a week if I felt sadistic enough and then tell him straight up. He would ease up immediately.

He on the other hand always accused me of witchcraft because I always knew miles ahead what to get him.

Posted by peaceloveandhappiness
since when do I eat FKN salads?!? It can be quite unnerving to receive a gift with no thought behind it. Why bother.

There was a thought behind it though "SHE NEEDS TO START EATING HEALTHY AND I WILL MAKE SURE OF THAT"

Poking fun at Taureans never gets old 😄

Really, just give us money because we clearly are the only ones who know what the fuck we want. 😆

My cousin is a leo if that helps...and she always put a lot of thought into the gifts...and was pretty close to our grandmother or so it seemed....they talked all the time etc.. so that's what makes the situation odd...

Posted by Damnata

Posted by peaceloveandhappiness
since when do I eat FKN salads?!? It can be quite unnerving to receive a gift with no thought behind it. Why bother.

There was a thought behind it though "SHE NEEDS TO START EATING HEALTHY AND I WILL MAKE SURE OF THAT"

Poking fun at Taureans never gets old 😄

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LOL I did think of that - had it come from anyone else but her. She always gives us random gifts tho. Ok I understand budget constraints but inexpensive doesn't have to mean CHEAP. Ok let me stop ragging on my poor sis. 😛

Oh I remembered a funny story. My great grandmother was a Taurean (RIP).

She'd love to eat meat and sausages and would always ask my dad to go buy for her since she couldn't move as swiftly at 82. One night my dad decided he should look after her health and her weight and bought her some veggie sausages - with cheese inside and vegetables I think.

I told him it was an awful idea and went with him to her house. She grabs the sausage, takes a full bite and SPITS IT IN MY DAD'S FACE

"What the fuck is this shit? You will go and buy me meat, boy"

I was dying, dying!! I think I trolled my dad for a full week with that.

I think cousin might give the gifts SHE wants.

Posted by Damnata
Oh I remembered a funny story. My great grandmother was a Taurean (RIP).

She'd love to eat meat and sausages and would always ask my dad to go buy for her since she couldn't move as swiftly at 82. One night my dad decided he should look after her health and her weight and bought her some veggie sausages - with cheese inside and vegetables I think.

I told him it was an awful idea and went with him to her house. She grabs the sausage, takes a full bite and SPITS IT IN MY DAD'S FACE

"What the fuck is this shit? You will go and buy me meat, boy"

I was dying, dying!! I think I trolled my dad for a full week with that.

YESSSSSS!

Posted by airfive
My cousin is a leo if that helps...and she always put a lot of thought into the gifts...and was pretty close to our grandmother or so it seemed....they talked all the time etc.. so that's what makes the situation odd...

This is one of the issues my dad had with my mom. She would always but such lavish gifts...and he always asked for socks but never got them. It was infurriating to him

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Posted by airfive
My cousin is a leo if that helps...and she always put a lot of thought into the gifts...and was pretty close to our grandmother or so it seemed....they talked all the time etc.. so that's what makes the situation odd...

Oversight on her part. She more than like expected praise and kudos, in short deep down it was for her own strokes. Not questioning her Grammy love but out of respect and consideration the woman should have been asked first.

"Shut up, old Taurus woman. We, the young uns know better"

My cousin seems to think they might do this out of some sort of guilt? about the taking any gifts from her...

I guess if you're that person that's not listening or paying attention then u won't mind your gift being thrown into that junk closet right?

I don't know but my Leo mom pulled this shit all the time.

10th of september rolls in

Leo "Happy birthday honey! I got you your present!"
Virgo "Oh did my screwdriver set arrive?"
Leo "I bought you this awesome perfume"
Virgo "Thanks" => HUGE emphasis on every letter while he was saying that.

*Virgo walking grumply away*
*Leo asking herself wtf just happened*

Posted by venusianbull

Posted by airfive
My cousin is a leo if that helps...and she always put a lot of thought into the gifts...and was pretty close to our grandmother or so it seemed....they talked all the time etc.. so that's what makes the situation odd...

Oversight on her part. She more than like expected praise and kudos, in short deep down it was for her own strokes. Not questioning her Grammy love but out of respect and consideration the woman should have been asked first.

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well thing is my cousin and our grandmother had shopped prior to the redecorating but didn't buy anything...so she had a good idea what our grandmother wanted and did exactly as she said she wanted...but waited til she went on vacation to actually do it...idk if that's a leo thing or not...

Meh, still not kosher. Especially to an older Taurus!

I may admire something, doesn't mean I really want it. Sometimes a dream is nice just as it is.
Someone's perception of what I want usually is off the mark.
It may not be practical. The color I was jazzed over may not strike a chord in a few days. That Jacobean print may clash with my suite. 😱

Someones home is deeply personal and reflects their essence. What makes them at ease and feel safe. Their niche.

The cousin got swept up into her own head about how exciting it would be. I understand that. But she didn't stop and THINK that she was altering years of decisions. Decades of loving and arguing. Of children's feet, memories and tears. Laughter, hopes and dreams.
What made this house uniquely her own.

Of course she was upset. Understandably so.

Posted by peaceloveandhappiness
Meh, still not kosher. Especially to an older Taurus!

This too. Haha!

Posted by venusianbull

Posted by peaceloveandhappiness
Meh, still not kosher. Especially to an older Taurus!

This too. Haha!

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So is there any particular reason why maybe our grandmother would go to my cousins house and rearrange her house? was that like an eye for an eye thing?

"is that the reason" not particular...

Nah we're not really 'an eye for an eye' ppl...house setup just prob just gets on her nerves ha

yea I thought so too..but im not a Taurus so I was getting the info from horses mouth so to speak...or rather "bulls" mouth... 🙂

Coz that's what grandmothers do.

Always fluffing, arranging. Putting new roll on. Baking cookies..

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Posted by airfive
Taurus grandmother a just because gift years ago..she said our grandmother just looked at the gift said thanks and didn't even take it out of the box...

My Taurus grandmother did this to me a couple of times. It comes off as cold and unappreciative. I was really young at the time (around 17) and gifted her a moderately expensive gift (100usd). She just looked at it and said thank you, no emotion. No excitement. I agree, you should always buy them exactly what they want, but don't expect that to be good enough either. Enigmas, those Taurus folks.

Fast forward to now some 10 years later, when we go shopping she has me buy stuff for her she really doesn't want or need, just because she want me to spend money on her. So manipulative. This makes me not want to be around her too much. I still love and care for her though.

I'd never knowingly touch or interfere with a Taurueans posessions! My taurus commandered a paper bag from me once, I had just removed my purchase and put the (very small) bag down on the bed, he picked it up and put it on his bedside locker - no words of claim spoken. I was tidying the room and was about to put the bag in the bin and he, with fully affronted and disbelieving tone, said what are you doing with my bag - he was so shocked! Funny part was he didn't want the bag for anything but had thought he might in the future and in that instant it became his possession, I laughed so much but folded and put it away in his "mine" drawer (as I call it - full of such things).

Couldn't even imagine changing a whole house, I'm surprised the grandmother didn't remove the cousins life at that point. BUT as to the "just because" gift that she didn't open, well that's just rude - to me any gift that someone gets me just because they thought of me is a gift worth having and cherishing. Not the same as a birthday or special occassion gift.

I have to admit to feeling a bit leo like deflated though when I asked my Taurus last night what he wanted for his birthday and he said a new motorbike helmet - it's so practical - but he'll get it.