The one: male bull & female sag

This topic was created in the Taurus forum by aftershine on Monday, February 10, 2014 and has 13 replies.

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@aftershine
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A male bull friend of mine has his heart set on a sag. I asked him "how much do you like her?" he told me "if she wants i can be the one for her".....Bulls love and care deeply. What does "the one" mean to a bull in terms of romantic love? Is it 'i want to marry that person' or just be in a serious relationship? Which one is it?
Also, sag and taurus compatibility...any good?

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In my case, if I said something like that then I mean all the way (love interest to lover to fiance to life partner). Some of us are hopeless romantics so we mean business when we say this.

Jusy a pain in the ass that we sometimes suck at the execution of this. 😢

Hence him saying "if she wants"...

As for compatability, I don't know. I haven't had a sag interest before. Not that I think we really care about that. If my heart tells me your perfect then you are, till proven otherwise.

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Sure, just without the 'if you want' part. Because in her case it would be because I want to, not a question of if.

Although, looks like that ship has sailed... :/

But generally I say what I feel and mean very much what I say and feel.

Hate not being able to express my feelings for anothers 'sake'. That is bs. You either with me or against me.

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I think she has given up with one weeks effort after I gave my everything for a year. That and a few things are changing.

We would have studied together, but this morning I got accepted for a higher degree study, so I am not doing the course with her anymore. Friends of ours wanted to go on a boat trip and wee would have been baby sitters, the trip has been cancelled. And when invited to a get together, she response to nobody. And lastly, I suddenly am getting work offers from different states... So ya. I currently don't want to leave here, but the offers are damn good.I don't need the money or a new job. But it is there.

I am far from over her, but I am moving on. If the tides change so quickly, then I am going to follow the tides. I am done with fighting a storm that I cannot win. I have shown her me, my heart, my soul, my everything, and it wasn't good enough. Then I move on. If she comes back, then I'll see but for now, the discomfort has to go, the waiting has to stop and my life has to go on.

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@aftershine
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@omagaiii: :O she gave up after ONE WEEK, thats nothing compared to your effort but maybe she likes you and wants you to ask her out since you're the guy...?? How did she reach out to you during that week? How did you respond?

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Well she called me at least 4 times a day for four days in a row, invited her self to my place for coffee and she stayed for about 3 hours, and she made a quick turn the following day as well. I answered every call, and even called her back on one occasion after we discussed something that she was interested in. I acknowledge her every move. We had a chat while she was with me etc...

Then she went home for the weekend. And after that, she sent me a message last week Tuesday. Then... nothing... Tomorrow it will be two weeks...

Mutual friends of ours told me that last week she was messing around again. She keeps suit on a destructive path. Most of our mutual friends have also retracted from her saying they don't approve of what she is doing.

Anyway... Monday she posted something from T.D Jakes on social networks.

"When God gives you the grace to make changes that you know you couldn't do with your own strength, it becomes precious to you!"

Whatever this means, all I know is that I do miss her and do care a lot still. I still want her with me, but whatever she is up to or going through, she has to allow me in. More than that... I feel totally lost. I cannot stop thinking of her, nor do I want to 😛 But I really have to just relax and see what happens.

Next week, we would have attended class together, but I have been moved up to an advanced degree, so I won't be attending. Another of our friends will however be attending with her.

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I appreciate that this guy is your friend and you probably only want what is best for him. Still, to get this involved in his romantic life and try to psyche out their compatibility is kind of creepy. My first thought was, do you like this dude? Maybe not but good fences make good neighbors. You're better off staying out of his romantic business. That's his thing to work out. You can be friends without being this intimate. My ex had a female friend who got jealous of every GF he ever had and tried to sabotage the rela. And the kicker: she's gay. She just didn't like the thought of sharing him with another woman. I'm not saying you're that girl. I'm just saying keeping good boundaries here will preserve the friendship and your good name. Namaste.

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@aftershine
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@este8: i get where you are coming from but we've known each other for more than half of our lives. We are childhood friends and hes like a brother to me, as for the sag and bull compatability question i was curious. Because i dont PERSONALLY know any sag+bull couples, my grandparents were a sag+bull couple but they passed away when i was 6 years old. And some other bull has my heart...

@omagaIII: oh my ??

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Posted by aftershine
@este8: i get where you are coming from but we've known each other for more than half of our lives. We are childhood friends and hes like a brother to me, as for the sag and bull compatability question i was curious. Because i dont PERSONALLY know any sag+bull couples, my grandparents were a sag+bull couple but they passed away when i was 6 years old. And some other bull has my heart...

@omagaIII: oh my ??

I hear you aftershine and childhood friends are great to have. I'm not sure if sag/bull is a good combo or not but it really comes down to the maturity and love between the people involved. I've always believe that any astro-combo can work out with love. For me, astrology is only a guide to the ways our sun sign energy can play out. And I believe, just as the planets revolve around the sun that the sun is far and away the most important planet in the zodiac. Best of luck to your friend and his new lady love. It's always a crap shoot in the love departmenet.