Is there any chance for me with this taurus guy?

Hi everyone, I could really use some advice if anyone has experience with this.
I (30) knew this taurus guy (35) last summer via facebook, we have friends in common and he saw pictures of me and things I cooked (I love to cook) and said he liked what he was seeing of me. We talked some times and he always asked me a ton of questions about my point of view about relationships, children, life in general, etc. and also told me about his stuff, but I gave not really into it because I had other things in mind at that time. He talked to me again in November saying he wanted to meet but I was really sick so I said I would tell him when I was feeling better. It took me really long to get better and totally forgot about it and did not contact him until december, we started talking a lot, all day long and had a really great chemistry and lots of things in common.
As it was Christmas and all the festivities I told him to meet after New Years eve when everything was more calm, and as we live not in the same city (2 hours distance) we could only make it on weekends. We kept talking and one week before new year he said he couldn't wait, he wanted to see me, so I agreed and we met that sunday evening. We had a great time having some tea, talking a lot and walking around the city. At some point he kissed me and we both had a great feeling.
From this day on we talked almost literraly every single minute, saw each other every weekend, he came to my place, I went to his place, we met with friends of ours, he talked to his parents a lot about me, that he really felt I was the woman of his life, that he loves me, etc. At every moment he was really clear with me, told me he got married but it did not go well so he separated but is still not divorced because of some papers and he wanted me to know that because he couldn't get married until he got everything settled.
He went really fast, wanted to move together as soon as possible, talked about children and we made plans for going on a trip to visit his best friend. In february I got my period late and thought I got pregnant and was a bit scared because It was way to soon to have a child with him, he agreed but was there saying that if it happened we would manage somehow so I kept calm. Finally I wasn't pregnant and we talked, he said we should take things a bit more slowly, he didn't want to rush into something, that he always did this and it never worked out, he didn't want to make the same mistakes because I was so sp

...special to him and he was seeing me like the person he wanted to spend the rest of his life with.
We took things with more calm and everything was really great, he asked me for some space, I gave it to him, we were happy, with its usual little things due to distance. Two weeks ago he took me to a dinner with some clients of his and presented me as his girlfriend very proud because they told him I was a really lovely and polite woman.
Then suddenly during the last week he was getting colder, like stepping back a little bit, still saying me nice things like my love, mi life, but less talkative and making weird comments like "maybe this works, maybe not, you're special, things may be different". On thursday I asked him if I was too pushy always saying that I miss him and love him and he answered we would talk on the weekend in person better. I kept patient and understanding (really hard for an Aries, but he was worth the effort), normally we would meet friday evening and stay the weekend together, but he told me to better get together on saturday morning, I was ok with it thinking he just might have things to do or just needed to be on his own.
We met on saturday, went for a walk, had some sushi, he was very affective, hugging and kissing, so I thought that maybe things weren't that bad, that maybe he just had some bad days. We went to his place and stayed there wathing movies, kuddling, I made dinner, he was really sweet with me all the time and the next day we went for a walk and driving there he told me he was leaving me, that he was really sorry for it, that he knows I am the perfect person for him, exactly the woman he was always searching for, that he hates to hurt me but he sees he is not able to be in a relationship, not even with the perfect woman for him, that he feels anxious when he is with me more than 2 days in a row.
He says he had a hard time figuring this out, but thinks it is the best to not take it further and make it worse. He wants to keep in touch because he apreciates me a lot and got to trust me like not many people.
Sorry for extending too much, but what do you think, is there a chance he makes up his mind and comes back some day? Or should I just get over it? I'm willing to wait for him, when I truly love (and I do in this case, he's really a wonderful man even if he says he is not), it takes me a long time to get over that person, even if I'm fine with not being with him. Although I'm Aries I'm patient to bore, what should

...I do?
Thank you a lot!

Yes I know I should just believe what he is saying, guess I'm too stubborn to let him go just like that 🙂 he almost cryed when he left me at the busstation and couldn't stop hugging and touching me. I know he is sun in taurus, moon in virgo, AS in scorpio and MC in cancer, but I really can't figure out what that means hahaha.
Thank you!

Separated... So not divorced then...

Yeah...I have very little experience with serious relationships, it's hard for me to trust and open up, guess that's why I love this one so much...from the first time we met I told him the only thing I need is him to be clear and direct with everything, to always tell me everything, and he made a big effort to do so, thing I appreciate a lot. And yes, he's been mulling over it for some days, he told me he couldn't get sleep because of me 😛 .
Thanks for the advice, I really don't want to loose him as a friend because we can talk so great and he is a great person, maybe as friends we do better, I will see how he acts with me from now on. He talks to me asking how I am and random stuff.
But thanks a lot!

Yes, not divorced yet AgentP911, she is russian and he promised her father he would wait until she could get his nationality. He is over her, she is with her former boyfriend, reason why he left her in the end, but he said he made this promise and as he has a good relation with him he sticks to it even if he does not like it too much.

Married him for a visa... Great!!

Yeah...that really hurt him...and this happened just 1 year ago, so maybe he's still too afraid of getting hurt again.

Hahaha Hotbeefy I always said "no man with emotional issues please!" but it's really not easy to find one 😛

That's so true and exactly what I always tried to do!! But well it sucks when you think that this someone finally appeared and then suddenly is gone

Yes, guess you're right, just need to make up MY mind 🙂 thank you very much!!

Posted by Hotbeefy
Why would you want to find one? Be happy that you're single until someone complement your life, if not then it's not worth it.

Like what Roald Dalh said:
"STAY SINGLE UNTIL SOMEONE ACTUALLY COMPLEMENTS YOUR LIFE IN A WAY THAT MAKES IT BETTER NOT TO BE SINGLE. IF NOT, IT??S NOT WORTH IT."


Always loving the Roald Dalh Quote!

Great quote.

Posted by ScorpiosHarmony

Posted by scorchedearth

Posted by ScorpiosHarmony
When a man says he doesn't want a relationship, believe him. He sounds like a typical Taurus with venus in aries, always starting what they cant continue long term.

Move on with grace, true reciprocal love will find you someday 🙂

excuse you. 😐

Problem?

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Scorch has venus in aries. Hahahah

Posted by scorchedearth
people just talk a lot of shit about venus in aries and venus in gem. those two placements are demonized. it gets old.

Personally, Venus in aries is addictive to me! my aries moon and sag rising loves that strenght and hmm cockiness.. Nothing against venus in gemini cuz i have one in mars. LOL

Posted by AriesLady8
You should take the glass half full approach... He was honest with you and kind about it. He respected you enough to wait to have that conversation face to face. You can tell it troubled him but he had to do what was best for him and we all have that right. He even checked on you to see if you were okay. I don't think it is best to jump right into a friendship just yet because it seems like you still carry a torch for him. Plus Im familiar with Aries Taurus pairing, you're only going to love him more and be frustrated with an unrequited love. His reasoning seemed vague tho. He felt anxious when he was around you for longer than 2 days?!?! What does that mean??

I'm an extremely positive person 🙂 I'm not mad at him, he always treated me good. We talked yesterday because he sent me some photos I asked him for the other day, and I asked him right away to tell me if I should fight. He said I shouldn't, he's not worth it, that the time he spent with me was wonderful, that I am kind of the only women he really got to respect and cheer (guess I am the only one that didn't make a big mess yelling and being childish lol). He said that being with me just showed him that he can't be happy with anyone, not even with me, that he's not ment to be in a relationship, he gets anxious and afraid when he should be happy and in love, that he knows we could have made it but he can't. I think he has some serious issues going through his head, although he is not willing to admit he has a problem, he just sits there saying "that's the sad truth". And that really pisses me off, I'm an Aries, if I have a problem I solve it, and seeing him so weak and whining around just makes me feel sorry for him.
He said to meet next week to hand me back some things I left at his place, so ok, I know now where I stand, if he's just too lazy to make a change it's his business, I deserve better 😛. I will keep in contact because we have a photosession in mind, and I want these photos because at least as photographer he is really great!!

Posted by busyeyes88
@QuietAries. No disrespect, but he was not even divorced so he really should not have been in that situation with you in the first place. Butter would have happened eventually. In my opinion the minute a person says the are separated and not divorced, that is my queue to make a fast exit...

Don't worry 🙂 he's not divorced because he promised his exs father to keep the marriage on paper to get her the visa she married him for... He's not happy with that but he sticks to his promise. And he told me the first day we met in person so I could choose if that was a problem for me or not. But I do understand your point.

Jesus... When will these guys get their shit together!!

Posted by AgentP911
Jesus... When will these guys get their shit together!!

Sorry, I'm not english...what does this butterthing mean?? 😆DDD

Ok so it's been 3 weeks now, he talking to me almost every day. In first place he said some things that made me think he just wanted to keep having sex so I told him sorry I'm not that kind of girl, if he wants to be just friends that's what he gets from me, I don't have any problem with being friends. He got really pissed hahaha just had to smile with that. Days later he said he really misses me, his father keeps asking for me every day, and one day he caught me really unpatient so I told him clearly he should decide and keep that decision, friends or be together, I really gave him quiet a conversation hitting where it hurts and pushing him hard to do something about the mess in his head, but I don't accept something in the middle nor some crazy mindgames.
He tried to turn things on me and escape the conversation but I didn't give him any chance, I know I was making him feel uncomfortable but I really had nothing to loose, I was just being honest and he is the one that has to make up his mind. A few days later we talked again and he said that I know what will be his final decision, that I would see, I just answered that until he doesn't tell I have no clue. Next day we had another big talk and he said that yes he wants to be with me, loves me, cares a lot about me and misses me much but he needs some time to figure out things and recover that "spark" that makes him crazy about me... I told him that I'm fine with giving him time to think, until then we're good friends, and if he finds that "spark" in time, great.
I really don't know what will happen and I don't expect nothing, I'm just trying to believe that he is being honest. What do you think?
Thanks a lot! I really appreciate your point of view!