@goldrockett
12 Years
Do Taurus Men step back when feelings get deep ?
Posted by GENERALIZOD
THE SHIMMY.YES WE'D LIKE YOU TO THINK WE HAVE SOME DEPTH.
IN MOST CASES THAT'S NOT THE REASON WHY WE DO THE SHIMY.
hmmmm , so what other reasons could their be? Especially when things are good between both people.
Posted by goldrockett
hmmmm , so what other reasons could their be? Especially when things are good between both people.
are they good though? by definition if the guy is backing away, telling you he doesn't want to see you, with conversations that are 'off', things are not good.
Posted by jeane
Posted by goldrocketthmmmm , so what other reasons could their be? Especially when things are good between both people.
are they good though? by definition if the guy is backing away, telling you he doesn't want to see you, with conversations that are 'off', things are not good.
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Well he's not saying he doesn't want to see me. He told me he wants to see me next week. He just seems a bit more dryer than usual in our conversations. We still talk throughout the day though. I did get a bit emotional and cry when I last had to depart from him and today he told me that overwhelmed him a little. I expressed to him my reasoning and he understood and said we are still good and agreed with me that we both want things to go forward instead of backwards.
Well he's not saying he doesn't want to see me. He told me he wants to see me next week. He just seems a bit more dryer than usual in our conversations. We still talk throughout the day though. I did get a bit emotional and cry when I last had to depart from him and today he told me that overwhelmed him a little. I expressed to him my reasoning and he understood and said we are still good and agreed with me that we both want things to go forward instead of backwards.
it may be fine but i would take what he says with a pinch of salt. it's only been a month. he's already thinking if your crying is a sign of things to come and that has given him pause.
if he says he was overwhelmed a little, i would assume that meant a lot. if he says things are back to normal, i would also take that to mean they are not really (because his actions don't support that) but perhaps in time when he becomes more assured with your reactions they might be once more. perhaps if he was an air sign, he might have been able to take it in his stride a lot quicker.
i think the best thing for you now is to be as consistent and stable as possible. no quick movements and no emotional outbursts. he has to learn that he can trust you and your emotions. show him that he can do that.
Well he's not saying he doesn't want to see me. He told me he wants to see me next week. He just seems a bit more dryer than usual in our conversations. We still talk throughout the day though. I did get a bit emotional and cry when I last had to depart from him and today he told me that overwhelmed him a little. I expressed to him my reasoning and he understood and said we are still good and agreed with me that we both want things to go forward instead of backwards.
it may be fine but i would take what he says with a pinch of salt. it's only been a month. he's already thinking if your crying is a sign of things to come and that has given him pause.
if he says he was overwhelmed a little, i would assume that meant a lot. if he says things are back to normal, i would also take that to mean they are not really (because his actions don't support that) but perhaps in time when he becomes more assured with your reactions they might be once more. perhaps if he was an air sign, he might have been able to take it in his stride a lot quicker.
i think the best thing for you now is to be as consistent and stable as possible. no quick movements and no emotional outbursts. he has to learn that he can trust you and your emotions. show him that he can do that.
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Ok i got it! Thank you so much for the advice I truly appreciate it.
Posted by tiziani
I disagree, I wouldn't read into his words. I'd take them at face value. It's the guys that don't tell you they thought it was weird you cried that you can second guess. But if a guy is straight edge enough with you to say "hey that weirded me out a little but we're cool"... then I wouldn't think into it anymore than that. He probably means exactly what he says.
Thats a really good point. With that being said Im glad he was blunt with me about it instead of acting shifty and holding back the reason as to why.
Posted by tiziani
I disagree, I wouldn't read into his words. I'd take them at face value. It's the guys that don't tell you they thought it was weird you cried that you can second guess. But if a guy is straight edge enough with you to say "hey that weirded me out a little but we're cool"... then I wouldn't think into it anymore than that. He probably means exactly what he says.
then why be off since that incident?
Agree with above post. Arrangements have been made to see each other the following week. Maybe this week he wants to see his mates, have a beer, and scratch his balls or whatever.
Posted by AgentP911
Agree with above post. Arrangements have been made to see each other the following week. Maybe this week he wants to see his mates, have a beer, and scratch his balls or whatever.
LOL I was thinking that. I have been taking up his weekends for the last 4 weeks lol. He probably just needs that time to balance himself back out and its healthy for him to do that. Also that amount of time apart then seeing each other I feel might make us closer , or at least make things better.
well, i hope i am wrong goldrockett! maybe i am a little too untrusting when it comes to what guys say vs what they do.
Posted by tiziani
I disagree, I wouldn't read into his words. I'd take them at face value. It's the guys that don't tell you they thought it was weird you cried that you can second guess. But if a guy is straight edge enough with you to say "hey that weirded me out a little but we're cool"... then I wouldn't think into it anymore than that. He probably means exactly what he says.then why be off since that incident?
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Him being 'off' is her interpretation and perception. It might not be accurate. Men like to chill out with their friends occasionally. Let it go, relax and focus on when you are going to see him the following week rather than focusing on when you're not going to see him this week.
Posted by jeane
well, i hope i am wrong goldrockett! maybe i am a little too untrusting when it comes to what guys say vs what they do.
Lol its fine , I still appreciate the advice you gave. Helps me to calm down and let things flow
Posted by tiziani
I disagree, I wouldn't read into his words. I'd take them at face value. It's the guys that don't tell you they thought it was weird you cried that you can second guess. But if a guy is straight edge enough with you to say "hey that weirded me out a little but we're cool"... then I wouldn't think into it anymore than that. He probably means exactly what he says.then why be off since that incident?
Him being 'off' is her interpretation and perception. It might not be accurate. Men like to chill out with their friends occasionally. Let it go, relax and focus on when you are going to see him the following week rather than focusing on when you're not going to see him this week.
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Lol yeah you're SOOO right. I'll let it go and focus on next week. Don't want him thinking im possessive or whatever.
Posted by tiziani
I disagree, I wouldn't read into his words. I'd take them at face value. It's the guys that don't tell you they thought it was weird you cried that you can second guess. But if a guy is straight edge enough with you to say "hey that weirded me out a little but we're cool"... then I wouldn't think into it anymore than that. He probably means exactly what he says.then why be off since that incident?
Because he's human? I mean he explained it put him off a little. It's just being honest.
It doesn't mean you're not allowed to continue being exactly who you are. You're human too. It's a month and you're still getting to know one another for all your quirks.
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Yes exactly , and I respect that he understands and still wants to keep moving forward. We've clicked in so many ways he might see it could be worth going through and getting through.
Posted by AgentP911
Agree with above post. Arrangements have been made to see each other the following week. Maybe this week he wants to see his mates, have a beer, and scratch his balls or whatever.LOL I was thinking that. I have been taking up his weekends for the last 4 weeks lol. He probably just needs that time to balance himself back out and its healthy for him to do that. Also that amount of time apart then seeing each other I feel might make us closer , or at least make things better.
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Exactly. We can sometimes be too focused on needing to see the guy all the time. We forget to see our friends too. Time apart is good especially during this early stage.
What I would say is if he dealt with the crying thing ok then he sounds ok.
However, he did comment or wonder if that 'behaviour' might continue. So just be aware that he's observing your behaviour so don't be throwing your toys out your pram about him wanting a weekend off. I hope that doesn't sound shit as its not meant to but I just mean if you show you can deal with time apart it might put you in the good books.
Posted by tiziani
I disagree, I wouldn't read into his words. I'd take them at face value. It's the guys that don't tell you they thought it was weird you cried that you can second guess. But if a guy is straight edge enough with you to say "hey that weirded me out a little but we're cool"... then I wouldn't think into it anymore than that. He probably means exactly what he says.then why be off since that incident?
Him being 'off' is her interpretation and perception. It might not be accurate. Men like to chill out with their friends occasionally. Let it go, relax and focus on when you are going to see him the following week rather than focusing on when you're not going to see him this week.
That's a good way to look at it.
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Posted by AgentP911
Agree with above post. Arrangements have been made to see each other the following week. Maybe this week he wants to see his mates, have a beer, and scratch his balls or whatever.LOL I was thinking that. I have been taking up his weekends for the last 4 weeks lol. He probably just needs that time to balance himself back out and its healthy for him to do that. Also that amount of time apart then seeing each other I feel might make us closer , or at least make things better.
Exactly. We can sometimes be too focused on needing to see the guy all the time. We forget to see our friends too. Time apart is good especially during this early stage.
What I would say is if he dealt with the crying thing ok then he sounds ok.
However, he did comment or wonder if that 'behaviour' might continue. So just be aware that he's observing your behaviour so don't be throwing your toys out your pram about him wanting a weekend off. I hope that doesn't sound shit as its not meant to but I just mean if you show you can deal with time apart it might put you in the good books.
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Doesn't sound bad at all , things like that I like to hear so I can have a better view of how to deal with it. I definitely want him to see I can deal with it. Thank you for your words you have nooo idea they definitely helped out.
Sweet! My work here is done... I can now sleep soundly 😄
Posted by goldrockett
Just curious if feelings my grow heavy between a taurus and someone , myself also a taurus , is it possible they may pull back a little bit. Still keeping contact but seemingly cautiously?
Only if the feeling isnt mutual.
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Just curious if feelings my grow heavy between a taurus and someone , myself also a taurus , is it possible they may pull back a little bit. Still keeping contact but seemingly cautiously?