Lazy, Selfish, Slow...hmmm—

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Noidea1123
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After reading the post by sssuuupp, I was very curious as to what it is that other seems to get this impression of you.

I dated a Bull a while back and without bashing him as he was such a nice guy I would say:

Lazy: it appeared that way sometimes, we never got very far on dates as he always was waking up late and coming down to see me so late most places were closed. He never seemed lazy with his friends though...

Selfish: I always used to remember things going on in his life and would check up on him but the same didn't happen visa versa. Missed my birthday because he wanted to do his own thing even though he said he would be there at 7 turned up at midnight!!!

I would say I felt like an afterthought to him which Is why I ended up breaking it off. I loved him very much but he always acted like he had better things to do, yet he would tell me how much he loved me and he wrote me a letter, I was the love of his life and he wanted it to stay that way etc which I thought was really nice but then his actions never seemed to show this.

After we broke up he was there for me all the time....huh? Nothing like when we were together! Picked me up/ dropped me off, you name it. And after it finally clicking as to him still trying to stay in contact with me until now and only to find all the things I never thought he remembered he had stored in his amazing memory!! All this time I'm thinking he is interested but he remembered it all except I needed to know it then!

I just wrote mine as an example but where/why are all these wires getting crossed? Clearly you do care but somehow it does not translate the same.

What are we missing?
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After we broke up he was there for me all the time....huh? Nothing like when we were together! Picked me up/ dropped me off, you name it. And after it finally clicking as to him still trying to stay in contact with me until now and only to find all the things I never thought he remembered he had stored in his amazing memory!! All this time I'm thinking he is interested but he remembered it all except I needed to know it then!




Sounds like my ex and I before...

I think he is emotionally unstable ( probably dating a lot).

Ask him why he is doing that. Mine was a playboy.

But I am not emotional person.. we broke up before and I just let it go.



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Posted by busyeyes88
Not much interest... My bull is nothing as you describe!!!


true. I find bulls are really hard working...



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I had to split with a bull because he never stopped working. Nights, weekends, holidays. (He was in entertainment). But I began to realize he didn't have as much time for me as I required. Another Taurus friend owned his own company and had an office in his house and worked constantly too. Not all Taureans are lazy, is the point I'm making here. Some go too much the other way.

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Posted by busyeyes88
Not much interest... My bull is nothing as you describe!!!


true. I find bulls are really hard working...




I had to split with a bull because he never stopped working. Nights, weekends, holidays. (He was in entertainment). But I began to realize he didn't have as much time for me as I required. Another Taurus friend owned his own company and had an office in his house and worked constantly too. Not all Taureans are lazy, is the point I'm making here. Some go too much the other way.


The males are very very bad at it. I have a Taurus male friend I have known for 27 years and after his split with his gf 19 months ago, he just works works 24/7 7 days a week and I have to constantly remind him that it's pointless putting in all this work with money in the bank with no one to spend it with and no time to spend it. Pointless! He has no children and his mother lives with him and he is 51!!
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Wow!! That's craziness!!

To be fair we dated when we he was 20 so not too mature. Now 34. He enjoys basketball and plays for a good team so when he is not working he is at some tournament or game weekdays/weekends you name it. I don't know when he sleeps!!

Not to mention if he gave me the attention then that he gives me now, just as friends, we would have still been together!