Marriage Could It Be??

Some of you may remember my earlier posts, I mentioned how unemotional my Taurus is and sometimes I don't even know if he is really into me let alone in love. Saturday we??re at dinner and he says —Do you think we??ll be together in a year and a half— I was kind of caught off guard as he never really mentioned us as in the future, so I tell him yeah I guess so, we??ll just take it day by day. I thought my lack of enthusiasm would have set him back but it didn't, he responded out of nowhere and says —if we??re together in a year and a half, we??ll talk about marriage?? Totally baffled, I'm thinking where did this come from. I ask does that mean we??ll go ring shopping? He shocks me again and says —yes?? very confidently. I realize anything can happen in a year but the fact he initiated the conversation and said the —M?? word when he hasn't even told me he loves me, is totally confusing to me. I guess Taurus men aren't expressive in their emotions. Things have been great in the last few weeks, guess you really do have to wait things out and be patient with a Taurus.

Bella, I think you are right. I'm in awe at his change. He's not a bad person but I think he fell in the —comfort?? zone and he started to come off a little critical in the things he said. When we had our talk about his lack of emotions and how tough I feel he is on me, things changed almost instantly. I think he thought about it and also that we've invested a year and 8 mths in each other, in my book its not a large amount of time but as you get older (35+) you start to realize how precious time is. I may be wrong but I also think his fear of commitment made him picky and critical, kind of to assure himself that the relationship wouldn't work, if that makes sense. I mentioned to him this weekend casually how I appreciate his change and I just wanted him to know I noticed, he said he thought some things over and decided to ease up some. OMG??_ wow this communication thing really works..lol

Thanks Machiavelli. I'm still replaying the whole conversation in my mind. I'm trying to take it day by day and just see what happens. I think the whole wanting to hear it has to do with old issues with my father and him being emotionally unavailable, now that I know that, I can stop putting so much emphasis on the verbal expression and just enjoy the amount of time spent and care and concern he gives. I have to say at my age, he is the first guy that has even mentioned marriage and that I have been in a lengthy relationship, so that too was probably another factor in wanting to hear certain things from him. Thanks ladies for all the support..

I will. Whats funny is it doesnt seem as urgent now that I at least have evidence we're on the same page..But of course, I'll be happy and smiling like Chester Cheetah if he says it.

Posted by allluv72
I will. Whats funny is it doesnt seem as urgent now that I at least have evidence we're on the same page..But of course, I'll be happy and smiling like Chester Cheetah if he says it.

OH! I thought you wasn't ready to get married?? Hmmmmm i see he gotten you smitten lately!

Mach, I learned the hard way. I use to do that the first few months that we started dating, he mentioned he'd committ to being a relationship after we felt we had gotten to know each other well enough, I took it and run with it. Until he told me I was pressuring him to be make it official and it was chasing him away. I just wasnt use to someone being so consistent with calling and showing up when they said they would, he always answered his phone, never went more then 20 minutes returning my calls, it was very strange compared to what I was accustom to from other men, I guess I wanted to snatch him up.I thought it's too good to be true but it was just a slow Taurus who was analyzing and watching my every move. Once I realized he was at least attached to me, I slowly eased up.

wow thats encorraging! may I ask how long you guys dated before it was official and how long its been official? Thats really romantic by the way lol

"guess you really do have to wait things out and be patient with a Taurus."

Yes girl...it's a must. I was "patient" for 7 years.

In fact, I had to seriously think about leaving my taurus before he was committed to marriage. It's sad, but when they think you are really serious about letting them go, poof! they change. This happened to us about a year ago. I was fed up and I pulled very far away. He changed and really tried for a bit...now it's back to how it was before, but that couple of months were great!! LOL!

Hi Ladies, sorry I havent been on the boards much, I have missed reading all your posts.

Fish Scorp, it took about 6 months for us to be exclusive, though deep down I think he was only seeing me the whole time. I think he was waiting as long as he could before he broke down and said I'd better do it before I lose her. To me 6 months is an eternity, especially when you communicate 3-5 times a day and you're together every weekend. Like RamFish said they react when they think they're about to lose you then they slowly fall back into their comfort zone.

Bella things are good, we're still going at a consistent pace. Though he has been saying things like "if we're going to be together I guess we need to start saving money now". We've been looking a houses online though I know marriage is still a ways away. January will mark our 2 year anniversary from the time we met, can't believe it's been that long.