My dad is a Taurus, I need help asking him for a favor

My Taurus dad was an emotional mess for a very long time. Starting during his teenage years until I turned 16 a long time ago.

Having enough of seeing him drink himself to sleep every night and being very violent, I gave an ultimatum to my Gemini mother. I'm leaving when I turn 16. If you want to come with me, come. If you wanna stay with him, fine but I'm leaving. She followed me.

He was never violent with me and my mother, but he did try to set the house on fire many times. Countless nights of him playing loud country music on school nights. Drinking when I was having bad grades. It's just the tip of the iceberg.

Now, my dad is no longer drinking and we've been rebuilding our relationship slowly. But I live in a different state and I can't go all the time. I'm a Capricorn. I have a hard time expressing my feelings for him. As an earth sign, I think he understand.

My dad has been saving his money for years for me to have it when he dies. I'm his only daughter.

Fast forward to now. I need about $ 1000 to pay for a car repair. I live in an expensive city doing a job I love. I worked hard (lol cap, am I right?) to get it but life is expensive.

My mom suggested I ask my dad for the money, with the promise to pay him back in a few months, which I know I can do.

But all my life, my mother warned me about my Taurus dad. How I'm not to strain the relationship, or he's this and that. Pretty much picturing him as a dragon you're not supposed to disturbed under any circumstance or a hybernating bear that might maul your face off if you talk to him at the wrong time.

So, what's the best way to ask someone like him for a favor? I don't want to strain all the work we've done so far. I grew up without knowing him as a man but knew him as a damaged person.

I am really sorry.

I understand ....I wish i knew how to help. But I don't.

Just tell him your car needs $ 1000 worth of repairs. And hear to what he will say.

Good luck.

Posted by Impulsv
No talk to him tell him what's going on with your life that you need a little bit of help and that you're willing to pay back the money within a couple months. What's the worst that could happen is he says no and he gets angry. That's on his energy

People can be really abusive sometimes. And it damages progress you have made.

It's difficult though....to endure. It depends on how his reaction affects the OP it's dependent on their personality. I tend not to ask difficult people for things not because it's unreasonable to do so. But because I have never known it to help. It mostly makes things worse. In fact I try not to talk to these people in my family/life as little as possible.

It might be easier to ask someone else. But not because it's not ok to ask. But just because of who he is.

But if you feel he is stable enough right now you could talk to him ask him.

Just don't take anything he does or says personally. That's about him not you.

Posted by IndependentArtisticLady
I grew up without knowing him as a man but knew him as a damaged person.

I understand.

Some men don't really deserve daughters. That's the issue.

You didn't deserve what he put you through.

I hope it all works out.

xx

i say come to him with a plan. treat it as a loan from a bank, even type up a contract. $ 100 a month for 10months. It will show your responsibility and genuine need. I think he will recognize that. but if you offer to pay him back, then please do it. otherwise that will not benefit the rebuild of your relationship.

who knows he might give it as a gift and you wont need to worry.

Honestly,

From a Bull's perspective, your Taurus father will be quite elated and relieved if you ask.

I disagree with the other posters about the loan repayment.

To ask for a loan repayment will be an insult to his pride. (Trust me I'm a Bull).

It's like reaching for the check, when a Taurus man is expected to pay for dinner.

He isn't working to live....he's working to give.

Everthing he's doing...he's doing for you.

He already knows that you're responsible, you don't have to prove yourself.

You're both Earth signs, and I'm sure the both of you understand each other telepathically.

Why beat around the bush, just come right out and ask.

He knows he failed you as a father....so he will need to feel needed.

He's matured and mellowed out. Look at what it cost him?

His prized possession...his family.

Bulls are not the best communicators, nor do they prefer to regress or harbor on past negative feelings.

You may never have that discussion with him about the past, and how you were affected.

You will not witness a raging Bull,lol.

They move forward...give....give....give...and try to make up for it instead.

Taking personal accountability, fixing the problem and moving forward could be the best silent apology.

Trust me, he is going to take care of you, and fulfill his promise to you.