My taurus and I....

decided to become official on weds night. He told me that he had been dating another girl besides me but had ended it with her after recieving signs from me that I wanted more. The funny thing is....I havent heard from him since Weds. Do you think he pussied out and changed his mind? Or am I overreacting? Granted, I have been in a relationship for quite some time but I find it odd not being in constant contact with the one you're in a relationship with. I feel like a fool 😢

What Shaks said. And do not attempt to make him jealous in any way.

its hurtful to me though. Don't tell me you wanna be with me and then dissapear. It makes me feel like he changed his mind....

😢

like his actions and what he said are not lining up. Whats the probability that verbally he agreed to something that maybe hes not mentally ready for?

I will tell you this, the Taurus male is known the world over for this behavior pattern. They like the chase, the capture. Once you're CAUGHT you're a done deal. It does not mean that he did not mean what he said either, if he/you made the decision that you're exclusive then game over.
Ask yourself what he does for you, Taurus males are absolute rubbish at words. They follow through with action and just expect you to know what they're feeling. Unfair, sucky? Yes it is, because as women we do so crave words and strokes to keep our equilibrium.
Try not to let it make you a basket case. Hard going I know as I'm sure he's on your mind. But do things to distract, intentionally.

Answer to second question. About nil. He has weighed, re-weighed and even triple checked every angle in choosing you to be his woman. Believe me when I say all the pros and cons were calculated in that brain of his and he made the mental flip. You are his choice.

it really wouldnt bother me to not be in constant communication if i KNEW 100 percent that he DID want to be with me. I guess I'm just having a hard time because as an aqua i AM used to words as a love style . He shows me with his actions that he does care about me when we are TOGETHER.

As an air sign i too go over and over things in my mind.....After not hearing from him for a few days after our talk i started analyzing the shit out of our situation and started to get paranoid. I have a huge amount of pride and don't want to feel like the fool that thinks shes in a relationship when she's really not.....especially since making it official was MY idea. My gut says he totally digs me and was waiting around for me to finally say i wanted to be with him. I finally figured out that he wasn't going to man up and that i would have to do it though....not an easy thing for an aqua girl!

so what im hearing is that i should just be patient and not jump to conclusions that he doesnt want to be with me, right? And that i should hear from him soon and act as if everything is peachy keen?

Taurus men dont expect the woman to be the one who does all the calling, texting, and plan making.....right?

ah, ive never been with a taurus but.....they are suchhhh lovely creatures minus their lack of follow thru. But i have never been with such a caring, sweet, witty and pleasing guy! 🙂

Yes, be patient, do not jump to conclusions. You will hear from him. He could just be incredibly busy, and to a Bull that means just that. Most of the focus is on the job at hand. Constant texting, calling, etc equals irritation. Not saying you have to meekly fold your hands and nod your head in female wonderment at the awesome spectacle of manhood that he is; just let him make the first moves. And use your intellect to sound it out. Aqua and Taurus do one thing extremely well, make each other laugh. A vital tool since we do very much enjoy sparkling wit and good conversation.
Think of it as a game of chess or Othello. One move requires thought before the next is taken.
If your gut is telling you he's into you, he's into you. Tell the flutters to kiss your rear end. 🙂

So i should stop paying attention to my girlfriends who keep telling me he must "not be that into me." And that if your boyfriend isint calling/testing you all the time he must not really want to be with you?

I've had zero experience with bulls. They are very intruging....I think he may be my opposite in mannnny ways, minus the fact that were both extremely stuborn. I catch him watching me out of the corner of my eye and he tells me I'm the most adorable thing ever. =) And you're right......we both crack eachother up.

I know 100% I want to be with this man. I'm so extremely picky, I've been single for the last 3 yrs. I really hope it works out and I'm trying to let my gaurd down a little and not be so worried about getting hurt. We both admitted to eachother that we have a really hard time with trusting others.

I just wish id have heard from him by now 😢

p.s. thanks for all your advice....i really appreciate it. Im the kinda girl that could probably really stand to read the book "Relationships for Dumbies" lol I'm not the best at the lovey dovey stuff....so used to just worrying about myself :p

*texting not testing!

Posted by DaBull_isDaShit
Hi xoxo,

I'm really sorry if my answer is different from anyone elses... I think you should be patient at the same time protect your heart for now! I do find it odd, that if you guys are official since Wednesday then why hasn't he text you at least... I mean yes we can be very busy and engrossed in our careers, but c'mon think logically here, there must be a time where he actually has a minute to quickly type on his phone a simple 'hello'....!? Sorry, but to me something ain't right. We are slow, but not that slow, especially if we are in a relationship with you.
During the dating stage was he like this as well, not call or text you for this long? If so then it could be that he is stuck in that routine of his.
And one thing I have to agree with venusianbull is that, Taurus man loves a chase, as much as they hate it, they love it deep down, and once you are 'caught' it can be game over.
Just wait until he contacts you, and in the mean time you can focus on yourself.

Yeah, I have to agree. If he is really in to you, I don't see him not contacting you for a few days; HOWEVER, we (Taureans) do get busy, and making money & working is number one priority (no matter how much we like you...sorry, but that's pretty true for males or females - in my experience...) With all of that being said, it doesn't mean he hates you, he just may be busy doing other things...but guard your heart and be smart about your stuff!

I agree with what the last posters have said. I don't believe i am asking for that much to hear from him every now and then?.....He does work nights and his busiest work time is on the wk ends....but still. He would have text me by now when we were in the dating stage. Also, not to sound childish but i was the one who text him last. I said it was weds that we became "official" i meant Tues...ooops. Weds I sent him a happy st pattys day text and we texted back n forth for a while. I'm begining to think that maybe if he did mean what he said he has had a change of heart and maybe has realized he isint ready for a serious relationship 😢

I'm not sure what to do. My first instinct is to go into protect my heart mode and just ignore him when he finally does contact me. Not to play games but just because as more and more time passes I'm begining to feel played and I'm tired of putting up with bullshit. If he doesnt want to be with me, thats fine....I don't want to be with any man that doesn't want to be with me. I'll walk.

Posted by DaBull_isDaShit
Hi xoxo,


During the dating stage was he like this as well, not call or text you for this long? If so then it could be that he is stuck in that routine of his.

During the dating stage he was like this. We wouldn't talk for days at a time. I guess i was nieve enough to believe that once we had a title he would magically change and be all about me.

Also he was chasing after me for 2 yrs before i gave him the time of day. My oh my how the tables have turned. For the last 2 months it has been ME chasing HIM. I've never really chased a man in my life....

Maybe its time i just end it and save myself from heartache.

I totally see where you're coming from and I am a veryyyyyyy loyal person who will fight tooth and nail for a relationship I believe in. Guess I'm just losing hope in THIS relationship. From this taurus mans actions its pretty clear that they are not lining up with what he verbally said. I believe relationships take work and effort from both parties....if 1 person is continuously carrying all the weight it just isint going to work out. I think i've been carrying a majority of the weight for some time now and yes, maybe I was a little disillusioned to think that he would change once we became commited. I guess I was wrong.

Time to go lick my wounds.

When he finally does contact me, and if he asked whats up with me.....I will be honest. Even though i just wanna run away, weve been friends for a long time so he deserves to know.

i dunno. sounds like what my taurus does. we've had a few monumental moments where we took things to another level of intimacy. then the usual daily conversations would cease for 2-3 days. he always comes back around and things actually seem better! in my experience he does this because he's taking time out to really contemplate things. i think he needs that time to process what happened, what we talked about, and maybe where we're headed. his actions don't lead me to believe anything has gone awry and he always seems in high spirits when he comes back. then we're back to the routine of him getting a hold of me almost every day to ask how i am and whatnot.

my taurus was definitely a chaser! he chased me for months and then after we agreed to make it more official he stopped it. i will say, it did kinda weird me out a little at first but i didn't freak out and start over-analyzing things. patience really pays off with these guys as long as u remain objective.

one must always look at the actions from the bull! if he's never given u a reason to not trust him or believe him then just give him space.

Aqua F and Taurus M not going to be easy, we Aqua females once we give our focus, love, time and attention to a man reassurance through communication and mental connection is very important....If you have to chase him for a relationship I would suggest backing out of this so called half ass situation with him or accept it because it won't change.