WaterCup
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OH, TAURUS!!
Here is a saying that just came to my head- an aqua without friends is like a taurus without a chicken wing (or a samoosa, cheese cake, etc) stuck between her lips. Hahaha. My friend LOVES to eat the things I mentioned and I'm not envious of no chicken wing, lol...munch away!!!
HEY Watercup!!
I personally am not possessive of my female friends, I am only possessive over my BOOs. (my men)
Is your friend an only child in her family? Maybe your friend is testing your loyalty to her and wants constant re-assurance? but that will seriously get annoying. Even for me. I'm not willing to do THAT much. A friend is going to just have to TRUST that I will be there for them no matter what. and sometimes more friends makes for a party!! The more the merrier!
OOOoo, Maybe she likes you in a "LESBI-honest" ..kind of way?? ..yup that could be it.
I had a friend like that once. I couldn't even compliment other ppl when around her, she'd have this face like, :WHAT are are you doing? You don't know her.. and I was only complimenting the shoes of a girl that was walking by. -___-
Your friend just might have a girl crush on you. Has she ever seen you undress or get changed in front of her?? WATCH her eyes and where it travels on you.
I personally am not possessive of my female friends, I am only possessive over my BOOs. (my men)
Is your friend an only child in her family? Maybe your friend is testing your loyalty to her and wants constant re-assurance? but that will seriously get annoying. Even for me. I'm not willing to do THAT much. A friend is going to just have to TRUST that I will be there for them no matter what. and sometimes more friends makes for a party!! The more the merrier!
OOOoo, Maybe she likes you in a "LESBI-honest" ..kind of way?? ..yup that could be it.
I had a friend like that once. I couldn't even compliment other ppl when around her, she'd have this face like, :WHAT are are you doing? You don't know her.. and I was only complimenting the shoes of a girl that was walking by. -___-
Your friend just might have a girl crush on you. Has she ever seen you undress or get changed in front of her?? WATCH her eyes and where it travels on you.
My friends are mine. I am theirs. Possession is part of the gig. If you do not care to be owned a Taurus is not a good fit.
I am fiercely proud of my friends and tenderly, and not so tenderly protective of them.
Bulls love their herd.
I am fiercely proud of my friends and tenderly, and not so tenderly protective of them.
Bulls love their herd.
Posted by venusianbull
My friends are mine. I am theirs. Possession is part of the gig. If you do not care to be owned a Taurus is not a good fit.
I am fiercely proud of my friends and tenderly, and not so tenderly protective of them.
Bulls love their herd.
Agreed 🙂
VB, thats creepy, lol. I dont wanna be owned. My friend has her own little circle of friends that i dont care to know about, but am always friendly towards. She does different things with them, things that im not into ie. food stuff and planting things. She has a great collection of flowers and plants btw. She has given me a few and they all died, lol...not feeling it. My point is, i want the same freedom she has in our friendship. The freedom to have my own pals without offending her. Its crazy. I dont like to feel like we are married or something. I love her a lot and we do a lot of *common interest* things together, marvellous, but i need to feel free. I dont wanna drop her, but being fenced in does me no good which is why i avoid her most of the time and thats not good.
TaurusBelle, i've thought about that too, lol, but she's into men and crazy for one aqua in particular. Maybe she loves the aqua energy bcause she has no air in her chart, d/k. She is a great person thou and has been my rock throu thick & thin. I'll just continue to avoid her to keep sane. Thanks for your input too bullgem and the other bull.
TaurusBelle, i've thought about that too, lol, but she's into men and crazy for one aqua in particular. Maybe she loves the aqua energy bcause she has no air in her chart, d/k. She is a great person thou and has been my rock throu thick & thin. I'll just continue to avoid her to keep sane. Thanks for your input too bullgem and the other bull.
"My friend has her own little circle of friends that i dont care to know about, but am always friendly towards. She does different things with them, things that im not into ... My point is, i want the same freedom she has in our friendship. The freedom to have my own pals without offending her. Its crazy. I dont like to feel like we are married or something. I love her a lot and we do a lot of *common interest* things together, marvellous, but i need to feel free. I dont wanna drop her, but being fenced in does me no good which is why i avoid her most of the time and thats not good."
Yea... THAT situation is WAAAAY to claustrophobic even for ME, and I'm a Taurus!!
I think my Air aspects is whats making me want to RUN. I give plenty space in my friendships..its my relationships where I get EXTRA watchful.
Yea... THAT situation is WAAAAY to claustrophobic even for ME, and I'm a Taurus!!
I think my Air aspects is whats making me want to RUN. I give plenty space in my friendships..its my relationships where I get EXTRA watchful.
Posted by scorchedearthPosted by venusianbull
My friends are mine. I am theirs. Possession is part of the gig. If you do not care to be owned a Taurus is not a good fit.
I am fiercely proud of my friends and tenderly, and not so tenderly protective of them.
Bulls love their herd.
exactly. it's not like the warnings for that aren't in every general description you read about us. 😛click to expand
Exactly! I love the feeling of being possessed by them, not in an object way but more as a 'belonging/protected' way. Once you get into the herd, you can bet your ass they'll protect you best they can. That's the beauty of it all. The downside is you also need your space sometimes, and as long as they give you free reign (you do need to come back too) there's no problem. The more you fight possession the more it'll hurt you, just give into it and do tell her that you need away time from her for others too. They'll understand. Struggling away without telling them why is making them go: why are you so restless, don't you go nowhere, stay here, *squeeze*.
Part of the herd is a good place to be. My home, heart, ears and arms always welcome you. You will never have a more loyal or stalwart friend than you have in me. I will feed you, listen to your troubles and give you completely honest feedback. I love you just as you stand. Without stricture or malice. I will defend you to the death and wage battle for you. A friend is a high honor in a Taurus world. We choose with care and do not allow those we are unsure of into our sphere. It is not an unlucky thing to be well cared for thus.
Not a mystery there. Eh, scorchy?
You rock 0rmas.
Posted by venusianbull
You rock 0rmas.
This coming from the Queen of DXP —
I'm staying right here, in my super deluxe tropical aquarium with fish door to the ocean & back. Why leave a good place? Just stop tapping on the glass and calling me dumb, you won't like what happens to your hand if you put it in the water next time 😛 Nomnomnomnmom
Lol @ squeeze, it sure feels like it. I honestly dont know much about taurus, only a few bits and pieces , so im learning a few things here and i may take time to read more about the sign. Possession and strangulation are everything i hate which might explain why we fight so much. The other thing is that i hate having to explain myself to anyone, it makes me feel like a pet or something kept and i dont like that feeling. I'll try to understand her, but im still not a fan of explanations..it feels wrong. My airways are closing down thinking about it, lol. Here is to good friendship, cheers guys.
Posted by OrmasPosted by venusianbull
You rock 0rmas.
This coming from the Queen of DXP —
I'm staying right here, in my super deluxe tropical aquarium with fish door to the ocean & back. Why leave a good place? Just stop tapping on the glass and calling me dumb, you won't like what happens to your hand if you put it in the water next time 😛 Nomnomnomnmom
I never tap. I admire the beauty. Hypnotic.click to expand
Pisces makes.me all warm and fuzzy.
Posted by WaterCup
Lol @ squeeze, it sure feels like it. I honestly dont know much about taurus, only a few bits and pieces , so im learning a few things here and i may take time to read more about the sign. Possession and strangulation are everything i hate which might explain why we fight so much. The other thing is that i hate having to explain myself to anyone, it makes me feel like a pet or something kept and i dont like that feeling. I'll try to understand her, but im still not a fan of explanations..it feels wrong. My airways are closing down thinking about it, lol. Here is to good friendship, cheers guys.
ROFLMAOOOoooo @ "Strangulation", suffocation, smothering sukatash...all the same..haha
Yea... You don't owe her any explainations, she's not your husband.
...she doesn't explain EVERY granular detail to you about her friends does she?? SO.. yea.
I'm loyal to those who are loyal to me. That should be enough...Anymore needed from me is asking for boyfriend/husband privileges..lol Theres GOT to be SOME boundaries.
I only give that much leverage to the one I "closely rub" with..explainations and questions go round & round -there because I SHARE a more intimate part of myself, that I don't certainly DON'T share with friends..so I absolutely need to be sure of that (physical) loyalty. I want whats MINE under lock & key dammit!
Posted by WaterCup
Lol @ squeeze, it sure feels like it. I honestly dont know much about taurus, only a few bits and pieces , so im learning a few things here and i may take time to read more about the sign. Possession and strangulation are everything i hate which might explain why we fight so much. The other thing is that i hate having to explain myself to anyone, it makes me feel like a pet or something kept and i dont like that feeling. I'll try to understand her, but im still not a fan of explanations..it feels wrong. My airways are closing down thinking about it, lol. Here is to good friendship, cheers guys.
The squeeze is part of the protection routine. Tell me, do you have any other friend that does what she does? Think hard, is she always there for you, does she judge you for what you did or said? Sure she might feel smothering right now, but you can fix that easily by just explaining to her that you need your away time too, yet won't leave her. Sure it feels like you're in a couple situation but from what I gathered, that is how it works. You get all the good stuff in return for a little sacrifice on your behalf. Close friends feel like lovers anyway, minus the sexual part.
Don't see this as a bad thing, just adapt and give in a little in order to be set free 🙂
It's a test for you and an experience that'll help you figure out these people.
Better to have 1 friend like them, than 20 lesser ones you can only count on when things are peachy.
Come back for an introduction lesson to deciphering the moo's should things not work as you thought.
used to go through this with my Taurus ex best friend.
Posted by scorchedearthPosted by venusianbull
Pisces makes.me all warm and fuzzy.
i love pisces too. our two signs despite being very different compliment each other very well. i'm a fan of taur/fish relationships and friendships.
two of my closest friends are pisces. i wouldn't trade them for the world.click to expand
I know just what you mean. Brings out all the gooey.
Posted by venusianbullPosted by scorchedearthPosted by venusianbull
Pisces makes.me all warm and fuzzy.
i love pisces too. our two signs despite being very different compliment each other very well. i'm a fan of taur/fish relationships and friendships.
two of my closest friends are pisces. i wouldn't trade them for the world.
I know just what you mean. Brings out all the gooey.
click to expand
We know just where to squeeze 😉
Oh dear. I am in trouble then. 😛
I know where to squeeze too. Hot out of the oven chocolate chip cookie? 😄
Posted by venusianbull
I know where to squeeze too. Hot out of the oven chocolate chip cookie? 😄
How did you know?
Well now. Let's just say the Cow...is good. 🙂
Posted by OrmasPosted by scorchedearthPosted by venusianbull
My friends are mine. I am theirs. Possession is part of the gig. If you do not care to be owned a Taurus is not a good fit.
I am fiercely proud of my friends and tenderly, and not so tenderly protective of them.
Bulls love their herd.
exactly. it's not like the warnings for that aren't in every general description you read about us. 😛
Exactly! I love the feeling of being possessed by them, not in an object way but more as a 'belonging/protected' way. Once you get into the herd, you can bet your ass they'll protect you best they can. That's the beauty of it all. The downside is you also need your space sometimes, and as long as they give you free reign (you do need to come back too) there's no problem. The more you fight possession the more it'll hurt you, just give into it and do tell her that you need away time from her for others too. They'll understand. Struggling away without telling them why is making them go: why are you so restless, don't you go nowhere, stay here, *squeeze*.click to expand
+ 1 on the above comments.
My 2 cents as a taurus sun/cancer moon and I can relate to some of what you mentioned in your post (especially when I was younger), so I hope it helps you somewhat if your friend is anything like me🙂 How I see it..
- I don't look at it as possession. It is more like a sense of belonging. My close friends are like my family, family that I've chosen to have in my life. It takes a long time to let people in, so once you're in, that's a privilege, it's not a right, so it shouldn't be taken for granted. I would do anything for my family and I would always put you first because let's be real, family (people who are there for you through thick, thin, the good the bad and the ugly) and an acquaintance or happy time friends/friends in passing (social/clubbing/colleague etc)doesn't equate to the same thing. I'd only get annoyed if I felt that I was being taken for granted. It's not about the fact that you have other friends, heck, I probably have loads of other friends too, but it's the level of appreciation I feel from that person I consider is my closest friend. The closer you are to me, the higher the expectation.
- Being
- Being super sensitive by nature (I attribute a lot of that to cancer moon influences) I pick up on small actions/reactions/non-reactions. Admittedly, that makes me get upset over really small things (things that other people may not even take notice of)but to resolve that, it's simple - communication. I'm sensitive but not unreasonable. Talk to me, ask me what is wrong and why I was upset. I may be bullheaded at first but trust and believe that if you show me you cared and would go an extra inch to find out what bothers me, I'll notice and appreciate it and be pretty open about it because Taureans don't thrive under conflict/confrontations, especially over-sensitive ones.
It takes a few heartaches, lessons, to become emotionally matured and you learn not to get as affected by others but that learning only comes with time so maybe your friend is still learning to grow into herself and dealing with that.
- Telling me that I'm one of your close friends but treating me like I'm just like everyone else, is a contradiction. I know it sounds silly but that's how I would view it. If I'm your ONLY close friend (as you say) then that should come through in your actions. You tell her everything about yourself but do you let her do the same? Is there reciprocation? Do you go out of your way to find out how she is doing, put her as a priority in your friendship as much as she does for you? I have lots of friends, different friends from different aspects of my life. I cherish them all, but only a select few are people I consider my family - they come first always, as they would always put me first too (as much as possible, we're being realistic and reasonable here)
The waving incident - if it were me, in whatever deep conversation I was having, if I saw my close friend, I'd stop for a minute, say hi, tell her I can't stop and chat but we'll catch up later, introduce her to the girl i was with, the more the merrier right? Or if I really can't stop - I'd have msged her and let her know that I couldn't say hi earlier because I was having an important conversation. Actions are very important to Taureans, at least IMO. More than what you say, what you do speaks volumes.
It takes a few heartaches, lessons, to become emotionally matured and you learn not to get as affected by others but that learning only comes with time so maybe your friend is still learning to grow into herself and dealing with that.
- Telling me that I'm one of your close friends but treating me like I'm just like everyone else, is a contradiction. I know it sounds silly but that's how I would view it. If I'm your ONLY close friend (as you say) then that should come through in your actions. You tell her everything about yourself but do you let her do the same? Is there reciprocation? Do you go out of your way to find out how she is doing, put her as a priority in your friendship as much as she does for you? I have lots of friends, different friends from different aspects of my life. I cherish them all, but only a select few are people I consider my family - they come first always, as they would always put me first too (as much as possible, we're being realistic and reasonable here)
The waving incident - if it were me, in whatever deep conversation I was having, if I saw my close friend, I'd stop for a minute, say hi, tell her I can't stop and chat but we'll catch up later, introduce her to the girl i was with, the more the merrier right? Or if I really can't stop - I'd have msged her and let her know that I couldn't say hi earlier because I was having an important conversation. Actions are very important to Taureans, at least IMO. More than what you say, what you do speaks volumes.
Having to hide your other friends from her seems strange, when you say you tell her everything about yourself. Is she so antisocial or insecure (if so have you ever considered why?) that she only wants to occupy all your time or is it just your preference to keep your friendship with her and others separate? Sometimes that can be perceived as disrespect and insincere even if the intention isn't to be.
Just food for thought.
Just food for thought.
Posted by Torro
Sounds a bit too sick, even for a Taurus.
Why are we so possessive? In my head, it goes like this, I don't think it's possessive at all.
If we are friends I'll protect you and defend you with all I got - if you want me to. I'll never get into your business/fights, unless you ask me to. You will be MY friend, but not only mine. If I love you as a friend, I want you to have as many friends as you can have, because a lot of friends = a lot of new opportunities, experiences, happiness. I wouldn't even be upset if you started neglecting me - your loss, because you'll never find another friend like me. But you have to understand that if you do something like that, you can forget about me, there's no crawling back (what you did to your friend is not neglecting in any way in my book, you waved, she can't expect you to drop whatever you were doing just because she passed by).
Don't hide your friends from her, that's insane. Talk to her, try to make her understand that... people have more than one friend? And try to be as charming as you can while doing so. If that doesn't work, you'll break that friendship sooner or later, restricting an Aqua from their friends is a baaad idea. You know that "lovers come and go, but friends are forever" saying? It's crap. Friends might come and go just like lovers, just like anything else in this world. You'll eventually find another close friend if this one keeps being a douche. Honestly I've never heard of a bull that possessive over a friend.
++++1!! Serioussssly. HIGH five for this one Torro! The description of friendship is perfect! Its all about balance.
YEA! ^^^Hahaha!!! 😄
Thanks for the replies guys and we are back to talking again. The matter was not discussed again because its ridiculous, im just glad to have my sane friend back. Ormas, no no other friend has done that to me, i wouldnt tolerate it, i only tolerate it with her because its her... my best friend. I have a lot of "on the surface" friends, but she is my only true friend and I figured she knew. Obviously she doesnt and i dont know how to let her know without having to tell her in words. The whole "ur my only real friend, so dont worry about others" talk is weird and its not something ill be comfortable doing. I show my loyalty with actions rather than words. I'm planning a "date" for us to celebrate our 13 years of friendship in March and if that doesnt prove my loyalty to our friendship then i dont know what will. To the one who asked if she is social or not...i really dont know. All i know is that she is a home person. I dont know how/where she meets her other friends, but she has them. I honestly only care about what we do when together than what happens when we arent together. We have a good rapport in a way because we tell each other everything (secrets), the only difference is that i know and she doesnt know. How is it possible that even after all these years she still doesnt know the depth of our friendship while i do?
Posted by WaterCup
I show my loyalty with actions rather than words. I'm planning a "date" for us to celebrate our 13 years of friendship in March and if that doesnt prove my loyalty to our friendship then i dont know what will.... I honestly only care about what we do when together than what happens when we arent together. We have a good rapport in a way because we tell each other everything (secrets), the only difference is that i know and she doesnt know. How is it possible that even after all these years she still doesnt know the depth of our friendship while i do?
That is sweet. And you're right...if after doing all that for her, she STILL has no clue of your loyalty...then..
It'll be tragic.
Ok I been thru dis
Best thing is "honest" face her tell her u feel trapped when she does dat possessive thing. Tell her wats on ur mind exactly dat u love her da way she u think she's da closest nd most 2 trust but also u can't help it u make frndz werever u go it doesn't mean u favor anybody over her
But jus explain 2 her hw much it really annoys u hw she possesses u like dat
Its not like someone will steal u away frm her
I had dat problem with my ex guy (guess u remember) da main problem with aquas is dat thy jus walk away thy don't confront da person about hw thy feel or wat bothers them..believe me even ur closest frndz might not know wats in ur head till u speak
Btw I'm a taurean but I'm v different frm her at dis point cuz I was never possessive with my girls about who they're frndz with. In fact I'd love my best frnd to introduce me to a new circle of ppl. I dunno we're my moon is or dat planet stuff but I'm a v social taurus. I love makin loads of new frndz nd I hate controlling\possessing\trapping anyone. I love freedom.
And I like my marriage to b full of freedom. I'd like to have my own space sometimes. Dunno y I sound like an AQUARIUS now. (18th may here)
So she sounds like an extreme possessive person. Not like ur her hubby or anythn
Just remember we all taureans feel like loyalty is da most important thing nd betrayal da worse thing ever. So make it clear to her dat ur loyal nd wouldn't ever replace her. If she does it again da whole possessive thing just stay away frm her a little make her think nd give her time to cool down..den contact her again nicely. She will miss u nd fix up
Hope I helped
Best thing is "honest" face her tell her u feel trapped when she does dat possessive thing. Tell her wats on ur mind exactly dat u love her da way she u think she's da closest nd most 2 trust but also u can't help it u make frndz werever u go it doesn't mean u favor anybody over her
But jus explain 2 her hw much it really annoys u hw she possesses u like dat
Its not like someone will steal u away frm her
I had dat problem with my ex guy (guess u remember) da main problem with aquas is dat thy jus walk away thy don't confront da person about hw thy feel or wat bothers them..believe me even ur closest frndz might not know wats in ur head till u speak
Btw I'm a taurean but I'm v different frm her at dis point cuz I was never possessive with my girls about who they're frndz with. In fact I'd love my best frnd to introduce me to a new circle of ppl. I dunno we're my moon is or dat planet stuff but I'm a v social taurus. I love makin loads of new frndz nd I hate controlling\possessing\trapping anyone. I love freedom.
And I like my marriage to b full of freedom. I'd like to have my own space sometimes. Dunno y I sound like an AQUARIUS now. (18th may here)
So she sounds like an extreme possessive person. Not like ur her hubby or anythn
Just remember we all taureans feel like loyalty is da most important thing nd betrayal da worse thing ever. So make it clear to her dat ur loyal nd wouldn't ever replace her. If she does it again da whole possessive thing just stay away frm her a little make her think nd give her time to cool down..den contact her again nicely. She will miss u nd fix up
Hope I helped
Sorry, can't relate to that kind of possessiveness over friends/family/man, outside of the protective "don't treetrunk with em" kind. Not the "mine, mine, mine," or "me, me, and only me" kind. Nope, not me, nor do I put up with that kind of (suffocating) treatment. Then again, my Moon squares my Uranus, and my Uranus inconjuncts my Ascendant, so that could have something to do with it. My sun (and venus) are also in the 12th house, so that may or may not add to it.
Over all, Watercup, it sounds like you're doing the best you can. I have to wonder about her insecurities (abandonment issues?) with her acting like that. She's lucky she has a true friend with as much patience and understanding as you seem to be demonstrating towards her.
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