Taurus break up

Maybe somebody could share light on the situation, I'd greatly appreciate it as I'm LOSING MY MIND.

We've been dating 9 months and I've never been able to understand him or know what he's thinking. Its hurt and I needed constant reassurance from him bc I feel terribly insecure. Anyway, he went to Australia with the Army on thr 7th and right before he came back, we broke up. He was very cold and non-chalant about it, which left me crying for 48 days. Saying things like there's nothing left to discuss. Were through. I don't know what you want me to say, I want to be alone, I want to be single, I don't want to be in a relationship etc. Etc. We have a vacation planned for Thursday, until Tuesday for his friends wedding. He said I could still come but nothing is okay btwn us. I changed the subject and we talked about bull for a little while longer. I asked if I could come over and cuddle after he got back. He first wasn't in a good mood, I asked again, nicer and he said fine. He picked me up and we chatted for a while about his trip. I didn't want to bring up our relationship problems. I feel I'm walking on eggshells. We talked briefly about the vacation were going on. He gave me things he got in Australia for me. I said Idk what I'm going to do with it, all the stuff you've given me is on your bed. It reminds me of you and I don't want reminders. He said so put it somewhere you won't see it. Real nice. We went to bed and slowly began cuddling. Neither of us could sleep. I'm a horn dog so I asked would it be a bad idea to have sex right now? He shrugged. Needless to say that was the stupidest thing I've done in a while and I know better. Anyways, all the conversations we had were more than we've communicated in awhile. We hung out all day yesterday too. Got me breakfast, got me dinner, called me dear, acted like I was still his girlfriend. Then dropped me off before he went to bed last night. Let me know he was home and he went to sleep. I haven't hit him up today. I want to but there's no reason. I don't want to stay broken up and heck, we have this vacation on Thursday still. My stomach is in knots.

I dunno what you're waiting for. He clearly said he doesn't want anything. He doesn't seem like he's giving any mixed signals either. You just need to move on. All the intimacy going on right now is initiated by you n it'll go on till you let it n probably only till the vacation is still on.

yeah, I would trust what he is saying and do not allow him to keep you on a sting.

he knows what he wants but if you make yourself so available to him after that then all the heartache is going to be on you when he uses you up.

this is my experience.

I would always trust what a Taurus says

and work on moving on.

Posted by Scorpio123
He's been shady and cold and not explaining to you why he'd changed dramatically and that is a jerk move, do the right thing and end it yourself. You shouldn't ever beg someone to love you or be with you! Screw him. Sounds like a total asshole.

Thank you for your reply, I really appreciate it. I'm a Scorpio as well.

I asked him for closure a few times and he said there was nothing to talk about, we're done. I didn't appreciate that answer because when you spend time with someone, I feel you should at least have the decency to end things in a different manner.

I'm keeping him a friends distance from here on out. Mainly because we have to go to on this vacation together so I'd like it to still be a nice experience, whether I'm spending time with him or off doing my own thing. I don't wish to have a repeat of the other night because I know that will just keep picking the scab open and take me longer to heal.

I feel confused because for someone who was so cold and blunt, he's chatty Charlie otherwise like everything is dandy. Why bother?! This was before me going on vacation was still happening as I had originally tried to get a refund but wasn't lucky so I don't get it. I know, I'm looking too much into it and he is an asshole. My Scorpio brain is my own worst enemy.

Posted by Teena
I dunno what you're waiting for. He clearly said he doesn't want anything. He doesn't seem like he's giving any mixed signals either. You just need to move on. All the intimacy going on right now is initiated by you n it'll go on till you let it n probably only till the vacation is still on.

You are absolutely correct about the intimacy. I'm not waiting for anything, I just feel as if there are mixed signals there because this is not the first time this has happened. If I ever was to ask about what goes on with us, he shuts down, the communication is not there. My heart hurts right now, everybody has been there. I know what I *NEED* to do but as I said, I'm hurting right now.

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Posted by Teena
I dunno what you're waiting for. He clearly said he doesn't want anything. He doesn't seem like he's giving any mixed signals either. You just need to move on. All the intimacy going on right now is initiated by you n it'll go on till you let it n probably only till the vacation is still on.

You are absolutely correct about the intimacy. I'm not waiting for anything, I just feel as if there are mixed signals there because this is not the first time this has happened. If I ever was to ask about what goes on with us, he shuts down, the communication is not there. My heart hurts right now, everybody has been there. I know what I *NEED* to do but as I said, I'm hurting right now.

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I get it. Really hope you'll be ok soon..?

Posted by Teena
I dunno what you're waiting for. He clearly said he doesn't want anything. He doesn't seem like he's giving any mixed signals either. You just need to move on. All the intimacy going on right now is initiated by you n it'll go on till you let it n probably only till the vacation is still on.

You are absolutely correct about the intimacy. I'm not waiting for anything, I just feel as if there are mixed signals there because this is not the first time this has happened. If I ever was to ask about what goes on with us, he shuts down, the communication is not there. My heart hurts right now, everybody has been there. I know what I *NEED* to do but as I said, I'm hurting right now.

Posted by Scorpio123
I know how easy it is for women and Scorpios to obsess and try to over analyze every little detail and word, we can't help it and want a closure so bad, but you will never get it, not from him, nothing will make sense for a while, the only closure you will get is the one you will create, that is by walking away and saying no thanks, I've seen and heard enough to know I can do better. I deserve to feel better and NOT having to question my self worth in your eyes.

I believe closure doesn't exist but I wanted at the very least an explanation how we got from A to Z because the communication wasn't there. It was once or twice where he brought up things he wasn't happy about but it was right before he left for Australia, so there wasn't any time to experience change. If he had mentioned things earlier on in the relationship with what bothered him and what didn't it wouldn't have gotten to that point. He blames it on being numb and not knowing how to express emotions.

I need to get to that point of walking away and not hurting anymore. This vacation isn't going to help and I kind of wish I wasn't invested into it otherwise I wouldn't go. I'll refrain myself from sleeping with him because I know that is just going to keep torturing and dragging my soul through the heartache.