Taurus doesn't want to give me closure

Hello,
I met my Taurus 3 years ago at work. He was sort of my boss. During these 3 years we had ups and downs. I left his department. We didn't talk for 5 months??_and in Jan 2012 I decided to check if he was ok. We started talking again. He lives 3 hours away. Then I asked if we could see each other. He agreed and proposed May as a term of his visit. However he said that it was going to be very short visit (weekend or so). It was fine with me. So from Feb 2012 to the end of April we were talking about other stuff but he never mentioned about his visit. So at the beginning of May I asked if he changed his mind. He got upset and called me impatient girl. He claimed he didn't change his mind at all and he was still interested. It was my bad because I didn't ask directly about this visit but just general about his interests towards me. So he arranged another date for his visit and it was going to be Aug 2012. I agreed and of course I didn't hear anything from him re this subject. We were talking about everything else — I mean all casual stuff. This time I corrected my mistake and at the beginning of Aug 2012 I asked if his visit was still on. I got nothing — no response at all. So after a few days I sent a very nice email that no matter what I would be waiting for him. He seemed to be happy with it. So after some time (in Sep 2012) he claimed he couldn't visit me this year because of lack of leave. That's ok — life is brutal sometimes. But a month later he disappeared again??_ for 2 weeks and in this time he went somewhere for a holiday. It was enough for me. I said that I didn't want to be his option or last priority and if I wasn't good enough for him than let's not waste time. Of course no response. After this incident I tried to contact him 3 times — no response at all. I asked for conversation to clear everything up — no response. Ok then. I was not going to be his doormat so I asked for closure. I asked only for one sentence e.g. —we are done?? and nothing more. If he didn't want to talk to me than lets finish this pathetic relationship as adult people. I promised not to ask any further questions. I got no response.

I don't want him to be in my life anymore. I know that he's a player who led me on for so long. I know that patience is the key with Taurus but I think I wasted a year waiting for this guy.

What does it mean when a Taurus doesn't want to give a verbal or written closure? Is he hurt? Time to thi

Time to thinking over? Is it so hard to send an email? We still work in the same company and sooner or later we may cooperate again.

Give it up. He's stringing you along. No, it's not that hard to send an email, text, call, etc. You're acting like the doormat you don't want to be. I would have been like,"Pfft. This is dumb. I don't even want you anymore."

Thanks for the answer. I already gave it up and I am not going to contact him again. I was ignored 4 times — no need to be humiliated again.

The only what I need is the answer what is in Taurus head when he doesn't want to say —We are done??!

Ok thanks — the answer means a lot to me. I just wanted to make sure that he hasn't left his door open in order to come back in the future when he gets over his anger.

Any other insight will be also appreciated.

Posted by am80
Thanks for the answer. I already gave it up and I am not going to contact him again. I was ignored 4 times — no need to be humiliated again.

The only what I need is the answer what is in Taurus head when he doesn't want to say —We are done??!

"Men" who won't say that simply want to keep you around as back up (and you played that role very well), nothing to do with being a Taurus, give yourself closure by gaining self respect.

Posted by am80
Ok thanks — the answer means a lot to me. I just wanted to make sure that he hasn't left his door open in order to come back in the future when he gets over his anger.

Any other insight will be also appreciated.

what makes you think he's angry?

silence for a taurus doesn't necessarily mean the bull is angry. if anything, it means we're not. in your case, it most likely means he's moved on.

i have been cordial with people who were interested in me and seemingly entertained going out with them, but truth is, i didn't have the heart/courage to simply say "HELL's NO!"

for example, guy calls. i don't recognize the number so i pickup. i realize who it is and it's like "shit!" after apologizing for not being more available and enduring a conversation i'd rather not have, there's always the inevitable, "when am i going to see you?" where i would REALLY like to say, "when hell freezes over," i may make promises to be available at a later date...knowing i have absolutely NO intention of making good on it. my goal moving forward will be to insure that i am unavailable to this person and i will definitely add their number to my phone...so i know not to answer it the next time around.

if i got lonely or bored or i felt bad for not giving the person a chance, i might answer the phone weeks later and guaranteed, reality will set in within 5 minutes of talking to them. there was a reason why i've "been too busy" for this person and oops, yeah, i'm still busy...sorry.

point is, just cause he's entertaining your advances doesn't mean they're welcome. move on.

Spot on! Thanks a lot for your answer. I assume he might be angry because I cursed him out for his behavior and in next email I asked for closure. However the subject is closed! I will definitely move on. With any other guy doing this to me I would say —get out?? after a few weeks.

However I read that —patience is the key with Taurus?? and that's why I allowed him to lead me on for so long. Very misleading information. Lesson learned!

But there is something that still bothers me. How can I distinguish if Taurus is stringing me along or just needs some space? What's the difference between —I am busy (and I really need to focus on work/family, etc., just be patient)?? and —I am busy (and leave me alone, your advances aren't welcome)??. I am not referring to my case — just general question to all Tauruses.

Posted by am80

But there is something that still bothers me. How can I distinguish if Taurus is stringing me along or just needs some space? What's the difference between —I am busy (and I really need to focus on work/family, etc., just be patient)?? and —I am busy (and leave me alone, your advances aren't welcome)??. I am not referring to my case — just general question to all Tauruses.

the patience in matters of the heart thing isn't true for all of us.

in my case, venus is in aries so i can fall head over heels in 24 hours...and 24 hours later want absolutely nothing to do with you 😛

overall, the more your intentions are clearly stated, the easier it is for me to define mine. meaning, you say "i love you," i say "awwwh, that's sweet." weeks/months later, i will say it back...and hopefully mean it. why so long? eh, i gotta be sure i truly FEELS it. if it doesn't feel natural, i can't/won't say it.

as far as needing space...we need partners who know/understand how we work. when we focus, it's laser-like. FIXED! full steam ahead and git 'er dun! for myself, when i'm in this mode, you could have a discussion "with me" and i may not look up from my keyboard once. sure i heard words, but in that moment, you're charlie brown's teacher. after whatever it is is done, you will have my full attention and i'll want yours...demand it actually.