Taurus ex-wife wanting my Taurus partner back.

Jeez, Louise!

Okay, the story:

My partner and his ex-wife have been split for a year.
Ex-wife ended the marriage.
Possibility is high that ex-wife was having an affair with a married man that continued until about 8 weeks ago.
Ex-wife decides she wants her ex-husband back (my partner), knowing he's in a relationship that's been solid for 6 months.
My partner tells her no.
She tells him he's a shit person, shit dad etc - because she can't get her own way.
Ex-wife then decides that I don't exist - or have any relevance as a human being and continues to harass my partner.
Ex-wife is now stooping to new levels of desperation by threatening to take the kids away (he knows she can't). Ex-wife admits she sees me as a threat - probably because I'm around their kids and their kids like me, or whatever reason she has - don't know, can only presume.

I basically have a woman who ended her marriage for (I think) a married man who decided not to leave his wife, who then ended their affair and now she wants to be back in a relationship with my partner.

This is a common theme from what I can make out - but not a situation I've been in before so it's new to me.

Now, I've shown patience, I've said nothing to her - but i tell ya, it's fucking hard to keep my mouth shut.

Not looking for advice as such - just venting more than anything.

*chomps potato chips*

Fuck sake.

Oh piss on her NZ. SHE cheated. Just keep showing that man what a GOOD woman is.

venusianbull .... you can always trust a Taurean to come straight to the point and not beat around the bush :o)

Thank you, my lovelies.

I've managed to keep my mouth shut - HUGE effort for me lol - and, funnily enough, she's been quiet since I posted this the other day (the Universe has spoken to her and said "Back the fuck off, lady").

Man, the shit that some people can pull in order to get what they want, I tell ya, it's ludicrous!

*breathes*

I'm okay today, no dramas from her.

Posted by aquagirl24
dreamer explained the situation pretty well. x

Yep - and there are levels that some people go to that baffle me. Seriously weird shit. I don't believe I could ever humiliate myself on these levels - it's shocking.

You know, I have no sympathy for his ex, at all. Did she stop and think about him when she was doing that? For one second did she consider that she loved him when she was letting another man into her body? She did not. Went after a thrill, a moment. Let someone else take what ( should have been in HER mind, because this is how I think..on the Bull board here folks..my way or the highway.. ) rightfully belonged to someone else. If you stand there before everyone, before whatever you consider the Almighty to be and make a promise, that is what it is. The bits about 'forsaking all others', respect, trust, not put into place so someone can squat and take a big shit right on it.
So when I hear something like what you posted NZ, my tolerance level is NIL. I have no respect for cheaters, at all. I don't give two tits what the excuse is. If you feel you need to *spread the love*

Posted by pink_bull
venusianbull .... you can always trust a Taurean to come straight to the point and not beat around the bush :o)

*deep curtsy* 🙂

LMAO, Oh Bravo VB!!

You are correct - there is no sympathy for this woman. None.

I DID have sympathy to some level in that it must be hard for her to have another woman around her kids, yada yada - but that sympathy has long vanished due to the fact that she chose this, she did it, she fucked up, she ended the marriage and what did she expect? For her ex husband to pay eternal homage to her? For him to never find another woman? For him to bow down and kiss her arse? For his partner to accept some bitch bouncing in on her relationship asking her man to be in a relationship elsewhere?

Fuck right off, ex-wifey!

Woman has affair with married man.
Married man promises to leave wife.
Married man doesn't leave wife, ends affair.
Woman then decides she can go back to old life.
Woman tries to barge into another relationship, doesn't like being told no.
New partner keeps cool - but woman underestimates new partner and presumes her to be a pushover. YEAH RIGHT!

Ex wife is herself a Taurus. Clearly the need for new dick and a thrill came before her marriage, her husband and two children.

Well, too bad lady, you left a great man - to ME. And he's staying with ME, as you've been told, so fuck off.

*soapbox is getting worn out, needs a new one*

🙂

Well done! Mine was Dove soap NZ, which one did you use? 😄

For someone who claims to be higher than her ... you sure are projecting a lot of emotions that are at her level, if this energy is based around competition and victory.


Fact is ... if he's the one telling you all of this ... then he's the one talking to her.

And that ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ is above your head, long enough for you to react to it as if he has no part in the creation of it.


Apparantly, he likes how you react ... I'm sure it makes him feel special .. so, he might make sure to keep telling you, and then even make it more convincing once you tire of it.

And I'm sure that ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ concept is equally above your head.

And the reason why I say that is because you are here reacting to the very thing in which you say is at her level, which you like to say is beneath you, as you do it.

"My partner and his ex-wife have been split for a year."

Hmmm, I see what you mean LoveBucket, but I think it's divorced.

Posted by NZAqua

Well, too bad lady, you left a great man - to ME. And he's staying with ME, as you've been told, so fuck off.

Oh, I missed this, so you talked to her? And showed her how much his ass is wanted?


I'll bet he's loving this shit, yo ... he's probably frowning when in privacy though, because you two didn't get physical over him. Now THAT would have been tight !!!

Oh well, at least he got you to say the words ... now he can feel special for having two women struggling over who wins him as the prize !!!

Posted by P-Angel

Posted by NZAqua

Well, too bad lady, you left a great man - to ME. And he's staying with ME, as you've been told, so fuck off.

Oh, I missed this, so you talked to her? And showed her how much his ass is wanted?


I'll bet he's loving this shit, yo ... he's probably frowning when in privacy though, because you two didn't get physical over him. Now THAT would have been tight !!!

Oh well, at least he got you to say the words ... now he can feel special for having two women struggling over who wins him as the prize !!!

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No, I haven't spoken to her. Nowhere here did it say i had. Nowhere here did I say I'd vented any of this to my partner either. And certainly nowhere here did I say that my actions were anything like hers. What i DID say was that I had kept my mouth shut - so where you got all the shit you came up with from, fucked i know.

And yes, i said EX-wife.

"And he's staying with ME, as you've been told, so fuck off."


You say you don't know where the fuck I got that from ... I got it from that quote of yours above. I guess you forgot that you posted it.

You should let him see this ... it will give him more pleasure than he already has knowing that you stand from the rooftops tellling every passerby that he's yours, and you own him.

And he also needs to fully realize that you actually believe all that he tells you, so that he can remain confident that you're buying it all, so you'll keep possessing.

P-Angel seems like a nut, I saw her on another forum attacking some random member Krys or whatever the name was for posting topics that I happened to like, even though I was lurking Lol. Ignore her. I don't have a problem with your guy he seems nice. I just think him being forthcoming is ok but it's too much disclosure..is he trying to make you jealous? I guess we complain when the bulls aren't up front and then we complain when they are upfront. But I don't think you should know this kind of information until she is harassing him until he cant take it anymore. Now you are worrying about something that has no real burden on your relationship because if he wanted to be with her, he would. At least that's what I think. Guess they are damned if they do and damned if they don't

Posted by P-Angel
"And he's staying with ME, as you've been told, so fuck off."


You say you don't know where the fuck I got that from ... I got it from that quote of yours above. I guess you forgot that you posted it.

You should let him see this ... it will give him more pleasure than he already has knowing that you stand from the rooftops tellling every passerby that he's yours, and you own him.

And he also needs to fully realize that you actually believe all that he tells you, so that he can remain confident that you're buying it all, so you'll keep possessing.

What part of "I haven't spoken to her" do you not grasp? It's my partner who has told her he's staying with me. I've heard this. I've also heard the calls whereby she's being told to stop calling, been told to stop using the kids as a bargaining tool to get him back with her.

You are one stupid old bat, coming into this thread attacking me as if I'm the woman trying to butt into someone else's relationship. You should try reading instead of presuming, because 2 and 2 don't make 7, not even with your Alzheimers, old lady.

You bitter old bags are the scourge of the female gender.

I fail to see why the fuck I'm being attacked when clearly I've stated there is a woman trying to butt into my relationship, whom I've had the grace to ignore for the sake of the children involved and instead i chose to come here to vent instead of creating issues in the lives of two children. But, oh no, of course, you've come in, read words I haven't written and for some reason you see fit to talk a lot of shit. Well, take that shit and fucking choke on it because, Crusty, I have enough shit going on trying to juggle what's going on in my life without having to wade through your spiteful, delusional bullshit.

You're a fruitloop.

Now kiss my arse.

Posted by dayssunny
P-Angel seems like a nut, I saw her on another forum attacking some random member Krys or whatever the name was for posting topics that I happened to like, even though I was lurking Lol. Ignore her. I don't have a problem with your guy he seems nice. I just think him being forthcoming is ok but it's too much disclosure..is he trying to make you jealous? I guess we complain when the bulls aren't up front and then we complain when they are upfront. But I don't think you should know this kind of information until she is harassing him until he cant take it anymore. Now you are worrying about something that has no real burden on your relationship because if he wanted to be with her, he would. At least that's what I think. Guess they are damned if they do and damned if they don't

I know about it because I'm there when she calls, I'm there when she screams abuse, there when she leaves abusive messages and there when she's fully invading his time with the kids. He's pretty strong for the most part but when she threatens to take the children away because he won't get back with her, he's understandably upset. It's in the hands of the lawyers now. Over here harassment of this sort isn't taken lightly in the court system so hopefully the courts with deal with her.

I don't feel he's trying to make me jealous - it's not the sense I get. I think he's genuinely getting worn out by her constant intrusion.

My vent is more of the "What kind of woman would use her children as a weapon and have such a lack of disrespect for people that she'd try again to break up a relationship" sort. i mean, we're talking about a woman who was already screwing another woman's husband - father of four or five children, no less (can't remember the exact amount).

And yes, p-Angel is a nutter, I've never seen a decent post by that muppet either.

Posted by NZAqua

You are one stupid old bat, coming into this thread attacking me as if I'm the woman trying to butt into someone else's relationship. You should try reading instead of presuming

I haven't attacked you yet .. I could though, if you would like for me to.

Just because you cannot understand what I've been implying doesn't mean it's not the truth. You dont' even comprehend what I've been implying, so how would you know whether it's false or truth?


Let me spell it out for you, since you don't appear to get it .... the communication between the ex and him, is being told to you .. you are reacting off of second-hand information .. and this information is being told to you for reaction purposes.

And as he tells you, you react accordingly .. with jealousy.

You are jealous of the ex, and you don't have to be .. he could actually be the decent to your feelings kind of guy and NOT let you get upset over shit that doesn't matter. But, he doesn't do that does he? Nope, he sees you react with jealousy .. so he tells you more.


Now, you can call me anything you wish to call me ... it doesnt' change the facts.

Fact = he could spare your feelings, but, doesn't.



So, boo to you too .. and btw, I know a lot of curse words too. Would you like for me to use them to insult you?


Because I can you know

It's possible that I am a fruitloop, and that's ok



You're gullible as all get-out ... and ignorant as hell if you think he's innocent, and she's doing it all.

I just went back and read this thread again ... and you sure did fly off at the mouth about the mother of his children .. seems to be a pattern of the kind of woman he chooses.


You might want to be careful that you don't push him away with your uncontrollable anger.

Posted by P-Angel
I just went back and read this thread again ... and you sure did fly off at the mouth about the mother of his children .. seems to be a pattern of the kind of woman he chooses.


You might want to be careful that you don't push him away with your uncontrollable anger.

I haven't spoken a word to his ex wife - not a single word. Things I've heard have been heard on her voice messages left on his phone at his house.

Nowhere did I say I'd spoken to her - I'm HERE venting rather than mouth off at her since there are two children involved. Here venting about a woman who leaves disgusting messages on my partner's answerphone - this information isn't a one-sided story coming from him, I've heard her call and then rant and rave on answerphone.

As for being jealous? No, I'm fucked off - fucked off that there is a woman who feels it okay to barge in on other people's relationships and act as if she has the right to do so. And is this normal? Of course it is ffs, I don't know anyone that would enjoy this situation and act as if it weren't a problem. If i were a jealous woman i wouldn't be with a man who has two kids, knowing full well his ex will always be part of the picture. But i also have self-respect and won't tolerate some woman thinking she can barge into my relationship and disrespect it in the manner that she does.She already has a court order to stop her behaviour and disregards it, despite the fact she'll be facing court action if she continues to harass.

oh, forget it, you'll think what you want to think and there's nothing i can do about that.

You make it up to what you want it to be - be my guest - no point trying to explain to those who have closed minds 🙂

You've got to be kidding ... 6 days and you are still bitching?


You do that a lot, is seems.

Even the look in your avatar looks like a bitchy woman.



Have fun with it 🙂 I'm sure he'll never tire of it.




I'll leave you with just one last word of wisdom, which of course you'll never get because even by that look in your avatar of a learing bitch at the camera, you obviously enjoy it, here it is anyway .....


.. his ex doesn't barge into your relationship ~ she is permitted into it by him ..