Taurus girl

Hello dear taureans, I am really confused with a taurus girl that I like so much. She came in my work before almost 2 months and I of course fell into her. Every time that I had work with her and we were seeing we were both smiling and talking and I was sensing she likes me too. Then one day i wrote her mail to which she responded. Then I was curious and did search her FB profile where I saw she has a boyfriend, although I have also girlfriend 🙂 One day when I had work again with her I told her I hope her boyfriend doesn't fight me some day, and she got nervous and said - why do you think I have a boyfriend and I said such a beautiful girl should have a boyfriend and she said well..I don't know....and so we continued to see and talk to each other every day, she confessed she has a boyfriend from almost 6 years and that he cheated at her several times, she knows also that I have girlfriend from almost 6 years but we don't understand each other. I wrote her one day also that I like her to which she responded something but not that she likes me too. Everything was great some days we were writing email all day long and were seeing several times, several times she asked me after Saturday and Sunday when we didn't see or write to each other whether I missed her, to which I responded positively but again she did not respond with the same rather she wrote somethink like great it should be like that, and when I asked her and did I miss you she wrote - maybe maybe...nevertheless I think she likes me, moreover we have a colleague girl and they both are very close and several times when we three were together she was talking stuff like you will be great couple or you are made for each other, or she told her in front of us you should leave your boyfriend he is not for you and things like that...one day she wrote me whether I am angry and I wrote her back that I am not but I am a little nervous because of our sophisticated situation, the fact that she has a boyfriend and they live together. She answered me that she is not guilty about that and I don't have to be nervous at her, because she lives with this guy before she knows me and she can not say like "bam" and leave him and that she doesn't want me to be nervous. I told her that I am not pressing her or pushing her anywhere so she needs to be calm (because I read that taurus doesn't like that). So we continued writing and seeing each other every day but just in work. Last thursday we had work meeting for two days in

another city. At the dinner and the party after that we were sitting on different tables and several times i wanted to go to her but I didn't and several hours later she came on the chair near me and asked me what I am doing. I told her she has beautiful dress, she said thank you, and I told her that it is because of the girl not the dress and she said yeah yeah if it is like that you would have showed some attention...which is true, I don't know why I acted like that maybe because I feel a little insecure about her and her real feelings and intention. So she stayed at my table all night, we were speaking to each other from time to time and in the middle of the night she said she is going to her room and I stayed. Then when I was going also her girlfriend told me what her roomnumber is but I didn't go to her (I don't want her to think I want just sex from her and I am even not sure what exactly she wants). On the next day in the morning I went to her room, we talked a little and I went on the balcony and she followed me and said look what nice view I have and then said I am shaking and showed her hand and I said why are you shaking and did hug her, then after 3 seconds she jumped nervously and said don't distract me and went inside. And so this meeting was over and we all went to our homes which was Friday. Then on monday I wrote her mail to which she responded after 2 hours, while usually almost always she responds max in 30 minutes. Then in the afternoon I wrote her mail and went to a party of my department where she was not but her girlfriend was. There she asked what are we gonna do with our girl, and I said - I don't know I think she is not aware exactly what she wants, and she said well she is too young (although she is 25) and I felt like she told her she doesn't want me anymore. I said that probably she still loves her boyfriend and she said that this is not true and that was it. Several days ago this girl would talk things like you are made for each other and you will be the best couple at work and now she is telling me well she is too young (like don't have hopes about that......) Then when I came back at my pc I had no answer from her, yesterday all day I wrote nothing and she wrote nothing also and we didn't see each other and today till now it is the same story. People please help me I am absolutely confused and I really like her very much. What is happening here, I know that probably I made also mistakes but I didn't want to pressure her and

push her and also I am a capricorn and I become a little insecure when I am not sure about the girl I like although everything showed that she liked me too, but my stipid capricorn nature is also a little drawn back and it is very hard for me to open myself fully....but now she disappeared from nothing even without writing a sentence...I mean if she made her mind and doesn't want nothing from me anymore she could write something at least. What do you think I should do next? Please taureans give me some advice, I am going crazy....did I mess the things up or is it something with her or is it that probably she didn't like me and was just playing around. Is it possible that her girlfriend was pushing her hard about me (because she said at the party that she is talking to her all the time) and scared her?? I am absolutely confused 😢... Sorry for the long post

What exactly do you want with her? I think it's obvious that you have her interest, but you can't expect consistency, affection and open feelings considering your situation. You're both taken. And have no intentions of breaking things off with your current partners, so it seems (even though you're both apparently not happy with them). And you're saying that you want more than sex with her. How? She likes you but she's guarding herself, she has to.

I wouldn't pay too much attention to when she responds to your emails, 30 minutes, two hours or two days. People have things to do, it doesn't have to mean anything. Never listen to the third person, she shouldn't speak in the name of someone else. If you want to know if your Taurus has feelings for her boyfriend or if she's only with him out of habit or some other reasons (and this could be the case with Taureans), ask her. Whatever it is that you want with her, let her know. Taurus won't make the first move. I'm sure she'll appreciate your directness.

Theatrum, thank you for the nice answer. Well what I want from her - of course I want something serious although I know her from a little time. If i wanted just sex I would not have bothered so much about her and what she thinks about me. Actually this is the first time since I am with my girlfriend that I feel this way and the first time that I am ready to break up with her because of another girl, although I realize I have no feeling for her from long time I am only used up with her. You are absolutely right that our situation is very complicated and I know that...about her boyfriend I actually asked her indirectly, she once told me that her parents don't like him at all, and I responded but the most important is that you like him right? and she said no, then I asked no? like I was surprised and she said well I don't know. Also at the same party when her girlfriend told me that she is not in love with her boyfriend, because she told her that the main reason she stays with him is that they ate on a loan and she doesn't want to live alone and pay the whole loan all by herself. I am trying not to listen to the third person but they are almost inseparable and when this colleague girl tells me something I imagine that my taurus told this or told her something. I really try to be direct with her although it is hard for me also to show my feelings when I am not entirely sure what she thinks and feels (i am reserved capricorn after all 🙂 ) and about the emails I was not this surprised to see that she answered after two hours but it is strange for me that she did not answer me the last email that was Monday afternoon and this added to what the colleague said to me seems bad for me...but I can not imagine how you can turn 180 degrees for 2 days and I can not think of something that I did.

Ok, so i am too one mystical taurus girl, i am 23 and a bit tricky.

If I were the girl, and I need time to think - this means I wont talk to you, it would take maximum 2 days for me to think because the missing part would be hard and I will be back fast. BUT when I dont want the boy, I dont care about coming back. BUT I can see, that she likes you, but she is so afraid to open herself to you- the missing part, the tiptoeing around. She is.. how can I say.. combing the ground.

Maybe she thinks how to leave her man. But its a tricky situation. She can be thinking about why u havent left your gf (i didnt read that u left her, did you?). So this makes this - you cheat on your lady, why wont you cheat on her? I would think that too, this is a thing to think about.

BUT, maybe it only applies to me but i would love that the men would contact me, saying good morning honey, etc. It would make him smile all day long, just the little things. Not materialistic things...

If you are sure that you wont leave her for another girl, you have feelings and you can see future with her, then contact her.

"I can not imagine how you can turn 180 degrees for 2 days and I can not think of something that I did."

The disappearing act. Taurus is infamous for turning from hot to cold overnight while the other person doesn't even remotely see it coming. If there's something that bothers us, instead of communicating it directly we keep taking and taking it in until we've had enough. Than we just ice you out of our lives. Yeah, maybe we tried to send some subtle hints that we expected you to pick up on, but it's no excuse, it's unfair to the other person. Hopefully this isn't the case in your situation.

Thank you taurusinsane and Theatrum, so there is some change currently. Today we saw each other at work but she was going somewhere with a colleague whom she is in one room with and we didn't talk I just smiled at her. After 1 hour she wrote me an email - Hey, are you mad for something, because I think you were a little strange when we saw in the corridor....Ok you have to explain me, she stops writing and answering and then asks me whether I am mad? 😄 I wrote her that I am not mad but thought she is and also wrote her that her girlfriend like gave me a hint that she wants nothing from me and that is why I stopped harassing her. She answered that she asked her friend to stop talking from her name and that she likes to communicate with me and that is why she won't stop....Everything is great but again I am confused what does that mean? She may want to say that she just likes me as a friend and to communicate with me and doesn't want to lose me as a friend...I mean she is really indirect while she wants the others to be direct with her, or just I can not get what she wants to say by what she is telling me 🙂

You need to just stop.

Stop analysing everything

Stop obsessing

Stop behaving like a 14 year old girl with her first crush

and most importantly, have some respect for your girlfriend. Show some decency and either stop being a relationship with her or stop chasing after this other girl.

Look Jeane, you don't know what my story is, what the situation with my relationship and my girlfriend is and so on and so on, also I didn't cheat on her and I will never do anything with this other girl if I am still with my girlfriend or she is still with her boyfr. But in life you never know when someone else will show and you will fall into him, moreover if you are not satisfied by your current relationship or the relation with your partner. This happens to me for the first time and it is definitely very confusing for me I didn't choose it to happen and it doesn't mean I don't have respect for my girlfriend. As to the part stop analysing everything and stop obsessing maybe you are right, I am analysing more than needed but it is just because I want to be in control of the situation, and I want to be sure whether the girl just likes me and respects me as a friend or it is something more. And if she sees me as a friend I would like to make everything to reach the same level for her and not be hurt after that because I didn't see the clues that she has nothing for me. That is why I registered in this forum because there are girls who can see from their point of view and can help and it is additional plus that they are the same sign. I am aware that no one can read into her mind but the people here can be of great help and I am very thankful to the girls who gave their opinions so far.

FACT - You are in a relationship

FACT - You are not satisfied in that relationship

FACT - You felt a twitch in your loins and are now chasing after another woman.

It is of no relevance if this other woman sees you as a friend, possible new partner, soulmate, card carrying member of the same tennis club. It doesn't matter if she is single or married to a mob boss.

If you are unhappy with your relationship, you either work it out with your current girlfriend or you let her go so she can find someone who does want to be with her. If you're not doing anything wrong, tell her of your recent behaviour. See how she reacts.

Chats on the balcony, daily emails akin to passing notes in class, schoolroom gossip. You say want to be in control, in fact what you want is to hedge your bets. You want to have the girlfriend there is this new possibility turns sour but if you get the green light with this other one, your current girlfriend is shoved to the side. Come on, have some balls and pick a side.

And don't start with the 'you don't know my life' nonsense. If you didn't want people to judge you, you shouldn't have plastered your infantile musings on a forum.

taurusinsane - I definitely have feelings for her (if it may be called feelings as we did nothing so far we didn't even kiss) and have no intention to leaving her for another girl obviously as I like her 🙂 and if we break up with our current partners and something happens. Although I think I will break up with my girlfriend no matter if she wants something from me or not because the fact that I fell into another girl speaks for itself. There are just two things that make me worry a little. The first one is this disappearing act of the taurus, I am person who really values security in the relationship and feel best when I am sure about my partner and his feelings about me. If this really happens with every taurus and he makes this disappearing every now and then and I should always wonder did she found someone else? is she not loving me anymore? did I make her angry about something?..this will really drive me crazy and I won't feel at ease in such a relationship...moreover as you theatrum said if she is taking it in every time without me knowing what wrong I did and at some point she would come and say sorry but I want to break up with you.
She is:
Sun Tau
Moon Virgo
Mercury Gemini
Venus Gemini

And the venus in gemini is the other thing that worries me because when I was reading stuff about astrology in internet everywhere is written that venus in gemini is very tough position and the person is very very flirty and is being bored very easily with his partner. I know that you can never generalize but apparently it is a fact. Although it is too soon to talk about these things because no one know whether something will happen between us at all.

Jeane...I didn't register in the forum to ask you whether you think that I have to break up with my girlfriend or not, i registered to get some advice about this taurus girl. I am completely aware that it is bad for the other person if such situation occurs if you fall into someone else. If you've been in a long relationship I guess you would know it is not an easy decision to go and tell the person ok I have a crush get your things and get out of my life. And I am not waiting to see whether this girl likes me so that I leave my current girlfriend, as I said if she has nothing for me I would definitely consider leaving my girlfriend because this is obvious sign that there is no way we can stay together, it will just probably take me longer time to make this difficult step. And again I am not here so that one tells me how I should lead my relationship and that I need to pick a side, I know that! I wrote here because I wanted advice about this girl from other taurus girls who can guess her better, I don't need a marriage counselor with all my respect.

Meh. Often what we want and what we get are two different things.

Ah right, I see. So you would prefer to string your girlfriend along for a bit longer? Why? Until you find someone else that you could springboard yourself to? You're not being honest and you certainly aren't showing any character or integrity.

It is only what you want; screw your girlfriend who deserves some consideration and who cares about this other woman who herself is currently not in a state to start something with you. Even in this interaction with me it has to be what you want. And you're missing my point. If you want to get this taurus woman you need to sort yourself first.

You know what taurus women like? Honesty. Loyalty. Patience. Security. All the things that you are not showing. You're so busy worrying that her disappearing act means she is compatible for you that you're not even bothering to consider that perhaps she won't like what you have to offer.

Posted by jeane

And you're missing my point. If you want to get this taurus woman you need to sort yourself first.

You know what taurus women like? Honesty. Loyalty. Patience. Security. All the things that you are not showing. You're so busy worrying that her disappearing act means she is compatible for you that you're not even bothering to consider that perhaps she won't like what you have to offer.

This is true.

Posted by Theatrum
"I can not imagine how you can turn 180 degrees for 2 days and I can not think of something that I did."

The disappearing act. Taurus is infamous for turning from hot to cold overnight while the other person doesn't even remotely see it coming. If there's something that bothers us, instead of communicating it directly we keep taking and taking it in until we've had enough. Than we just ice you out of our lives. Yeah, maybe we tried to send some subtle hints that we expected you to pick up on, but it's no excuse, it's unfair to the other person. Hopefully this isn't the case in your situation.

Posted by Theatrum

I wouldn't pay too much attention to when she responds to your emails, 30 minutes, two hours or two days. People have things to do, it doesn't have to mean anything. Never listen to the third person, she shouldn't speak in the name of someone else. If you want to know if your Taurus has feelings for her boyfriend or if she's only with him out of habit or some other reasons (and this could be the case with Taureans), ask her. Whatever it is that you want with her, let her know. Taurus won't make the first move. I'm sure she'll appreciate your directness.

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Great answers. Nothing more to add....

Ok Jeane, two months ago after another quarrel that was again because of her fault I told her that we are separating and this is the end, she started crying and told me that she can't, that this will be the end for her and so on and so on. I told her that I have no more feelings for her and don't love her so there is no point but she continued to be stubborn and to try and fix the things and I asked her what does she want to happen, probably to show some other girl so that she understands. So I am not dishonest or disrespectful to her, it is not like I am with her and tell her every day I love you I love you and in the meantime I am into another girl and go after her and also I am not lying the other girl that I am alone, she knows I have girlfriend and is aware of the whole situation. What do you want me to do, tell her and myself ok look what I will stop liking you until I resolve the things with my current girlfriend and then I will like you again? It is not something you can play with as you want, it just happens. I would have been disrespectful and dishonest if I went to her room to want something from her when her friend told me the number. I just wanted to know what this girl is actually thinking and what her actions actually mean, so please stop playing the greatest philosopher in the world. And if taurus likes honesty, loyalty, patience etc. ...why is she also showing some affection when she has a boyfriend, and why she told her girlfriend that she lives with him just because she doesn't want to be alone and pay the loan on her own?? That sounds to me as dishonest according to your way of thinking. If you want to be of help tell me for example - ok I think she likes you but she waits to see if you will break up with your girl and I think she will not show you anything until you are in a relationship. I will understand this much better as an advice than all the things you've written so far!

Mystery84 Well,I have exactly the same placements as hers.Well,what I think is,she is attracted towards you,liking,I don't know.She still has some feelings for her boyfriend,more than you ofcourse and that is why,she is not being very clear with you,actually, chances are,she is not clear in the head herself.All I can say is,love her and appreciate her.She'll not make the first move.Don't be clingy though,but be there wheb she needs you.She is surely having some boyfriend issue,but we have very bad habit of trying to make things work out even if the relationship is torturous.She may also be paying attention to you for want of affection,which I feel her boyfriend is not giving her presently.If you're intelligent n witty,then we Taureans will love to be with you.Don't expect much,but be all giving n loving,but not clingy.Maybe,MAYBE,she'll fall for you

Secondly,please leave your girlfriend if you're not happy with her! Why string her along? As Jeane stated.

Thirdly,she might feel a bit hesitant in entering in a relationship with you if you woo her while in a relationship or soon after the break up.She'll obviously be skeptical about the fact that maybe you're just infatuated and leave her for another girl.

Fourthly,be polite and courteous with everyone and respect them.we love that.

I know exactly how you feel Mystery84. I also like a Taurus and have been through the whole hot and cold phase several times and now I feel like I kind of got the hang of things. When we first met I was with someone and so was she. I instantly felt a connection when we met. Over the years we've grown close and trust one another. It has been a long journey with Taurus and patience really is the key word. I don't think neither one of us are ready for what we could be but don't want anyone else to be with each other. I broke up with my girlfriend because I knew there was no way she was the one for me if Taurus made me feel like she was my soul mate. The only advice I can give is to be patient, don't be clingy, be there for her, and give her space. I have lived in this forum for a couple of years and TaurusBull1977 always give great advice. I swear I have posted in this forum over a 100 times. I still have questions but I find that when I wait and try not to take control we get a lot further instead of going backwards. I too am a Capricorn and over analyzing is what we do. Just relax and go with the flow. Check out my past post and learn from my mistakes.

ilovemyaqua, if she still has such strong feelings for her boyfriend why would she tell her colleague friend that she is with him just because she doesn't want to pay the loan on her own? it's not making sense, and she told me like 10 times so far that her parents don't like him at all and that is why they don't go at their place...and she repeats that he is so dumb and that is the reason she caught him several times cheating on her...It is really confusing to me, another thing is..everyone here is writing how much taurus likes honesty and loyalty but she is still with a boy that she caught cheating on her I don't even know how many times..anyway..Iam not clingy at all, I never even asked her out, the only time we have contact is at work time, when we exchange emails or we each other at our rooms that is all...I could also never become clingy with someone I don't have relationship with or I am not sure about her feelings..it is even the other way around I rather become more cautious and retreated..I am not the kind of guy who pursues like crazy
noonie1801, I am happy for you that you are doing good with you taurus partner, but you said ovr the years? are you saying that you were chasing her for years until she decided that she probably wants you and until you got to know thoughts better? this sounds really like torture to me....if the taurus is like that I would definitely try to get her out of my mind, I mean with all my respect I can not imagine that I will chase someone several years playing all by her rules, I will think every single moment..ok am I too clingy, am I giving her enough space, am I doing everything right, did I do good that I touched her at this exact moment or not?...and all the time she will just wait to see whether she really likes me or not without caring about anything...come on people, the process of beginning relationship and of liking someone or falling in love is a two way process...and we are earth signs for gods sake, for me as a cold and reserved capricorn it is also very very difficult to show emotions and feelings but if I like someone I fight myself and show it to him or even I say this to him...what am I supposed to play games like 1 or 2 years and be careful every moment what I am saying and doing so that I do not offend her, show her and tell her that I love her and that I will be always there for her without expecting anything in return, go through several hot cold periods..so that in the end she EVENTUALLY decides wh

decides whether she likes me or not? this sound really very unfair to me....and I expect someone to say then you do not deserve the taurus, but in such a situation the only scenario I can imagine is such a taurus to get into relationship with someone who doesn't care even a little, and at some point to understand that her partner cheats on her...I really hope you are not trying to say to me that all these things are normal and that I should expect them if I want this girl?

damn damn damn, when i read your last comments and u said that she has VENUS IN GEMINI. Oh boy, oh boy!! I have venus in gemini too and... hard to handle. If you dont stimulate our minds, we will go away. We are so easily bored its literally disgusting.

The mind of a person whose venus is in gemini is like a rollercoaster- one minute u want to be with that person you like, but in the next minute you dont. For me, it is like that. I can go from one person to another, within a day. This doesnt mean i sleep around with them, no. I like variety- different people talk about different stuff, everybody has their opinions, mindsets and this is what intrigues me and thats why i am sometimes all over the place and dont know what to do and with whom to be.


For example. When I got out of my relationship, that now is back again, but when we werent together... in 3 months, i fooled around with 2 guys at the same time. I could just within a second get bored of the one guy and then i messaged the other guy that i wanted to chill. The most horrific thing i did was that in the end, i did left one guy because i felt guilty but then my ex was back again and I remember clearly how in the middle of the party, my ex messaged me and I just ran away (literally!) from the 2nd guy, because i was bored and i was onto to the new. In one night, i was chilling with 2 different guys because i was so bored. Maybe i am a bit too flaky, but just to point that i didnt slept with none of the 2 guys. And i remember that when i was still talking to my nr 2 guy and he asked what i did all day, i just said i was with my ex and blah.. the 2nd guy dissapeared. I was honest and direct and this made him dissapear. So.. yeah. You can just hope that she isnt like that.

I like this, i like that, oh but then again, i like that.. oh back to the first one... and this goes on UNTIL(!) the person find peace within and this means being with a partner who she can never leave and cheat. Thank god I found mine.

and i will add this too:

i did hold onto these 2 guys but i didnt have no feelings towards them. I can be in a "relationship" where i can just need another person to fulfill something. It is selfish and bad, but i need a benefit from a (fake)relationship and when the guys told me that they want to be with me, have feelings for me then i was just blank and got out of this convo so i cannot say how i feel about them. I used them for fun, i wanted to have fun in the summer, chill around, meet new people.

And now i can see why the girl hasnt left the other guy. She clearly can not be having feelings, she can just be using him.

but her virgo moon could be a bit better than my leo moon.

all the little details matter that she does. personally i would never trust a gemini venus lol

Yes the Taurus and I have been going back and forth for a couple of years. Because of her back and forth and disappearing acts I thought she didn't care. So I tried to move on but never could fully escape her. The only way I knew she cared is when she did caring things for me when I wasn't looking and her friend would always slip about how she felt about me whenever she was drunk. She always have a twinkle in her eyes literally when I see her and I know she still cares. Now that both of us are single it's like we are starting from the beginning and trying to build. If you look throughout this forum the top questions are "Why did my Taurus disappear?" and "Why is the Taurus hot and cold?". It seems they always disappear when there is a lot of emotions involved. I've never dealt with someone so difficult but it just all seems worth it strangely. But yeah if you're not looking for a roller coaster of a ride then you might just want to back off of the Taurus. As they say "nothing worth having is easy".

It's always hard to tell how a person truly feels without witnessing the behavior firsthand. However, as a Taurus girl, I can tell you how I usually act when I am interested in someone and how I act when I'm not interested.

I will start out by saying that I personally love attention from men. Even if I'm not interested. I am a flirt. I also dislike confrontation and hurting a guy's feelings. Because of this, I have lead men on without meaning to all because it can be difficult for me to flat out say, "I'm not interested in you romantically".
More often than not, I'll flat out ignore a guy, change the subject or give really short answers when I'm not feeling it.

When I am interested, I can be a bit shy. I like to feel a guy out. If he makes it fairly apparent he is into me, I go for it. I try to stay calm and will give him his space and not appear to be obsessive or clingy. (Even if I am obsessing over him in my mind, and oh boy, do I ever do that.)
I'll make up an excuse to talk to him. I also tease the men I like. I'm not mean, but I will be very sarcastic and poke fun at them a bit. It's my way of flirting because I can feel uncomfortable with sharing my feelings until I'm deep into a relationship. When I want a guy and he gives me the green light, he will know that I'm interested. I honestly hate texting. I hate messaging. I'm pretty bad at getting back to people unless they mean something to me. I'll sometimes purposely take my time in responding in order not to look too eager or desperate. That or I will just flat out forget because I'm absentminded at times. That or it's out of pure laziness and needing time to construct exactly what I want to say if the conversation is serious.

As someone who has been cheated on and cheated, I will say that infidelity is my biggest fear and turnoff in a relationship. I never cheated until I was with my ex. My reasoning was that I felt neglected and suspected that he was cheating.

As for men who are involved that have expressed interest, I won't say that I haven't flirted or slept with an attached guy. Why did I do it knowing how possessive and insistent on my partner being faithful to me? I don't even know. Could have been for the attention. I did also have history with these guys before they dated these girls, so a part of my possessive bull nature was basically like, "Well, I had him first."

I will say that I won't date a guy who is pursuing me while he is already in a relationship. I may fli

haha..ok taurusinsane you totally discouraged me here 🙂 your story sounded like you wanted to say I am one of those 2 guys 🙂) so..please make a definition of - boring! what is boring for venus in gemini as you say, what the guy should be so that venus in gemini who is so flirty and easily bored decides to stay just with one partner? should the guy be walking on his two hands or what or he should talk more than you or he should tell jokes all the time or he should like to go to parties all the time, describe what is boring for this venus placement...and you said she clearly not having feelings, she can just be using him...did you mean her current boyfriend or me? actually my venus is in sag so it is also an air sign but who knows. And I don't know if her mars placement is of any importance but it is in cancer. Actually her girlfriend is very flirty and I once wrote her, who knows with how many more guys you are writing except me, to make a joke of course, and she responded, I am so much different than her, please don't ever think such things...so..I don't know, but you can never tell whether it is true

I dont like when a man will do everything for me, yes it is nice but we are two individuals. You and me. A man and a woman. 1 and 1. This means that 50% -50% both are in this relationship.
For example. I went out with this one guy, who did everything to please ME. Yes, i am important but YOU are too. So, when I am the only one making decisions- boring. I needed to make all the decisions- where to eat, what to watch in cinema. BORING! U no have an opinion? Who are u then?
This brings to number 1: be an individual. When you have an opinion or you dont like my answer, say it. Make us argue. For me, the worst thing to do for a man is to push down his own opinions and ego just to please me. When you let me decide everything, cmon.. you too have an opinion and wants. Say it!

Gemini is twins, this means an imbalance because you have two screaming "persons" inside you.

Maybe I am a bit tomboy, but I like adventure not romantic dinner at candlelight.
This brings to number 2: be spontaneous and adventurous. When the only things you can come up to do is go to cinema, romantic dinners and a boat ride, then I will go away in the middle of the date. Personally yes, I can go to a romantic dinner but just for fun, maybe one time and maybe act like a total weird couple and make everyone uncomfortable or act like an old couple. Cinema is fine too but I rather cuddle at home with this man and watch movie but we will never know how the movie will end, if you know what I mean. And boat ride, ahh.. i would swim away if he would act as a romantic cutie. What I would appreciate, is maybe doing a canoo ride, racing with them lolol. I dont know, just to have a totally weird date is the best one to have. Maybe I am a bit weird and like weird stuff, but this basic lets-watch-stars thing is not for me. Yes, we can watch stars for one minute after we have had intense sex in the beach which is followed by a chat for hours about how space is infinity and well.. where the aliens are lol.
To sum up number 2 then basically be fun, dont settle for the regular and ordinary, add something to the regular thing, blow our minds, make us laugh.

Maybe you wonder how to text her too. I sometimes in the middle of the day just decide to send a totally exposing picture to my man. Just like that. So this maybe says how we like spontaneous weird stuff. So when you are messaging us, say fun things. Because english is not my mother language and we dont send messages in english then its ha

I cannot say if he has feelings for you honey. One i know- if i want, i will go get it.
When my ex came back, i left my other guy within hours because the feelings for my ex were so strong.

Think of it as this way, this is hard to read and this will make you think. If she has feelings for you, he would not sleep with her boyfriend. I felt disgusted in the end of my "relationship" with the last guy because i knew i wanted to be with my ex, his touches were not my exes etc. Like I said, I she has feelings, she would be with you. And the same is with you. You dont hold on a girl just because maybe you dont want to be alone until you have this girl. I would never trust you.

Oh, my 2:22 post was not finished, here it is:

Because english is not my mother language and we dont send messages in english then its hard to say what to message her. Keywords maybe being mystical, flirty, addind this smile 😉, yet somehow being lovable and cuddly.

We need to know you can have fun. As for me, I dont drink, so drunk parties are not for me. Yes we can go out and you too, but being over the top drunk is not cool. But this is just my opinion. For me, drinking pushes down the persons real identity. If his cool only with drinking then why he cant be cool without it? So no, not for me.

The 1st guy was a bit more adventurous, we were in the woods for 5-6 hours, walking and talking. This was actually the best dates i had for a long time.. we talked about everything, messed around and laughed. But you know what was the turn point for me actually? He lost his keys one time when we were walking and he was sending me away. I insisted I will help look them, no problem. I want to. And you know what? He said no, that this isnt what you should do. This is idealizing me, putting me on a high chair and looking up. No no no no dude. I wanna help you look because im your friend. And then the relationship was going downhill day by day (i dissapeared, ignored him), adding the 2nd guy in the picture. I just knew that when I would be in relationship with this person, he would never take this relationship 50-50 like me. But he was cool, but nah..

The second guy was cool dude too, we could chat about everything, and laugh! Oh, how much laughing we had. He appreciated my weirdness and played with this very well. But he was too stable for me. I knew that I can depend on him but I knew at one point that he isnt the one for me. I once dissapeared when he bought me food behind my back. I dont know why did it bother me that much, maybe the fact that he didnt included me on the food choice, even though i liked everyhing i didnt liked that he didnt included me. Dear lord, when I write and read it, then i can see that im a handful!

But i will add the guy i have now to the story too. I like that he is mysterious, he has an ego that i know that i cannot push him, i KNOW he thinks about himself too not just me and this is just perfect. When we are arguing, we always ask how the other feel about it and what is my opinion, do i like it or not. This is a 50-50 relationship. I see my future with him, i see us traveling, being fools, climbing mountains, riding bik

...riding bikes, walking hours and just talking. In the last 3 years we have been mostly building up our friendship first, not pushing ourselves in the relationship. Being friends first, yet lovers.

When you have questions, ask. I dont know if im a typical venus in gemini but i will try to answer.

ok thank you taurusinsane...actually I am not curios just for the venus in gemini but for the fact that you are taurus too right? 🙂 although you never know whether you act like this only because of this venus placement because there is whole bunch of other planets 🙂 and there is the ascendant also which I know is also very important, unfortunately I don't know hers.what is yours actually? Definitely from what you wrote I won't be comfortable if she is the same way because the thing I value most in a relationship is stability and security, loyalty, to be sure of the other person feelings and so on...otherwise I would be in constant pressure, ok am I enough interesting for her or did I become boring to some extent...and I won't be myself. I don't know if she is like that, actually if I put aside the fact that i still have girlfriend which is big hindrance between us and I am totally aware of that, I don't know what she thinks at all. I just suppoose she likes me but it could be nothing like that..I mean...for example what she said, I won't stop to communicate with you, because I like it...this sounds to me like - I like you just as a friend, but what it means in taurus head I don't know...and that is why I turned for little help here.

I am Taurus yes, but Leo moon and Leo ascendant too 😉

But the thing is, I want stability and security too, because otherwise the relationship wont work right? This needs to be there, with trust. When I like spontanity, it doesnt mean i dont like stability. Because Im home alot and I work like 15hours a day at least, then theres need to be stability for this kind of dedication to work.

When I like one guy and have deep feelings, theres needs to be stability in our feelings to eachother, but the dating part and going out needs to be adventurous and not stable. Hard to explain. But the main point is, im loyal and stabile when in right relationship with a person who I can trust. I joke around and dont like stability when Im with a guy who i dont like that much.

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