Taurus Guy is confusing me

I met a group of people on holiday earlier on this year, n got on really well with 2 lads patrticularily one is and aquarius and one is a gemini, me n the gemini both liked eachother n when we got home nothing came of it.
A week later and a random taurus guy added me on facebook who shared the same mutual friends as the people i met on holiday i asked the gemini guy why hes added me as he didnt come on holiday n the gemini told me not to add him as he is basically trying to get back at him for a prank he played on him. so i ignored the invite.

then a about 5 weeks ago i got a private message on facebook from this guy saying will u message the gemini guy as he doesnt stop talking about u,i messaged back sayin we both have eachothers numbers, and are on facebook n i doubt it.
i then found on the geminis facebook wall that the gemini guy had once again wound the taurus guy up, so i commented on it n said to the taurus in future dont use me to wind your friends up, then me n taurus guy were messaging eachother and then became friends on facebook. (i wasnt wary about accepting as we are meeting in november at a concert as im meeting all of the people from hol accept the gemini guy as he isnt coming)

since then me n the taurus guy have messaged on facebook every day n then he gave me his number n asked for me to ring him, then we progressed to texting loads everyday n then as of 2 weeks ago we spoke ont he phone every other day. he has explained that all girls f*ck him over in the end, n his mum cheated on his dad when he was 16-17 n he never got over it, n he was hurt when him n his ex girlfriend split 2 years ago n doesnt wanna go through that again, i said oh ok n he said but that doesnt mean things dont change, n u change ur mind.

if i dont reply starightaway he used to moan n stuff when we text, n i asked about meeting before this concert as i think 3 n half months is a long time to wait but taurus said no, so i know they are stubborn n i have to be patient so im willing to wait till november to meet. anyways, the past 9 days have been pretty weird, he has started work at site were hes working 12 hour days, his sister who he isnt close to had a baby n he fell out with his dad, so he has been bit more vague n distant with his txting which i undertsand and fine with. then the weekend came n i hadnt heard from him in 2 days so i txt him sayin how r u? n got no reply, then i rang him sat nyt n he txt me sayin i cant speak, i said why?

i then asked why? n he said he was drunk n couldnt speak, so on sunday i messaged him sayin jus tell me to go away if thats what u want as uv been distant n again i got no reply...so i rang him on witheld number on sunday...
i asked why he was ignoring me, he said he was stressed n his heads a mess i said why
he said it didnt matter, i said jus tell me to leave u alone n i will n he said noooo! i dont want you to do that!
then he txt me later that night acting like nothing was wrong talkin about the football...i said i dont want to listen to anymore of your sillyness he said if u knew what my sillyness was you wouldnt be sayin that. i said well i dont know as you wont tell me but im here for u ok?
he said yeh ok.
he then text me an hour later sayin im so sorry for the way ive been you know
i said its ok, im here for you if u need me.
then on monday i txt him sayin are you at work today??
n ive not heard from him n its been 2 days—
friends have told me hes messing me around not answering calls but answering to witheld, n ignoring my txts.
i need some help please! thanks

Aquariusbrit I don't think there is anything you can really do. You have been the open ear for him, and have attempted to keep the lines of communication open to him. It's up to the guy to get over/through his own issuse, and fears inorder make the decision to be friends/ something else. I think you should move on.

I agree w/Elusive in the fact that you really don't "know" this person. I'm sure that you both have shared a lot of intimacies that would make you FEEL like you know one another, but honestly, you don't. I would recommend just leaving it alone until if/when you both meet in person; otherwise, you are winding yourself up over someone that you've never met before. I would use that time and energy that you've been expending on him in trying to meet someone who WANTS to get to know you, and not one that appearingly either is a. not interested, b. has too much going on, or c. doesn't know what he wants to do. I think it's interesting that when you attempted to make arrangements to meet him prior to the event in November that he declined. That, would be a huge warning sign for me....but again, you and I are two different people, so you may not think that is peculiar at all, but I do. I look at it like this, if you meet someone on line, I don't think there is anything inherently wrong with that, but that can't go on forever, the individuals involved have to take the time to meet one another and see if there is, in fact, a "connection." Life is too short to waste it on someone who isn't available.

Taurus men like attention. great food, romance, poems, hot passionate sex, fun with friends.

U are an Aquarius? Do not be to cold with him.


He might get possessive if he starts liking u a lot.

I love possessive men LOL.

But not to suffocating either 😛

Thankyou for all your help,
i ended up goin against what i was going to do and txt him lasnyt askin if he is ok, he said yeh u?
i said yeh hows things at home?
he said they wer still bad? i said look if u want me to leave u alone i will do dont not say it coz it hurts peoples feelins,n i dont know were i am with him? he said he didnt want me to leave him alone he jus doesnt want the hassel at the moment? he asked were i thought i was exactly?
i said well wev gone from speaking everyday to basically never.
we then got on to the subject of me going down to take him out n cheer him up
he then said look i jus dont want anything like that right now!
i said i wernt meaning it like that i meant it as a mate
he said no jus dont worry bout me.
i said well im sorry for whatever iv dont. he said uv done nothing wrong were still mates aint we?
i said yeh al see you at that concert then n he said yeh if u want to? n i sed yeh. n he sed ok

so hes gone from ringing me, sayin he likes me, to now not....white flags are up for me...i give up

well since ive distanced myself mr taurus has message me askin wether i went the match...then i updated my status on facebook this morn sayin im not feelin to good, n he has txt me askin how im feelin....
confusin!!!! guess me sittin back n playin it cool has made him txt me?
or does he jus wanna b nice n civil?
god taurus!!! why r u so confusin!
any other lad iv dealt with iv understood n there straight down the line, usually air signs..
i dealt with a capricorn who was pretty straight but put hsi career first! typical cap trait..
but taurus my god ur hard work haha....