Taurus man acting up!

Again!!!!! He drops me inside the gate of my home..he didnt this morning..as soon as i exit the vehicle he sped off... He hasnt touched me in days..we havent spoke about anything personal in a while. Every time i exit the vehicle he goes on the phone having a conversation..then hangs up as i enter the car. He doesnt call much anymore...Im literally shutting down emotionally. Its like my heart is preparing for a breakup...What you guys think?

hmmm let's see; speeds away after dropping you off, gets on the phone no sooner when you exit/hangs up when you reenter, hasn't touched you in days, and doesn't talk about anything personal. This seems like someone not into you anymore. Now if this is the way he acts when he's upset about something then TALK to him about it! If not; start thinking about living your life w/o him.

Posted by PiscVirgAquaFish
Discipline him. 😈

How?

Posted by FishyPisces
What sign are you? I sense some passivity in you..

Scales.... Im a libra.

Posted by djbuck1
Your avi says it all. That and your history of postings about this individual.

I dont mean to sound ignorant but what is an avi..

I know this sounds very stupid but i love him. i have invested 3 months into him. he has become a major part of my life. He has pushed himself into every aspect of my life. We coordinate cookouts together. We work together. He is very close with my family. He has made his presence felt in my life. He is a very aggressive man who gets things done. I have come to appreciate that aggressive side of him. Loving him comes easily for me. But handling him is very difficult. In my other relationships I was the brilliant one. I was in control of the relationship and just about everything else. So its hard being around someone who thinks he is the most intelligent person. And he is always in control of everything. I am trying to cope with him because i love him. It is useless trying to talk about how i feel with him. He has told me before that if he doesnt want me he would tell me and i believe that. He seems to have this spiteful nature about him..like if someone does something wrong he would punish them in someway. Like he has to discipline others.... I just need to figure out how to cope with him or leave him. I think i understand him. But i want to no the best way to deal with him. My mean side really wants to come out to play. But my sweetheart personality screams just be nice

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Posted by pixie242

Posted by djbuck1
Your avi says it all. That and your history of postings about this individual.

I dont mean to sound ignorant but what is an avi..

Your avatar. The little picture that shows up when you post.

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oh ok..my avatar has nothing to do with my personality or who I am. I just thought it was cute. and I didn't think it would be practical to put up a personal photo....

Judging your point of view, it looks as if the two of you are very close. I doubt that he would drop something so fulfilling just like that. Anyways, besides looking at sun signs, there would be other factors in the natal chart (Moon for example as a major factor). Also, in natal astrology, the place of the sun matters as well because that is where the Sun's energies are best expressed.

How do I know?

(Experience Taurus with a Gemini moon in the 12th house.)

It just is....maybe I have a mixed up sense of what is cute.. *shrug* I guess I looked at it with more depth than I realised... I found their relationship cute.. her father loved her enough to respect her decision yet cared for her enough to be the shoulder she can cry on and still want to protect her even though he saw the outcome before she did...I think that is cute and sweet... The violence suggested doesn't intrigue me there relationship does...if that makes any sense at all.

Posted by BikerCh1ck
I had posted you a photo ages ago about the Dominator. ~Go and check it again.
He has now the persona of the sexual abuser.
He will either have lots of sex with you or no sex at all.
He will cheat on you.etc
Just read it. He is following the behaviour pattern that the photo shows.
You will soon experience the other facets of the abuser.
It is an addictive relationship that will take you nowhere good. You need help to get out of it. You are already addicted to this man. ALL his attitude is a GAME.

ok. I will look at it again.

Drop it dear and move one. You can't invest on something that Is already broken... You will only get hurt down the road..

Let's compare my situation and yours: I'm a Taurus. I'm interested in a Libra. I have no idea if it will result in anything, but I would like to see if it does. I hope that our relationship will be problem free, even if it isn't a romantic one. If anything bad should happen, I hope it isn't too severe and that it isn't constant. All I have to do now is talk to her to get to know her and see where she stands in regard to this thing I feel due to her behavior. I intend to be respectful in my associations with her as I value courtesy and manners, and respect is a privilege that must be earned.

Contrary to what people say about Taurus, I will not treat her as an object nor a possession, because I feel that is a lack of confidence and indecent. It's not in my place to make her decisions. It's her life, and I can't live it for her. If I can't make her happy, I can't expect her to stay. If she won't reciprocate, then I will send her on her way. There's no reason to over complicate things.

Now in your case, you are a Libra with a Taurus who is treating you like the worthless piece of shit he is. This idiot is one of the jackasses who is a disgrace to our sign. He wants a reaction from you. He wants you to beg. He wants to have power over you. If I knew the fucker, I'd rip his balls and pull them out his sorry ass for bringing shame to our beloved sign. This behavior is not what I expect from any of my brothers. We are supposed to be gentlemen who avoid unnecessary pointless conflict. None of my brothers I've met have ever been like the way you describe this dick. Don't just call a hotline, go visit a center for abused women and talk with these people; I'm sure you will find a lot in common with them when they speak of what happened to them.

I think he is seeing someone else...I texted him earlier to call me i missed the call then i texted him again...he called back...an hour later so when he said yes u told me to call you? I was like do you know how long that was? hmmm im going to bed. then i hung up...then i realized that i may have been to harsh so i called and he didnt answer...upset with me all over again i guess....

Posted by pixie242
I think he is seeing someone else...I texted him earlier to call me i missed the call then i texted him again...he called back...an hour later so when he said yes u told me to call you? I was like do you know how long that was? hmmm im going to bed. then i hung up...then i realized that i may have been to harsh so i called and he didnt answer...upset with me all o
ver again i guess....

You really need to get some help if you don't see what's going on. You shouldn't have to lower yourself for somebody else. Taurus or any man will take advantage of a weak, low self-esteem woman. Grow a spine and dump his sorry butt...seriously.

Posted by pixie242
I think he is seeing someone else...I texted him earlier to call me i missed the call then i texted him again...he called back...an hour later so when he said yes u told me to call you? I was like do you know how long that was? hmmm im going to bed. then i hung up...then i realized that i may have been to harsh so i called and he didnt answer...upset with me all o
ver again i guess....

You really need to get some help if you don't see what's going on. You shouldn't have to lower yourself for somebody else. Taurus or any man will take advantage of a weak, low self-esteem woman. Grow a spine and dump his sorry butt...seriously.

Interesting...

I didnt hang up on him like in a rude way. It was almost 11 pm i had ask him to call me from approximately 11am that morning. The day before he ignored my calls and texts...so when i picked up the phone i spoke to him. asking him if he knew how long i tried to reach him..he gave no answer..so i said anyway im going to bed. goodnight signaling the end of the conversation..I waited. Then i hung up. Now he is even more distant. Its just business with him. He doesnt touch me or say anything personal. we just talk business then he leaves.

I only could try speak to him..

I will try give him his space if he doesn't contact me for "us time" by Wednesday I'll just delete his contact and try to move on. I think I need to do some soul searching......let the right person find . Me

He just hurt me in the worst way he couldn't pick me up because he was with his kids when I reach the meeting he has a female sitting in the front of his vehicle who isn't even relevant to the meeting he can be there for her but not for me. Hurting right now but I no what I have to do.

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Posted by pixie242
I will try give him his space if he doesn't contact me for "us time" by Wednesday I'll just delete his contact and try to move on. I think I need to do some soul searching......let the right person find . Me

I hope you'll have the strength to do this and stick to it. It is tough because you are addicted to the guy.

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You are so right this is very hard...I am fighting the urge to text him, I want to talk to him and shake him tell he gets it...The fact that he has moved on is just as much my fault as his..I knew we had problems and that i should talk to him but i ignored it. When he didnt reach out to me I should have reached out to him.... I guess it is what it is...Im running on anger right now...I hope it lasts long enough for me to move on... Im saying move on but i really want to fix it. My brain and my heart is at war.

This song describes my feelings exactly. Story of my life:

I guess Taurus arent the only stubborn ones... I know it is not good to operate on anger but i have to for now...I have to see this event through...I committed to it and after monday...Ill let go. I already deleted his contacts.. I will get over it.. I hate to loose.. I feel like pushing for this relationship and when i get it leave...I dont like to be discarded. I want to leave on my own terms.

It really has nothing to do with stubborness, it has to do with wanting to control. I understand your feelings of wanting to leave on your own terms. No one likes to feel rejected. The pain is deep and there are so many unanswered questions. It feels like your losing, when actually its a win situtation. He is not stable enough to have a relationship with anyone, and to stay involved with someone like this would definately be a loss of your self. It's better to be done and over now, the longer you stay the more you loose, stop feeding his ego.

Sigh* I tried that but he communicated with my sister..before i knew it he was here and he flipped the entire situation on me. He was like if you dont want to have anything to do with me then thats you. But dont let it spill over on this event.. I told im still doing the event because it is my commitment and i want to follow through but then he gone all give him the documents..i told him i still wanted to do the event and then wen he saw me softening up he continued being aggressive and left..i called him all of a sudden he is in a meeting.. after 2 minutes of leaving my presence this man does not want to be with me. So i dont think i have to worry about him beggging to return to me.

You guys are right maybe moving myself is the best move. I will let them know when they get back... I just need me time. Then a girls night out. I will get out of this

No communication!!!!!! at first we communicated very well now its just he speaks i listen and nod. Or reply yes.. I am starting to see everything you told me about this relationship. atleast he never tried to get me pregnant.

Posted by soultalk
I don't know your whole story, but if you want to fix it, then what is stopping you? Why not make the first move and ask him what you want. At least you guys would have discussed and then you can move on, if need be? You will at least feel better of talking it out with him.

I dont think it will be a good idea to try work it out with him. He has already found another women. Besides i cant communicate with him. He is unapproachable. I will just leave him be. That will be best. Because if i do get him back i wud not know what to do or how to cope with him if he starts acting up again...he hasnt touched me in over a week. Once a man isnt interested in sex with u at all anymore all hope is gone.

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Posted by pixie242
No communication!!!!!! at first we communicated very well now its just he speaks i listen and nod. Or reply yes.. I am starting to see everything you told me about this relationship. atleast he never tried to get me pregnant.

Yes I think that you were really lucky.
At least I am glad that you are at a point that you can see that he was abusive to you.
That's the first step.
I hope you'll make it and leave him. If you need any help you can PM me. I can help you get over it and offer you some support.

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Thanks for all the support....having someone to talk to really helps this process..I havent really thought about missing him since this conversation...I guess that is progress.

The breakup is official now 😢 imma eat ice cream and go sleep

Regret sinking in...

I'm all better now I have food and music saying everything is his fault...thank God for eamon(don't want you back) 🙂 ice cream and cake party!

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Posted by 2N3R

Now in your case, you are a Libra with a Taurus who is treating you like the worthless piece of shit he is. This idiot is one of the jackasses who is a disgrace to our sign. He wants a reaction from you. He wants you to beg. He wants to have power over you. If I knew the fucker, I'd rip his balls and pull them out his sorry ass for bringing shame to our beloved sign. This behavior is not what I expect from any of my brothers. We are supposed to be gentlemen who avoid unnecessary pointless conflict. None of my brothers I've met have ever been like the way you describe this dick. Don't just call a hotline, go visit a center for abused women and talk with these people; I'm sure you will find a lot in common with them when they speak of what happened to them.

but isn't what's said about bulls is that they have a harem surrounding them? and that they always like disappearing, even if it temporary?

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I would LOVE to have a harem, but alas,I'm not a dude and it's quite difficult to find women who don't mind being in a homosexualI relationship. If I were a dude, I'd need at least fifteen wives since I expect to have thirty kids. 😆 But honestly, I only care to be romantically involved with one specific person; until I find her or vice versa, there's women I feel inclined to romance and a mental list of people I just want to fuck. If they're in the latter list, I would establish that before doing anything, though.

*finishes reading this re* I'M SO GLAD THIS HAPPENED!!!!!! *cries tears of joy* What I just said probably seems a dick thing to say, but you will eventually come to the realization that this is the correct way to feel regarding the situation you're clawing yourself out of.

Posted by 2N3R
*finishes reading this re* I'M SO GLAD THIS HAPPENED!!!!!! *cries tears of joy* What I just said probably seems a dick thing to say, but you will eventually come to the realization that this is the correct way to feel regarding the situation you're clawing yourself out of.

Thanks for the support.. Trying to find new ways to deal with this break up but i guess time changes things.

Time certainly changes things because experience comes with time, and that experience gives you knowledge. At any given point, someone random will show up all of a sudden and make you interested again. Hopefully, this person will reveal to you how relationships should work most of the time. Understand that there may be arguments, but there's a certain way of reaching a resolution and if you can't because someone is being impossible and gets to the point that this situation got to, they are not worth it. You don't want to be involved with a Sleeping With the Enemy or Enough type of person(If I can't have her, no one can).

Im praying for the best....I just hope tomorrow is easier.

his cheating or you have done something to piss him off. Ask him I feel like you have been kind of distant lately whats wrong I'm worried about you honey. Say it so sweetly so he does not suspect anything then bingo cookiemonster

Posted by foxygirl
his cheating or you have done something to piss him off. Ask him I feel like you have been kind of distant lately whats wrong I'm worried about you honey. Say it so sweetly so he does not suspect anything then bingo cookiemonster

I know that he is cheating already. At first I was like I could deal with this. Then I got so pissed. Because he is disappointing me for her. So I broke up with him. I am trying my hardest to just let him go. Just to leave him alone. Let him live his life without me.

Big drama unfolded today.