charolina16
@charolina16
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Taurus man doesn't make any moves. Testing me?
*pamper
Not testing. I would say deciding. You probably did or said something that made him question whether or not you two are compatible long-term. Did you do anything that was potentially embarrassing? The girl I'm with now (Sag) told a really raunchy sex joke in front of a co-worker of mine, that we went out to a business lunch with. I thought it wasn't so classy so I kinda wrote her off for a bit. Early dating period for me involves alot of that sort of stuff. I see things that bother me, and I withdraw for a bit. Drives the person I'm dating insane. I can't really be any other way though.
Posted by TaurusLovesScorpio
Not testing. I would say deciding. You probably did or said something that made him question whether or not you two are compatible long-term. Did you do anything that was potentially embarrassing? The girl I'm with now (Sag) told a really raunchy sex joke in front of a co-worker of mine, that we went out to a business lunch with. I thought it wasn't so classy so I kinda wrote her off for a bit. Early dating period for me involves alot of that sort of stuff. I see things that bother me, and I withdraw for a bit. Drives the person I'm dating insane. I can't really be any other way though.
well, we had conversation that day and for some reasons he asked me if there would be my ex ( on one party) so I told him I don't think so, in any case, ex is ex! ( like I don't care if he would be there or not) , so after that he had a reaction like wooow girl you are that easy on forgetting your ex... something like that, but I've noticed that and rushed to explain that if my ex didn't make to the future, than there was a reason for that, so and now why I need to care about the person who messed up once. basically, that's it, I think that's the only thing that could bother him that day...
@charolina16: so he became cold and distant all of a sudden after that incident— For how long?
Posted by aftershine
@charolina16: so he became cold and distant all of a sudden after that incident— For how long?
well he didn't become cold, he just politely canceled on our plans the day after. We were planning to go out the next day, but suddenly he couldn't make it due to a family issues ( this is true) still for me that was kind of awkward , because in my opinion if you like the person you will want to spend as much time together as possible. and he knew that I will need to go out of town for a month. so he basically, didn't even try to make things work before that. explaining it by personal stuff, as well as uncertainty and kind of weird feelings! ( what he meant by last one I have no clue), so yea after that incident we talked this and that but now he started to flirt again, tell me how much he miss me blah blah... but again, he doesn't rush to make any plans... that's why I am so confused and don't understand where we stand or what he wants. from one side he shows me that wants to be with me, from other supposable waits that I ll be the one who do all the moves. we are like in the middle of stages "friends" and "couple" and it doesn't move anyway ... if he wants to be friends then why to flirt and tell me how much he wants be with me, if he wants to date, then how come he doesn't take an advantage
Its always the same ol story. Girl gives up the sex too quick, guy runs away and girl wonders why he ain't interested no more. Well? You served your purpose an he served his while he could, now he movin on.
Posted by tsar322
Its always the same ol story. Girl gives up the sex too quick, guy runs away and girl wonders why he ain't interested no more. Well? You served your purpose an he served his while he could, now he movin on.
I don't think that 6 months is too soon 😉))) ... if he wanted to "run away" he wouldn't even show up after first time sex
charolina - what sign are you? C'mon...how can we make hasty generalizations about your personal life without that info.?
charolina16,
What he invested? Did he treated you to fancy restaurants and give you money etc. etc. if not,
then you're the one invested to him. I knew my ex Gf who only can give him a ride in a bed
pampers him with all the attention and professing the undying love for him after all, It's all
thrashed and nothing more... Don't settle yourself for less lady.
What he invested? Did he treated you to fancy restaurants and give you money etc. etc. if not,
then you're the one invested to him. I knew my ex Gf who only can give him a ride in a bed
pampers him with all the attention and professing the undying love for him after all, It's all
thrashed and nothing more... Don't settle yourself for less lady.
Posted by M143
charolina16,
What he invested? Did he treated you to fancy restaurants and give you money etc. etc. if not,
then you're the one invested to him. I knew my ex Gf who only can give him a ride in a bed
pampers him with all the attention and professing the undying love for him after all, It's all
thrashed and nothing more... Don't settle yourself for less lady.
yea just nice dinners so far and nothing else, he wanted to go us on trip but it never happened due to his weird behavior after one date, anyways , you are right! if he is back , than I should put myself in a position of value and don't get excited that easily. it's just a little bit hard to stay calm once he uses his charming skills )) so if something how should I tell him about all this? that I won't just set up for casual dating
Just be honest and straightforward; communicate with him. Express what your desires are but don't be overly demanding about it. He's not rushing to do or plan anything because we are passive, sometimes lazy, reaaaaaaallllly slow in courtship, and just generally laid back compared to other signs. Sounds like he's treated you well so far and he likes you. You yourself said he is not using you for sex, he's sweet, gives compliments, nice dinners, etc.
If you take Scorpio advice you'll have your pride and dignity but its a lonely life. Be vulnerable and tell him what's bothering you; don't mirror his behavior if you don't like it - address it. Don't play games to increase your "value", or start weighing actions like investments.
If you take Scorpio advice you'll have your pride and dignity but its a lonely life. Be vulnerable and tell him what's bothering you; don't mirror his behavior if you don't like it - address it. Don't play games to increase your "value", or start weighing actions like investments.
Posted by TaurusLovesScorpio
Just be honest and straightforward; communicate with him. Express what your desires are but don't be overly demanding about it. He's not rushing to do or plan anything because we are passive, sometimes lazy, reaaaaaaallllly slow in courtship, and just generally laid back compared to other signs. Sounds like he's treated you well so far and he likes you. You yourself said he is not using you for sex, he's sweet, gives compliments, nice dinners, etc.
If you take Scorpio advice you'll have your pride and dignity but its a lonely life. Be vulnerable and tell him what's bothering you; don't mirror his behavior if you don't like it - address it. Don't play games to increase your "value", or start weighing actions like investments.
ok thanks, I'll tell him next time.. btw I am Libra
Posted by TaurusLovesScorpio
Just be honest and straightforward; communicate with him. Express what your desires are but don't be overly demanding about it. He's not rushing to do or plan anything because we are passive, sometimes lazy, reaaaaaaallllly slow in courtship, and just generally laid back compared to other signs. Sounds like he's treated you well so far and he likes you. You yourself said he is not using you for sex, he's sweet, gives compliments, nice dinners, etc.
If you take Scorpio advice you'll have your pride and dignity but its a lonely life. Be vulnerable and tell him what's bothering you; don't mirror his behavior if you don't like it - address it. Don't play games to increase your "value", or start weighing actions like investments.
also can you explain why he acted this way? I mean , during one of our dates he was super excited, all over me etc. he talked a lot about future plans, treated me very nicely, like I am his wife already lol, but yea the day after he just pulled back... so I was wondering why is that? it's not like I push him to do or say things, but same time why would you change your mind so quickly ?! or it's just the feelings/excitement screwed his brain when he saw me, so he went out of control ( in a good way)
Awww! TLS,
Oh boy. Oh boy. Scorpio are too defensive... It's better to prevent than to cure.
Charolina,
It's all up to you...if you throw yourself. You know the consequences of it.
Therefore, Avoid too much emotional attachment to that guy.
My ex Taurus man had an ex who kept bombarding me thru text and She is a Taurus woman.
back to our conversation at the parking lot..inside his car.
Him: Was it why you kept asking me? ( because he kept lying to me)
Me: Yes.
Him: She wasn't my Ex. not even a GF. She agreed if I can use her for sex when we were apart.
Me: I don't like repeating again.
Him: M, It was love...
Me: No, It wasn't. if it was... then it did not fail.
Him: Breathing deeply... looking my eyes.
Yesterday, I received an email from him and it's threat. So I replied to have peace and
forget everything and let it go. I am a NO turning back approach to him.I had a back & forth text
to that ex he did not acknowledge even as EX.
and this ex can't move on with him.. been a year ago and still wanted to be with him.. lol
after she kept attacking me,sending me demoralizing words and disrespecting me. she sent me this message.
Ex gf : M, you are beautiful.
M: oooh thank u for compliment. I don't know u and not even see your face either. How did you know?
Ex gf: He said sooo.. you are these an that..
Me: ooh..He might even said a lot of thing about me. lol. well, He gave me a lot and pampered
me a lot when we were together...
and thank God she stop harassing me..lol
charolina16
If there i something you want to know: ask, discuss. If you are afraid what will happen, don't be, just think of what you want. If there is something making you uncomfortable bring it in open with him.
When me and my Taurus met, it was attraction and mutual appreciation right from the start. We started playing together in a band and after a month or two of intense friendship/hanging together, we gave into our emotions for each other. After three/four weeks of everything going smoothly, I felt him one day acting a bit cold and distant. It was bugging me so I decided to ask right away what's up! We talked over the phone, he started opening up slowly, starting with: I am not sure if I am ready for relationship - I was a bit shocked, where this is coming from now, so I talked with him about it. From everything that he said about how he feels about me I couldn't put my finger on what is exactly that made him say this all of a sudden, cause his feelings for me are pretty certain. I was open with him, with what I want, I won't go with anything less. So he finally brought up this conversation he had with our drummer how our relationship will screw up the band etc. and how he had that situation before and he doesn't want to repeat it again. So, there was something bugging him that needed to be pulled out. We talked about it and he admitted how he was just scared and acted out of fear, now that we talked he feels like a fool for even bringing it up as a problem between us. (I shorted this story a bit) He said that a big stone fell from his chest after our conversation and that he definitely wants to continue our relationship.
From that point on, everything is going without any kind of problem.
The point is, being open, talking about things even if there is a risk of unwanted scenario is usually the problem solver. Some people, Taurus people especially, have problem bringing up something that are bugging them. They will rather act distant and closed then come out with conversation.
You are Libra, as I am. When I talked with him about it, I did mentioned my feelings cause it is important to be known, but when I talked with him about what is bugging him I was speaking with my rational, objective, logical attitude - putting out pros and cons. In a calm tone, keeping my emotions at low.
If there i something you want to know: ask, discuss. If you are afraid what will happen, don't be, just think of what you want. If there is something making you uncomfortable bring it in open with him.
When me and my Taurus met, it was attraction and mutual appreciation right from the start. We started playing together in a band and after a month or two of intense friendship/hanging together, we gave into our emotions for each other. After three/four weeks of everything going smoothly, I felt him one day acting a bit cold and distant. It was bugging me so I decided to ask right away what's up! We talked over the phone, he started opening up slowly, starting with: I am not sure if I am ready for relationship - I was a bit shocked, where this is coming from now, so I talked with him about it. From everything that he said about how he feels about me I couldn't put my finger on what is exactly that made him say this all of a sudden, cause his feelings for me are pretty certain. I was open with him, with what I want, I won't go with anything less. So he finally brought up this conversation he had with our drummer how our relationship will screw up the band etc. and how he had that situation before and he doesn't want to repeat it again. So, there was something bugging him that needed to be pulled out. We talked about it and he admitted how he was just scared and acted out of fear, now that we talked he feels like a fool for even bringing it up as a problem between us. (I shorted this story a bit) He said that a big stone fell from his chest after our conversation and that he definitely wants to continue our relationship.
From that point on, everything is going without any kind of problem.
The point is, being open, talking about things even if there is a risk of unwanted scenario is usually the problem solver. Some people, Taurus people especially, have problem bringing up something that are bugging them. They will rather act distant and closed then come out with conversation.
You are Libra, as I am. When I talked with him about it, I did mentioned my feelings cause it is important to be known, but when I talked with him about what is bugging him I was speaking with my rational, objective, logical attitude - putting out pros and cons. In a calm tone, keeping my emotions at low.
Posted by TaurusLovesScorpio
Just be honest and straightforward; communicate with him. Express what your desires are but don't be overly demanding about it. He's not rushing to do or plan anything because we are passive, sometimes lazy, reaaaaaaallllly slow in courtship, and just generally laid back compared to other signs.
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Posted by lucyLPosted by TaurusLovesScorpio
Just be honest and straightforward; communicate with him. Express what your desires are but don't be overly demanding about it. He's not rushing to do or plan anything because we are passive, sometimes lazy, reaaaaaaallllly slow in courtship, and just generally laid back compared to other signs.
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yes thanks guys, I'll talk to him.. the only thing that bugs me is that what he said: "I felt so comfortable with you and I think I mistook it for something else" so that's like whatttt— if you already have feelings toward me how can you misunderstand it .. I mean obviously he likes me a lot but I don't want to deal with a guy who would be always not sure or be afraid to start the romance
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