Made a Taurus guy mad

Or frustrated is the better word, if you want to talk about mad Taurus. So I've been talking to this guy long distance for some time, very casual, texting, being very flirty. I knew he liked me, but I didn't know how much or even knew if he wanted to take it to the next level and declare official boyfriend/girlfriendship, if you can even call it that, so basically I just kept my cool and didn't assume anything. I still talked to him and flirted with him as if I still liked him, which of course I did, but there were things going on my life that I knew would get in the way if we ever did move forward, things like my mental health (I'm crazy), things like a previous relationship that was still up in the air. I sort of hid it from him and kept some kind of emotional distance because I knew with the mental health issues, he didn't need that drama in his life, and for a fact, that once I'd dealt with those issues, I could offer the best possible outcome there was to whatever relationship there could be.

Well, fast forward to a few weeks later when we are still talking, he suddenly brings up the fact that he really likes me and would like to make it official. Then wanted to know if I wanted to. I gave him a bunch of excuses like "I got problems. I'm dealing with this and that, yada yada." But the thing was, I was so indecisive and vague about the things I was going through that he took it as me pushing him away, when it really didn't feel like that. He asked me what the issue was, what was getting in the way, and I kept pressing the fact that there was an issue in the way... Jeez well, long story short, I'm pretty sure I offended him and now he won't talk to me. But offend him in what way, I don't know... I know I'm crazy at the same time wanted to wait until I wasn't so crazy to begin things. He agreed to give me time, but I ended up being so adamant about my "issues" and holding back that he's stopped talking. And now I don't know what to do.

The question I have is... why did he get so offended when I was just trying to shield him from potential drama caused by whatever issues I have? Maybe I'm not thinking straight.. But again, I don't want to repeat this to another Taurus in the future and wanted to get to the bottom of this.

Oh yeah, and now he won't talk to me and I feel like a dumbass in the process. This isn't going to go well for my track record.

Well...I suppose it might seem like what you're hiding is bad hence why you're hiding it.

He probably doesn't want to get into any trouble.

RollergirlOrc

Would like to know but who are you?

mfwb55, I don't know if we've met before. so I'm a new person.

@innocentrose: yeah that makes sense, although I really honestly did try telling him something was up and I was hesitant to make things worse. I guess he just got impatient and left. At the same time though, just makes me feel really bad to think that I messed up a good thing and that what if it happens again in the future, what do I do then. Honestly, I'm being the way I currently am, I'm not sure if telling him what exactly is going is a good thing, it's not pretty.. Now that I think about it, I can see why he wouldn't want to put up with that.. geez.

Thanks for the response guys... I'm still so confused though about what to do and what to make of this "ignoring" thing. Obviously I did something to piss someone off, but at the same time, I don't know what I did and therefore don't know how to make it up to them. Obviously I feel sorry, I just don't know what for. Maybe someone can let me in on what to do about wishy washiness and how to not feel like a victim or feel sorry for myself. Obvious he pressed the issue, I backed away or gave excuses, he said I was pushing away (which to me, didn't seem like it, you wouldn't want to jump into a relationship with baggage do you?) I held my stance. Then he walked away, but I still feel like crap. thanks.

Thanks guys... as time passes, I'm finding it really hard not to resent his behavior, but I'm trying. I'm the type that desperately needs some type of closure before moving on annnd this thing isn't getting easier. I'm okay with giving space or maybe I'm not. Either way, I really don't want to resent but it's the thing I find myself doing when he's like this. What do I do? Can a Taurus guy give me some input?

He made himself clear that he wanted something more.

By being indecisive and making up excuses you actually we're pushing him away. Especially since he has no idea what you are talking about, to him it sounds like a dark scary secret.

But I mean it's clear it needs to end. Taurus are straight to the point, he knows what he wants.

^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ def just be % 100 percent real with him. He will respect you the more if you do. They dont like games, or secrets, he might ever help you make you decision and you'll c that he could be the best thing for you. They seem to see things so clear...with you drama! I love my Taurus man!!!

Well, how would you feel if someone did that to you?
You would think they were blowing them off.
So if you wanna maintain something just tell him what's going on.

it's pretty simple.