Taurus Man driving me up the wall!

I'm a virgo, and my taurus man and I have been in a long-distance relationship for about 6 months now. We don't live too far from each other, and he comes to visit often. However, he leaves me feeling unsure about he feels about me. Sometimes I think he's fully committed, and other times it seems like he's still sizing me up. There are several occurances where he's asked me what I think about certain topics that would involve us being together as a couple long term, even making it sound like he was sure it would be that way. Then there are other times when I don't hear from him, and I wonder if he really cared for me then how come he doesn't think to at least send a txt? One thing that really upset me was when he complained about having to spend money on me one weekend I went to see him, and since then I've been paying for myself. Sometimes he'll pay for things insistantly, but then he'll let me pay for the next outing. As of now he seems a bit too comfortable for my taste considering how far we've progressed in the relationship, and I still like to be wooed and admired, yet I don'tfell like I get much of that from him.
I've brought all of this up in conversations past, but he either took it as I was blaiming him or saying he wasn't good enough. Is there anything I can do to help him understand that he doesn't quite have this in the bag? And he needs to step up his game? Or should I just keep giving sarcastic remarks here and there to hint about how I feel?

Thanks Taurus' for your help! Only you can understand each other to this extent. lol 😉

In the mind of Taurus if we are there, nuff said. We have your back, we're there at your side, our presence alone means that you are ours. And we are yours. I think the male of the species is MORE like this however, we Bullettes will say "I love you, I'm mad for you, etc."

Well he hasn't said the words "I love you" yet. The closest he's gotten was "I miss you"..which means the world to me. I think I'd probably get a proposal out of him before I ever heard the words I love you. He just does not express himself that much. 🙂

I don't think many of them do. They are like silent sentries, you feel their presence all around you, all the time, but they rarely give the words you most desire to hear. They will stand strong for you, guard and protect you, hold you in high esteem, love your body well.
But awwwwww HELL do women need the words! LOL 🙂

LOL! So true. I have noticed that he watches me ALL THE TIME when we're together. He even picked up on my little habits when I eat. If he sees me take a break while eating he perks up and says What's wrong? Why aren't you eating? I'm usually the one monitoring everything my partner is doing, not the other way around. It's a bit unnerving. He also has this way of staring at me that makes me uncomfortable. I told him I bet he's good at staring contests, but he didn't understand why. lol
When I'm with him I feel like I can't just completely be myself (unless I've had a few glasses of wine 😉. I wish I could just loosen up and be comfortable, but he has this way of making me analyze everything I do. Especially because I know he's watching.

Do you know why he doesn't call or txt on a regular basis? Sometimes I hear from him four or five times a day, and other times it'll be a few days pass by with a mere good morning txt at most. I don't get it.

LOL We are observers, he's just enjoying the view, trust me.

It is nothing bad I assure you, get so wrapped up in work. You know where he is, he's already given you proof of himself ( he's there after all..remember? ) so he doesn't feel it necessary to keep telling you over and over what you already know. That should be a Taurus male mantra "I'M HERE, AIN'T I?!"

And hopefully a Bull answers your question, I seem to be a card carrying member of the ovary sect and lack the perspective they have. 🙂

You've helped me out tremendously, thank you! I hope a bull responds as well.

Any time, they should come with a decoder ring, honestly. 🙂

yeah where are these infamous bulls you speak of...— lol


howdy.. sweetsuccotash..

Right off the bat, and I've defiantly caught myself in this mind set too, but.. I think its really easy to think that the one you care about should show care/communicate love in the same way you would to them.. So its easy to think, "If I care about them, I would/wouldn't do it like that"..

His not contacting you when you think he should be could be just as simple as that. And he might not see it like you do at all.

The reasons I might not call for a few day could be, maybe I'm stressed about something.. For the most part I sometime feel like I should be the rock, and if I'm feeling down/stressed I become introverted because my problems are mine, and up to me to fix and I dont want to add worry/stress to the person that I care about... So I may go off the grid for a bit while I work on fixing the problem before I come back all cheery lol.. Careful, in this case you could compound the need to get away by becoming demanding or needy in this time, you would become a new stress in a already stressful situation...(you don't run to a fire if you need to cool off)

Another thing is you said your in a LDR, One thing you should know is Taurus is massively a creator of habit.. So as you maybe a very big part of his heart and mind.. since you dont live close, you may not be part of his routine.. When i buckle down for a week of work or what have you. I might get caught up in the every day routine that I lose track of days.. lol bad I know, and Yes- I have also gotten the 'why haven't you call yet this week' talk, and believe me it wasn't because I didn't care..

lol yes, we watch/notice a LOT

No, we dont speak how we feel much.. words are EASY. Showing how you feel with action and thoughtful practicality means sooo much more.. haha

Hope that helps...

😄 YES!

Thank you Taurguy, your response is very helpful. I found out yesterday that he hurt himself at work, and had to go to the hospital. He's okay, but he's in a lot of pain, so I told him I'll drive there this weekend and take care of him. He can't wait to be babied..I already know. Being a virgo, I'm all about it. I know I tend to have high expectations, and I'm working on being better about it but sometimes I just can't help myself.
In my heart I know he has good intentions and means well, but I'm a woman and I like to feel loved & appreciated ALL the time. 😉
I do have another question if you all don't mind? When we first started talking he was SOOO sweet. He said things to me that I've never heard a man say except in fairytales & thos romantic chic flicks. I thought, this has to be too good to be true, but he convinced me that his feelings were authentic. Now I think he's rather comfortable & secure, or maybe he just don't feel that way anymore? It's as if he was so sure of everything in the beginning, but now he's taken a step back to monitor the situation to see how it unfolds. We haven't been together for that long, so I'm a bit dumbfounded.

Well I'm more about communication, whereas he's all about actions. So I've been trying to express my feelings for him through actions, such as planning a trip to see him this weekend. I have to admit it's a bit difficult for me. I'm not saying it's right, but I usually wait for the man to show or express his feelings before I put myself out there to such an extent. But I think Venusianbull is right about his feelings being "Well I'm here aren't I?"
But you're right cutiebull, we do have a hard time expressing it in words, and I don't know why? I'm afraid to be the first one to express my feeling in words because I'm never 100% sure of how he feels about me, yet I get the impression that that's exactly why he doesn't express them either. Yet sometimes he acts so cool as if he's completely oblivious to it all. To top it off he's a macho bull who laughs off the thought of "feelings". But I know he has a big heart, and underneath it all he's really sensitive. He just doesn't like anyone else to see that side of himself. I wish he was comfortable enough with me to let me see it.
Don't get me wrong. He's very affectionate. Holding hands, kissing, touching..always. I love that about him. I just don't think he trusts me completely with his heart yet. If he only knew how trustworthy I am of his heart, I think he'd find that there's noone else who would deserve it as much as I.

And if he knew I was saying all this "gushy" stuff he'd probably think I'm psychodic. LOL! ugh..

What's his moon,mercury and mars,succotash?

Posted by BellatheBull
What's his moon,mercury and mars,succotash?

Moon : Cancer
Mercury: Taurus
Mars: Libra

Mine are

Moon: Scorpio
Mercury:Virgo
Mars: Scorpio

Your mercury's are great together for communication and understanding each other.
His mars is probably the problem.

2-4 Taurus/Cancer
The combination of your Sun sign and your Moon sign is somewhat contradictory and confusing. The Moon placement suggests you are sensitive, easily hurt, and sometimes very resentful. The Sun, conversely, shows that you are not one to be pushed around easily, and at times you can be down right stubborn. Usually you hide your dislikes very well and rely on diplomacy, making it a little unclear to others exactly where you stand or what you are thinking. You have a way of changing your tactics to suit your purposes, and to avoid conflict. In business you are a shrewd tactical planner who can come up with the right strategy, often influenced more by feelings than reason. Yours is a rather sensitive nature, endowed with an emotional side that can easily be aroused. Your foundation and the stabilizing factor in your life is in the home and with the family. Self-assurance, that may seem strong in your nature, is really only skin deep. Your capacity for conciliating different views is noteworthy, but it can seem that you have no real conviction of your own sometimes. This is not usually the case however. There is a tendency for you to hide your light under the lamp shade when you need to be making decisions and taking firm actions. You need not be such a pushover because your ideas are very sound and well constructed. Your ambitions are strong and you never give up on a job. Yet there is a tendency to be a little negative and pessimistic when things don't go the way you think they should.

MOON SCORPIO - CANCER-: Fixed Water meets Cardinal Water.

Assertive feeling meets immovable feeling. Cancer and Scorpio both become deeply attached, intensely bonded to one another. Cancer tends to be gentle, needs a peaceful atmosphere, a warm and sympathetic, nurturing relationship; Scorpio is passionate, has very strong loves, hates, and emotional reactions to people and situations. Both are sensitive and intuitive to the other??s needs and feelings. Both desire a complete committed union with their partner, and can lose all sense of objectivity within their relationship. Cancer is ruled by the Moon; Scorpio is ruled by Pluto. A Moon in Cancer - Moon in Scorpio sign comparison has similar energies to a Moon trine Pluto aspect. Depth and insight through deep devotion and sincere love, an almost psychic bonding can unite the partners, nurturing them and transforming them emotionally and spiritually.

I'm looking for my mars stuff,but Libra mars is romantic (venus),but remember it's air...so a little more detached and more of a friendly type assertiveness,rather than solid and stable like an earth mars.

And I can tell you from personal experience,Cancer moons are sensitive as all hell.

what are your venus?

Thank you for that break down. It makes a lot of sense, and I can't believe how well he fits these discriptions! I'm at the point where I think I just have to make things happen if I want them to happen with this man. He's sooo slow about everything, and I thought I was cautious! I thought I was the patient one!
It just gets frustrating. I feel like I give him enough hints to open up and talk to me, tell me what he's thinking about us..but he just jokes or shys away from it.
Thank you again, that's really helpful. 🙂

His venus is pisces, and mine is Leo (scary- I know...Leo's scare the crap out of me).

actually,you mars and venus are great together both ways so that's nice.
but your love style s in venus are one of your problems (obviously).

Venus square Venus:
What does it mean to your relationship when your natal Venus is square your partner??s Venus? You ideas and aesthetics about romantic love, relationships and domestic life are not opposite but you do approach them in a different manner, so you are likely to feel challenged by your romantic partner??s approach to these things. Relationship bonding and personal growth comes from cooperation rather than each of you asserting your own way. You are not there to win your partner over. You have a lot you can learn about love from each other, that's why you are attracted.

yes,you take the lead if you're up for it.just remember,he cares for you...he just can't help the way he is made,even if it is frustrating. 😉
and it's my pleasure to help however I can.

I'm a little worried about being overbearing this weekend. He's all excited about me "taking care of him" this weekend, but I tend to come off as motherly when someone I care about is injured, and needs my help to do daily chores. I don't want him to feel like I'm running a nazi camp, but I definitely have my opinions, and I'm already upset because he's at work when he should be home resting. I'll try to mellow it out, but do taurus' mind if someone else takes over things for a while in their home? Or do they enjoy it?

He will love to be pampered and babied.I can only speak for myself as far as taking over while in my home...if I'm sick,then I have no problem with you doing what you feel needs to be done....just don't reorganize my system. 😉

Lol rodger that! All I know is after all this pampering I'll do doing he better reciprocate when it's my turn. 😉

btw I didn't see your Venus post until now. I completely agree with it, and I understand what everyone's saying about us being different. Both because of our signs, and sex. I wonder how he feels challanged with how I do things? Maybe I'm too pushy at times, and have too high of expectations. (Sorry- typing out loud here.)
Thanks again!
I wish your taurus' weren't so hard to get to know. I'd love to have more than two taurus people in my life. I have my bf, and my son. (Both of which have the same DOB. The similarities are uncanny.)

not the same year of course...that would be weird. lol

LOL Indeed.

Posted by sweetsuccotash
Lol rodger that! All I know is after all this pampering I'll do doing he better reciprocate when it's my turn. 😉

oh I bet he will.😉

Posted by sweetsuccotash
not the same year of course...that would be weird. lol

LOL

btw,I have to self correct here....
your venuses are not square,they are inconjunct.but really it's the same effect,but to a lesser degree.
I don't know why I read them as square,brain fart I reckon.

Well I spent the weekend with him, and now I'm sad because I already miss him. I hate doing the whole LDR because I want to be with him all the time. Eventhough we're not too far from each other it's still hard not to miss him. I really did try to help him out this weekend, but I don't think I got too much accomplished.

Important bit, you were there. 🙂