Taurus Man= Hitting the Lottery

Only a Taurus man would do this I swear.
I went out of town, asked Taurus to take care of my pet.

When I came back, he had called the landlord to repair my heat, fixed my pipes, fixed a janky toilet seat, bought Windex (the one cleaning item I don't have) cleaned my mirrors, and vacuumed.

Oh, and he got me a smoothie so I wouldn't be hungry off the plane. And then we was so modest about admitting what he had an hadn't done. And was asking if there was anything else he could do for me since I had the sniffles.

WOWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW

Never letting this one go.

OH wait. He took my hat with him on the morning commute, so now he is stopping by my office on his lunch to return it to me cause he doesn't want me to catch cold. CHA CHING!

Hahaha, sounds about right hey 😉

We'll really pick up the chores when they need doing. I am the same, I would even cook/bake and clean up afterwards for my lady, no mess, no fuss and surely no complaints from me. We like to do this for someone else. If however you really want sports, than join us from time to time with stuff like this hahaha 😛

Your a lucky one. Enjoy! 😄

Posted by OmagaIII
Hahaha, sounds about right hey 😉

We'll really pick up the chores when they need doing. I am the same, I would even cook/bake and clean up afterwards for my lady, no mess, no fuss and surely no complaints from me. We like to do this for someone else. If however you really want sports, than join us from time to time with stuff like this hahaha 😛

Your a lucky one. Enjoy! 😄

Yay! Um..you best believe my virgo cusp loves his cleanliness. He's precious.


Robyn- on the contrary- he wants me to ask. He says he likes to be needed and actually we are closer as I lean on him, but I would never take advantage. I see a lot of people do that in his life.

Soultalk: I know you're just telling me to be vigilant, which I appreciate, but I've known this man many years and trust me, he's not the disappearing type. On anyone. Friends family lovers. I've already seen it. He's honest to a fault. If he was done ever, he would just tell me.

Aww, how lovely. My man does that stuff too, arrives bearing a pint of milk if I have been away, makes sure everything is just so 🙂. But do pay attention to what Robyn has said, even if he says to ask him to do things - DON'T, to him it will be like telling. And what soultalk has said, the disappearing doesn't necessarily mean on a physical level.

It seems to me you two are going to be just fine, those Taurus peeps are truly special to have in your life but they do so much for others that it can be easy for them to be taken advantage of unintentionally. Just keep showing your appreciation, specially the way they like it 😉

Definitely. I will keep vigilant and not be demanding 🙂
Kitty Likey!



This brings a new thought- how DO you Taurus peeps like to be thanked?

I see how that original read.
Let me rephrase. I went out of town, my friend that volunteered to take care of my pet bailed last minute (sucky Scorpio) and Taurus stepped up....

^ Well hey. It took all of one day for him to royally piss me off by being inconsistent. How is it that Taurus can go from super selfless to selfish in record time?

Hadn't seen him all week. When I saw him for a few hours and morning he was like I wish we could just stay in bed. I was like me too. He's like lets do that Saturday! I was like yes! My only day off! So I took that to heart.

Then yesterday I'm like come over Friday we can have dinner then rest saturday ( i didn't mean the whole day- just morning..cause we never get to do that we are both so busy)Then all the sudden he startles rattling off about not saturday he's gonna be busy...and I'm like doing what!? He's like, I'm not sure yet, but I know I have to do something for homeless people after what I saw the other day I feel compelled.

So this is challenging my ego in a big way. But it's pissing me off again, because he's enchanted with an idea that has no plan behind it, and again, I feel moved to the back of the line. Plus I hate when people change their marks and don't live up to their words..yet on the other hand it makes me feel like a jerk because he's obviously trying to do something for others- not selfish but canceling on me-selfish. And this is not the first time he's made me feel this way over a cause, a friend, a family member, a trip...etc. I can tell it will never change. He makes me feel like numero uno, then it switches and I feel like I'm at the back of the line, always to some new idea that he's gotten so dreamy about- with no realistic planning behind it.

There are a trillion ways he could have said this different that wouldn't have made me feel this way. He could have invited me to join, asked for my advice in planning/finding shelters...said he will stay with me till a certain time then leave....

I love this guy, and he's great, but he really frustrates me sometimes. And he does stuff that 'puts my fire out' and it just turns me off completely, almost to the point of walking away. It sounds silly, but it offends something deep in me, that is just having to do with my basic character.

I don't like feeling this way. And I don't like the conflict, on my end especially.

He told me I was taking it different than he meant it and he really wanted to see me friday (i.e. when i would cook for him) and I was thinking..um, no, if you don't wanna do what I was looking forward to Saturday (cuddling and rest) then I'm not freaking cooking for your Friday! F THAT! Then he texted me, "How about we spend the whole day Sunday together?" And I just wrote back, "I'm working. Night." Cause I am working Sunday. 6/7 days this week. Basically I'm making other plans. i don't want to be on hold, my time is precious. I don't need to be with him the whole day or every second or at all. I jsut need to feel important and valued. So I'm booking every square inch of my weekend without him. I'm more than happy to dedicate all my time to working on my album and life goals and if he doesn't make me a part of his, I'm sure as hell not making him a part of mine. And guess what this will result in? Me moving ahead of him, and him wondering why.

Stupid typos...sorry for all the hides.

I would not agree with the extremes you are presenting. He was never blazing, and is not cold, however, I do sense the airs of him thinking I will be around, and he can keep my plans on hold. He would be wrong. I do not like to feel caged and tend to shock people with the velocity that I can pull out of a situation and move forward without him. Especially if I feel I'm being taken for granted.
I see this dance, and I don't like it, because it to me- feels like a game. I want to be appreciated, and to appreciate. I do not desire someone that comes after me when I'm pissed, then gives me the attnetion I orginally wanted. That dance is tiring, and I am whole alone.

This sums it up well...http://www.aphroditeastrology.com/2007/09/experiences-with-taurian-male.html<BR>

I turn a side eye to any potentially manipulative behavior.
Furthermore, I know he really loves me, and this is still new, so this behavior I find startling, because it shakes my core and shuts me down. So if he is like this now, it will only get worse, no? Or are Taurus as the books saw, sweeter over time-like fine wine. Regardless, this does not work for me. And it's crap like this that prevented me from dating him a year ago when he pursued me. With him it always seems there's something in the way. But due to improper planning, he usually never follows through with that something, and in a few weeks, it will be a new something. Loyal, kind, and generous he is. Honest. Yes. However, I cannot put up with this. I don't like to be made to feel this way.

Also, he has done a few things I find immoral and shocking. Like cheating on tests etc..and this comes from someone that is very very harsh in his judgement of others morality. He doesn't seem to have the same grade of standards from himself. It's very confusing. He lives his life like the pope. Sincerely, very religious, very honest, and then all the sudden cheats on a major test and acts like that's nothing. These inconsistencies really make me step back and watch him from a distance. I worked too hard to get to where I am emotionally to allow someone close that rattles me or puts my fire out.

Posted by anonymousheart
Definitely. I will keep vigilant and not be demanding 🙂
Kitty Likey!



This brings a new thought- how DO you Taurus peeps like to be thanked?

Girl, With all of their 5 senses 🙂

"Element
Earth: Taurus earth is like a swamp filled with ancient trees covered in moss. Maneuvering through this bog feels like a dream in which you try to walk but get nowhere."


Hahaha. Yup.

Posted by anonymousheart
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Then yesterday I'm like come over Friday we can have dinner then rest saturday ( i didn't mean the whole day- just morning..cause we never get to do that we are both so busy)Then all the sudden he startles rattling off about not saturday he's gonna be busy...and I'm like doing what!? He's like, I'm not sure yet, but I know I have to do something for homeless people after what I saw the other day I feel compelled.

Sigh, yes they can do this, it comes back to them always wanting to do things for people, it doesn't mean you not his top. You just have to explain to him the conversation you had, don't fight back with texts saying '"i'm busy" when he suggests an alternative, tell him when he does something like this that you had thought there were previous plans in place and that you're hurt that he "forgot" so easily, that should restart his protective mode with you - (he probably didn't think that the plans were actually plans, he is a man after all 🙂). I think I was very lucky before meeting my Taurus as my sister, godchild and three best friends are all Taurus so I had a good insight into their ways - especially one of my friends who is so busy looking after everybody that she can forget things and people get upset with her. Don't see it as selfish, it's their way and you either get used to it, learn to work with him on it or don't and go your separate ways.

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Posted by anonymousheart
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Then yesterday I'm like come over Friday we can have dinner then rest saturday ( i didn't mean the whole day- just morning..cause we never get to do that we are both so busy)Then all the sudden he startles rattling off about not saturday he's gonna be busy...and I'm like doing what!? He's like, I'm not sure yet, but I know I have to do something for homeless people after what I saw the other day I feel compelled.

Sigh, yes they can do this, it comes back to them always wanting to do things for people, it doesn't mean you not his top. You just have to explain to him the conversation you had, don't fight back with texts saying '"i'm busy" when he suggests an alternative, tell him when he does something like this that you had thought there were previous plans in place and that you're hurt that he "forgot" so easily, that should restart his protective mode with you - (he probably didn't think that the plans were actually plans, he is a man after all 🙂). I think I was very lucky before meeting my Taurus as my sister, godchild and three best friends are all Taurus so I had a good insight into their ways - especially one of my friends who is so busy looking after everybody that she can forget things and people get upset with her. Don't see it as selfish, it's their way and you either get used to it, learn to work with him on it or don't and go your separate ways.

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It truly assaults my ego. I find it very challenging. Mostly it just makes me feel bad bc I feel a) overlooked/annoyed or b) like a selfish jerk. Neither of which are a good way to feel. I can see that this is him and it will never change. I wish I could morph a taurus and libra into one so I could have the person that wants to lie around and cuddle, then put work in. Can't have it all, eh.

I find him a bit naive. I live in the only state where the homeless people are so mean, and or selfish, that they will actually be picky about what you give them, or throw the food away that you give them. Often times, the people here are not in fact truly in need...But I digress. He finds the system to be flawed, which it is, and wants to be a part of the change..which is noble. HOWEVER, I would like to get out of here, so yet again, I see potential conflict as he seems to want to put roots into a broken system. I'm hoping this dream fades with the blink of his eyes as many others do because the last thing I want to do is be in this state for another few years.

I'm still so fucking pissed off I'm burning myself.

Posted by anonymousheart
I'm still so fucking pissed off I'm burning myself.

Aye, this is not good. You have to understand the Taurs - if he is feeling sooo secure with you that he has done what you have perceived he has done then its a compliment - to you, he is secure and stable. If you don't let him know how his actions have affected you and he doesn't have the chance for either rectification or come back then you are on a losing road, communicate! Properly!

You're jealous and believe he's selfish because he has a big heart and wants to do good for those less fortunate?

Take your head out of your ass!

You're the selfish one, hands down!

Move out of the effing state if you hate it so much. Go be happy. He's not for you if you can't respect or support him for his values, morals and integrity. No, correction, you're not for him!

I feel I communicated aptly in similar situations and last night when I was very transparent in expressing my frustrations. So if this is the way he is, what is even the point? I'm so mad right now I feel afraid to speak bc I would bite his head off..not to mention, if it's a null point, spreading negativity his way is ultimately fruitless. Besides, I'm busy. I have 1000 other things to take care of, and I'm frustrated this baby BULLsxit is even on my mind/heart.

Maybe he needs to be lost, or let go. Honestly, I'm exhausted. I don't even know if I want to work through it. It made me that upset- surprising even me. I don't like someone that has such an immediate press to my hot button and can take me from a 1 to a 10 in a matter of seconds.

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Posted by anonymousheart
I'm still so fucking pissed off I'm burning myself.

Aye, this is not good. You have to understand the Taurs - if he is feeling sooo secure with you that he has done what you have perceived he has done then its a compliment - to you, he is secure and stable. If you don't let him know how his actions have affected you and he doesn't have the chance for either rectification or come back then you are on a losing road, communicate! Properly!

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I agree, it's not good.

it doesn't sound like he is inconsistent...just consistently altruistic. I don't think you are right for him at all. If you get this angry that he is putting others who are in need over spending time with you sometimes, you've definitely got the wrong kind of guy... try a libra man. lol

@soultalk, from what I've read she "told" him to come over for dinner on Fri and then they could relax Sat. He said he was busy Sat, wasn't sure what he was doing but felt compelled to help the homeless. He didn't change plans, he told her upfront as I read it. She in turns decides if he's not going to be with her Sat then she doesn't want to cook dinner for him Fri. And social service plans are not necessarily set in stone, it can revolve around the agency you're volunteering for and their goals for the day.

Not only is she jealous and selfish, she resents him for what it is he is actually doing.
Never did you hear her say "That sounds great, can I join you?" and he turn her down! Why? Because doing such an 'activity' would be beneath her - she's already suggested they're undeserving.

Wtf lidol? What are you reading? He was the one that suggested resting in the bed Saturday.

Id be pissed too in all honesty, especially if its your only day off AND if it was his suggestion. He could find a way to please everyone if he wanted...not extend himself on one end while royally pissing off the one he cares about the most. Hopefully he comes thru and makes it up to you.

My Taurus is also inconsistent in a way that he makes me feel great then turns around and makes me want to throw in the towel all in the same day. I had to tell him today "Uhhhhhhh we are not going to be doing THIS much longer." He was like "I know" so Im thinking he's feeling my frustration with him. The behavior really does kill the feelings little by little.

Good luck, and you have every right to feel the way you do.

Posted by soultalk
I get anonymoushearts point, she is mad because he changed plans in a matter of a day. When you look forward to something and someone snatches it away it's like they have no respect for you or maybe take you for granted because too cosy in the relationship. Plus he is vague about his social service plans. And like op said he could have communicated differently, included her in the plan, shown understanding and acknowledged that he was changing plans with her for something else. It's like telling a kid we'll go to the candy store where they get all happy and then just saying no without reason.

Nailed it. And yes, I'm very much like a kid with candy ballooning up with naive hope.
It went like this:
WED MORNING-
Him: Can u stay in from work, i missed you so much (was out of town) I just wanna cuddle with you.
Me: Nope. I wish we could have time to cuddle and relax, we never do.
Him: What about saturday?
Me: YES! (was going to make my own plans to volunteer with my church, but didn't bc i thought i would spend this time with him)

WED NIGHT:
Me: So why don't u come over friday nite for dinner and cuddles
Him: yea, ok, but i can't hng out saturday.
Me: What?! Well, wasn;t that the whole point
Him: Just not the whole day. I can't spend the whole dayyyy with u
Me: Confused. I didn't ask you to spend the whole day..I just thought..
Him: I have some things i need to do
Me: Like what>
Him: Well im not really sure yet, i just have to do them
Me: You cancelled your plans with me that were your idea, that really pisses me off!
Him: I just have to do this, I can be with u friday nite ok>? (aka cook dinner for me- selfish)
Me: Never mind, I have to go..

Soultalk understands the details. It's a matter of principle, and just the way it made me feel, I've felt before, corresponding with other last minute, not altruistic things....


I admire his need to help , but in circumstances like this I question if it's more for the people he's helping , or his ego. He desperately needs to be needed and tends to project that others need him onto them and then complain about being exasperated by things he volunteers for. I used to feel sorry for him, but then after I saw this over and over again I realized he must like it, or he wouldn't be attaching himself to needy people.

We met actually at a volunteering event. I help out a lot locally and I th

is was what initially bonded us.

definitely sense alot of selfishness here. and u seem like u r judging him really harshly in aspects of his character and even intellect, bc your emotions are out of wack. the situation seems really simple - tell him to never make plans and get your hopes up, then ditch, for any reason. It really is something u cant handle. I think you're afraid to say a lot of the things you're venting here, bc he will see a very ugly spiritually toxic side to you. You're repressing a lot of misplaced anger and letting it fester. Your bull seems like a REALLY good guy. Sorry if any of that offends - just my take. What sign are u?

soul talk - u r just projecting, based on some past hurt, little crab...

Posted by anonymousheart


WED MORNING-
Him: Can u stay in from work, i missed you so much (was out of town) I just wanna cuddle with you.
Me: Nope. I wish we could have time to cuddle and relax, we never do.
Him: What about saturday?
Me: YES! (was going to make my own plans to volunteer with my church, but didn't bc i thought i would spend this time with him)

WED NIGHT:
Me: So why don't u come over friday nite for dinner and cuddles
Him: yea, ok, but i can't hng out saturday.
Me: What?! Well, wasn;t that the whole point
Him: Just not the whole day. I can't spend the whole dayyyy with u
Me: Confused. I didn't ask you to spend the whole day..I just thought..
Him: I have some things i need to do
Me: Like what>
Him: Well im not really sure yet, i just have to do them
Me: You cancelled your plans with me that were your idea, that really pisses me off!
Him: I just have to do this, I can be with u friday nite ok>? (aka cook dinner for me- selfish)
Me: Never mind, I have to go..

Soultalk understands the details. It's a matter of principle, and just the way it made me feel, I've felt before, corresponding with other last minute, not altruistic things....


I admire his need to help , but in circumstances like this I question if it's more for the people he's helping , or his ego. He desperately needs to be needed and tends to project that others need him onto them and then complain about being exasperated by things he volunteers for. I used to feel sorry for him, but then after I saw this over and over again I realized he must like it, or he wouldn't be attaching himself to needy people.

We met actually at a volunteering event. I help out a lot locally and I th

He never in the beginning said he was giving his whole day to you (Sat).

How did you even get that out of the convo?

Ummm... yeah, SELFISH!

Needy much?

You'd kill me! Shit, I'd be running for the hills.

Gotta give that Bull some credit for sticking around - or, rather, not sticking it to you!!

@TLS She's Leo, was that not obvious?
She's screaming ME, ME, ME, ME! LOL
*shrugs*

OK....rereading (as opposed to the quick skim I did at first), I understand her feelings. I think the anger/judgment of his motives for charity (and the worthiness of the recipients!) is way overboard and still toxic, and I still think the easy solution is better communication specifically around sticking to set plans. It really isn't about the bull's moodiness (that's more Cancerian projection IMO). Its more like flakiness.

Taurus/Leo - oof....good luck.

There is some truth to what everyone is saying here...even crazypants 😉

I never asked to spend the whole day with him, which is interesting because he was having the same assumption. I have plans for the afternoon, and I'm not the type to stay in bed all days anyways...so I'm pretty confused as to why he would assume that. I'm usually telling him I have to go and have plans...

Soultalk: Yes. But after speaking with him yesterday, I see there are much deeper issues. Maybe I'm trying to fit a square peg in a round hole. He's young, and doesn't seem to know what he wants, and I'm just not in that stage anymore. So it almost cancels out this issue. I think he gave me the impression he was super reliable, and wanted something very serious, when in fact, he loves me, but just isn't sure what he wants out of life, thus he isn't sure what he wants future wise, and for me, that's a big problem. Huge. I think I need to look beyond my feelings very realistically at who I am dating, and see if we want the same things. After last nights conversation, despite his efforts to convince me, I don't believe that we do.

TLS: Overboard and Toxic- maybe? I was trying to step outside myself and see- Am I overreacting? And in this case, it may seem yes, but in the big picture I think it's reflective of concerns that perhaps we are not compatible, because he's made me feel this way before, and the feeling IS TOXIC.

Posted by TaurusLovesScorpio
definitely sense alot of selfishness here. and u seem like u r judging him really harshly in aspects of his character and even intellect, bc your emotions are out of wack. the situation seems really simple - tell him to never make plans and get your hopes up, then ditch, for any reason. It really is something u cant handle. I think you're afraid to say a lot of the things you're venting here, bc he will see a very ugly spiritually toxic side to you. You're repressing a lot of misplaced anger and letting it fester. Your bull seems like a REALLY good guy. Sorry if any of that offends - just my take. What sign are u?

soul talk - u r just projecting, based on some past hurt, little crab...

Ahhh, I just saw this comment. Need to respond directly.
I agree with you. And I'm not oblivious to my own fault. I happy observe it so I can improve it. I do think there is selfishness here...but I think it's on both ends. I am judging him harshly because I'm pissed off...so it causes me to look at every detail and every time he's ever pissed me off magnified.

And yes, IT IS something I can't handle. I've always been like that. Everyone has their standards. This is mine. One of my personal principles. And yes, I was trying to vent HERE to avoid flying off the handle at him because a) I care about him as a friend, and I don't want him to feel bad/drained
b) I love him c) selfishly- I don't want him to think negatively of me, and for it to effect the relationship. Sometimes if I give it a few days I will calm down, but in this case, I was only getting madder.

What your saying doesn't offend, because I can tell you're just trying to be honest, and I appreciate that very much.

I made a hard choice and called him last night and let him see how I felt. He said it drained him, and it drained me too..but I really just did the best I could with the situation. I truly tried my best. But some part of me just doesn't feel secure with him. After asking certain questions, it just seems like he doesn't have a plan for his life at all and is just floundering around, and that's the core issue that any of our disagreements are hinged on- I don't feel secure because he doesn't seem sure of anything and I think that's very reflective of how a man will generally be with a woman.

Also, I really hate the state I live in and I want out. He gave me the impressio

Posted by lnana04
Wtf lidol? What are you reading? He was the one that suggested resting in the bed Saturday.

Id be pissed too in all honesty, especially if its your only day off AND if it was his suggestion. He could find a way to please everyone if he wanted...not extend himself on one end while royally pissing off the one he cares about the most. Hopefully he comes thru and makes it up to you.

My Taurus is also inconsistent in a way that he makes me feel great then turns around and makes me want to throw in the towel all in the same day. I had to tell him today "Uhhhhhhh we are not going to be doing THIS much longer." He was like "I know" so Im thinking he's feeling my frustration with him. The behavior really does kill the feelings little by little.

Good luck, and you have every right to feel the way you do.

Thanks Inana. Don't pay her any mind. It's just projecting...which is why it has little to do with facts presented. Just a ploy for attention.

Back to the issue, as time is passing, I can see the error on my part. There was a lot of projecting and pride in my reaction. And his method of explanation came across as arrogant as well. I guess we both have a lot of work to do. Just gonna give it space for now.

"He could find a way to please everyone if he wanted...not extend himself on one end while royally pissing off the one he cares about the most."
I think so too. And if he doesn't have time for once a week, I guess he probably shouldn't be in a relationship? But we're not there yet. He usually makes a strong effort to see me. I don't find him to be balanced. He's either doing too much or too little. He also has a big habit of losing track of time, but I accept this- still annoys me! " he makes me feel great then turns around and makes me want to throw in the towel all in the same day" ok, glad I'm not the only one feeling this way lol.

Makes me feel a bit bipolar. I prefer to feel consistent. Balance. From what I've read Taurus men are frustrating in this way. But it's like if you can stand it, you're rewarded or whatever. I just look at it as : Are you right for me? Are we working together? Is this healthy? Is this productive- as a whole?

I think I came at him so aggressively this time it backfired. usually he admits fault and apologizes. This time he was quiet. Sad. We left it on a nice to, but it had a bad aftertaste. I got a "Have a go

"Have a goodnite!!!!" after..text. But it seemed, insincere.
More like, "Don't leave me like my ex did for the same reasons I'm trying to make this better with lots of exclamation marks!!!"


Today he's pretty silent. Responded to a text, but very brief. I think he's feeling heavy like I am.
And I feel the distance.
I'm just gonna leave him alone, shift my focus, pray. Try to zen out. And yea, idk what will happen.

Time to move forward tho. I'm tired of being sad/confused/pissed.
I love the guy. Genuinely. And I would like to work on myself, but I have a lot of self work to do. Maybe I will try to view him as more of a friend.

anonymousheart,

I think you don't love the guy. You seems pushy more than he can deliver.

keep it cool and avoid drama at all cost.

You praised him and hey it's just a Saturday thing then poof... you retaliate? lol.

My Taurus man during those dating time, he had some issues like that. But I never come up

complaining and trying to insist what I want. After all He is a Taurus. Taurus wanted to be respected

and lead the relationship. Apply what you are reading in this forum.

And why just act as if it didn't bother you.. I do that to my Taurus man until he wanted me to be

with him. Lol. I guess if you do the same thing what I did.. but of course you might not a Scorpio.

lol. Things will run smoothly and fast...moving in might no problem if that is what you want.

I understood your feelings annonymous heart and thank you for sharing with us so openly.
None of us is ever perfect and so I don't judge you for beign annoyed abt him wanting to do the charity thing. I didn't get that you were selfish either.
I face the same situation. In my case, it is worse as I should not be in this relationship with him but I am and I love him ever so much. My own Taurean guy. He loves me too but probably not as much as I do him.
He is way older than I am and he makes me feel great at times and other times, I feel neglected, way back in line and so not important.
I hate the times when I made the effort two weeks in advance to apply for leave to be with him only to have him not text back to agree or disagree and on the day itself say he is not able to be with me. All he needed to do was tell me upfront that he wont be with me. or can't.

And another time, he agreed to be with me on a day off same day which usually hardly happens... and I was so excited. Only to have him text back that it was tooo risky being with me and he had other plans. ARGHHHH!!!!

Why is it risky being with me? We can not be seen out together due to some personal reasons. Plus he is rather well known and seem to meet people who knows him.

And he suggested taking me out driving and spending time together.. that was like almost one and a half year ago. Every time I thought he didn't mean the offer, he would bring it up and suggest it again. Well, I am still waiting.
It is going to be Summer again where we are and I will wait...

Sometimes, I do not get why it is so hard for him to find time to be with me... he wants to be with me but seem to hold himself back. And some times, I say what is so wrong with us just being together? Out on the beach holding hands or doing our creative pursuits together as friends?
Sure we love each other but if we are not doing anything hanky panky, what is wrong?

It drives me wild sometimes, I tell ya.

Sorry for my grammar mistakes and typos and spelling mistakes.

He tested me back on the day we were supposed to meet, to say he wont make it. That was the 5th time he had not met me after all my planning. He teases me for always planning but then I said I love him so much I really want to be with him. In fact, I have given up hopes of growing in my company where we both work because I never want him to think I love him because he is my boss. It was never about that.

We have been friends for a year before we started getting to know each other and I fell in love with him. He shares his deepest secrets with me and I will never betray him. However it hurts that he wont let me into his inner circle of friends or take me out to meet some of them. He does not need to say we are dating if it makes him feel bad.
He is such a private person. He has only brought me to one of his homes ONCE. For a man with so many homes there seem no place for us to meet in private even in one of them.
Perhaps he will wait for a couple more years before he will fully understand how much I love him and that I will want to be with him even if we live in a hut together.

I get it that his neighbours likes to drop in unexpectedly esp if they notice a visitor in his house. So what? He thinks he is that much older but to be honest, 14 years is nothing to me. We are soul mates and if it means we just hold hands, cuddle and be together? I would be happy.

tested = texted. Again, sorry. I am sick and it is 4: 42 AM. HA! HA! HA!

if he only knows how hard it is for an Arian to wait for so long... *sighs*
There are so many men wanting me but in my heart, I only love him.
He may die alone as he seems to think he entered the world alone he will go alone.
He loves his dog and can easily tell me how much he does.
With me he has only mentioned the word Love a few times and usually he will say... in his own way, he loves me. Being expressive, I have told him I love him many times over. and I mean it.
In our relationship, I am the one buying him gifts as it is part of the way I show my love apart form words, cuddles, back rubs, appreciation, admiration...
He says he has never trusted a person so much as he trusts me... I know that is high praise coming from this Taurean who have been betrayed by friends before...
I just wish he would love me more.
I tell him many things even how insecure I feel. He seldom reply to all my texts or emails. But he says he does read them and there are sweet moments when he will make the effort to let me know he cares and understands.
But he is also open to me moving on from him as he feels he is too old, ugly ...
I have told him many times that in my eyes, he is beautiful, handsome, my sunshine and perfect for me.

Why am I so besotted with him? Knowing his past tough life make sme care and love him more...

Posted by M143

anonymousheart,

lol. Things will run smoothly and fast...moving in might no problem if that is what you want.

LOL! Thanks for your honesty M. I figured a lot out this weekend, that's for sure. I was doing a lot of projecting, and reacting..and my reaction, wasn't productive. It was silly, my point was pretty good, but my actions, not so much. I see the way I'd like to improve. I conveyed this to him and we had a pretty honest convo about everything, and agreed on a lot of points. I think he was very pleased that I was able to figure these things out and become calm and logical again. That being said, I also figured some things out about him. I knew he had some odd issues, but couldn't quite figure it out. I think he has commitment issues. Doesn't want to be boxed in, which is why he does random weird stuff. He tried to meet up with me last nite, but I was already home and honestly needed to sleep. He texted first thing in the morning, being cute/flirty again. Then he was like, are you heading through the city? Trying to meet up...but when I got back to him, much later, he "wasn't sure if he could hang out" LOL.....I kept calm, called him, we shared stories of our day. He was like, "You sound different. Really cool, and huggable." Haha, I guess he was reading my energy, he's pretty good at that. FUNNY THING IS, he did NOTHING for the homeless today. He ended up doing a random skate event - which he couldn't even explain bc he didn't even know what it was (typical) ...so this is an example of what I was saying before- he chases the shiny ball, and that's a bit immature. can't stick to a logical plan- that's a bit immature. He told me he'd call me back after the race, I said don't worry u sound busy and I will be out. Have a great day! He said the same. I'm shifting my focus to OTHER things. I have a lot of life stuff to take care of, him too. At this point, he's a bit young for me, and I still have some lessons to learn. I think he really does love me tho..and this is just where is @ in development/ a bit selfish. I'm gonna start viewing him as more of a friend. he texted last night, "I just want you to know you are special and I will always have nothing but love for you!!" Which, kind of sounded like a goodbye to me, yet he tried to see me/ half assed today. WHo knows, but I have bigger fish to fry right now. And I genuinely do wish him well!

Ariangurl- is he married? Or seeing someone else? That behavior is HIGHLY suspicious. I wouldn't put up with that. My Taurus is private, but thats a whole nother level. He's not perfect for you if he's not treating u right...