Taurus Men and Breakups

Hi guys. I'm new to this site, hoping you can help me out with a taurus problem. So my Taurus ex and I broke up over 6 months ago. In the last week of our relationship he seemed to have grown cold and more irritable and we started getting into fights over literally nothing. Then he said he had had enough and we broke up. I couldn't believe it. The breakup was so abrupt it kinda shocked me. Because everything had been fine before this one week. I thought maybe he'd realize he was speaking out of anger and he'd come back. He never did. So I tried to reach out to him, I asked him to meet up so we could at least talk about what happened. He said he was too "busy". And I had no further contact from him up until now.

Last month I met up with a mutual friend of ours and told her I was still pretty angry at him because I hadn't even gotten an explanation for the breakup. I guess she told him what I had said because I received an email from him last week, explaining how he had fallen back into a deep depression (which he had a history of before he met me). He still kept all the letters and mementos that I gave to him and he said he only now had the courage to start reading them again and how it brought him comfort, although he knows they're just memories now. He said he didn't even remember how or why we broke up.
But he said things happened and you can't go backwards you can only move forward.

So that said, does he still harbor feelings for me?

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Posted by ladolcevita

But he said things happened and you can't go backwards you can only move forward.

this is the only thing that matters. focusing on if he has feelings or not is only emotional masochism on your end. he was clear with what he wanted.

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You're right. I should probably just move on. I guess it just bothers me that a perfectly good relationship could end so quickly over nothing.

Posted by ladolcevita


. I guess she told him what I had said because I received an email from him last week, explaining how he had fallen back into a deep depression (which he had a history of before he met me).

Is it clinical depression?

If so, then the answer to your question isn't astrological.

Posted by TaurusBull1977

Posted by ladolcevita


. I guess she told him what I had said because I received an email from him last week, explaining how he had fallen back into a deep depression (which he had a history of before he met me).

Is it clinical depression?

If so, then the answer to your question isn't astrological.

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He's never actually gone to a doctor and gotten diagnosed but I really think it is. It's pretty severe.

Posted by ladolcevita

He said he didn't even remember how or why we broke up.
But he said things happened and you can't go backwards you can only move forward.

Has he been treated for clinical depression after the two of you broke up? (you mentioned that he never sought treatment in the past).

The statement [quote] above sounds like an individual who is currently seeking treatment, dealing with his problems, and not regressing as an attempt not to feel depressed all over again. Like someone who is going through a 12 step process on dealing with clinical depression.

But...

This is where the ambiguity lies.

He doesn't want to regress, but yet he's entertaining old letters, mementos, asserting that it's giving him comfort.

I'm curious, have you reached out to him any other time after the recent phone call?

It appears quite gray and cloudy right now.

Posted by TaurusBull1977

Posted by ladolcevita

He said he didn't even remember how or why we broke up.

Has he been treated for clinical depression after the two of you broke up? (you mentioned that he never sought treatment in the past).
But he said things happened and you can't go backwards you can only move forward.

The statement [quote] above sounds like an individual who is currently seeking treatment, dealing with his problems, and not regressing as an attempt not to feel depressed all over again. Like someone who is going through a 12 step process on dealing with clinical depression.

But...

This is where the ambiguity lies.

He doesn't want to regress, but yet he's entertaining old letters, mementos, asserting that it's giving him comfort.

I'm curious, have you reached out to him any other time after the recent phone call?

It appears quite gray and cloudy right now.

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No I don't believe he has. Although of course I have no way of knowing for sure since he basically cut off all contact with me after the breakup.

Honestly I didn't even realize he had clinical depression until after this email. I knew of his depression, but because I had never been there when he was going through an episode I always thought he just had regular depression, like the ones that come and go through everybody's life at one point or another.

Now it makes sense that he has clinical depression because it really lines up with how he acted in that last week of our relationship.

I had reached out to him on 2 occasions but that was directly after the breakup and about a month after the breakup. Never after that.

I'm not sure if I should reach out again. On one hand, I still care for him and worry. But he doesn't seem like he really wants to open up to me.

I've had an experience with a Taurus man February last year... Within months of knowing him I felt that what he said goes. No buts.

I couldn't communicate with him and that led to lots if arguments. He then became distant and said he was such a coward and that he became depressed or the things he did and reasons he gave to me seemed like an excuse.

6 months after the breakup I found out he's engaged. He sure did move fast.

All I can say with my experience with my Taurus ex, I'm glad someone decided to accept my leftovers.

I don't think I could ever be with a Taurus man again, especially if I can't sit down with him and tell him how I feel and just talk. He always says I am trying to win the argument.

I understand u may not agree with someone, but u can still see where they are coming from.

I met a capricorn man- same star sign as me, and I love him to bits. We feel complete together and I could not see myself going back to a Taurus.

My dad is a Taurus and saw how unhappy I was with him. I know Taurus are headstrong, but my ex was just torture and I'm happy to be rid of him

I honestly felt the same way with my ex! We had major communication issues. He would just get angry and say spiteful things to hurt me instead of just calming down and telling me what was the problem. It was really difficult to talk to him. I'm guessing this might be a typical taurus trait?

Posted by Eva
I've had an experience with a Taurus man February last year... Within months of knowing him I felt that what he said goes. No buts.
I couldn't communicate with him and that led to lots if arguments. He then became distant and said he was such a coward and that he became depressed or the things he did and reasons he gave to me seemed like an excuse.
6 months after the breakup I found out he's engaged. He sure did move fast.
All I can say with my experience with my Taurus ex, I'm glad someone decided to accept my leftovers.
I don't think I could ever be with a Taurus man again, especially if I can't sit down with him and tell him how I feel and just talk. He always says I am trying to win the argument.
I understand u may not agree with someone, but u can still see where they are coming from.
I met a capricorn man- same star sign as me, and I love him to bits. We feel complete together and I could not see myself going back to a Taurus.

My dad is a Taurus and saw how unhappy I was with him. I know Taurus are headstrong, but my ex was just torture and I'm happy to be rid of him

@Eva — I agree??_ just recently had similar experience with a Taurus man. Dated for about 3 months, was very sweet, caring, affectionate. But I now saw this was him just putting his best foot forward. I think Taurus??s (the men mostly) are fixed and can't pull off an act for very long. I seems like once this man felt comfortable with me he let it all hang out. And it was shocking to be honest. All the characteristics that are meant to be typical came to light.

Stubborn, promiscuous/lusty (and unfortunately a bit of a perv), has a stable of women they seem to collect (and if you refuse to be a member like I did oh boy they take offence!), reckless especially when alcohol is involved, listens to stupid friends terrible advice, spiteful in a subtle sneaky way.

And the worst, for me at least, that really disappointed me about this bull was the arrogance. So ugly. He had a loving caring woman in his life but he just couldn't appreciate it and took it for granted. He knew he was wrong and knows a lot of people in our social group of mutual friends and acquaintances know he is wrong but so arrogant that he will not own up to this. It's been 5 months since the break and I been told he is sleeping around just acting like an arrogant idiot. such a shame