Taurus men and FWB

Ok, so I originally posted under a different topic BUT I just had the most amazing and insightful conversation with my Taurus guy!

He broke it down and explained it perfectly for me. Seeing as how many threads and questions about Taurus men and FWB's I figured I would post it! Maybe it will help somebody else.

See, I take a book out when I want to read it. Sometimes I like fiction, sometimes I like nonfiction. Doesn't mean I don't like all the books I read any less or more than the other it Just means when I'm in the mood to read I'll go to the library and pick out a book. I'm not used to seeing the person everyday where I work. So, that's something new to adjust to. But I don't mind and I think so far our attitude at work toward the situation is awesome. provided you are on the same page. Everything is business as usual, unless of course you or I are in the mood to "eh-hem" read, but once the mood passes we go back to business as usual and all is ok.

It's 100% perfect! I'm so happy!!! 🙂

A cancer would never be so direct

Posted by tiziani
Sounds like a gateway into mild sociopath behaviour.

I could see why you would think that but I found it honest, direct, forthcoming and exactly what I want. What works for some may not work for others.

Posted by Cancergirlnlove


See, I take a book out when I want to read it. Sometimes I like fiction, sometimes I like nonfiction. Doesn't mean I don't like all the books I read any less or more than the other it Just means when I'm in the mood to read I'll go to the library and pick out a book. I'm not used to seeing the person everyday where I work. So, that's something new to adjust to. But I don't mind and I think so far our attitude at work toward the situation is awesome. provided you are on the same page. Everything is business as usual, unless of course you or I are in the mood to "eh-hem" read, but once the mood passes we go back to business as usual and all is ok.

Translation:

Don't read too much into this FWB.
Too much invested.
Work, Family, Reputation.

Cancerinlove...
I advise that you stop over-analyzing. It's a FWB. Not a relationship.

Ok, well, clearly there are some strong opinions.

My marriage is an open one. Nobody is in the dark about what goes on. He said his is the same. If his is not then that is on him for lying-- not me. I was honest. It's not my concern.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to have sex with somebody spicific. I have vetted him out for diseases, sexual preferences, dental hygiene-- when I make a decision to be sexual with a person I want to be just that. I like things a little outside the box. It's not so easy to find somebody who has the same sexual preferences. With their mouth people say a lot but when it comes down to brass tax-- that is a different story.

And yes, it may seem like my/his behavior has some sociopath tendencies. I could see why you think that. And, Lucky for me I have a cancer sun, Pisces moon and mostly cancer or Pisces in my entire chart. Keeps me grounded emotionally.

I've never really had a set FWB thing as an adult. It was good to have him lay it out so plain. I thought I did it in the beginning but obviously I hadn't.

You all seem like sweet, honest people. Good morals. It's nice actually. Refreshing. It's nice to see that when I finally am ready to get back out there for real-- it will be good.

But for now-- I'm doing what I want. Let him deal with it if he lied about his marriage. I will sleep just fine at night.

Because she's a selfish person and disrespectful to the meaning of marriage. She's already obsessed with the guy even before having sex with him, I can only picture her getting emotionally involved more after. And she's willing to take the risks without considering the consequences.

Shrug. Acting like a teenager girl and think like one.. hopeless

Why are you all assuming he is lying? LOL

I don't know how old you all are however I can tell you that an open marriage or a "don't ask/don't tell/turn a blind eye" are hardly uncommon. I belong to a support group for my kids and its VERY common.

You can't always move out and leave. Life gets in the way. You take the cards you're dealt with & play your hand the best you can.

There is nothing about his behavior that is sociopathic.

The direct approach clearly didn't work for her.

Apparently metaphors accompanied with fairytales, maidens and dungeon dragons was the best illustration to get his intentions to sink in.

The now, elated OP wouldn't have it any other way.

His radar is sharp.

He read her...and is moving accordingly.

I explained this in her last thread.

Now the delusional Crab just has to admit to herself that this FWB will lead to nothing else.

Her obsessing & neurotic tendencies is making the Bull uncomfortable.

This is insane. I belong to a support group because I have two special needs children. We can't afford to divorce. It's divorce & sacrifice their extra therapy or stay and deal with it. We choose to stay in the house together (one mortgage payment vs two) and deal with it.

He stated is also in a situation that he said he can't leave.

This is really not an uncommon situation. Its actually quite naive not to think so. I didn't pick a random married man. I vetted this man out. I have no reason or evidence to believe he is lying. I believe in karma and that is why I am not worried. I am doing nothing wrong. I also believe that negative feelings bring about more negative feelings.

I wish you all well. Thank you for the advice. Take care.

Oh, and thank you Taurusbull for the response but I am quite certain I do not have "feelings" for him. I was confused because we set something up. Made a deal so to speak and I felt after all the work I put into it I was not going to get anything out of it.

More plainly stated-- I felt as though "he got his-- I want mine".

Crabs can be very greedy and narcissistic. That's why I'm glad for my Pisces moon. Keeps me emotionally grounded. Makes me remember the other person has feelings as well.

Ok, end of thread. Thank you all, be well.

Posted by Cancergirlnlove


More plainly stated-- I felt as though "he got his-- I want mine".

Right. He offered to reciprocate (allegedly)....but then ...POOF...here goes Ms Holly-go-Lightly reserving her **** like it's a pot of gold...only the lucky zombies can feed...LOL.

Posted by Cancergirlnlove
Crabs can be very greedy and narcissistic. That's why I'm glad for my Pisces moon. Keeps me emotionally grounded. Makes me remember the other person has feelings as well.

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Read "Delusional."

~coughs~

Wow...

Am I reading this thread correctly?

FWBs are overrated. My hand will always be my FWB

I wouldn't be surprised at all if this is some form of payback for something hurtful her husband said years ago. That's at the root of the dissolution of every Cancer relationship I know - inability to forgive.

If that's not the case, since you two are just roommates now and you're only interested in sex and not emotional connection, go knock on your estranged husband's bedroom door and have an FWB with him.

Why, why, why do women allow themselves to be used as fucked buddies by some horn dog man, let alone a married dick weed? We should think more of ourselves than this and expect a hell of alot more from a man. We also shouldn't move into another woman's turf. What goes around, comes around and I promise you won't like picking up the bill or the complimentary STDs that come with it.