Tauruses and lying? is she lying?

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loststar19
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Long story short. I caught her in a lie and confronted her about stalking me.

I have clear proof and everything, she even admitted it at some point of time to someone. She totally denied and try to make it seem like i'm crazy.

"Believe what you want, I know I haven't done anything here but if it makes your heart content to believe otherwise, then go ahead. As far as I'm concerned, we're not in each others lives anymore; you don't want anything to do with me, I don't want anything to do with you. Therefore, I couldn't care any less about what you're doing with you're life, so leave me out of it."

Is she lying?


Of course, she went on a rant with her new gf about me not moving on and how i'm unhappy. Also, call me fake and ****. All i asked was for her to stop and tell the truth about the stalking. That same person who cheated on me for no reason because I started to gain a backbone about her controlling nature. Taunted me about losing, her new relationship and everything, still does... Turned everybody against me too...

don't know what to do
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wait it out.

if you were a first love, it's going to take a while for her to get past "whatever." in a lot of ways, that's the case with any sign, any first love.

a taurean may stalk, but it's not scorpio stalking. them mofos are craaaaaaazay!

we're GENERALLY don't have it in us to enact any real vengeance so as long as she's not doing anything that threatens your person, be as patient as you can and don't feed the animal.

hmm...well, truthfully, you can feed the beast by simply moving on, but until she gains some level of clarity and accepts it's over, expect the worst.

sorry, in dealing with loss, sometimes we suck.
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lol we totally suck, especially if we felt the loss was significant. If Facebook had a "whos viewing your page" I would SO be a stalker myself. Luckily it doesnt so I can practice unrestrained snooping.

If its harmless then ignore her and just let her get it out her system. If she's really overstepping her boundaries, put your foot down and put it down HARD. Show proof of her in the act, something undeniable and most embarrassing. Present it to her and let her know it would be available for others should she continue her behavior. The risk of being outed should prompt her to get her ish together.
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lol we totally suck, especially if we felt the loss was significant. If Facebook had a "whos viewing your page" I would SO be a stalker myself. Luckily it doesnt so I can practice unrestrained snooping.

If its harmless then ignore her and just let her get it out her system. If she's really overstepping her boundaries, put your foot down and put it down HARD. Show proof of her in the act, something undeniable and most embarrassing. Present it to her and let her know it would be available for others should she continue her behavior. The risk of being outed should prompt her to get her ish together.
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I did show proof to her and i got someone to back me up plus her statements to back me up. she just went off to say


"I can gladly say I've had nothing to do with whatever it is you're showing me. Call me a jerk, whatever but I honestly have better things to do than "stalk" you."


She hates me, don't want nothing to do with me. Then do this.. It doesn't make sense, especially if she's has someone new.


We did had a good relationship, hell my whole world revolved around her. it's just i lost my dad that year, i don't have anybody else n my family because my mom passed too. So my whole attention shifted on dealing with it, all she kept saying is.

"Shit happens, deal with it".


Make me feel guilty for not giving her all the attention.




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Posted by loststar19
It was real proof, I saw something she wrote to someone about how she was lurking through my stuff and how pathetic i was. I saw the email and plus this person knows her well. I also used a tracker to make sure... it really was her.




So,in essence....you were/are stalking her to see if she's stalking you? 😉

We don't let go easy.we don't "stalk" out of malice...if we keep tabs on you,it's because we care.

As far as the "shit happens,deal with it" statement...we are blunt as hell sometimes.when we are young,we don't have a grasp on how to be tactful sometimes and we say what's in our heads,not realizing other people don't process our understanding like we do.Quite frankly,"shit happens,deal with it" is our motto,this is how we live.She just didn't think to soften that up before she said it.And yes,that was a terrible thing to say.

But,back on track...she still cares about you,or she wouldn't be checking on you.
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I'm not making excuses for her at all,btw.saying hurtful things is not ok.
How old are you guys ? that makes a difference.
I will say that when in my late teens very early 20's,I wanted to be the center of my guy's attention,and I'm ashamed to say even with a death...I'd have wanted to be included in the grieving.I'd have wanted to be your source of comfort,and if I wasn't...I'd have made an ass of myself also.not proud of that,but back then...well I was immature,and insecure.
If she has never experienced the death of someone close to her...she has no understanding of it,and automatically went to the shit happens,deal with it mentality...because that is just how we are.sensitivity comes from experience.

Why say hurtful things if she cares? well,again my answer depends on age.some people react to being hurt,by hurting the hurter. *shrugs*
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She also suffer death that year and i consoled her by being there and she just shrugged it off kinda quick. But i see now, well i wasn't trying to make her feel unimportant and i told her this. I just needed to deal with that, she said she understood and wanted me to get help but then cheated and acted like she hated me. Like i never exist and just shoved it under the rug. She use to be caring and we could talk things out.. Now, it's like she's cold. Well, she has someone else now and she acting like she found gold with this one. Totally rubbing it in.. Thanks for the advice because i just need help ya know
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Posted by loststar19
I just wanna ask.. and please don't get offended.. '


What cause a Taurus to cheat or lie?

I just wanna know cause it happen to me and instead of talking about it, she ran and just kinda acted like i never existed..





Rarely offended.

I can't really say,because I've never been much for lying unless it's to save someone's feelings.I've never cheated,but the one time I considered it was after I had been cheated on(in marriage) and was crushed.never got enough attention/closeness before or after from him....but there was someone who very much wanted to give me that,and well...I came pretty close.
So,I'd have to guess that maybe unless she's just a total ass hat...that she didn't feel you were giving her what she needed.Which is probably why most people cheat really. *shrugs* Although they should just break it off instead,people your age like to sometimes have someone lined up BEFORE they leave.
There is no good excuse for her darlin'....she just wasn't worthy of you.
Why does she act like you don't exist?
Honestly,if you have not done something shitty to her....it must be that she want's you to chase her and claim her.
I can say that this Taurus female has a little bit of cavewoman in her.you man,me woman...come and drag me back to the cave.


lol,I hope someone get's what I mean by that....🙂

What is your sun sign,lost?