Triflin Taurus Chic after my not so triflin Taurus

If you have sen my previous posts, you would know, there is this big fat, ugly, creepy (do i sound like a 'mean girl' yet? ) girl constantly up my Taurus guys ass. She too is a Taurus and lemme tell ya he is a blind one. So I have been like, "She acts as if she is more than a friend, etc with him before." She said some dumb crap to him on fb on his wall about having a sleepover and I had him correct her. Him stating, oh she didnt mean it like that ..right.

Well, 6 months later he and I are very very good.
She just pops up, and writes on MY picture of him with his guitar, "Oh I see you know how to touch your true love 😉 Sexy."

UM what in the flying f!!!
I am resisting my Leo urges to rip her head off. But basically, this proves everything I was feeling before.
And I have no respect for desperate ass women that don't respect relationships anyways.

a) She is in fact irrelevant, except for the fact that he considers her a 'friend'
well, this is more than friendly....
b) She doesn't live here
c) She's fat and ugly and a PHONY. I do not like her personality and called her out day one when she started trying to kiss my ass..
d) I'm tired of seeing her stupid face
e) It is now my mission to make sure that relationship severs.

I have two trains of thought
1) Step back, she will disappear naturally, and turn the love towards him
2) Bite down and go after her and let her know to back the hell off


Last time he handled it and damn near took two weeks to have a simple convo with her, which obviously didn't work.

What would you do Taureans?

Just how active are you on FB?
Sounds like she's trying to throw a few zings your way.
I hate FB. LOL
Either ignore or post pics of you and your love together cuddled up.
And in fact keep posting where you attended events together.

i would tell him he needs to handle it and not even get my hands dirty (other than deleting her comment). if he doesnt handle it, then uknow where your real problem lies. and at this point handling it, to me, is pretty much explaining to her why they shouldnt communicate anymore. thats just me though...i am a jealous control freak who demands absolute devotion....

Posted by LunarMaiden
Just how active are you on FB?
Sounds like she's trying to throw a few zings your way.
I hate FB. LOL
Either ignore or post pics of you and your love together cuddled up.
And in fact keep posting where you attended events together.

TRY super active. I work in digital marketing.

That bxtch just changed the comment. Obviously I took screenshots of both 🙂

I think you have a good idea here. Lets turn up the heat. Maybe I can drive her into an even more desperate corner. He will really be repelled by that.

Posted by TaurusLovesScorpio
i would tell him he needs to handle it and not even get my hands dirty (other than deleting her comment). if he doesnt handle it, then uknow where your real problem lies. and at this point handling it, to me, is pretty much explaining to her why they shouldnt communicate anymore. thats just me though...i am a jealous control freak who demands absolute devotion....

Ha! Last time I did that and he reallllllllllllllllly didnt want to( i.e. hates conflict, being the bad girl) It caused a major rift in between us. And finally he did it two weeks later. So I'm not flipping going through that again.

I'm stll deciding, but I'm probably going to do a combo of:
A) further opening his eyes- in a nice way.
B) Calling her out publicly on the photo- in a clever way
C) Continuing to be awesome and post pics of us being lovey. I.e. just be myself.
Oh and she is getting deleted online. Blocking is in her future too I think.

Can you not just leave the poor fucking girl alone to her crush, eventually it will fizzle out and if you're secure in your relationship with your man then what of it... You feeling secure is all that matters, unless your not really? Seems a lot of drama going on in such a short relationship.

She's not actually doing any harm to anyone other than herself and who knows if she's even doing that.

Posted by celticlioness
Can you not just leave the poor fucking girl alone to her crush, eventually it will fizzle out and if you're secure in your relationship with your man then what of it... You feeling secure is all that matters, unless your not really? Seems a lot of drama going on in such a short relationship.

She's not actually doing any harm to anyone other than herself and who knows if she's even doing that.

Are you kidding me?
This girl has caused a lot of trouble for me and him. Not to mention she is manipulative and knows how to play his weakspots under the ruse of friendship.
So I politely respond to you, hell no.
She's going down.

I already did that and look how far that got me.

It hasn't fizzled out in 2 years.

Cancer/Leo cusp

Posted by tiziani
The problem is you, if I'm being honest with you.

I like your posts in general. You know that if everything is right in your relationship, there's no reason to worry. If you react to what she does, you're playing right into her hands and weakening your relationship. You will be doing her work for you. And that's assuming she even really wants anything with your guy anyway, because the above post could be right. It could just be a crush and a flirt.

I did like reason d though. Haha. That's a good enough reason for me to justify anything too.

I agree with you. I can see that me reacting would most likely turn on me, plus it's a —bad look—?_which is why I??ve made no action yet. But therein lies the rub. Still, I want her out of the picture. I really really didn't like this chick from day one. Ever met someone and knew instantly they were —not right?? —not real?? and they just annoy the crap out of you? She is this to me. Not to mention, some part of me wants to marry this guy. I have never felt such primal instincts of protection over any relationship. I feel like I would sink my teeth into her and gladly rip her limb from limb. Luckily she lives across the states, so I can preserve my dental work.

Posted by Andalusia
Cancer/Leo cusp

nope

No, you've caused the trouble by reacting to whatever she posts and stamping your feet at your man. You can control your reactions not her actions, if she is as manipulative as you say then you're playing right into her hands.

You also don't appear to have a lot of faith in you're man, I predict you won't get to your 1 year anniversary, at which stage she will still be his friend.

Honestly it doesn't matter if you don't like her. He's her friend. The only one whose feeling the threat is you. He's not going to remove her because he doesn't see her as a threat. The more you bring up the issue the more you're going to get pushed away. He doesn't see her as anything more than a friend. He sees this as your issue. Your insecurity. It's not something he can fix. All he can do is reassure you.

If you create more drama it's just going to look badly in you. I say ignore her and continue on with your loving relationship. I mean really what are her comments doing? Is she sleeping with him? Stealing his time from you? No and no. It's just a dumb FB comment and she's probably thinking nothing of it and moving on while you're stirring up inside over it.

Posted by celticlioness
No, you've caused the trouble by reacting to whatever she posts and stamping your feet at your man. You can control your reactions not her actions, if she is as manipulative as you say then you're playing right into her hands.

You also don't appear to have a lot of faith in you're man, I predict you won't get to your 1 year anniversary, at which stage she will still be his friend.

Nice, see you in a year. I think your responses cause more drama that my original posts. STOMP STOMP

Posted by Taurusgirl3
Honestly it doesn't matter if you don't like her. He's her friend. The only one whose feeling the threat is you. He's not going to remove her because he doesn't see her as a threat. The more you bring up the issue the more you're going to get pushed away. He doesn't see her as anything more than a friend. He sees this as your issue. Your insecurity. It's not something he can fix. All he can do is reassure you.

If you create more drama it's just going to look badly in you. I say ignore her and continue on with your loving relationship. I mean really what are her comments doing? Is she sleeping with him? Stealing his time from you? No and no. It's just a dumb FB comment and she's probably thinking nothing of it and moving on while you're stirring up inside over it.

Interesting. But isn't it your job as a mate, taurus or otherwise, to make sure your partner feels comfortable? He constantly has chicks hitting on him, but this is the only one I take issue with. I think the other ones are funny. STEALING HIS TIME FROM ME: YES this was an issue, she would call at all hours playing the damsel in distress card. His weakness, needing to help everyone. We had to set that straight. Now honestly, I know they don't communicate that much. Or it's mostly one sided. So it is naturally on the fade. STILL IT PISSES ME OFF! Something to be said for women's intuition, but mine is a bit hyper at the moment.

I really do want to handle this in the classiest way possible, but still be assertive.

I know where you're coming from, yes. Maybe not on the primal instincts part (that has rarely happened to me)

HAHHAHAHA

If it helps I have been in a very similar situation and solved the problem with a few choice words to my boyfriend.

1. You have got to calm down. Be cool, do not get angry with her or him. Always remember he hasn't done anything wrong.

2. Next time she flirts with him in a way that clearly crosses a line, calmly explain to your boyfriend that you don't mind him being friends with her but he has to understand that that kind of flirting is purely designed to cause friction between you two. Explain that this is the type of manipulating mind games women do when they go after a man who is already taken. The girl will flirt or act like the damsel in distress to boost a man's ego while his girlfriend becomes crazy with anger, so at the end who would the man rather hang with? The crazy angry girlfriend or the sweet girl who is dishing out nothing but compliments. Explain that it is purely designed to undermine you and your relationship.

3. If none of that works calmly ask him how he would feel if the tables were turned and a male friend of yours flirting with you in front of him. Ask him how he would feel if you laughed if off as nothing but friendship.

Then walk away and let him think about it.

After I had this conversation with my boyfriend it was like he suddenly woke up and never spoke to the girl again.

As long as your curves are sexier than the guitar's, have someone take a pic of him holding you in the exact same way as he's holding the guitar in the original pic, and title it "true love - there can be only one".

That's sort of prophetic for how the Leo/Taurus relationship turns out anyway. That guitar is eventually going to get sacrificed on the Leonine altar.

Posted by anonymousheart

Posted by TaurusLovesScorpio
i would tell him he needs to handle it and not even get my hands dirty (other than deleting her comment). if he doesnt handle it, then uknow where your real problem lies. and at this point handling it, to me, is pretty much explaining to her why they shouldnt communicate anymore. thats just me though...i am a jealous control freak who demands absolute devotion....

Ha! Last time I did that and he reallllllllllllllllly didnt want to( i.e. hates conflict, being the bad girl) It caused a major rift in between us. And finally he did it two weeks later. So I'm not flipping going through that again.

I'm stll deciding, but I'm probably going to do a combo of:
A) further opening his eyes- in a nice way.
B) Calling her out publicly on the photo- in a clever way
C) Continuing to be awesome and post pics of us being lovey. I.e. just be myself.
Oh and she is getting deleted online. Blocking is in her future too I think.

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I mean, you know its not a *real* threat. But it is disrespectful on her part to openly flirt with your man on your FB pics. If you can't get him to move on that, I think there's a lack of consideration towards you, on his part. I wouldn't have it.

Post a pic of you smashing a guitar. That might scare her away.

Posted by anonymousheart
there is this big fat, ugly, creepy

You should really get over yourself Leo. I was sure something like this will emerge as soon as you posted the anniversary thread.

You seemed to be done with him in the last thread a few months ago.

Anyway who cares about someone's crush..he's still coming home to you in the end.

And if he doesn't, it's her choice and he can cheat with anyone, regardless of how fat, ugly, creepy they are.

By any means, stop this insecurity within you.

it's his choice*

LOL @ a Leo getting over herself. Hhahahahahahah!! You don't like Leos do you Damnata? As I've said before, I know a couple Taurus/Leo marriages, and a harem of any sort is just not going to work with the Leo personality.

I like Leos a lot, my mom is one. It's just her insecurity she needs to address. She should stop, take a long good breathe and think of all the good things. Both parties are kings and queens in their relationship, no one on the outside should worry her. Love him good and love him as long as he deserves to be loved. Leave all worries at the door.

There is a small poem I love..


Here's to me, and here's to you
And here's to love and laughter
I'll be true as long as you
And not one moment after.

^I try to apply that in any relationship I'm in.

Found out two days ago my mom jumped at her Taurus boyfriend with a knife..thanks god he wasn't harmed or she would be in a world of hell. She had mental issues though.

Posted by Damnata
I like Leos a lot, my mom is one. It's just her insecurity she needs to address.

Found out two days ago my mom jumped at her Taurus boyfriend with a knife..thanks god he wasn't harmed or she would be in a world of hell. She had mental issues though.

Funny - the one couple I know...The Leo also went at her bull with a knife, and she smashes his stuff regularly....

I don't think its insecurity as much as it is the fact that Leos have a hard time backing down. Same reason Taurus/Leo butt heads alot in other areas. I think its more around her feeling disrespected, and you're asking her to be extremely *humble* and turn the other cheek - very hard for a Leo to do, despite the fact that you'll see threads on the Leo board about how Jesus was a Leo. LOL.

Honestly she lives in another state...if anything you should find this both funny and flattering. At the end of the day what you need to remember is that if she can take him then he wasn't yours to begin with. And if all it takes to get him to leave you is a cheeky little comment on Facebook did you really even want him?

Cook him a great dinner, give him a great BJ, let him watch the game in peace and he will remember instantly why he's chosen you. Rinse and repeat and let the cute little harem members watch from a distance. Don't make waves where there needs to be none. I'd probably egg her on just to make her feel stupid. Agree with her that he is sexy and he taste like candy...mmm

Jesus was not a Leo.

He would've rode in Jerusalem on a fucking stallion, not a donkey.

Modest, humble Leos are the best kind. A joy to be around them..one of the greatest evolved signs.

They cast a bright, warm radiance on everyone around them. It's not about them being in the spotlight.

There's literally no one on the lionhearted part of the family who's a Leo Tiz, going as far back as I remember.

I find that funny.

Posted by Damnata
Jesus was not a Leo.

He would've rode in Jerusalem on a fucking stallion, not a donkey.

LOL, or a T-Rex.

my brother is a humble Leo. he still is not backing down if you disrespect him.

This not backing down stuff is Fixed sign territory...and true for some Cardinals.

Mutables will either talk your ear off or get out physically from the situation or stay there but get vanished in their own thoughts. It's our way...the less effort, the better.

Posted by MilkySoft
I always feel taunted and disrespected when someone flirts with my man in front of me. Almost like they think I'm not confident enough to shut them down? Or like, they don't take our relationship seriously?

The disrespect is what pisses me off.

Exactly how I feel about it.

People don't need to honor anyone's relationship to go after what they want..it's an instant gratification society.

It's the same reason I was never mad about the chick who got my ex to cheat on me..she followed her desire for him..it felt like disrespect to my relationship but in the end, I cannot fault her for going for what she wanted. It was his duty to me to keep himself from straying.

#fixedsignspossesivenessexcuses 😛

You're older than me Tiz...in my generation it's not about principles or patience or the value of building anything.

Everyone wants everything RIGHT NOW.

Posted by Damnata
This not backing down stuff is Fixed sign territory...and true for some Cardinals.

Mutables will either talk your ear off or get out physically from the situation or stay there but get vanished in their own thoughts. It's our way...the less effort, the better.

Aries Sun or Moon doesn't back down in my experience. Virgos have their own ways of not backing down. I think an angry Virgo might just be one of the most spiteful/vindictive creatures on earth. My mom is a Virgo with Aries moon. I can still see her tossing bags of my Leo brother's clothing and books off of our dock into the water, during the grand finale of one of their battles.

I'm speaking for 15-25 folks here.

Well more like...18-22...it's a mindfuck in that category.

Posted by TaurusLovesScorpio

Posted by Damnata
This not backing down stuff is Fixed sign territory...and true for some Cardinals.

Mutables will either talk your ear off or get out physically from the situation or stay there but get vanished in their own thoughts. It's our way...the less effort, the better.

Aries Sun or Moon doesn't back down in my experience. Virgos have their own ways of not backing down. I think an angry Virgo might just be one of the most spiteful/vindictive creatures on earth. My mom is a Virgo with Aries moon. I can still see her tossing bags of my Leo brother's clothing and books off of our dock into the water, during the grand finale of one of their battles.

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Oh, I'm your mom then 😄. Is your name Oedipus or smthg?

Yes I can see that but my venus in cancer tones me down...I need serious provoking to get to that level. I will kill you if you touch any of the people I love..or I'll make your life hell. It's the only instance where I will not give up and will not go down.

Love relationships though? Don't let the door hit you on your way out. I'm as cool as a cucumber.

Vicious mom though..you can dry clothes off but books? She should've known better.

Posted by MilkySoft
Not enough Taurus opinions in this thread IN MY OPINION.

So adorable 😄

I would still keep an eye out...But i cant help but be nosey, so this would make me think and want to try and figure it out.

But this sounds like me and my ex bf who was a Pisces. At the end of the day, he still cheated..So i dont think its insecurities, its just the way that u feel. Maybe intuition.. Im not saying that hes like my ex or anything. But some things sound strangely similar to me..like the odd comments on fb, the fact that she called at whatever time she needs to talk. Does she still do that? If shes in another state then good.lol. She can stay there.

Just seems like such a knee-jerk reaction on these boards to say someone is insecure....Like this is some rare and particularly disdainful human weakness. Everyone is insecure in so many different areas. Among a host of other things, the consumerism alone that sustains modern Western society promotes and thrives on insecurity, and we would probably collapse without it. I don't think territorialism, possessiveness, or jealousy (all 3 of which are core Taurean traits IMO) are always about insecurity though. Sometimes just the opposite. Sometimes I am just so secure in the fact that my girl will not actually ever like you, that I feel its insane that you would ever think otherwise and take a shot at her in front of me. Showing someone how *misguided* that is, is sometimes just a matter of educating that person, and there are a lot of ways to do that. When you're more laid back, overly assertive people (especially men) tend to feel free to take the opportunity to assert. And often you have to just give them a little smack on the back of the head (metaphorically of course). I'm around men all day long at my corporate job. The urges are fairly primitive and obvious - most are constantly seeking to establish dominance socially and professionally, and expand their territory in every way possible.

^I get what you're saying but if it happens a lot, I see no reason not to bring up what I see.

If I'm wrong, the person doesn't need to take to heart my advice. In this case it was a recurring theme in all her threads.

#VIOLENTFIXEDSIGNS

Oh, I'm your mom then 😄. Is your name Oedipus or smthg?

Yes I can see that but my venus in cancer tones me down...I need serious provoking to get to that level. I will kill you if you touch any of the people I love..or I'll make your life hell. It's the only instance where I will not give up and will not go down.

Love relationships though? Don't let the door hit you on your way out. I'm as cool as a cucumber.

LOL...bulls love to be mothered.

I like a passionate woman who is going to try to chop my hand off if I reach for that doorknob though. I want to be too scared to try to leave. I want to own and be owned. Hahahah...

Now that I think of it, probably the worst flip-outs I've ever witnessed were on the part of Virgos pushed too far, *and* defending others. I was 14 with a Virgo and Sag my age. The Sag, always talking crap like a Sag does, pissed off a MUCH older/larger kid in our neighborhood - more like a large muscular man. The guy walked up and smacked the Sag. I just kinda froze, and thought about how with a guy that much older/larger, it just might be something we have to accept at that age. LOL. Not my frail Virgo friend. He grabbed the dude by his head, hands around the back of his neck, and proceeded to knee him in the face, and HEADBUTT him in the face. LOL! I have never seen anything like it. This kid was not a trained thai boxer or a fighter of any kind. I have seen a lot of fights and never have I ever seen such precise headbutts to someone's face. You figure a headbutt is not something in the arsenal at 14. Maybe a head*lock* and you roll around on the ground or something. The older dude was a bloody mess afterwards. He was in shock. I stopped picking on the Virgo. hahahahahahah.....

Taurus can go longer than Virgo in a fight I think. It's the one sign I would avoid getting in a fight with because I'm sure they'd demolish me. If I get you down on the ground though...it's the end for you from that point on.

I beat a guy up because he intentionally got a chick in my high school pregnant, who later committed suicide. He didn't have a chance to see what was coming for him.

My Virgo dad though..one day in primary school I got home with one eye swollen.

He barely raised his eyes from the newspaper "How did the other party look?"

"Worse, dad"

"Good"

Yes, and then there's the wooden chair episode.

I'mma blame the Aries Moon for that, lest Tiz expells me from the school.

There's a joke going on about Romania..since we and Bulgaria are considered to be the most corrupt countries in the EU.

"The EU made a top of the most corrupted countries and Romania came in second. Why?
We bribed the judge so we don't get the first place"

Same think happened in your school, oh Principal FairnessFence

Idk why people underestimate Virgos. My sister is one and I've never met a petite fearless person. She isn't scared of anybody.

Virgos seem to have tempers in relationships too. Taurus get called possessive, but Virgos are up there as well. If you want to be owned, a Virgo is the one for you.