uh oh

oy, i think things have gone awry.

i started a fwb relationship with this taurus guy. i finally spent the night at his place the other night and we had sex twice. i told him the next morning what i was looking for. my dumb ass should have known better but this is the 1st fwb relationship i've ever had. he was hoping to be more but was willing to settle for my demands. i also told him that i am unavailable 4 days outta the week cuz i have a lotta projects going on, etc. i was very up front with him. he got all sad about it but seemed to take it ok. every day since he has constantly texted me. i think he's trying to be cool about it but inevitably finds an excuse to contact me. when i'm head over heels, i may want to see/contact the person all the time, but i keep my cool and refrain. i know it's just the honeymoon phase and it's best to not be like that. he's starting to come off as clingy to me and tries to act like my bf. he actually wants me to be jealous if he talks to other girls! i told him in the beginning that i don't care and have even gone on to say that if he "left me" for someone else that i'd be ok with it. it's true too.

i should have cut it off when he told me he wanted more. i admit, i messed up there. now i've gotten myself in a predicament and i'm afraid that when we're out he's gonna pull this "we're a couple" act. i also hear taureans are on the possessive side which freaks me the hell out. he's always known that i am a lovey-dovey, touchy-feely kinda person.

any ideas on how to discuss these issues with him? normally i would be direct but he obviously REALLY likes me so i think the situation is more delicate. i think the sex only cemented whatever he was feeling too.

nah, he doesn't know about the other guys. it's really none of his business since he's not my bf. i'm not sleeping with the other guys, nor am i dating them either, and i definitely won't with the cap for obvious reasons! it's that i have, in recent months, formed non-intimate relationships with the other guys and i'm being hounded by them.

ha! i was wondering if anyone would notice my posts about the others eventually. also, why do i have to make a decision on just one guy? i'll be 27 in 11 days, only had 2 boyfriends ever since i was 16 (both ended up long term), and never got the chance to really "play the field". i'm thinking i wanna get it outta my system now before i'm 40. especially right now since i literally have several guys chasing me. i'm sure it's not all it's cracked up to be, and i do love being in a dedicated relationship, but this is my time now. i spent many young years losing myself in those men that i forgot about me. i just wanna have a little fun right now.

aw, love isn't stupid! ur talking to a leo now! normally i'm riding on that high horse!

anyway, thx for the advice guys. i'll be direct. i guess i was just worried because he's performing tomorrow night and i fear that he'll wanna be kissing on me after the show. he's in the same band as the cancer! haha, i sound like a dirty groupie but it's purely coincidental.

also, no offense to geminis, but hell no! every gemini (guys at least) i know are total man whores! i may sound like i get around but i'm not promiscuous at all! their sluttiness is a total turn-off for me.

Hey I completely agree with you ninjamu, your still young get your kicks while you still can. You gotta live out your youth right? Lol I don't think your situation is too bad. Lol I think I'm in a similar situation as you lol and with a Taurus guy. I have a lot of fun with him, he's a reallygreat guy... But I'm not looking for a long term thing either.

You and I are in the same boat 😄.

You shouldn't have to settle for one guy. There is plenty of time for that when you get older.

O_O...remember fwb could lead to a wide vagina that isn't going to be too cute when you get older.

I wasn't saying she should be sleeping around... And I don't think she was either. Just casual dating not getting tied down.

the thing is, the-dream, i had loads of sex with my first 2 boyfriends that i was committed to. the vagina doesn't widen because of multiple partners, it depends on how much sex u have. so technically i would have a pretty gaping one right now even though i have only slept with 3 guys in my life. pretty crass but it's true. haha, except mine is just fine, thx. no hot-dog-down-a-hallway here! think what u will though! cheers!

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the thing is, the-dream, i had loads of sex with my first 2 boyfriends that i was committed to. the vagina doesn't widen because of multiple partners, it depends on how much sex u have. so technically i would have a pretty gaping one right now even though i have only slept with 3 guys in my life. pretty crass but it's true. haha, except mine is just fine, thx. no hot-dog-down-a-hallway here! think what u will though! cheers!

LOL! Just making sure.