What causes a Taurus to cheat?

I found out my husband cheated on his ex girlfriend with me and once I got pregnant he left her, then recently after 5 years being together he had been back in contact with her and pretended he was single and we no longer were together whilst I was pregnant with my second baby.

I just don't know why he lied to me, I found out in the worst way and I feel destroyed. Even though he lied to me he won't leave me alone, he still rings her because she told me and it seems to me he loves us both but because we have kids together he has more responsibilities with me.

Can I just say I did not know he had a girlfriend when we first got together! I am completely shocked because nobody knew about her. Of course now he's been caught he's sorry but to say I am shocked and lost for words is an understatement. What could have caused him to cheat? Falling out of love ?

Posted by Nevermore
While you were in shock, take your children and stuff out of his house, if the house is under your registrations, kick him out of it and file divorce.

I was told the exact same thing, it's best to act whilst shocked. I feel sick.

I don't think you will ever know why, just know its him, not you and move on with your life. I know easier said than done, but I think the others are right, don't stay in this crap for even a minute longer.

When the person stops choosing me, this person seizes to be right for me, however much I love this person. If you choose between a relationship and dignity, always choose the later. I understand marriage and children is a serious foundation, but still... he doesn't choose you.
The reason i think any person cheats is rotten core in the person. Forgive me those who think differently, but true people if like divetsity so much, can always start change with themselves and start seeing the same object with a different view.
My advice is to leave unless he chooses you and YOU can forgive of course!

Posted by estellajones
I found out my husband cheated on his ex girlfriend with me and once I got pregnant he left her, then recently after 5 years being together he had been back in contact with her and pretended he was single and we no longer were together whilst I was pregnant with my second baby.

I just don't know why he lied to me, I found out in the worst way and I feel destroyed. Even though he lied to me he won't leave me alone, he still rings her because she told me and it seems to me he loves us both but because we have kids together he has more responsibilities with me.

Can I just say I did not know he had a girlfriend when we first got together! I am completely shocked because nobody knew about her. Of course now he's been caught he's sorry but to say I am shocked and lost for words is an understatement. What could have caused him to cheat? Falling out of love ?


Fellow Piscean,

I feel for you (we empathize and sympathize: "I am"). My ex was cheating on me too. Take heed to the advice and get a divorce. My ex wanted his freedom, clothes, and Toyota (I gave it to him). I was married by church (Catholic) and I gave him ONE chance! I asked for a chaplain while visiting him in the hospital and he spurned me!!! I looked out the window and said, 'Just remember I'm as pure as snow. God knows I have not been with another man while you were with another woman, and YOU broke OUR vows. I am giving her to YOU and all you see is a pretty PINK bow on top!" I left, threw out all his clothes on the front porch and my next door neighbor (Eva hangs head) said, "So, you finally got tired of him coming home at 4:00 in the morning?" I NEVER knew the neighbors KNEW! Needless to say I filed for divorce and a year later (yeah, a year) the divorce was finalized. He gave me the house with ALL contents (garage tools, furniture, etc, etc!) and my divorce decree states: ALIENATION OF AFFECTION AND ADULTERY (he signed it; didn't contest). I can show it to you if you'd like :-) "I AM" so proud of myself!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Posted by BlowMyMind
Your 'husband' is a pig. Tell him to get that tattooed to his forehead. he's garbage.

^5 (high five)!

Posted by EvatheDiva
Posted by estellajones
I found out my husband cheated on his ex girlfriend with me and once I got pregnant he left her, then recently after 5 years being together he had been back in contact with her and pretended he was single and we no longer were together whilst I was pregnant with my second baby.

I just don't know why he lied to me, I found out in the worst way and I feel destroyed. Even though he lied to me he won't leave me alone, he still rings her because she told me and it seems to me he loves us both but because we have kids together he has more responsibilities with me.

Can I just say I did not know he had a girlfriend when we first got together! I am completely shocked because nobody knew about her. Of course now he's been caught he's sorry but to say I am shocked and lost for words is an understatement. What could have caused him to cheat? Falling out of love ?


Fellow Piscean,

I feel for you (we empathize and sympathize: "I am"). My ex was cheating on me too. Take heed to the advice and get a divorce. My ex wanted his freedom, clothes, and Toyota (I gave it to him). I was married by church (Catholic) and I gave him ONE chance! I asked for a chaplain while visiting him in the hospital and he spurned me!!! I looked out the window and said, 'Just remember I'm as pure as snow. God knows I have not been with another man while you were with another woman, and YOU broke OUR vows. I am giving her to YOU and all you see is a pretty PINK bow on top!" I left, threw out all his clothes on the front porch and my next door neighbor (Eva hangs head) said, "So, you finally got tired of him coming home at 4:00 in the morning?" I NEVER knew the neighbors KNEW! Needless to say I filed for divorce and a year later (yeah, a year) the divorce was finalized. He gave me the house with ALL contents (garage tools, furniture, etc, etc!) and my divorce decree states: ALIENATION OF AFFECTION AND ADULTERY (he signed it; didn't contest). I can show it to you if you'd like :-) "I AM" so proud of myself!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I love this coming from a fellow piscean, thank you so much for the experience you've shared with me I shall take it on board.

Thank you all, and you are right it's not down to astrology all men can cheat regardless. I shall take that on board and I have already kicked him out its just painful the pain I endure is just non describable. Will never ever trust a man again incase he hurts me.

Posted by estellajones
I found out my husband cheated on his ex girlfriend with me and once I got pregnant he left her, then recently after 5 years being together he had been back in contact with her and pretended he was single and we no longer were together whilst I was pregnant with my second baby.

I just don't know why he lied to me, I found out in the worst way and I feel destroyed. Even though he lied to me he won't leave me alone, he still rings her because she told me and it seems to me he loves us both but because we have kids together he has more responsibilities with me.

Can I just say I did not know he had a girlfriend when we first got together! I am completely shocked because nobody knew about her. Of course now he's been caught he's sorry but to say I am shocked and lost for words is an understatement. What could have caused him to cheat? Falling out of love ?

You're viewing this from an emotional perspective.
You seem real sweet, but unfortunately for you, you were never the 1st option, just a convenient option.
He did the honorable thing, but this decision wasn't made with his heart, just fulfilling his moral obligation as a father....
To marry the mother of his child.

I don't believe he ever fell out of love with her.
A deep emotional bond doesn't fizzle out because an ethical decision is made.
Heart vs Matter can be a tumultuous inner struggle.
Do I condone his actions?
Absolutely not.

Set him free, play 2nd to no one.
She has his heart in a way that you never will.
Let him go now!

Was he just making contact with her...we're they physical?

I would've advised the ex to not let him know you knew about it, and let him hang himself.

Your pregnant too, what a POS.