What does a Taurus man mean by soon?

Not sure what to do here. I met an amazing Taurus man about two years ago, and from the first time I saw him he made a real impression on me. We ran into each other occasionally at the local supermarket, and exchanged phone numbers/emails this past April. Since then we have talked on the phone a few times, emailed a few times, had some very flirty online chats and text conversations, but no real dates. We met for coffee one time and I thought it went great. He has suggested going out several times but then for one reason or another he can't make it. I am not always available myself, but my schedule seems to be more flexible than his. The odd thing is that he talks about his stable financial situation, his family, and his friends with me, he suggests things to do and out of nowhere asks me stuff like "do you cook" (which I have heard is the way to the Taurus heart...) But then he disappears and I'm just wondering what is going on here.
Finally I told him straight out in an email that I wanted to get to know him better and if he didn't feel the same way to be honest with me. He emailed back very quickly that yes he did want to see me and would call me "soon..." This was at the end of November and he basically dropped off the face of the earth again. Then on Christmas Eve I saw him again at the market, and as soon as he recognized me he stood up tall and smiled - not like he was hiding from me or anything. Again he said he would call me, and since then nothing. So I have been going about my life, figuring if he
really wanted to talk to me or see me he would - he knows how to reach me. My question is - I can't figure him out! Should I contact him every so often or does that send the message that I'm just hanging around waiting for him? Should I ignore him completely and wait for him to come around? (After he canceled a couple of times I ignored him and after 10 days he did call me.)
I know he travels a lot for business and goes out partying a lot with friends, and does not have a girlfriend. I just think it's odd that he seems to be interested in me but then disappears. Just hoping for some Taurus insight. I am Leo sun/Scorpio ascendant/Cancer moon, and I am the most patient person I know... but until now I didn't know any Taureans. Am I being too impatient?

if he's not backing the words up with action then don't put too much thought or energy into him. it doesn't matter what sign he is.

i am also a leo girl and i have much experience with the taurus species. i'm no self-proclaimed taurus expert but i've dealt with them the most. taurus are all about action... once they make up their mind that is. that could be a while unless they see how much of a catch u are from the start.

ur gonna have to wait and feel him out more. everything really depends on the rest of his chart. see, the ones that i attract the most have strong fire and/or air placements. the fire especially makes them a little more assertive or agressive in their pursuit. however, i do have a relationship with a strong earth influenced one with taurus as their sun, moon, and venus. he was every stereotype i read about. he was the kind that was more passive and drew u to him. he didn't make any sudden movements. it probably took about a month or so of round-about getting to know him with little to no results. the only way i could tell he was even remotely interested was that i would catch him staring at me when out in public. i'm the one who had to initiate conversation. although, after i did, that is when he charged like a bull. it was basically him not wanting to risk rejection so he was a little aloof. this is where i didn't have to worry with my fiery/airy taureans cuz they don't care as much about rejection; they just go for it.

Thanks for the insight - I guess I will just wait it out then and do my own thing in the meantime. I don't know enough about him to do his chart, so I don't know his other placements. I do know that his last relationship ended sometime in late 2008 and he still has a few old photos of the ex on his facebook page. He looked pretty happy in those pics - maybe it was a rough ending for him. We haven't talked about past relationships, but it seems like he may not want to be in a relationship right now - he cooled off a bit back in September when he figured out that I wasn't going to be a booty call. He still seemed interested as I mentioned above but I guess you guys are right - it's the action that matters. Sigh.

I suppose as a Leo it's a bit frustrating when someone doesn't just see what a catch I am... 😉 I'm used to getting what I want lol...

Sounds like I just have to let it go then - again... Every time I'm just about to write him off he comes back in the picture with a phone call or an email or something, it's uncanny. Don't know if it makes any difference but his birthday is May 19, mine is July 28. As you can probably tell, it's hard for me to let this one go - he would be a real catch himself if he wanted to be caught... 🙂

Hi Bella,
His birthdate is May 19, 1969 - I don't know where or what time though. Apparently that was a Monday. I had emailed him last before we ran into each other on Xmas Eve. At that time he said he had family coming in for the holidays. I said OK, call me, and he said "I will." As I mentioned before, as soon as he recognized me he stood up tall and got a big smile on his face - he seemed completely focused on me. He was with two friends and introduced me to them - they were in a hurry but he stuck around a few minutes to talk to me. That is the last contact we had. So I'm still not sure what to do next.

Hi also bluelilac,
I wouldn't be surprised if he has gemini influences somewhere in his chart - I seem to be surrounded by geminis (Mom, brother, brother-in-law, sister-in-law, and three ex-boyfriends who are now close friends... what a crowd) There is definitely a flightiness about him. Not as direct as I expected a Taurus to be. Plus he's 40 and still single and partying it up.

Thanks for the advice so far! This man is a mystery...

OMG Bella you are amazing... I looked up his placements with my guess as to the timezone he was born in and I get this:

Moon in Gemini or Cancer depending on time of day (I'm betting it's Gemini)
Mars in Sagittarius
Venus in Aries
Mercury in Gemini

I'm not sure what all of this means... What do you think?

I'm sorry to hear about your computer Bella! I hate it when that happens. But now I'm dying to know what you had to say! 🙂

It is incredible - what you say is ringing so true. He acts exactly that way. When he talks to me I really get the feeling that he is interested, and he did tell me that he was, but then he's gone again. It does seem like a tough situation, disappointing for me (so many frowny faces!) even though everything makes more sense now. He has some taurus traits - strong muscular build, hardworking and good at accumulating cash reserves, a need for physical activity (he works out every day), and some predictable habits (I know what time he usually goes out for coffee and when he gets online lol). But I definitely see the other influences at work.

My other placements are:
Moon in Cancer
Mercury in Cancer
Venus in Virgo
Mars in Aries

So I'm mostly fire and water. You are right about the attraction - if you've ever seen the TV commercial for Britney Spears' Curious fragrance (it's on YouTube) that is exactly how I feel around him. Very powerful. I saw him take his shirt off once over the summer and I almost passed out (very unlike me...) 😉 We have a lot in common as well - I think we could be compatible in many ways. I'm willing to try to understand him - I'm much less stubborn than the typical Leo. But how can I get him to "bust a move?" 🙂

I am a gemini III born june 18th 1974 there used to a very detailed site about my birthday nad i cant find it could any of u copy and paste it for or anything you know about this

Wow Bella that's a lot of information. I totally agree with you regarding the sun-moon combo site - it describes my Leo/Cancer mix perfectly. Chances are good then that it's pretty accurate about him too. Of course I only know him on a superficial level at the moment but I read everything and it really does make a lot of sense based on our interactions so far. Overall it sounds like he may not be relationship material... I suppose I shouldn't expect anything long-term here.

I did a bit of dissecting myself - turns out that the moon was in Gemini on his birthdate only between midnight and about 1:30 AM, so that limits his ascendant to either Capricorn or Aquarius. Of the two, the description of Capricorn fits him more. This may add more insight to the equation. Also you had asked about degree - Sun is 28 degrees Taurus.

One thing that is clear is that he could definitely be a HOT fling 😉 I have never experienced this magnetic attraction to any man before. It might be fun to see where it goes. It's looking like I may have to make the moves though...

Here is the link to that commercial BTW - I never realized until now that there is a bull in it lol


Wowza is right hehe 🙂

LOL Thanks! The process has been mostly speculation, but fun and informative too! You are right again - my cancer heart can be very sensitive... But I think it has a lot to do with my expectations. Over the years I have once or twice known from the start that a romantic relationship is not going to happen, and my emotions do not get involved. These were brief situations though and I moved on quickly. However, with this man I admit that would be difficult. I guess I have to decide whether to make a move myself knowing the potential risks or just wait and see if he comes around. Or doesn't. I hate waiting. I wish I had some clever hints I could wave like a red cape to get him to charge... 😉 The lioness prefers the stealthy approach...

From the CafeAstrology compatibility chart it says this Venus-Mars pairing is conjunct:

"Crimson Red. Your signs are conjunct or in the same sign. No matter what combination of planets and points you are comparing, there is an enormous and instant sense of recognition. You can't help but notice each other, and you impress each other, for better or for worse!
Yin-Yang combinations: This combination is the most exciting, in-your-face attraction when the planets compared are yin and yang: Sun-Moon, Venus-Mars, Eros-Psyche, etc. (See Yin-Yang combinations above). These combinations can easily generate the feeling that this relationship is IT. It can seem like fate had a hand in getting you together, because the way you meet may be serendipitous. This relationship, no matter how long it lasts, is an unforgettable one. When these types of relationships dissolve, each party is likely to either cherish the memory, secretly wish to meet each other again one day, or feel haunted by the memory. Whatever the case may be, this relationship remains etched in your minds. The chemistry is powerful, instant, and dynamic, and your feelings are intense."

This is absolutely true. He is already etched in my mind. What to do...?

I'm sure you'll come up with something good! 🙂 I'm going crazy over here LOL

Hi Bella,

That was an amazing suggestion! Unfortunately I think I have my answer... I called him and left a voicemail three days ago and I haven't heard anything from him. I know he's been on facebook so he has time - but not for me I guess. Oh well. Looks like the frowny faces were right. As Leos everywhere say, "if you don't want me, then I don't really need you either." To which I add, "if you don't want me, you don't deserve me." Thanks for all the information though, it was very educational.

If by some chance he comes around I will keep you posted, till then I'm not holding my breath. 🙂

So here's the latest - he totally ignored my voice message so on Sunday I sent him an email saying that I realize he doesn't have time for me, it's OK, that's life, I won't bother you anymore blah blah, maybe we'll run into each other again sometime. (I hear Taureans don't like to lose things or people... so it was a little test 😉 )

This morning he emails back saying sorry I haven't gotten back to you, I started seeing someone so focusing on that. (ouch, but not completely unexpected.) "I would love for us to stay in touch as friends though."

To be honest I'm not sure how I feel about that. I haven't responded yet - still trying to sort out what to say besides "she's a lucky woman." Any Taurus-specific suggestions appreciated. Thanks.

I was thinking the same thing Bella - just wanted another opinion. I can't deny the attraction I feel around him, and I don't want to close the door to something happening in the future. However, I'm not going to sit around waiting while he's with someone else, and I'm not in the business of breaking up relationships. I will send a brief reply and then I'm back out on the prowl. 😉

At least my coworkers enjoyed the quadruple chocolate decadence cookies... lol

Posted by BellaBulleautiful
maybe you should contact him and tell him you have something for him,and would he like to come by and pick it up or have you drop it off.don't tell him what it is.then you go bake some cookies,and get dressed up really nice.smell reeeeeaaaaally good (vanilla is very good),wrap them up in a nice feeling piece of fabric....velvet is good and tie it with a pretty ribbon...when you give them to him just tell him you made to many cookies and thought of him 😉then as you part say something like you might make to much dinner tomorrow too and give him a wink.

do this, it would work for me

LOL Bella your plan may yet have a chance... Looks like I didn't have to wait long.

I sent him the brief email saying congratulations, wish you the best, I'm happy to continue the friendship. I told him a few things that were going on in my life, small talk type stuff, asked if he had any plans for Superbowl weekend (sometimes he has a party at his place) and that was it. I didn't expect to hear from him again. However, I did go to Bath and Body Works and stock up on Warm Vanilla Sugar products, just in case... 😉

So this morning he texts me at 10:20 AM (the earliest I have ever heard from him) "hey how are you." So I respond back "I'm good - it's a bad hair day though lol... how are you?" (He has complimented my hair in the past) He answers "lol come make me breakfast" so I asked him "LOL doesn't your new girl cook for you? 😉" He responded "Just wanted to see how you respond to me being bossy 😉" (This seems like a good sign.) I sent back "Ah... a test. Very sly. Did I pass? lol" Two seconds later he sends "Not sure yet." So I said "ha ha what a tease! give me a hint..." And then he's gone again.

I'm wondering about this "someone" he was talking about. Doesn't seem real serious. But if he wants to focus on me he's going to have to clear that up first.

I may have to bake up another batch of cookies... I'll save you some this time!

For a Taurus man, soon means never. If he really likes you , he wouldn't risk losing you.And if you say he has Venus in Aries , it means that he is always searching for challenges. Venus here is in detriment. He just likes to play , he knows that you raise hopes. He probably does this to many women. He isn't infatuated with you , he is infatuated with himself (Venus in Aries), so don't expect to recognize your value, and see what a great catch you are (I'm sure you are). He is just playing with your attention being the narcissist that he is (Venus in Aries) combined with the seeming respectability of the Taurus sign(they all look sober), it's easy to be fooled into thinking that he is a serious person. He isn't a man of word, you should look for a man with honor that it's clear in his speech and avoid this vague Taurus.

^ Funny you say that. I know a Tau male with Venus in Aries and he's quite a player.

My advice is to spare the rest and stop embarrassing yourself in front of him. It's pathetic to beg for his attention. The only way he should be treated is with indifference. Venus in Aries people can't stand not being noticed. So be sure you become TRULY indifferent towards him. He will sense it if you fake it. You have to free yourself because he has you hooked. And you do this by forgetting him and being indifferent to him. Being indifferent towards him raises strong feelings in him that he may mistake for love (I think this is what he understands by being in loved). I truly believe that the best match for an Venus in Aries is another Venus in Aries. Any other Venus placements should stay away if they don't want to lose their self-esteem. Another Venus in Aries wouldn't feel that hurt because they are too full of themselves and they will think that it was the other one's loss. Also, I think only a Venus in Aries person, or Moon in Aries person, could pose the challenges that a Venus in Aries person needs.

PS : Don't try to "outsmart" him, or pay him back. This won't change him, because it's in his nature to be a player.
For example, would you rob a robber with the intention to make out of him an honest man? A robber will be a robber, because this is his identity. He sees the world with other kind of lens, so avoiding him it's the best thing to do. The best revenge (if you feel like getting revenge) is to ignore him, and enjoy life and other men of course (men that don't have Venus in Aries!).
And...Taurus Sun and Aries Venus is a lethal combination... Ultimate player...
I've dealt with this kind of boy ( I'm 22 and he is 23) so I understand that you like him. I understand that you want to have a good time with him, that you feel very attracted to him. The problem is that he becomes more and more vague if you want more. For example, I was very attracted to him sexually, I didn't like anything else about him. It was all about sex. But for a thing like sex,a guy like this would put you through a lot of embarrassment (that will make you unattractive in front of him) to show his friends what his capable of, and how he drives women crazy. He gets orgasms by receiving attention. A Moon in Pisces , or Mars in Pisces would have soften him a bit and made him more empathic, but your guy does have this. So you have to remove the "tumour" 🙂))

He takes pleasure by watching you making a fool out of yourself. Just be careful not to go to far. For him, there are no limits to the tests he will put you through. So...ask yourself how much s**t you can take...if you are so determined to "get" this man. You should thank God that he found another woman. But...you see...he still needs attention, so even if he will be with you (an awkward experience that will be, because he won't be focused on you), he will look for challenges(other women).

Hi Alis,

Thanks for your comments! After my last post the contact between us dropped off significantly and nothing ever came of it. I'm sure other women fall for it left and right but I figured it wasn't right to be flirting with me like that when he had obviously decided to see someone else. He was testing me but I tested him too and he failed. I agree that he is full of himself and a total player, and he has not been a man of his word either - you got it exactly right. (You should see the photo he put up on his facebook profile... I've never seen such ego) I could tell that he didn't like being ignored back when we were chatting more regularly, but I should be pursued consistently, not the other way around. So I decided not to initiate contact anymore. It's just as well that he found someone else. I was disappointed, but I've moved on - I'm on the lookout for a real man, not a player.

p.s. I'm a Leo - I NEVER beg for attention LOL... 😉

WOW Bella, where on earth do you get all these interpretations from? I find the birthcharts on cafeastrology sometimes contradictory within the same report.

In all, for me , it was a very positive experience because he helped me to to peel off much of the illusions I had. The pain that he caused me ( I also have Venus in a water sign, worse... in Pisces...God damn it ) motivated me to gain more knowledge about myself and about what I want in life, and I feel now better than ever. I must admit, he did me a great deal of good, even if this wasn't his intention and I thank him. Even if he is a player, he must have a purpose in this life, so I don't judge him. He is a piece in the world's mechanics.