What does this mean?? taurus male....

Ive been going back and forth with a taurus male for a year i asked him last night if he wants me to move on he said do whats best for u i asked again he said do what makes u happy asked again he said he dont care and asked where all this was coming from? do u think he doesnt care or did he just say that because i kept pushing him i just wanted him to say yes or no but he didnt..

He's not going to tell you what to do; hence his saying, "Do what you want to do." That was his initial response, and that's what he means. Either you want to hang in/be with him, or you don't. That's pretty much what he's saying with his "Do what you want to do" statement.

From my experience, when a guy says do what you want to do and doesn't give a definite answer, he doesn't want you to go, but is unsure you. It's like he is doubting you maybe? Like, why is she asking me this?
I thing that he still cares, he is just baffled at why you kept asking him that question.
I don't give advice, but I would just fall back and see what happens. I am having a Taurus issue as well, but at least you have yours (on a regular basis)...
Maybe if you fall back from him he will call or express himself in his way to let you know that he still cares.
I am a scorpio too, so I know how you feel...yes or no. black or white. this or that.
We NEED definite answers so we know how to conduct ourselves around people. Without that, we are left to think and think and think!
TRY to chill. Don't call for a day or two, if you can. Do your own thing (hell, I'm trying to). I'm pretty sure he will try to contact you or at least try to talk to you about the situation...sometimes doing nothing is the best solution there is..that's just me, but what do I know? I'm trying to get one damn date...

I kind of agree with what USCTaurusGal said.

It's sort of a "if she actually likes/cares about me then she'll choose to stay of her own will" and all will be good.

"If she doesn't actually like me like she says she does, then she'll disappear and spend her time on some other dude she liked more."

What's the points of fighting for someone if they're unhappy with you? Better to let them go off and be happy rather than try to make them stay with you if they're not content/happy and bored/miserable when they're with you. That's the way I am at least and maybe the way he thinks.

He did say "do what makes you happy"... so that kinda shows that he wants you to be happy (what I said in the paragraph above) even if that means choosing not to stay with/around him.

Posted by Taurus83

What's the points of fighting for someone if they're unhappy with you? Better to let them go off and be happy rather than try to make them stay with you if they're not content/happy and bored/miserable when they're with you. That's the way I am at least and maybe the way he thinks.

Absolutely. That doesn't mean he's kicking you out of the door, but if he's telling you to do what makes YOU happy, he's ultimately looking out for you and if he senses you are frustrated/bored, etc with the current state - he's giving you a gentlemanly "out."

xScorpioluvx -- cutiebullie is given you some of that tough bull love. Heed her words.

Thanks for everyones opinions but im just going to move on from him

what do you mean i've done my part? he made it pretty clear u havent seen all of the conversation im wasting my time

Posted by xScorpioGirlx
Ive been going back and forth with a taurus male for a year i asked him last night if he wants me to move on he said do whats best for u i asked again he said do what makes u happy asked again he said he dont care and asked where all this was coming from? do u think he doesnt care or did he just say that because i kept pushing him i just wanted him to say yes or no but he didnt..

I hate this shit right here thou.

Damn magneto.

Posted by xScorpioGirlx
Thanks for everyones opinions but im just going to move on from him

I think you're smart. When a man loves a woman, he lets her know it and feel it so she never has to ask the questions you did and receive the watered down indecisive response you got. Find someone who treats you really well and makes you feel that you are loved everyday. This is a successful relationship IMHO. This guy just sounds too immature to make a commitment.

Posted by imghost79
From my experience, when a guy says do what you want to do and doesn't give a definite answer, he doesn't want you to go, but is unsure you. It's like he is doubting you maybe? Like, why is she asking me this?
I thing that he still cares, he is just baffled at why you kept asking him that question.
I don't give advice, but I would just fall back and see what happens. I am having a Taurus issue as well, but at least you have yours (on a regular basis)...
Maybe if you fall back from him he will call or express himself in his way to let you know that he still cares.
I am a scorpio too, so I know how you feel...yes or no. black or white. this or that.
We NEED definite answers so we know how to conduct ourselves around people. Without that, we are left to think and think and think!
TRY to chill. Don't call for a day or two, if you can. Do your own thing (hell, I'm trying to). I'm pretty sure he will try to contact you or at least try to talk to you about the situation...sometimes doing nothing is the best solution there is..that's just me, but what do I know? I'm trying to get one damn date...

yeah,

they are frustrating

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Posted by xScorpioGirlx
Ive been going back and forth with a taurus male for a year i asked him last night if he wants me to move on he said do whats best for u i asked again he said do what makes u happy asked again he said he dont care and asked where all this was coming from? do u think he doesnt care or did he just say that because i kept pushing him i just wanted him to say yes or no but he didnt..

JFC just leave him. Really. He doesn't care. He doesn't. This will hurt you but think about it, he seem not to mind losing you and what does it mean to you? He doesn't care. Plain simple. So simple. Too simple even!

Take back what's left to your pride and leave him. Make the decision for him. Either you stay and be eating your heart out with him not caring enough or you leave stat cold turkey and never look back!

It's been 6 years hun.

Good post but 6 years is 6 years 😛

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My ex-husband did this same thing all the way through our 15 year relationship. "If you want to go, then go" "If you're gonna leave, just leave" He only did this when he felt insecure. It was his way of saying, "I'm scared I'm going to lose you" ---well, he was right...



But to the OP, what he's looking for is confirmation from you that this is what you really want, because he's unsure. He wants you to put your hand on his cheek, gaze deep into his eyes and with sincerity say "I'm yours, I don't ever want to leave". This will put him at ease. The only problem is once he becomes content, he'll get comfortable and go back to the same behavior he was doing before 😢

My ex-husband was a Taurus Sun and Venus