What happened here?

Hello everyone, hope everyone is doing well. Here is the situation (thank you for reading, by the way):

A Taurus guy and myself, a Cancerian girl, met last year. We liked each other, the connection was visible to both of us. I got scared because of this and the fact that I was falling for him so I forced myself to go slowly. At the beginning, he said he was not looking for a serious relationship, he knew I wanted otherwise and still we decided to continue seeing each other. I fell deeply in love with him and started pulling back. One month after we started dating, he asked me to be his girl and I never replied yes or no to him. We didn't talked about this again. He started to pull back, and three weeks later after this, we talked and he said he realised that he wanted to be alone, he was in this process of self discovery, he couldn't do this tome and that he wanted to stop this before it was out of his control; that I deserved a bette man, that he couldn't offer me what I was looking for. Of course, this broke my tiny heart since he only mentioned this once I addressed the subject and not before. Time passed, we started a sort of a friendship but he could never act as a friend, he always pulled back whenever I approached him. When I stopped reaching out for him, he started looking for me. He would do weird things like flirting with me in front of my friends, trying to get my attention by being a little physical with other girls, staring at me while he thought I wasn't noticing this, taking care of me, and so on. The last thing he did was staring at me during a lots of time, straight into my eyes without blinking. I thought that there was a progress and all I could do was to stay where I was and continue to see if he reached out and then tell him my feelings for him. Three weeks later, I found out he just started a relationship with one of our female friends. I don't understand how I didn't see this coming, they've known each other for years and about a month ago or so, she still had a boyfriend. Another thing I don't understand is that it is very notorious when he is dating someone, since he likes everyone to know he is excited about it. What happened here?

I want your points of view, advice (if there is any). What do you all think about this?

and along comes betty broderick

Posted by Koniucha
What do you mean what happened here?

He wanted you to be his girlfriend at some point and you just ignored the question and pulled away from him.

If you just ignore someone's feelings, eventually they will move on.

Thank you, I'm really angry at myself. Not because of him but because of me. You made me think about it and now I see it differently. Kinda sad that I didn't see this by myself haha, but I totally appreciate it.

I also appreciate sarcasm. So, I messed up and that comment about a murderer has made me laugh.

Taurus doesn't like being rejected, they try to protect themselves from getting hurt. You rejected him by not answering him. He moved on!

Posted by CancerianGirl9


I want your points of view, advice (if there is any). What do you all think about this?

You went from...

Potential/Possibility (Bulls move with caution)...

To...

Absolute Certainty... (Once a Bull's mind is made up, that's it!).


To...
Flighty, Unreliable...and Nahhh... (My guess, there must be a Gemini Moon or Gemini Venus somewhere...why put all your eggs in one basket, when there are so many wonders gracing the greener pastures).

That sums it up!

Posted by NaomiB
You cancer people play too many games.

The young and un-evolved ones do.
The evolved ones don't.

The more evolved ones have a stronger grasp and awareness of their emotions, and they're able to convey it and communicate.

The un-evolved ones are game-playing emotional headcases that are full of drama. They put the fire signs to shame, lol.

But I will admit, a more evolved Crab is suitable for a Taurus mate.

We're some ballsy individuals despite our calm, laid back demeanor.

Yup, I made lots of mistakes at the beginning of the developing "getting-to-know-each-other". I really thank you all for having the time to read through these lines. My cousins told me the same: " you wanted stability, and when he offered it to you and there was no answer from you, to him that wasn't stable so he pulled back".

I had no ovaries (so to speak) to realise that I was taking it out on him at the beginning. Now I see that. It was really surprising since I tend to keep myself together yet I failed to do so with him, and because of this, I decided to come clean to him telling him about my feelings for him. I expect nothing from him. I know it's too late.


Btw, there was a comment involving a name, and that name belongs to a murderer. Kinda weird, I know... Lol.

I'm a June Cancer.

So, I reached out to him and came clean since I felt it was the time to stop my fears controlling me. I let him know this:

"Congratulations for your new relationship. I'm happy for you. It has been beautiful to meet you, I'm truly thankful to know that there are people like you. I wanted to talk to you before all of this happened but I moved slow. I am sorry for having a strange personality, I also have issues and no one is responsible for this. If you don't know what I feel for you, let's be clear once and for all: I love you and you are the one I want. A little late, I know. All this time I knew it all along and that scared me, I couldn't handle it. Your body language is quite evident and it impresses me that you made this decision. Well, you know where to find me if you wished to corroborate what I just told you. If I could change the past, I would, without a doubt. I cannot and I have to deal with that, and it's clear to me that it is not only up to me. Thank you for reading. P. S.: Don't be scared, please."

I knew there was a huge possibility that he was going to be really angry because of the amount of information and the whole situation. My gut was right. The best he could do was to ignore this and that's it... But...

He read it and replied a day after:

"Look, I have never loved you, I don't love you and I will never love you. In fact, I don't think I will ever consider you as a friend after this, I mean, understand that, please, now!!!"

I'm not even angry nor surprised. Of course I won't get in touch with him again. Aside from the fact that we were not even friends, so I'm at peace at last.

Again, thank you all for reading.

ouch. that's harsh.

what does he mean by "In fact, I don't think I will ever consider you as a friend after this, I mean, understand that, please, now!!!"

have you been stalking him? it's ok. we've all been there...😏

I know, it may seem that I was stalking him but I was way too far from doing that. We were forced to see each other, or tolerate each other (that's more accurate) because of work. We even had a fling, and then he pulled back again. I was hurt and kept a healthy distance between the both of us, for me to digest everything that had happened. Everyone noticed it was difficult for both of us and we both made an effort to be fair to each other. Sometimes I was working and Taurus guy wasn't even around.

I wrote to him by the end of December, last year. He read my letter and then he approached to me in the nicest way possible, I was surprised. He seemed happy and comfortable around me. I didn't look for him. I gave him some presents for his new home, and the way he reacted was strange: he got really excited, it seemed like no one had ever made him presents.

His best friend was actually on the verge of stalking me. You see: I met all his friends, and they all accepted me quite quickly. I ended up working with one of them. Taurus guy and I stopped dating and suddenly, his best friend (Gemini guy) starts reaching out and just when I opened up to him about the fact that his friend and I were not dating anymore, Gemini guy asks me out... My first thought was: "seriously? Is this your best friend, love?". I rejected him the day after and even though he said there was not a problem with my answer, he always kept that hope and talked about his best friend in the most unexpected ways, until he realised I was in love with someone else.

I remember once these guys and I spoke about the issue with the Gemini guy, and they all said that when Taurus guy brought me to their home to meet them, they all were really impressed by me and that that situation had never happened before.

It is a very silly situation that is confusing me but, his reaction doesn't surprise me. As I wrote before, it was way too much information for him to handle.