What happens when you tell a Taurus you are done and sick of their endless excuses and broken promises? We've been seeing each other for almost 4 months and he finds every excuse why we can't spend time together but gets mad when I tell him we should just part ways because clearly he has lost interest. His response is stop saying that and it is really aggravating when you allude to the fact that I'm with someone else or have cheated on your. I told him I had enough on Saturday and was sick of the endless excuses and that it had been way too long since we've seen each other and to take care of himself. Last night was the first night in almost four months that we didn't talk and I didn't attempt to reach out to him like normal. Will he go quietly or retreat for a few days? And when will he come get his stuff because he has refused to in the past.
What happens when you tell a Taurus you are done and sick of their endless excuses and broken promis
Posted by evalani290Posted by onceinalifetime15Four months isn't that long for a Taurus,usually. It only seems long to the other person if you rush the process of getting to know each other and ignore the dynamic. You will get ahead before him and become frustrated. What's your sign?
What happens when you tell a Taurus you are done and sick of their endless excuses and broken promises? We've been seeing each other for almost 4 months and he finds every excuse why we can't spend time together but gets mad when I tell him we should just part ways because clearly he has lost interest. His response is stop saying that and it is really aggravating when you allude to the fact that I'm with someone else or have cheated on your. I told him I had enough on Saturday and was sick of the endless excuses and that it had been way too long since we've seen each other and to take care of himself. Last night was the first night in almost four months that we didn't talk and I didn't attempt to reach out to him like normal. Will he go quietly or retreat for a few days? And when will he come get his stuff because he has refused to in the past.click to expand
I am a Sagittarius.
He wanted to be completely exclusive from the second day we corresponded and even more so a week later when we met in person. He has explained away us not being able to see each other because of kids, work, etc. He supposedly hurt his back last week and as the weekend neared closer he said it was feeling better and that no matter what we would see each other on Saturday. Well then that didn't happen because he was supposedly in so much pain. If he wasn't responding to my messages immediately when I send or sent them I would think that he had another interest and that was the reason for his absence but that isn't the case. I'm just not sure why he lacks the desire. He was so good about texting me first and asking me how I was in the beginning but in the last two months I always have to initiate and as soon as I do...I get an immediate response like he was waiting. I have spent hours and hours reading about Taurus' to gain an understanding and for the most part I think I understand but this behavior has me confused. Since I didn't contact him yesterday do I just leave him alone until he comes to me?
He wanted to be completely exclusive from the second day we corresponded and even more so a week later when we met in person. He has explained away us not being able to see each other because of kids, work, etc. He supposedly hurt his back last week and as the weekend neared closer he said it was feeling better and that no matter what we would see each other on Saturday. Well then that didn't happen because he was supposedly in so much pain. If he wasn't responding to my messages immediately when I send or sent them I would think that he had another interest and that was the reason for his absence but that isn't the case. I'm just not sure why he lacks the desire. He was so good about texting me first and asking me how I was in the beginning but in the last two months I always have to initiate and as soon as I do...I get an immediate response like he was waiting. I have spent hours and hours reading about Taurus' to gain an understanding and for the most part I think I understand but this behavior has me confused. Since I didn't contact him yesterday do I just leave him alone until he comes to me?
My sun is in sag, moon in Taurus and his sun is in Taurus and I believe his moon is in Cancer.
Sensitive is an understatement! And you are absolutely correct! He is incredibly stubborn! That's probably why he didn't show up on Saturday because I didn't immediately respond to him and when I did I asked him to be at my house in an hour and he wanted 2.5 which I said was fine and then he started with how his back hurt so bad, etc and then text he was still trying to get over to see me and that is when I'd had it and told him I wasn't surprised he wasn't going to make it yet again and that the excuses were endless with him and that I was tired of it and that I hoped his back felt better and to take care. It's not like it had only been a week since we've seen each other...it had been almost two months. Told him I put something he left at my house on the patio and he could come get it at his leisure and that I put it there so it didn't have to be awkward seeing each other and to-date...he has yet to come pick it up. Just don't know if I should leave him alone and let him reach out to me or if I should contact him like I always do. I want to add that I've told him on several occasions that I need him to contact me and ask how I'm doing from time to time like he use to and like I do for him and that I was taking the blame for allowing him to get complacent and yet he still didn't follow through with seeing me on Saturday.

Hope it get better for you. It's been almost 3 years with my Taurus (we're not exclusive) and he is still making excuses and promises to treat me better. He refuses to let me leave him alone for some reason. He is very stubborn and very set in his ways. That makes it hard for him to change the nature of our relationship. I have chosen to live my life and make time for him when I want to. Until he locks it down I am free to do what I want. He's upset by it but refuses to change. His loss!

To me, it doesn't sound like he's ticking your major boxes here. He doesn't have to be a lapdog and get overly excited and bound around at the prospect of seeing you but after 2/4 months it shouldn't look like it does currently. If he is like this now then how will it ever get any better?
There's being lazy and being uninterested. Perhaps he's taking your presence for granted somewhat?
He seems to have a long list of priorities including work and kids. It's not been long but it's been long enough to gauge where you fall on that list. It doesn't seem particularly high.
He might have back pain but I assume that isn't stopping him from doing everything he wants to do? Is he still going to work? Is he still going to see his kids? Is he still doing social things? Is he still running his errands?
If the answer to the above is yes then great.
Is he making time for you?
It doesn't seem like he is. That's not so great.
He kind of sounds a bit selfish and perhaps this just isn't a match between you. Just because you've been seeing each other for four months it doesn't mean it's going to mean much or turn into something longer term. Four months is long enough to get to know each other and so far you know enough about him to make a decision about what is working for you.
That's just my take on it from your posts. I'm not a Taurus or a man so take from it what you will.
There's being lazy and being uninterested. Perhaps he's taking your presence for granted somewhat?
He seems to have a long list of priorities including work and kids. It's not been long but it's been long enough to gauge where you fall on that list. It doesn't seem particularly high.
He might have back pain but I assume that isn't stopping him from doing everything he wants to do? Is he still going to work? Is he still going to see his kids? Is he still doing social things? Is he still running his errands?
If the answer to the above is yes then great.
Is he making time for you?
It doesn't seem like he is. That's not so great.
He kind of sounds a bit selfish and perhaps this just isn't a match between you. Just because you've been seeing each other for four months it doesn't mean it's going to mean much or turn into something longer term. Four months is long enough to get to know each other and so far you know enough about him to make a decision about what is working for you.
That's just my take on it from your posts. I'm not a Taurus or a man so take from it what you will.

Posted by miimiiThree years—
Hope it get better for you. It's been almost 3 years with my Taurus (we're not exclusive) and he is still making excuses and promises to treat me better. He refuses to let me leave him alone for some reason. He is very stubborn and very set in his ways. That makes it hard for him to change the nature of our relationship. I have chosen to live my life and make time for him when I want to. Until he locks it down I am free to do what I want. He's upset by it but refuses to change. His loss!
Fucking hell...

Posted by AgentP911they are fwbs...Posted by miimiiThree years—
Hope it get better for you. It's been almost 3 years with my Taurus (we're not exclusive) and he is still making excuses and promises to treat me better. He refuses to let me leave him alone for some reason. He is very stubborn and very set in his ways. That makes it hard for him to change the nature of our relationship. I have chosen to live my life and make time for him when I want to. Until he locks it down I am free to do what I want. He's upset by it but refuses to change. His loss!
Fucking hell...click to expand

Posted by jeaneYeah... Maybe... BUT... The words MiiMii is using don't necessarily fit...Posted by AgentP911they are fwbs...Posted by miimiiThree years—
Hope it get better for you. It's been almost 3 years with my Taurus (we're not exclusive) and he is still making excuses and promises to treat me better. He refuses to let me leave him alone for some reason. He is very stubborn and very set in his ways. That makes it hard for him to change the nature of our relationship. I have chosen to live my life and make time for him when I want to. Until he locks it down I am free to do what I want. He's upset by it but refuses to change. His loss!
Fucking hell...click to expand
It's been three years and she wants him to treat her better... It's a FWB... She didn't sign the GF contract.
Until he locks it down... It's a FWB... All he's done is lock her arse down so he can put his dick in it... Ain't no ring here but her rosy one!!
Sorry, I know this thread isn't her to discuss MiiMii.

Not my thread, just sharing. I didn't want a relationship but decided to exclusively have sex with Taurus. I believe fwb can go out together and not be committed. He decided that he could do that because he doesn't want me to go out with anybody else. But it is only talk. I know that now. He just makes excuses and promises. So I've been extra busy lately dating and hanging with friends. I just wasn't used to a man being so affectionate and loving in a fwb relationship and I got caught up for a while. He says he loves and needs me so I got confused. I UNDERSTAND now that his actions don't match. I've heard it all on here about my situation. I AM AWARE of how stupid it sounds. I was just sharing...thank you!

Chill pill required for MiiMii!! ^^^^^ œ
Posted by AgentP911Posted by miimiiThree years—
Hope it get better for you. It's been almost 3 years with my Taurus (we're not exclusive) and he is still making excuses and promises to treat me better. He refuses to let me leave him alone for some reason. He is very stubborn and very set in his ways. That makes it hard for him to change the nature of our relationship. I have chosen to live my life and make time for him when I want to. Until he locks it down I am free to do what I want. He's upset by it but refuses to change. His loss!
Fucking hell...click to expand
Hi Agent! Oh yeah, she is right. I know Taurus men that have taken 3 years or more to finally become exclusive. Stubborness, laziness, set in their ways, fears and insecurities have so much to do with it. Also I personally think there is also years of "testing" that person's loyalty is a major factor. It can be mentally draining which is why I agree with her by doing her own thing until she gets that exclusive title. She has to keep her busy or it will drive her crazy. I read somewhere that so many Taurus men lose out on potential relationships because they take just entirely too long to make up their minds.
Posted by Infinite8
😐 wow... Three years is a LONG TIME of non-commitment from a partner. That's just disrespectful on many levels. No way I could treat myself that way or allow anyone to do that to me...
I think you got eternally friend-zoned mimii....
Taurus men don't see it as a long time. They have their own way of thinking. They want to be so sure that they make the right decision with the right person which is why many women are not capable of handling it. She is at the stage called "the waiting game" and who knows how long that will take until he decides that she is the one. Every woman I know who has either a Taurus boyfriend or husband have all gone through this exact same thing. I have a male Taurus co-worker and it took almost 4 years or so for him to decide his current girlfriend was the one. Including the dating, ups and downs and break ups during those 4 years, they have been together for 9 years. Now she is giving hints that she is ready to get married.

Posted by Iamawineloveri don't know if i am seen as 'the one' but god knows i wasn't going to wait four years to get the exclusive label.Posted by Infinite8
😐 wow... Three years is a LONG TIME of non-commitment from a partner. That's just disrespectful on many levels. No way I could treat myself that way or allow anyone to do that to me...
I think you got eternally friend-zoned mimii....
Taurus men don't see it as a long time. They have their own way of thinking. They want to be so sure that they make the right decision with the right person which is why many women are not capable of handling it. She is at the stage called "the waiting game" and who knows how long that will take until he decides that she is the one. Every woman I know who has either a Taurus boyfriend or husband have all gone through this exact same thing. I have a male Taurus co-worker and it took almost 4 years or so for him to decide his current girlfriend was the one. Including the dating, ups and downs and break ups during those 4 years, they have been together for 9 years. Now she is giving hints that she is ready to get married.click to expand
from what i see there are some who like to entertain a lot of potential partners and others, who would rather keep themselves to themselves until someone of worth came along. or am i just making that up?

Posted by Infinite8my taurus didn't have a string of women on his arm when i met him. in fact he is quite picky. it's one of the things i liked about him. i went through an assessment phase that is certainly true but not a waiting phase where i was on hold until he made his mind up. before our first contact his mind was already set.
No Jean, you are not making it up. God knows I've had a handful of Taurus men suitors and NONE made me wait to tell me their intentions, want marriage for me or full on commitment. Many went through HUGE lengths to do so as well... So I don't even agree that they are lazy! Sorry, hasn't been my experience with them AT ALL. For me the opposite has been proven time and time and again.
maybe it is an age thing. maybe the older bulls just prefer the sound of their own company rather than having a gaggle of groupies or as busy would say, a popular harem while they wait to decide their next move.
but yes i8, that's been my experience too. i don't think they are lazy. cautious most definitely but not lazy. far from it.

wow that's probably the longest title for a thread i've seen here, it's usually cut off much sooner than that .
Posted by Infinite8Posted by jeaneNo Jean, you are not making it up. God knows I've had a handful of Taurus men suitors and NONE made me wait to tell me their intentions, want marriage for me or full on commitment. Many went through HUGE lengths to do so as well... So I don't even agree that they are lazy! Sorry, hasn't been my experience with them AT ALL. For me the opposite has been proven time and time and again.Posted by Iamawineloveri don't know if i am seen as 'the one' but god knows i wasn't going to wait four years to get the exclusive label.Posted by Infinite8
😐 wow... Three years is a LONG TIME of non-commitment from a partner. That's just disrespectful on many levels. No way I could treat myself that way or allow anyone to do that to me...
I think you got eternally friend-zoned mimii....
Taurus men don't see it as a long time. They have their own way of thinking. They want to be so sure that they make the right decision with the right person which is why many women are not capable of handling it. She is at the stage called "the waiting game" and who knows how long that will take until he decides that she is the one. Every woman I know who has either a Taurus boyfriend or husband have all gone through this exact same thing. I have a male Taurus co-worker and it took almost 4 years or so for him to decide his current girlfriend was the one. Including the dating, ups and downs and break ups during those 4 years, they have been together for 9 years. Now she is giving hints that she is ready to get married.
from what i see there are some who like to entertain a lot of potential partners and others, who would rather keep themselves to themselves until someone of worth came along. or am i just making that up?click to expand
That's great that none of them have ever made you wait but unfortunately that doesn't happen to everyone. All Taurus men are different I think; maybe some that move faster than others. From what she says it sounds like she has a slow moving Bull.

Posted by Iamawineloveror maybe, quite simply, she has an arsehole....i mean, metaphorically speaking... 😐
That's great that none of them have ever made you wait but unfortunately that doesn't happen to everyone. All Taurus men are different I think; maybe some that move faster than others. From what she says it sounds like she has a slow moving Bull.

Posted by busyeyes88oh jesus, speaking of contracts, you just reminded of the negotiations we had to go through to get there! we even had to define terms and conditions! i swear to god we were only steps away from signing some sort of blood oath by the time both parties were reconciled.
THANKS Libraus.. These girls act as if they have no choice in the matter as if the taurus men hv put a gun to their heads and forced them to stay in a non -exclusive relationship!!! Any guy regardless of sign is capable of pulling thst shit but it depends on the female to say what her terms and conditions are and if she does get what she wants be prepared to not settle for anything less and walk away!!
Taurus is very good at drawing up relationship contracts if they feel the person is worthy....
Told him I was meeting a guy friend for dinner and wanted to see him for a few minutes before I did. He said he couldn't meet me right now and told me I was making a big deal out of his stuff and just to hold on it.
It wasn't to make him jealous...I've always been nothing but transparent with him so that in the event I was out having dinner and he happen to be at the same place or found out about it that it didn't look like I was hiding anything.

i agree with busy. you need to take a big step back and loosen your grip. i also think you need to stop threatening and whining and just take action.
you have to decide if you trust him and trust the relationship or decide that it isn't. if it is, then you work through it without whining and pouting. you tell him what you would like and then trust he will come up to your expectation (eventually) because he cares about you and wants to see you happy. or you decide that he is incapable of fulfilling your needs, you call off the game and take your ball home. there is no point trying to force someone to be something other than what they are. it does you no favours.
if he is a little bit of a hypochondriac with his back, well, you've found a flaw. does the rest of the package outweigh any negatives? what could you have done to make things better? could you have gone to him instead? taken a hot water bottle, maybe a shot of whiskey and some baby oil?
if you are together then you must think well of him. if you can't, then why are you together? is he not an amazing person? then give him the benefit of the doubt.
you have to decide if you trust him and trust the relationship or decide that it isn't. if it is, then you work through it without whining and pouting. you tell him what you would like and then trust he will come up to your expectation (eventually) because he cares about you and wants to see you happy. or you decide that he is incapable of fulfilling your needs, you call off the game and take your ball home. there is no point trying to force someone to be something other than what they are. it does you no favours.
if he is a little bit of a hypochondriac with his back, well, you've found a flaw. does the rest of the package outweigh any negatives? what could you have done to make things better? could you have gone to him instead? taken a hot water bottle, maybe a shot of whiskey and some baby oil?
if you are together then you must think well of him. if you can't, then why are you together? is he not an amazing person? then give him the benefit of the doubt.

^^^ all of the above. Just a bit pointless really.
Found out he's married so I have shut and locked that door on that "relationship" once and for all and made sure I blocked him from all the ways he could contact me. I don't knowingly have relationships with married men. I feel bad for his wife and wish her the best of luck dealing with the mess that is him. He better get his running shoes out of the closet and dusted them off because he's going to need them to try and out run karma.

When someone says to me it's over. I'm like cool and move on especially a Sagittarius.. You're doing me the favor because I hate arguments. And usually sex is all I would want if you just keep popping up making comments of playing mind games. So make sure when you want to end something with Taurus mean it. We have so much shit to do than worry about relationship shit that seems to be at ends. Otherwise Taurus are your number one fan..
If a Taurus wants you, they will make time and effort and no excuses are necessary. See Sagittarius is just alot of difference. Just sex is the purpose of these to signs.
If a Taurus wants you, they will make time and effort and no excuses are necessary. See Sagittarius is just alot of difference. Just sex is the purpose of these to signs.

Posted by onceinalifetime15That does not surprise me.
Found out he's married so I have shut and locked that door on that "relationship" once and for all and made sure I blocked him from all the ways he could contact me. I don't knowingly have relationships with married men. I feel bad for his wife and wish her the best of luck dealing with the mess that is him. He better get his running shoes out of the closet and dusted them off because he's going to need them to try and out run karma.
Being unavailable and providing endless excuses for why he CANNOT do something instead of what he CAN do is usually concerning. You weren't a priority because he was not in a position to make you a priority. You need to do some research on these people initially!!
You dodged a bullet there. You're a Sag, great optimism, you don't want some tosser bringing you down!!
Does anyone have a good story about a taurus man ? I've been reading and reading and it seems hopeless. 7 months now with my Taurus man and it's now hot and cold. I'm an aries woman and i think i've been really patient waiting for him to show me something..i'm tired of empty promises..he says i'm rushing him which seemed crazy to me...but after reading alittle about his sign i understand him alittle better. However i don't see myself waiting much longer..i've already changed so much for this man..i've never had to read up about someone zodiac sign before just to date them. It's just a whole lot of confusion and i'm tired. I see some people have been waiting years which just makes me even more ready to end it. There is alot of love between us..we both call each other soulmates...but it's just been a whole lot of ups and downs..not responding to messages..."all of a sudden he has internet problems" so he doesnt always have access...i think he has someone else...i've asked him and he 100% denies it...but i don't believe him. He gets upset and said he doesn't like that i'm doubting him and having these bad thoughts about him, because "cheating goes against his values"... so i dropped the subject and never asked again...i've been giving my all to this man...and it seems like that's always going to be the case...me giving and compromising but he stays stuck in his ways...i don't think it's worth it anymore...i would have to see some major changes for me to stay...i don't play games and the on and off thing is getting to me...i'm either commited or i'm single...and right now single is looking pretty good....one thing with me is i give chances...the lots more chances...but once i get to that point where i just lock down that's it...and nothing anyone says will change that...so he should be careful if he really want this aries girl...
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