Why isn't he contacting me?

I've been dating a taurus man for nearly couple of months now. Things have been good, apart from lately where he isn't really texting as much as he used to. In the beginning he would text me loads and was very open with saying how much he liked me, he knows that I like him a hell of a lot. I joked around with him about how bad he is at texting in which he laughed and agreed. He texts now and again as if he is just checking in.

He recently went away last weekend with some friends, i barely got to have a conversation with him as he wouldn't really text back much. The last message I sent was that I hoped he had a safe journey, in which I had no reply. Last time I saw him he kept mentioning how busy he is with work etc and gave no impression that he wanted to see me 😢

It' now Tuesday and I still have had no message. I keep reminding myself that he may be just busy, but I see that hes been online etc. I'm getting the horrible feeling that he may feel like he has control over me cos he knows i like him and isn't bothering as much? I can see hes online and was quite a bit yesterday. I feel that if you really liked someone that much you would make time for them and want to speak to them. I don't want to text first as I have done lots and i don't want it to seem like I'm chasing him.

Is he losing interest? or is this how taurus men generally are? He's driving me crazy!!

cherrykissesxo,

Is that my man? lol. he left Monday and he emailed me... we had a great week end. I am his ex. lol.

who knows we share the same Taurus man.

lol ... The other woman

Its really sad hw most women have this problems. its the consent messaging from the guy but after a while it dies down and that's where we begin to question his behaviour. Yeh we all have busy moments and keeping that lil distant is always needed but most go beyond that...

#CommunicationIssues

Sorry to say but it sounds like a blow off. Going away w/friends and not inviting you; contacting you less frequently; claiming to be "busy." Not encouraging signs there. Of course it's only been 2 months but the momentum isn't moving forward so that's worrisome. I'd wait for him to contact you and ask him IN PERSON if his feelings have changed. I find men will tell you the truth if you confront them b/c they don't want to hurt your feelings. So ask him.

As for texting, people have to start waking up to the fact it's a TERRIBLE courtship tool. When you're getting to know someone it should be over the phone and in person. Texting requires no real effort and is the most flim flam sort of intimacy. It's also part of the bullshit "hook up" culture.

You folks are overreacting IMO. This is typical Taurus man stuff. When we know we've got you, we get a little lazy with stuff like texting, which most of us hate. I guarantee you next time you are with him, he gives you his full attention. Just keep your self occupied, do your own thing. Don't try to make him jealous, but hang with your friends when he hangs with his, be somewhat independent. And only a couple months in, don't give away the store. Don't tell him "I love you and I only want to be with you for the rest of my life." He should still be courting you at this point. Make him do some work to impress you, before you fold.

2 months is like a fraction of a millisecond, when you factor for the dilated time that a Taurus lives in.

What sign are you?

I totally agree with tlovesscorpio, but I don't think this is just a taurus thing I think it can be a man thing. Men and women process emotions differently. We are not the same whatsoever.

Men need space, we need reassurance and bonding after we've already bonded. I've read that after a man has spent any significant time with a woman or has emotionally connected with her, he needs space and time to feel masculine again. Just some me time.

This happens even in marriages. So this alone does not mean he isn't into you. All men call and text everyday in the beginning, when y'all are more comfy with eachother, he can relax a bit and so can you!

The best thing to do during these times is give him his space. Don't call or text, & when he comes back around which could take a few days to a week or so even, accept him with open arms. Don't make him feel like he's done something wrong bc he has not. His space is a primal need for him, much like breathing and eating is for us.

Now what you don have to do is go out or spend time with him the min he comes back around, bc your a confident busy woman & in his absence, "you've made plans". I think that's attractive to men, for you to have a life. Don't question him & don't make him feel bad, but don't make him feel like you've been waiting by the phone. You didn't even notice his absence bc you've been so busy. 🙂

I had a wonderful evening with the guy I'm dating on Friday. We really connected and he was openly affectionate and loving towards me, it's Tuesday and we have not talked since. I am not the least bit worried. & I hve not reached out to him either.

Posted by JBG
I had a wonderful evening with the guy I'm dating on Friday. We really connected and he was openly affectionate and loving towards me, it's Tuesday and we have not talked since. I am not the least bit worried. & I hve not reached out to him either.

so wonderful... yet so rare

Posted by shellshocker

Posted by JBG
I had a wonderful evening with the guy I'm dating on Friday. We really connected and he was openly affectionate and loving towards me, it's Tuesday and we have not talked since. I am not the least bit worried. & I hve not reached out to him either.

so wonderful... yet so rare

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Whatev, I'm not worried, you shouldn't be either.

Posted by JBG

Posted by shellshocker

Posted by JBG
I had a wonderful evening with the guy I'm dating on Friday. We really connected and he was openly affectionate and loving towards me, it's Tuesday and we have not talked since. I am not the least bit worried. & I hve not reached out to him either.

so wonderful... yet so rare

Whatev, I'm not worried, you shouldn't be either.

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huh?

i wasn't being sarcastic, it was a compliment

oh I see...

I thought you were the statement you made, that you weren't the least bit worried. But you saw my compliment of your self-confidence as a poke, so...

*sigh*

nevermind

oh Tls,

I think that is her issues. She focused a lot to that Taurus man. Taurus has its own thing to do.


Cherrykissesxo,

Give a bit space. He said he is busy. He will come back later.. just breathe... lol

If he is online.... ignore him a bit, just hide. lol

Posted by shellshocker
oh I see...

I thought you were the statement you made, that you weren't the least bit worried. But you saw my compliment of your self-confidence as a poke, so...

*sigh*

nevermind

Lol oh. I'm sorry, computer reads can be difficult to interpret. I thought you meant the night was so wonderful but it's rare bc we haven't talked. I'm sorry hun. Forgive me.

tiz,

He is busy... he didn't even notice she was online.

Haha... this happens to me too...

I don't know what it is. But it drives me nuts.

Like, don't you want to know how I'm doing? Haven't seen him in seven weeks -.- He doesn't seem that interested. And only when I text him does he text me, which is barely ever, like once every two weeks.

And yet I know for a fact that he is still interested, it's one of the most irritating things.. I'm done playing games.

If he hasn't come around in a week or so. Maybe a week and a half, you can be worried. But not just yet. & even after a week & a half he could still be interested BUT by that time is keep an eye on him to make sure he's taking you seriously. That could be a serious player move.

*Id keep

Posted by starlover
Most men these days don't want a commitment .. if you have sex too early with them they can lose interest


Just let him go

I actually agree with this.. Its like they say what you want to hear, and when things lead towards the commitment, they back off or just get lazy

Taurus don't like 2 settl down,in case u women cant figure it out 4 som reason

Wow I didn't expect such a response, thank you so much! The advice that has been posted has been extremely helpful.

Just to update on things, he eventually texted later on that day. I didn't reply straight away (I've always texted back within at least 15- 30 mins)and waited to see what hes response was. After a fair few hours he texted me again! That is unusual for him. He was very interested in wanting to know what i got up to at the weekend.

I do feel that he does still like me and is interested, and he has mentioned to me before that he is taking it slow and didn't want to rush into things. (typical taurus right!?)

M143 I do agree that is my problem, I'm started to focus on him, more than I should. I can't help it though, as being with him just makes me so happy. I mainly see him on weekends as he works a lot during the week and he lives quite a way from me. It's getting to the point where I'm really getting my hopes up to see him at the weekends. I would really love to move things further instead if just 'dating' but I'm scared to ask him what his thoughts/feelings are, as I already have done (I was drunk at the time so it was kinda by accident).

TaurusLovesScorpio My sign is Aquarius, so I rely on verbal commication, which is why he is driving me bloody mad!! lol

Cherrykissesxo,

Just be patient with him hunny... Mine left monday.. we're not going to see each other maybe 6

months..it was his plan 5 yrs but then He switched off into months because of me.. He said He will

come back. So I stick his plan. If it fails... I am not worried. We already broke up 3rd times...

but Im ok with that as far as we have emails.. I am not going to worry about then...

Don't tell him you love things to go further. Let him tell you that... just be patient..

It takes months and some years to wait for them. He is just plainly busy for now...

Just be patient and do your things and he will come around... have faith.

idk,

I used to stalk in my past relationship. I discovered myself really insane.. I don't wanna do it..

hahaha.. it feels me like... hey M, are you that desperate? lol.

Totally get what you mean. Yeah I think I will just keep it to myself and wait for him, I don't wanna ruin things 🙂 I'm still giving it a while texting him back when he does text me. I'm trying to make it seem like I'm not always available etc.

Whats making me a bit unsure is what to do about this weekend. Obviously I would love to see him, but I don't want to be the one initiating all the time. I was the one who initiated meeting a couple of weekends ago (the weekend before he went away) and he replied with "of course". He isn't much of a planner (which is complete opposite to me) and seems to only arrange things on the very last min.

He hasn't said anything so far about meeting this weekend, do you think I should call/text him to see if he wants to do anything, or wait till he asks me?

To be honest, I haven't noticed anything particularly different about the way Taurus man behave regarding texting/calls then any other man/woman. Maybe they can be short on words..that is all.
Have two Taurus ex and I am in a relationship with one. One was in contact with me non stop till day one on, the other was sending me poetry at the beginning, after a little less but still checking on me 3 times a day at least. My current Taurus boyfriend told me right from the start that he is horrible at texting - well he calls me minimum 2 times a day (from the very first day) or toss me at least 1 message. Why? Cause he wants to. Didn't ask him to, didn't force it...

The point is, if he likes you he will call/want to see you etc..Simple as that. When a guy is not clear about his feelings towards you he won't be so eager to hear you or see you!

Whats so complicated about that?