4yrs and still no divorce from Virgo man

Hi there to everyone!

I was wondering if you could help on this from an astrological point of view. I left my Virgo four years ago for another man. I never got with that man, not even a kiss and he knows this. It was more about freedom because me and the Virgo were like chalk and cheese. Through out these four years, he sees his kids sporadically. He has a gf of nearly three years and in September last year he asked me to meet him to sort out the divorce papers. We have met, I've completed my part and he says that he had sent them. Almost five months on and no letter from the courts. I have tried to contact him asking about the divorce but he never gets back to me.

He's the kind of guy that drags this on and on. To him, as long as we are in a feud, I get the feeling that he's happy. No feud and he's out of my life. (not the kid's lives but mine). He hides this animosity behind emails but face to face he is shy and softly spoken. You'd never believe it was the same person. He proclaimed to me that his gf is his soulmate (I wanted him back once, to make things work as I was older, wiser) he said he'd not get back with me,

I dusted myself, moved on In life. Education, new man, new lease of life. If he's so happy why deny me the divorce?

I can't apply for one for personal reasons. There is more to this story but that is the gist of it.

Thank you for your help.

I meant that I feel that he's happy when we argue because at least he's talking to me. We do not communicate otherwise.

The reason is because if he divorces you then he won't have a valid excuse to tell his girlfriend why he can't marry her.


If he had really sent off the papers, you would be divorced from him by now .... thus far, he still can tell his girlfriend that he can't get married.


I want you to think about what you said here ...

"To him, as long as we are in a feud, I get the feeling that he's happy. No feud and he's out of my life. (not the kid's lives but mine). He hides this animosity behind emails but face to face he is shy and softly spoken."


So long as you two are fueding, he HAS to continue with the interaction with you .... so, his girlfriend will understand that she cannot expect him to marry her if there is still drama to resolve with you.


Him not getting a divorce from you, and him speaking his true mind in privacy with you while charading around openly as shy .... has nothing to do with you.

He's fiegning, pretending to still be thick in battle throws with you ... so his girlfriend won't bug him about commitment.

"He hides this animosity behind emails but face to face he is shy and softly spoken."




Think about that ^^^^ sentence.

If he appears as soft spoken openly, while antagonizing you privately ... this creates the situation where you come at him raging, while he remains calm.


It's a show .. he's playing a game with you. Your best bet at this point is to not talk to him when his girlfriend is around, don't even look at him. Talk to her and your children ... and talk to her nicely, sweetly.

He'll be wreathing, stemming mad .... because his girlfriend will get a different picture of you then what he has painted in her head.

I'll bet you, if you make friends with his girlfriend, and you two talk in private ...... you will come to find out that he's been telling her that you are fighting against a divorce.

I'll bet you, she knows nothing about his alter ego that you get in the private emails.

Perhaps this is his way of getting at you.

P-angel, everything you have said makes sense because we nolonher swim in the same circles. He doesn't know what goes on in my life and has no way of knowing so, but yet, I know that he has been telling people that I don't allow him to see the kids when it used to be me running after him to do so. I no longer chase him. He has an ego the size of a country and believes he's the best. He distresses me in the sense that no one knows what he's really like. People look at him and see this amazing person and look at me as the wicked witch. He's not a physically abusive person but he is mentally abusive.

Should I manage to divorce him, I would have to have visitation rights arranged and though it's agreed with him, once it's out of the courts, he would not necessarily comply with it. I could then stop him from seeing the kids indefinetly but that is not my aim. Again i can divorce him without him having a say so five years after separation but again it's about desiring him to come to his senses.

Something tells me that the reason he is not seeing the kids is to punish me.

I've just had enough, that's all. 😢

Let it be,

I will rake your advice and find out through the courts. I did not get a copy, you're right.