Another thread about the push-pull thing, sorry!

Hi all,

Need help figuring out my Virgo "friend". We work together and over the past year and a half, we've developed a close friendship. He had someone in his life for a bit (of whom he NEVER spoke to me about) so we kept the relationship strictly "work-friends", but I could tell it might be a bit more.

Throughout his whole relationship with this other person, he would do the push-pull thing with me sporadically and I thought it might mean he was conflicted about how he felt about me. We play flirted a lot.

Three months ago, they broke it off. We had been getting closer and closer since then and we had even made a date for the weekend. He was to come over to my place for supper... And then out of the blue, he pushes me away. Says that it's purely physical and he wants us to remain friends. I could accept that, however he also says that he really likes spending time with me and that whenever he's around me all he wants to do is take me in his arms and kiss me. He says he can't have a strictly business relationship with me and that when I'm standing too close to him it drives him crazy. He also gets jealous when other guys show an interest in me. He says all this and in the same breath tells me he wouldn't fall in love with me and that I deserve better.

This makes no sense to me. If you enjoy spending time with someone and you desire them, what more do you need to give it a try? If it doesn't work out, it doesn't work out. Also, I'll be moving to another office building in December, so if it doesn't work, we won't be in each other's faces every day anymore.

What pisses me off is he is using the excuse that he thinks he knows what's good for me. He's made the decision for me.

Any Virgo men out there with any insight into this?

Posted by ConfusedAquarius

He had someone in his life for a bit (of whom he NEVER spoke to me about)

Throughout his whole relationship with this other person, he would do the push-pull thing with me

You're so ridiculous.

He probably pushes you away because of how stupid you are ... just look at what you said above.

There's no doubt in my mind that you will read those two partial sentences and have no clue why they are examples of you being ridiculous ... which in turn is proof of your stupidity.

Virgo men will fuck a pretty woman, or a sexy woman, or whatever attractive attributes you have .... but, they're not interested in a relationship with a person this dumb.



Print it out, take to your family and friends. And keep doing so until the light goes off in your head ... only then will you ever have a chance with a Virgo.

Wow. Thank you for enlightening me. SUCH a nice person!

Wow, Thanks for giving us someone to laugh at. SUCH a stupid person!

And to think I could have gone the rest of my life not knowing how stupid I am! I owe you one!

Well, he would make up excuses to see me. We had lunch just the two of us once or twice a week. He would often offer to fix things for me. He stared at me all the time, like he was trying to see into me. He would talk about everything with me, his family, his daughter. I'm probably the one person at the office who knows him so well, he's usually pretty guarded with people. He often said he wanted to text or call me over weekends and holidays but didn't want to bother me. I know it sounds like nothing because it's hard to paint that picture with words and I often thought I was making it up, but people in our building thought we were dating. I've had guy friends before, and it wasn't the same.

Posted by ConfusedAquarius

he NEVER spoke to me about

Throughout his whole relationship with this other person

I'm shocked that you have to even ask these questions. Why do you not know the answers?



After all, you know exactly what he was doing and saying during a whole relationship he had with another person when he NEVER even spoke to you about it.



How ridiculous can you be?



If you just magically have that ^^^^^^ information, then how absurd it must be for you to have to ask simple questions in here like, "does he like me"

Virgo men are natural flirts. They LOVE getting attention from a young lady or women. Especially if you have a brain and can discuss challenging topics other than social media BS. It feds their ego. I've seen it with male virgo friends of mine, co-workers and bosses. It's obvious as night and day.

He is using you for an ego boost. IF he were serious about you, he wouldn't have another girl.

The reason why you are torn and have developed feelings for him is because of the words he's said to you about his affection for you....etc.

I've been married for almost 19 years and have known my husband (no not a virgo, but 100% man) for 21 years. If there's ONE thing I've learned about men, it's this.

Actions > Words

Contrast his action with his words. Then you have your answer. The push - pull is all about him being conflicted with his emotions and also wanting to emotionally control you. All men do this, not just virgo's. It's how they're wired.

When a man is truly committed to you, you will know it; he will place all his energy into you.

Posted by ConfusedAquarius
Hi all,

Need help figuring out my Virgo "friend". We work together and over the past year and a half, we've developed a close friendship. He had someone in his life for a bit (of whom he NEVER spoke to me about) so we kept the relationship strictly "work-friends", but I could tell it might be a bit more.

Throughout his whole relationship with this other person, he would do the push-pull thing with me sporadically and I thought it might mean he was conflicted about how he felt about me. We play flirted a lot.

Three months ago, they broke it off. We had been getting closer and closer since then and we had even made a date for the weekend. He was to come over to my place for supper... And then out of the blue, he pushes me away. Says that it's purely physical and he wants us to remain friends. I could accept that, however he also says that he really likes spending time with me and that whenever he's around me all he wants to do is take me in his arms and kiss me. He says he can't have a strictly business relationship with me and that when I'm standing too close to him it drives him crazy. He also gets jealous when other guys show an interest in me. He says all this and in the same breath tells me he wouldn't fall in love with me and that I deserve better.

This makes no sense to me. If you enjoy spending time with someone and you desire them, what more do you need to give it a try? If it doesn't work out, it doesn't work out. Also, I'll be moving to another office building in December, so if it doesn't work, we won't be in each other's faces every day anymore.

What pisses me off is he is using the excuse that he thinks he knows what's good for me. He's made the decision for me.

Any Virgo men out there with any insight into this?

I was with a Virgo guy a long time, years. Known him as a friend, then together. I'll tell you honestly, forget him. Actually tell him to go back to his ex. This will never end. The pull and push at some point will drive you crazy. Maybe he's thinking he will be back with the other girl and just needs a sexual partner in the mean time. And to be honest, when he tells you he just wants friendship, that's all he wants. If he didn't answer you, maybe he's not sure. But he's sure. The other "jealousy" stuff, means nothing, believe me. NOTHING. People get jealous over friends. It's possessiveness. That's ALL! Trust me. They don't attach emotionally. #1, don't read into anything. He didn't make a decision for you. He knows what he's doing. That's how he makes sure you don't sleep with other people during the time he's sleeping with you. You know, diseases are everywhere and Virgos are clean ppl. And when he says he wouldn't fall in love. He won't. The end. 🙂