Posted by ConfusedAquarius
Hi all,
Need help figuring out my Virgo "friend". We work together and over the past year and a half, we've developed a close friendship. He had someone in his life for a bit (of whom he NEVER spoke to me about) so we kept the relationship strictly "work-friends", but I could tell it might be a bit more.
Throughout his whole relationship with this other person, he would do the push-pull thing with me sporadically and I thought it might mean he was conflicted about how he felt about me. We play flirted a lot.
Three months ago, they broke it off. We had been getting closer and closer since then and we had even made a date for the weekend. He was to come over to my place for supper... And then out of the blue, he pushes me away. Says that it's purely physical and he wants us to remain friends. I could accept that, however he also says that he really likes spending time with me and that whenever he's around me all he wants to do is take me in his arms and kiss me. He says he can't have a strictly business relationship with me and that when I'm standing too close to him it drives him crazy. He also gets jealous when other guys show an interest in me. He says all this and in the same breath tells me he wouldn't fall in love with me and that I deserve better.
This makes no sense to me. If you enjoy spending time with someone and you desire them, what more do you need to give it a try? If it doesn't work out, it doesn't work out. Also, I'll be moving to another office building in December, so if it doesn't work, we won't be in each other's faces every day anymore.
What pisses me off is he is using the excuse that he thinks he knows what's good for me. He's made the decision for me.
Any Virgo men out there with any insight into this?
I was with a Virgo guy a long time, years. Known him as a friend, then together. I'll tell you honestly, forget him. Actually tell him to go back to his ex. This will never end. The pull and push at some point will drive you crazy. Maybe he's thinking he will be back with the other girl and just needs a sexual partner in the mean time. And to be honest, when he tells you he just wants friendship, that's all he wants. If he didn't answer you, maybe he's not sure. But he's sure. The other "jealousy" stuff, means nothing, believe me. NOTHING. People get jealous over friends. It's possessiveness. That's ALL! Trust me. They don't attach emotionally. #1, don't read into anything. He didn't make a decision for you. He knows what he's doing. That's how he makes sure you don't sleep with other people during the time he's sleeping with you. You know, diseases are everywhere and Virgos are clean ppl. And when he says he wouldn't fall in love. He won't. The end.