Candeh15
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Anyone else uncomfortable with relationships?
I do it just feels like I have a lot of presure on me. And I really hate when women try to force one on me to. But when im single all I have to worry about is me.. That is why I believe us as virgos need someone that blow us away.. Unlike other sign that have a built in need to be in a relationship. We don't! so we need people to inspire us to be in one.. Thats why everyone has hard time dating us..
Posted by virgoking
I do it just feels like I have a lot of presure on me. And I really hate when women try to force one on me to. But when im single all I have to worry about is me.. That is why I believe us as virgos need someone that blow us away.. Unlike other sign that have a built in need to be in a relationship. We don't! so we need people to inspire us to be in one.. Thats why everyone has hard time dating us..
I can agree with this. While I'm sure my age probably does have some part in this, I don't feel like it's that completely. I often feel with most relationships that I get myself involved in, whether they actually lead to something serious or they remain casual, I feel like I put in a little more effort than the other person, and I don't realize until it's too late. When I get to the point where a deeper relationship is possibility, I feel like I don't know how to live up to what the relationship is asking for. While this shouldn't be a huge issue, it's something I unfortunately analyze to death. Like virgoking said, I sometimes think I want to have someone blow me away; I'm not asking for that nor am I seeking it/waiting for it. But I find myself kind of wanting more even when I'm taking things in while having a good time. Still, I'm perfectly capable when being on my own.
It's because Virgos mimick their partners .. they mirror.
For this reason is why the Virgo freaks out if the other is fake or lying .... because the Virgo will put all faith in their partner, so they can't have their partner leading them astray, now can they?
Your fear, Candeh, is ..... what if you give your trust in him and he fucks you over by leading you in the wrong direction?
Whomever said that Virgos aren't relationship prone, is an idiot who doesnt' even know himself .... Virgos are born to be a partner.
THEY ARE MIRRORS .... they cannot survive in this world without having a partner to serve to reflect love back to.
Virgos take what love you have to give them, and then they reflect it back to you .. so that you are loved the way you want to be loved because this is what you showed the Virgo in the fucking mirror.
Geez ... Virgoking .. grow up already will you? You act, and it's not becoming for a Virgo.
Candeh ........ it's doubtful that you are worried about a long-term relationship .... it's probable that you are worried about a long-term relationship with the wrong person, in where you are unsure on how to love him.
For this reason is why the Virgo freaks out if the other is fake or lying .... because the Virgo will put all faith in their partner, so they can't have their partner leading them astray, now can they?
Your fear, Candeh, is ..... what if you give your trust in him and he fucks you over by leading you in the wrong direction?
Whomever said that Virgos aren't relationship prone, is an idiot who doesnt' even know himself .... Virgos are born to be a partner.
THEY ARE MIRRORS .... they cannot survive in this world without having a partner to serve to reflect love back to.
Virgos take what love you have to give them, and then they reflect it back to you .. so that you are loved the way you want to be loved because this is what you showed the Virgo in the fucking mirror.
Geez ... Virgoking .. grow up already will you? You act, and it's not becoming for a Virgo.
Candeh ........ it's doubtful that you are worried about a long-term relationship .... it's probable that you are worried about a long-term relationship with the wrong person, in where you are unsure on how to love him.
Posted by virgoking
I do it just feels like I have a lot of presure on me. And I really hate when women try to force one on me to. But when im single all I have to worry about is me.. That is why I believe us as virgos need someone that blow us away.. Unlike other sign that have a built in need to be in a relationship. We don't! so we need people to inspire us to be in one.. Thats why everyone has hard time dating us..
you guys can be hard to date because you can be stubborn little shits!!! LOL
Actually virgoking, what p-angel said makes a lot of sense. Trust is a huge thing for me; in fact, it's so important that without it, I can't even be bothered to get far into the relationship. I just don't feel comfortable. What one person shows me, I mirror back. If a person doesn't seem so engaging, doesn't call me a lot, or isn't open, I act the same way. I only bother to try when I feel like the person is trying too. One of my fears is to fall for someone then have him be the wrong person; I'd rather be on my own than do that. I hold back, but when I feel it is okay, I'm completely willing and loving. I never once said that I'd be a bad girlfriend, and sometimes I can be really surprised by people who I once thought wouldn't even work with me; but I won't be at my full potential when the other isn't right.
I was a serial dater at first. Have spent the majority of my life in a relationship of some sort. I've been with married men, I've been with married women, I've been with both of them at the same time, I've been with older men, I've been with younger men, been with people my own age, dated a girl for the summer, been in love, been out of love, broken hearts, had my heart broken, dated psychos, been the psycho..... pretty much all of it.
I've never had a relationship last longer than 2 years. I'm convinced that I have a two year jinx. Convinced of it. The bottom line is, I'm too much of a free spirit and I want to experience as much life as possible. I believe in love, I really do, but I think love is part of life. It's not guarenteed, and people will hurt you. But what is the alternative? Live a lonely life?
I've been single for 2 years, and I have enjoyed MY time. I just got out of a brief escapade, but it was a reminder that I'm not ready to commit myself to anybody. I am scared of being hurt, and I have massive trust issues. I need to work on me before I can offer myself in a relationship. I know what it is that I'm looking for in a partner. I just don't know if I've met him yet. But at least I have made the mistakes now, so that I will hopefully know better for the day I do meet him. And I hope that he will be ready for all of me, because I am a handful.....
I've never had a relationship last longer than 2 years. I'm convinced that I have a two year jinx. Convinced of it. The bottom line is, I'm too much of a free spirit and I want to experience as much life as possible. I believe in love, I really do, but I think love is part of life. It's not guarenteed, and people will hurt you. But what is the alternative? Live a lonely life?
I've been single for 2 years, and I have enjoyed MY time. I just got out of a brief escapade, but it was a reminder that I'm not ready to commit myself to anybody. I am scared of being hurt, and I have massive trust issues. I need to work on me before I can offer myself in a relationship. I know what it is that I'm looking for in a partner. I just don't know if I've met him yet. But at least I have made the mistakes now, so that I will hopefully know better for the day I do meet him. And I hope that he will be ready for all of me, because I am a handful.....
Posted by Candeh15
Actually virgoking, what p-angel said makes a lot of sense. Trust is a huge thing for me; in fact, it's so important that without it, I can't even be bothered to get far into the relationship. I just don't feel comfortable. What one person shows me, I mirror back. If a person doesn't seem so engaging, doesn't call me a lot, or isn't open, I act the same way. I only bother to try when I feel like the person is trying too. One of my fears is to fall for someone then have him be the wrong person; I'd rather be on my own than do that. I hold back, but when I feel it is okay, I'm completely willing and loving. I never once said that I'd be a bad girlfriend, and sometimes I can be really surprised by people who I once thought wouldn't even work with me; but I won't be at my full potential when the other isn't right.
It's called self defense. You are right.... why put yourself out there with someone who's going to hurt you and mis use you. Love comes from within, but realize that there are wicked people out there that will betray you and trick you into believing that they are worthy.
You have a whole life a head of you. You are too young to be afraid. It sounds like you have a solid head on your shoulders..... trust your instinct about boys. You will be with many wrongs before you realize what is right for you. But what is a mistake if you don't learn your lessons— Shoot, even when you have right, things can still go wrong. My point being, love is never guarenteed. So experience it and accept it for what it is......
I suggest you see woody allen's movie called Vicky and Christina in Barcelona. Beautiful depiction on the many different aspects of love.....
I feel you Candeh i was talk about p saying we have a huge need to be partner up we like it but its not a huge need. But everyone has a fear of falling in love with the wrong person its how we handle it.. Our big thing is we hate failure and If we pic the wrong person we will take it has I fail.. I miss judge someone we are good judges but sometimes we can be wrong. And the idea of that is what I believe stop some of us.
Posted by P-Angel
It's because Virgos mimick their partners .. they mirror.
For this reason is why the Virgo freaks out if the other is fake or lying .... because the Virgo will put all faith in their partner, so they can't have their partner leading them astray, now can they?
Your fear, Candeh, is ..... what if you give your trust in him and he fucks you over by leading you in the wrong direction?
Whomever said that Virgos aren't relationship prone, is an idiot who doesnt' even know himself .... Virgos are born to be a partner.
THEY ARE MIRRORS .... they cannot survive in this world without having a partner to serve to reflect love back to.
Virgos take what love you have to give them, and then they reflect it back to you .. so that you are loved the way you want to be loved because this is what you showed the Virgo in the fucking mirror.
Geez ... Virgoking .. grow up already will you? You act, and it's not becoming for a Virgo.
Candeh ........ it's doubtful that you are worried about a long-term relationship .... it's probable that you are worried about a long-term relationship with the wrong person, in where you are unsure on how to love him.
Wow, so true.
I duno,always sabotage 'em.
Posted by P-Angel
It's because Virgos mimick their partners .. they mirror.
For this reason is why the Virgo freaks out if the other is fake or lying .... because the Virgo will put all faith in their partner, so they can't have their partner leading them astray, now can they?
Your fear, Candeh, is ..... what if you give your trust in him and he fucks you over by leading you in the wrong direction?
Whomever said that Virgos aren't relationship prone, is an idiot who doesnt' even know himself .... Virgos are born to be a partner.
THEY ARE MIRRORS .... they cannot survive in this world without having a partner to serve to reflect love back to.
Virgos take what love you have to give them, and then they reflect it back to you .. so that you are loved the way you want to be loved because this is what you showed the Virgo in the fucking mirror.
Geez ... Virgoking .. grow up already will you? You act, and it's not becoming for a Virgo.
Candeh ........ it's doubtful that you are worried about a long-term relationship .... it's probable that you are worried about a long-term relationship with the wrong person, in where you are unsure on how to love him.
Must say as a Virgo Gal I have to agree wholeheartedly with this post, spot on P-Angel.....As a Virgo so scared of being taken for a ride I will mirror and each time let a little bit more out as the time passes......This may be a tiny insight into where girls and guys go wrong with Virgo's...come on to strong and we can't match it, have a little patience and show little bits and we can keep up with the flashes...........
Nice one P I think I learnt a little bit there x
i think virgos survive just fine without partners. every virgo i know over the age of 18 is single. do they desire unions, absoposolutely. for the women, the young ones at least, there's almost a sense of desperation about it.
^^^that didn't come out right. just saying, yes, they do desire to mate for life...probably moreso than others. but at the same time, i think virgos (the women at least) seem to have an ideal union that they made-up a looooooong time ago and go into relationships trying to make this fantasy a reality. that usually doesn't work out too well.
Posted by DyTryin
I'm not uncomfortable with relationships, but I do not like the initial Dating Phase -- way too chaotic & disruptive for me!
Oh yeah. The initial Dating Phase is insanity. I love the rush of meeting someone new, getting butterflies, ect; but after a while of that, I just want to fast foward into the relationship if it's going that way.
Posted by tubbyscubby
^^^that didn't come out right. just saying, yes, they do desire to mate for life...probably moreso than others. but at the same time, i think virgos (the women at least) seem to have an ideal union that they made-up a looooooong time ago and go into relationships trying to make this fantasy a reality. that usually doesn't work out too well.
hahahaha.... editing yourself on the Virgo board. See, they have an effect on everyone.....
nahhhhhhhhhh, when/if i'm blunt, i'm intentionally so. that was unintentionally so and needed clarification.
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