Aries woman and Virgo Man. Want to make amends

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Kanikas1
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9 Years

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Please help me understand this!

I am an aries woman and I've been dating a virgo guy for a year now. We didn't really take time to start off, it was more like we met and we knew there is something special. After 3 months of talking casually we started dating very seriously.

He is a management consultant so he traveled alot back then. This never effected me cause im working full time too and whenever we would meet we would make those moments count.

I was not that into him initially and he knew that but somehow as time progressed I couldn't help but fall for him. He would take care of such small things and it was beautiful.

After 6 months he moved to the other end of the globe permanently and we knew we couldn't see eachother till I dont come to USA for my higher education. With the distance things started messing up and we fought about petty things. We tried to make things work but somehow always ended up arguing. I even went to meet him once in the USA but nothing could get the magic back.

We decided to go on a break and give eachother some space. Those two months we did soak occasionally and when we did it was nice, no fights just spoke about what's happening in life.. However after 2 months when I asked him what are we finally deciding? He said that he does love me but he can't be with anyone right now. I didn't say anything i took that and told him that I understand.

It's been around 1.5 months since then I genuinely thought ill move on because it's never been difficult but somehow I really miss him. I don't expect anything from him. We still do talk off and on and try to not be clingy or make him feel like I need him cause I want him to have his space. I REALLY want to fix this, I'm 25 and I've not felt this ever, this feeling that I wanna marry this guy one day. Recently only after 1.5 months we have started flirting a lill and sexting since it's a LDR, But last night I got emotional like an idiot and he told me that don't say all these things to me cause we aren't together and when you say all this i feel bad when I can't respond. He said I do feel for you but nothing right now there were so many issues.

However he is coming back for 5 days next month and he said he wants to meet! I'm so confused! I am being stupid to hold on. Will this ever reverse. How do I fix this.
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Virgos (ego) are pragmatic and practical. He cannot manage it...the feelings long distant, his position, the possible argurments, the longing.

He's made an assessment. You didn't make it easy. You have to prove, show, that you are not that much to manage. That their will be pleasure.

However, he has made an assessment and may be cold to stand firm... for your benefit as well.
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Loladoll
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I think you should let it go and be his friend if you can.

If he's saying he can't or does reciprocate your feelings you should believe him and cut off his access to his "benefits."

I would use the time he's here to get closure and talk it out face to face.

Not saying he doesn't care about you but you should not let yourself be take advantage of or for granted if he doesn't want to be committed to you right now.