Branh Im curious...

just browsing and so happened to brush past your profile..curious about the innuendo with saggitarians toward the end of it,sounds as if you have some notions bout us fireflies**

i cant believe your think we're evil...ha its funnie tho cause we are pretty unstable but spontaneity keeps the world turning didnt u no?!? o n on the whole Sagg/Virgo relationship thing well it is kinda push n pull i must say but not reallie because of us i think its more on your side of the fence. in some strange way we balance each other earth n fire i dunno the whole keeping the wild flame tame thing...doesnt work out for most people, i guess it depends on how your attracted to he who is doin all the taming

I am also a Sag female that has been dating a Virgo Male and I am finding out that he seems to be more unstable than me. I have my stuff together. I own a home, I have a good job, I'm very loyal and honest (maybe too honest sometimes) I give and give and give and he is the one to always have some kind of drama that goes on and he doesn't let many people in. He would let me in for a while and then he backs off after a couple of weeks. All I want is to help him and be there for him but, the more he does the push/pull thing the harder it gets. I have been dating him since October and he only started getting this way at the end of December. I want him to know it's OK to have someone care about him but, he only lets it happen for a little while and then ignores me and doens't tell me why. Then he comes back and tells me he likes me more than he was ready for but and I let him know that I feel the same way but, I would like to see us progress and it's OK too. He has been hurt badly in the past and so have I but, it seems that he has a harder time with excepting that not everyone is the same. He even told me he has never dated anyone like me. (I took that as a good thing from the way he said it). I'm in my 30's and ready to settle down and I think he is too but, I think he is more scared than me.

i agree, definitely in need of compromise from BOTH sides considering both signs to be mutable its just a matter of them deciding to do so.. hint..both very stubborn as well..Lol

O n yes, its not just your virgo they do sumtimes have the tendency to think with the "everyones's the same" mentality..

branh0913:

No, I don't have a higher social status. I just saw him earlier as I was on my way home work. I was going to the store. Well, I pass the place that I play in the pool tournament at and I saw him outside. It was only around 3:30pm. So, I decided to stop and go talk to him. He did not look happy to see me. Actually, he looked like crap. I think he is drinking himself silly. I asked what happened and why he hasn't talked to me. He said he doesn't want to see anyone right now and that it has nothing to do with me. I asked him what happened because we were doing great and then 2 days later he wants nothing to do with me and so I asked why that was. He said, "why do you need to know" and then walked away. I left and texted him and said that I treated him very well and I don't know why he is willing to loose me over something that apparently has nothing to do with me. I also told him he that he is a good man and whatever is bothing him that he needed work on it and work on making his life better like he told me he wanted to do and get off of this self-pitty kick and make his life better because I know that he can but, he just has to believe in himself. I also told him I need to know where we stand because I have fallen for him and I'm hurting so, I need to either move on so I can heal or he needs to step up and decide on whether he wants me or not. He told me to leave him alone because I am pissing him off. I told him well, at least I recieved a response from you this time. I also said, I'm sorry if the truth hurts you. (He is drunk right now and he is definately in a bad place because he looks like he has been drinking for days and that is not him) I know I probably pushed him a way for good this time but, I do hope some of what I said stuck with him and maybe he will get his life together for him. I do want him to be happy even if it is not with me.

I'm not more socialable them him but, I do get alot of attention when we are out and he does get jealous even when were not dating. I do own a home and have a good job so, I don't know if that is too much for him. He is used to women who don't work and that he takes care of them and he complained about doing that and that's why he thought it was so cool to date someone like me. He even said I was the coolest person he has ever dated.

What is that, why does this seem to occur everywhere these virgin boys go... Its so hard to handle, I think because we as women tend to be so self conscious and think we must be at fault or we did something to cause this. In all reality it seems like they are just completely somewhere else and we end up making them mad with our constant attempts at figureing it out.... Mine always says "why should I have to answer to you". He sees no problem with the fact that he has ignored every path of communication for the last ten days. Someone told me that he mentioned our little spat and said " we were getting along so good, and just because I don't contact her in a "couple" (couple is 2days not ten days, face it ten is alot of days) she throws everything out the window". If he would have just acknowledged me in someway and gave me confidance and let me know he did feel the sameway I would have had enough self esteem to not worry those ten days.The irony is that I probably proved his theory right, by being able to walk away so quickly that love is a suspicious and fast fading thing. The only thing is I still love him I'm just trying to recover what he drained from me, my self worth.

fatalbutterfly:

I know what you mean about being drained. I talked to a friend of my Virgo male and he had told me that my Virgo male didn't basically talk to anyone for over a week. He hid from everyone. He also told me that his ex-girlfriend and her new boyfriend are looking into trying to get full custody of his kids. Well, instead of him doing something about it and letting someone help he goes into a shut down mode. I am so mentally drained because all I want to do is help and he won't let me or anyone do that for him. Instead he is getting really depressed and drinking alot. He is not usually like that. He is going to turn himself into any alcoholic. His kids mean so much to him and his ex has such a hold on his emotional state right now. I wish he would snap out of it but, if he doesn't talk to anyone or let anyone help then he is going down fast. It makes me so mad that he is doing this to himself and his kids. If he would step back and not go to drinking (because that just makes it worse for a custody case) he could find a solution on how to handle it better. I'm a very strong person and I have been through alot of crap and I do understand when you need space but, you adventurally need to come back to reality and figure things out and make them better. I just hope he does do that for him and his kids sake. For now I will leave him alone because I can't keep trying to help someone that doesn't want it. It's hard because I care so much about him. If he ever decided he wanted help or needed someone to talk to I would be there but, until then, I'm done and I will move on with my life and hope for the best for him because that is all I can do. I will love him but, I can't sit by when it's only one sided. Good luck with yours.

Whats weird is my mother always told me to stay away from Virgo men that they have drug dependencies.She said she never meet one that was adicted or dependent on some kind of substance. She dated one after her divorce from my father. She said he was the funniest person to be around and really interesting, but he blamed everyone for his short comings except himself and drank himself into unconsciousness.Its weird how they infect people and so many want to love them and be there for them but its never enough. She still wonders and talks about him and shes been remarried and in a happy marriage for 16 years or so.... it looks like I followed in her footsteps and twice. If we only listened to our mothers.... this time theres no drug dependencie just health addicted, yoga, tofu,wheat germ, spinach leaf eating damn recluse......I so want to pull him out of that shell, but he wont budge.

He would talk about friends and doing this and doing that he made it sound like he had a wonderful secret life. I even asked him why he didn't bring friends to our little group of friends. He said "it was to much work and someone always felt left out". I finally did meet a couple and through conversation found out that this one person was all these people she was married and treated him more like aquatints then friends and I used to feel extreme jealousy over this person I thought were people.

After a fight I decided one day to go and try to talk to him, (friday night) I was so worried I would interupt something or he would have people over and here I come "drama queen on the door step" I found him with messy hair, sweatpants eating spinach leaves and watching the simpsons. I thought it was adorable but far from the life he painted out to live. Actually I worry about him too. I just don't get it.

Sorry I think I just vented!!!!!

I meant she never met one that was not addicted.... Sorry I work graveyard and its time for me to go to bed.....

branh...lmao..priceless.love it

Well took your advice now I'm miserable.... but I know I'm better off for it of course he had to get some stuff off his chest too. Which left with nasty fuming emails, finger pointing and we were just plain rude to each other. I feel stupid because he said he liked communicating with me but hasn't had time for no one not just me. He also said he didn't want me to hate him or he didn't want to make me mad, he said he didn't hate me but he was almost getting there.... I was to much drama for him, he didn't understand why I would freak out just because he didn't call in ten days. Which for some reason that last part sums up the whole relationship "he doesn't want me to be mad or hate him..... but I was almost making him hate me" can someone explain this because it makes no sense to me, if I hate someone even a little then I don't care what they think or feel for me. Right—? This guy is full of contradictions he likes communicating with me but who cares if he doesn't call in ten days. I don't get it.

Branh I am curious too😉