Caught Virgo in a Lie

But he doesn't know I know! Basically, as a follow up to my previous posts. Virgo became distant and told me that he really liked me but on his end things were too crazy to be involved in anything. He told me to keep in touch and never initiated contact, but when I texted him, he always responded. Well, one day suddenly he didn't respond to my texts...and basically over a period of 2-3 days he didn't respond to about 6-8 texts (including some pics I sent while I was out of town). I was very surprised but at the same time, I figured I wasn't taking the hint and was bugging him so it was my fault. Anyway, I asked a friend of mine who lives out of state to text him and see if he responds, well he did, and she just said it was a wrong #. He was intrigued because it was actually a city he used to work in so he sent a couple of texts back to her. So, she tells me this and of course I was hurt that he blew me off like that when his phone was perfectly fine. I sent an email to him the same night he blew me off and the same day friend texted him, asking why he would ignore me, I wasn't nasty just told him over time he had given me mixed messages and maybe I misunderstood.

So, I let it go, a week goes by and he sends me a text last night with an apology...that he didn't have a phone for 3 days and when he got it back he said I seemed pretty annoyed at him (my email) so he figured he would let things go. But I know he's lying because my friend sent him texts and got repsonses from him!

What was that about? He needed space or had so much going on..but then regretted it and decided to contact me? It's messed up because I was doing well and truly letting go for once, the powers up there are really fking with me! He keeps insisting that he's always liked me, etc. I believe him but I also reminded him that if a person is really into someone they call! There's never an excuse and no one is ever too busy. He insists he hasnt dated anyone but knows I have been. Of course I'm not going to tell him my friend texted him, but he has to know I don't completely believe him either, I'm not that stupid. It was late, he said if it wasn't he'd ask to meet me for a drink, asked me how I'm doing and took interest once again in how I am, I asked if he thinks of me and said he was looking at my picture 30 min before I sent that email (??).

I'm going to be the best person I can be and not call him out and continue to move on and let go and if he wants to contact me he can.

Thank you both, I'm at a place where I'm looking more inward than outward, I'm aware of the "mistakes" I made in the time that I've known him (including not leaving him alone, asking my friend to text him) and I'm not justifying his dishonesty but I feel like I've tried so much and put so much energy into him already that I don't want to bring up that I know he lied. If anything, I may just tell him that I don't believe his phone was not working for 3 days and I can leave it at that. I have a strong feeling that he is feeling guilty about lying and ignoring me.

Sure, I agree that for a true, healthy long lasting relationship this would need to be cleared up. But, I'm not sure if that is where he and I are headed anyway. I will absolutely wait for him to contact me and reply when he does. He actually did the last couple of days, so that's good I guess. But, I have my guard up and that is not good, I didn't have my guard up when I first met him (that's more who I am but maybe shouldn't be). This should have been casual in the 1st place and we both had intense feelings. I'm going to keep dating and talking to others too.

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So, he does all this and you are still considering his character ?

You asked him if he still thinks about you ?

You are just as fucked up as he is ... if you would still consider him, in any manner.




It appears to me that women are so desperate to be loved ... that they would sacrifice anything, even thier own dignity.

"it appears to me that women are so desperate to be loved ... that they would sacrifice anything, even thier own dignity."

I agree totally with P-Angel.
Woman have to much faith in the ability for someone to change and we cling on to words with everything we have. Sometimes we need to realize the facts and evidence and whats right in front of our face doesnt lie.

This man isnt into you. He's playing with your head. Usually at the beginining its the best time of a relationship with a virgo, where he's getting to know everything about you. Eventually lol "when you make the cut" some sort of routine starts to form. If he cares about you he'll always be there though. Unless he's genuinly busy which in your case he doesnt seem to be(texting your friend) Trust me I have experiance in the virgo department, its a complicated relationship on occasion yet I cant seem to not fall for them time after times.

Don't give him the satisfaction of knowing when he's doing whatever the hell he's doing your at home/work etc thinking/wondering about him, and will always be available. Go out there's plenty of better fish in the sea (even if it doesn't seem like it 😉 The virgo spell can be broken lol

Posted by ariesbabie
"it appears to me that women are so desperate to be loved ... that they would sacrifice anything, even thier own dignity."

I agree totally with P-Angel.
Woman have to much faith in the ability for someone to change and we cling on to words with everything we have. Sometimes we need to realize the facts and evidence and whats right in front of our face doesnt lie.

This man isnt into you. He's playing with your head. Usually at the beginining its the best time of a relationship with a virgo, where he's getting to know everything about you. Eventually lol "when you make the cut" some sort of routine starts to form. If he cares about you he'll always be there though. Unless he's genuinly busy which in your case he doesnt seem to be(texting your friend) Trust me I have experiance in the virgo department, its a complicated relationship on occasion yet I cant seem to not fall for them time after times.

Don't give him the satisfaction of knowing when he's doing whatever the hell he's doing your at home/work etc thinking/wondering about him, and will always be available. Go out there's plenty of better fish in the sea (even if it doesn't seem like it 😉 The virgo spell can be broken lol

So, is he getting "off" playing with my head? I don't get why people do that. It's not that as a woman I think he will change or that I can change him, it's that I always try to see the good in people and give them the benefit of the doubt, especially since I'm not perfect. The ironic thing is that when we first started seeing each other he told me how amazing I was and not to ever deal with a man that doesn't treat me right. Anyway, I am out there, dating and living my life, and he knows it too.

Posted by dietdrpepper

..... it's that I always try to see the good in people and give them the benefit of the doubt ....

Benefit of the doubt?

What do you mean by this?

He treats you like a piece of shit ... so you give him another chance to prove to you that he doesn't mean to?

Is that your benefit of doubt that you want to grace him with, as if it's a favor to him? As if he is deserving of this reprive?

Is that what you mean by benefit of doubt?

If you doubt him, which you should indeed doubt him ... why does he deserve any benefits?

Please explain what you mean by that !!

Are you saying that because you see a goodness in him, then he's suppose to measure up to your perception of him?
As in you have an expectation that he's suppose to honor, for you, so you can have satisfaction in what the goodness is you granted him with?

What?


I'm not getting your excuses you have for his behaviour .. please clarify.

Posted by dietdrpepper

The ironic thing is that when we first started seeing each other he told me how amazing I was and not to ever deal with a man that doesn't treat me right.

There's no irony in this. What happened was that you fell for his bullshit that washed over you so you would give him these benefit of doubts you were talking about .... so his excuses for treating you like shit would be acceptable to you because your ego got a compliment.


That's not ironic ...


An irony would be if you didn't fall for his bullshit, and his words hit him upside the head as the realization sunk in that he's the bastard he warned you about