confused with virgo last word.

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yan queiro
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Hi virgoes, its me again. As you know from my previous post, me (leo female) just broke up with my partner (virgo female). Its acceptable if u guys a bit sensitive with 'gay thingy'…


My point here is, before my partner declere of wanting breakup...she's telling something that she never told before. She said something like "all these times I want n desired this from u and u give me that which you thought its enough, but for me its not enough". Its not a grand thing though, just sort of attention. I was like "if you really want this, why not telling me when the time you want it? I'm not a mind-reader, I give you my best & you said you could understand that I cant give you this everyday". She ignore my answer & stick to her decision. Whats the point she's telling me that? Was it to make me feel guilty & regret for not doing so? What she want me to do actually when she telling me that? Thanks☺
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yan queiro
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I'm aware that I cant live up to her 'high standard' expectation, though she never speak out whats her 'expectations' from me when we're still together. During our early stage of romance she admit that I'm matched with the type of girl she's looking for, but now?.

Will you think she gonna talk to me again if I ask her? As you said virgo will get colder if people who they want to let go is still reaching them. Well, we broke up last time via text mesaage & refuse to met face to face☺
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Posted by zoe gonzales
I just wanted to know whats her & other virgo purpose of giving rarely heard, harsh statements before calling it quits. To make me hate her more? To make me guilty? Regret & rethink back or what?
Doubt I'm an expert but likely she spent a lot of time deciding if she should break up or not.

By the time she told you, her decision was already made, but she wanted you to know she had a "good reason" for breaking up with you, and that she was being reasonable.

Therefore," I'm upset because you didn't do this thing. You might of did your best, but it wasn't good enough. I rarely mentioned this because I worried I was being unreasonable, until I suddenly realized I wasn't, but now I'm breaking up instead of trying to work it out."




I'm crappy at relationships btw, but I do think it's better to break up with less reasons than more now. And only go into the, I'm a terrible communicator of feelings dribble when forced...
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yan queiro
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well, I didnt knew since when she takes time to do that decision but, I really didnt see it coming. One two days before the breakup she seems good & warm to me as always in person. She done the breakup thru the text message, drama all the way before vanished 😭


I just cant accept that the one who's admitted wants to stay forever with me is the first one to leave. I dont know what should I do now?
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Posted by zoe gonzales
well, I didnt knew since when she takes time to do that decision but, I really didnt see it coming. One two days before the breakup she seems good & warm to me as always in person. She done the breakup thru the text message, drama all the way before vanished 😭


I just cant accept that the one who's admitted wants to stay forever with me is the first one to leave. I dont know what should I do now?
Well yeah, she spent a lot of time ALONE thinking through the decision. She didn't want you to know she was thinking about it until she made a decision (what if she decided to stay? Then she would have to live with you constantly worried she was about to break up or didn't love you anymore, etc).

As for text message break up, ouch!! Sorry that happened to you.

I have broken up over the phone, btw, but only because every time I tried breaking up in person, my significant other kept trying to talk me out of it, and wouldn't accept the break up. Finally, phone call, "this is over, nothing you can say to change my mind, I'm hanging up now" lol.

Did she attempt to break up in person first, before the text message fiasco? Or even voice concerns of no longer wanting to be together in person first?
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THIS! I love this thread. It's so true. I am a Leo lady & am in an almost 3-year relationship with a Virgo man. The thinking by himself & then only talking about trivial everyday things is a common thread. It's like his deep thoughts are so precious to him he won't share these other agendas. I have almost left him 3 times. When I break down & go back to talk, he will act all indignant & immediately go on to "what should we have for dinner tonight?" Lol Anyway we rarely talk about emotions. I do love him dearly, think of him as my funny little man.
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yan queiro
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Posted by bridgelover
THIS! I love this thread. It's so true. I am a Leo lady & am in an almost 3-year relationship with a Virgo man. The thinking by himself & then only talking about trivial everyday things is a common thread. It's like his deep thoughts are so precious to him he won't share these other agendas. I have almost left him 3 times. When I break down & go back to talk, he will act all indignant & immediately go on to "what should we have for dinner tonight?" Lol Anyway we rarely talk about emotions. I do love him dearly, think of him as my funny little man.
Well, similar to mine tooMy advice, try to dig whats beneath that "what should we have dinner tonight?" I dont know your man, but mine...she will raise the issue beneath the "so, what should we have dinner tonight?" later on when she's fired up. But I'm glad that your virgo man has patience for you dearš



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yan queiro
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Posted by zoe gonzales
well, I didnt knew since when she takes time to do that decision but, I really didnt see it coming. One two days before the breakup she seems good & warm to me as always in person. She done the breakup thru the text message, drama all the way before vanished 😭


I just cant accept that the one who's admitted wants to stay forever with me is the first one to leave. I dont know what should I do now?
Well yeah, she spent a lot of time ALONE thinking through the decision. She didn't want you to know she was thinking about it until she made a decision (what if she decided to stay? Then she would have to live with you constantly worried she was about to break up or didn't love you anymore, etc).

As for text message break up, ouch!! Sorry that happened to you.

I have broken up over the phone, btw, but only because every time I tried breaking up in person, my significant other kept trying to talk me out of it, and wouldn't accept the break up. Finally, phone call, "this is over, nothing you can say to change my mind, I'm hanging up now" lol.

Did she attempt to break up in person first, before the text message fiasco? Or even voice concerns of no longer wanting to be together in person first?
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Okay, that enough explains why virgos are overthinking...so my partner thinking of what might possible happen in the future, she know it gonna happen, maigadd sounds like she writes the fate.ªSorry I was mad & disappointed at her. 


The part you said "nothing you can say to change my mind" similar with the text she sends me...successfully made me speechless.



No to both of your questions kbear. All are thru text messages. We both meet each other in person was actually talked about whats up with our day, humors & random talk you know...even on the days before the broke up?‚Thats why I told you I didnt see it coming.

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yan queiro
@zoe gonzales
10 Years

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Posted by pakmai
No, under evolved Virgos like to make you feel shitty and worthless before they break up with you. It's just something they do, like, to make you feel like you really need them (cause they like to feel needed)

She'll be back but don't chase her. Literally, give her what she asked for and go date someone. Trust me. I dated a Virgo (man) and he broke up with me in the shittiest way lol I didn't talk to him for a year till my birthday came around and he told me HBD. After that, continuos conversation of trying to get back in. It IS attention but it's more than that.. It's more so EGO. Don't feed it, love.

If she wants to be an ex, treat her like one cause she won't hesitate to treat you as such.
Hey pakmaiŠ


Oh yes, you know it feels like a painful slap in the face. Its not something that easy for me to do (and other Leo's might also too), to move on and start to date somebody else again...especially when this virgo had given a 'deep' meaningful long-term relationship with me than my exes. She lives nearby me, so I cant avoid these 'flashbacks' and still feeling her presence 

So what happen to you and ur virgo man now?
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kbear
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Posted by zoe gonzales
well, I didnt knew since when she takes time to do that decision but, I really didnt see it coming. One two days before the breakup she seems good & warm to me as always in person. She done the breakup thru the text message, drama all the way before vanished 😭


I just cant accept that the one who's admitted wants to stay forever with me is the first one to leave. I dont know what should I do now?
Well yeah, she spent a lot of time ALONE thinking through the decision. She didn't want you to know she was thinking about it until she made a decision (what if she decided to stay? Then she would have to live with you constantly worried she was about to break up or didn't love you anymore, etc).

As for text message break up, ouch!! Sorry that happened to you.

I have broken up over the phone, btw, but only because every time I tried breaking up in person, my significant other kept trying to talk me out of it, and wouldn't accept the break up. Finally, phone call, "this is over, nothing you can say to change my mind, I'm hanging up now" lol.

Did she attempt to break up in person first, before the text message fiasco? Or even voice concerns of no longer wanting to be together in person first?

Okay, that enough explains why virgos are overthinking...so my partner thinking of what might possible happen in the future, she know it gonna happen, maigadd sounds like she writes the fate.ªSorry I was mad & disappointed at her. 


The part you said "nothing you can say to change my mind" similar with the text she sends me...successfully made me speechless.



No to both of your questions kbear. All are thru text messages. We both meet each other in person was actually talked about whats up with our day, humors & random talk you know...even on the days before the broke up?‚Thats why I told you I didnt see it coming.

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😢 Sorry! Definitely sucky. If it helps, this is only my guesses. The only way to really know what someone is thinking is to you know ask them 🙂
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Posted by bridgelover
THIS! I love this thread. It's so true. I am a Leo lady & am in an almost 3-year relationship with a Virgo man. The thinking by himself & then only talking about trivial everyday things is a common thread. It's like his deep thoughts are so precious to him he won't share these other agendas. I have almost left him 3 times. When I break down & go back to talk, he will act all indignant & immediately go on to "what should we have for dinner tonight?" Lol Anyway we rarely talk about emotions. I do love him dearly, think of him as my funny little man.
I love this site : D. it's like mini portraits of all the slightly crappy things I've done, seen through the crazy perspective of everyone else. Virgos really aren't liked much huh? LOL

I can't read anyones minds, But I doubt he keeps his thoughts to himself cause there super precious LOL. I just don't think we feel comfortable with people easily. And don't feel comfortable with emotional sharing near ever.

But people who have been sincerely interested in all the weird thoughts in my head. And made me feel safe being vulnerable I'm very open with. 🙂

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yan queiro
@zoe gonzales
10 Years

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Posted by zoe gonzales

😢 Sorry! Definitely sucky. If it helps, this is only my guesses. The only way to really know what someone is thinking is to you know ask them 🙂





I wanted to ask but I'm feeling demotivated by; she told me to dont contact her again after the breakup & I read somewhere that once virgo says its over, its over left behind. I want to surprise visit to her house but I think its inappropriate without notifying her first. I've messaged her these few days with no replies. I just cant let her go 😭




I felt a great loss. Like saving money for years to buy a bicycle and now its broken :')
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Yes, I am thankful for that patience! I have come to understand that is how he shows his love, cuz he isn't a patient man! When impatience with me rears its ugly head, it's time for me to find humility, not easy for a Leo sun, Merc, & Venus. We both have Libra moons & Scorp mars, so I think that helps. I think that bringing it up later would do damage! But helpful to get pent up feelings out to deal with them. Good luck to you too.
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Posted by bridgelover
THIS! I love this thread. It's so true. I am a Leo lady & am in an almost 3-year relationship with a Virgo man. The thinking by himself & then only talking about trivial everyday things is a common thread. It's like his deep thoughts are so precious to him he won't share these other agendas. I have almost left him 3 times. When I break down & go back to talk, he will act all indignant & immediately go on to "what should we have for dinner tonight?" Lol Anyway we rarely talk about emotions. I do love him dearly, think of him as my funny little man.
Well, similar to mine tooMy advice, try to dig whats beneath that "what should we have dinner tonight?" I dont know your man, but mine...she will raise the issue beneath the "so, what should we have dinner tonight?" later on when she's fired up. But I'm glad that your virgo man has patience for you dearš



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yan queiro
@zoe gonzales
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Posted by bridgelover
Yes, I am thankful for that patience! I have come to understand that is how he shows his love, cuz he isn't a patient man! When impatience with me rears its ugly head, it's time for me to find humility, not easy for a Leo sun, Merc, & Venus. We both have Libra moons & Scorp mars, so I think that helps. I think that bringing it up later would do damage! But helpful to get pent up feelings out to deal with them. Good luck to you too.



Thank you bridgeloverš