Dear Virgos, could you offer me you're two cents?

First, let me say I love Virgos. I love the honest remarks they make and I find the cleanliness cute. Though mostly, I enjoy the challenge a Virgo man generally prepares when caught in a romantic situation.

Getting back on track now. I need you're great-Virgo-advice! This could be a bit long, just a warning.

I was in a boss (Virgo) /worker (me) type of relationship. While our relationship was in such form, I would often detect subtle (possibly accidental) 'moments' often from the initiation of the Virgo. These weren't moments of heavy touching or seductive lines. It was merely comments like: "You're so funny." accompanied by a genuine warm smile, or "You should read this book! I know you would love it -- such a great read!". However, the next day after such a scenario he would become distant. It takes him awhile to get close again, then we return to our 'moments'. I figured that during the phases of his distance, he was worried that his job might be at stake. Boss and worker romantic relationships are strictly prohibited. Perhaps he felt the need to stop him self before anyone caught on? I didn't mind this, I would just wait out a few weeks until we returned to our enjoyable chats.

Recently, we transitioned out of the boss and worker relationship. I was offered work somewhere else and changed jobs. We run into each other occasionally on our way to work. Ever since I left, I've daydreamed of the chance to share even one date with him. We're both rather shy, so there is a good chance nothing will ever happen. Heheh. Still, I can't help but wonder.

Something worth mentioning.
There was a time when some of us in the department went out for an evening lunch. We were saying our goodbye in the restaurant. I was still burrowing away in my purse while the Virgo was up and ready to leave. We shared a quick hug and he was off. I was remarking to my sister (who tagged along), who knew of my crush for him, how "hot" and "sexy" he was. When I had just swung my purse over my shoulder, I noticed he had returned to our table. He was picking up his jacket he left on his chair. We both left with flustered cheeks. I apologized the next day VIA email since he was going to be away on a trip for quite sometime. When we saw each other again, earlier this month, he seemed rather professional during our run in.

Dear Virgos, what do you make from all this. Do I have a chance?

* your two cents?
Jesus, I need some sleep. 😆

To your knowledge is he married or with anybody? If not then I believe you do have a chance. You will hear multiple people chime in but that's my opinion. We flirt through subtlety. A smile may mean more than a smile. We wait for signs and from what you wrote I didn't see you giving any signs. You may hold your own fate in your hands here and just need to nudge it in the right direction.

Oh, and in your headline, you misused the word your. You typed you're which is the conjugation of the words you and are. lol didn't mean anything and I know I type with typos and butcher the english language. It just caught my eye and warranted noting 😉

A reply, thank you very much! : D
No he is not married, he was engaged but that ended over a year ago. What a relief, I thought I had completely blew it. But could you clarify how I would go about giving off a sign? He's painfully shy, and will withdraw himself easy at the first signs of discomfort. I'm worried if I do anything, he'll consider it too bold and pull away from me.

Ahahahhaha, yes I was waiting for someone to point it out. The irony is, I teach English to young children. Rest assured, they're being taught by the best. Hehe heheh.

I feel I'm still too new to say how all VIrgo's operate but I'd like to think I have a good idea of how I would react. I feel he does indeed like you, just may not be taking the first step for a number of reasons. 1.) If he did find out that you didn't like him in that way, at least he was acting professional enough to maintain a friendship after the fact. and 2.) He may be too unsure about how to initiate the firs step. Speaking for myself here, I can be overwhelmingly affectionate and bold when it comes to love BUT I need that reassurance that I'm taking it in the right direction i.e. you giving him a sign. He may command the love AFTER you release the floodgate! In matters of love and the bedroom, kinda contrary to what I've been saying, I like a woman to take charge, mostly in the bedroom. I feel that takes away alot of my insecurities and applies to moving across the "bases" in a relationship. Too many guys get the signs wrong and if a woman would just be a bit more forward with her advances we might know what the hell we are doing lol 😉 I bet this guy would not run if you moved forward, just make it something he would recognize as a sign. Grab his hand in yours, wink, peck on the cheek, whatever that can't be misconstrued as anything other than a sign that you like this guy. Hope for the best for you lolita!

Thank you Goki. You've given me a good basis to build my "action plan" on.

Surprisingly no. My sun sign is a Sagittarius. I'm not a typical Sagittarius. I'm very reserved and don't warm up to people easily. I can't act spontaneously, I always need a blueprint of how I'm going to behave before I act. I'm sensitive to others feelings, so I'm selective in my wording and I could never "wander" from a commitment in a relationship. The few traits, of many, that I do not share with my sun sign. I guess you could call me a hiccup? Hahah.

Thank you, thank you, thank you OP3CRIMSIN. : )
I think you did very well in your description!
Oh gee, I'm the same way. I'm very "high sexed", as a tarot reader put it, when I know I'm secure in a relationship. Its just getting over that initial hurdle of "does he like me? Will he stay?". Usually I'm the one taking charge in the beginning of relationships.
But he's just so darn fragile. Its like walking on a wet floor with a Ming vase. I want to get to the other side as soon as possible, however, taking baby steps at the fear of the vase shattering. At the same time, by taking these slow steps I know I'm contributing to the possibility of missing an opportunity. A paradox, indeed.
I have pecked him on the cheek once, and ran away. It took place a bit before I formally changed jobs. We have never acknowledged it in conversation.

I really appreciate both of your replies. Usually when I ask other people for help, I'm ignored. This is a very pleasant change.

Posted by Lolita27
Its like walking on a wet floor with a Ming vase. I want to get to the other side as soon as possible, however, taking baby steps at the fear of the vase shattering. At the same time, by taking these slow steps I know I'm contributing to the possibility of missing an opportunity. A paradox, indeed.

Excellent analogy! I will say this: if you two ever get together, you're gonna need a sprinkler system in the boudoir for all the heat! LOL

What's not to love?

Haha, was it really that obvious that I was a Sag? Most of the time, people guess wrong. Guess not all of them are as sharp as you Pandora. ; )

Indeed, what's not to love. Ohh how I love those Virgos. I think one of the core physical qualities that get to me is the youthfulness. My Virgo is older than me, quite significantly compared to previous love interests, but his facial features mirror a 25 year olds. Because of this, I tend to forget the age difference. Along with enduring qualities like: honesty, noticing the little things and being an amazingly dependable person. : )