Disappointed Scorpio...

Yes we slept together he asked if he was ok (in bed)...i said yes good and of course if he can ask why shouldn't i ..lol ..so i did and his reply was errrr! yeah!..so we get on well sex is good.

Date seven you guessed it he cancels only this time it's over he tells me he doesn't want to waste my time, he doesn't know what he wants, he doesn't want anything serious..hell did this virgo guy like me?.. is this typical virgo behaviour?. we have had no contanct for three weeks, i'm disappointed because i thought i hadn't heard the last of him...your thoughts please...

I wouldn't chase him anymore, it doesn't seem he's really focused on making you happy and he doesn't seem to be all that interested in you thus the LIE he told about why he cancelled the second date.

A soft suggestion is never chase a man, when he backs out on a date that is your que to save yourself the time and energy in a man and MOVE ON. IMO you came off sort of naggy and unattractive by chasing him a text message after 2 days of no contact it's like saying hey I'm here, don't you see me, don't you like me, what's up, were are you?? He already lied about why he couldn't commit to the second date, that is your que to shift your energy and focus on men that aren't blowing you off.

Dating is tough but you have to quickly be able to SCREEN men out or your going to end up wasting a ton of time on men that aren't dateable for you which could lead into you creating negative energy around men and dating. This man clearly sent out the message when he cancelled the 2nd date, somehow you overlooked his actions and pursued your own agenda, seems he may have felt guilty and ALSO saw the potential to get sex without a commitment and now I'm sure he's went cold again.

The signs he wasn't that into you:
Date two gets arranged two hours before we were to meet up he cancels " sorry i can't make it" his wife not yet ex who he is seperated from has pissed him of..but boy did he sound choked up, but later i discover from him, his wife didn't piss him of he got cold feet...

After you understood he lied and you still tried to make it work well that sends the she's DESPERATE and NEEDY red flag because you may not be screening men out but they are screening YOU out and once that kind of naggy energy is put out the men usually FWB a woman real fast, they see an opportunity to have sex so he weighs it out, the price to pay was low to get what he wanted without minimal effort on his part and now he's gone

IMO you put him in this awkward position, you know he lied, women with high self esteem will not waste her energy on men that lie no matter how great the chemistry is, all you did was put him on the spot again to lie and tell you he wanted something more permanent when truly he didn't want anything permanent with YOU...he most likely read your actions as low self esteem, you have no men in your life so your chasing him and NOW he's see's an opportunity to f*ck because your needy for a man and that is exactly what happened.

My suggestion is to read up on anything and everything about dating as to not fall back into these kind of situations

Tighten up your dating skills and learn how to know when a man is leading you on...

For the record I am not insinuating that you have low self esteem, what I'm saying is I notice more and more women BEHAVING in a low value low self esteem way, the men softly reject them and the women feel that chasing him e.g. following up (showing more interest) will get her a better outcome and it won't, their are men that will use that as an opportunity to get their needs met without putting in much effort. Many women are unconsciously behaving in ways that say I'm NEEDY and I will take your shit even though I say I won't. Once a man lie and you know he lies and you accept him anyway that is a sign of neediness and low self esteem, he's AUTOMATICALLY lost attraction for you.

Thanks for your input....i hear what you are saying i can honestly say i'm not desperate or needy..fussy yes! fussy who i spend my time with and have fun with. I saw my time with him as casual dating, nothing serious ....not my normal behaviour with guys i have dated in the past, he had this calming influence on me, it's hard to explain, hence why i didn't react, i'm still trying to work out how he did that...

Posted by MissSting
Thanks for your input....i hear what you are saying i can honestly say i'm not desperate or needy..fussy yes! fussy who i spend my time with and have fun with. I saw my time with him as casual dating, nothing serious ....not my normal behaviour with guys i have dated in the past, he had this calming influence on me, it's hard to explain, hence why i didn't react, i'm still trying to work out how he did that...

you call it fussy they call it needy, casual dating behavior is not following up and balling a man out over ruining your evening, that doesn't say casual, it says needy, I am not giving you a hard time, just a little conscious nudge to let you know how your behavior can be mistaken as needy when I know that is not how you wanted it to appear.

As for the calming influence, it's magic LOL, it's an art form of hypnotism through casual communication, playa's (I am not saying he's one but their are certain things that indicate he is) their is a huge community of men that are good at gaming women which includes creating this INSTANT rapport, they have a very strong mental pull, they tend to have a great impact fairly quickly on women. This guy is smoothe and a liar so that tells me a little bit about his character, he's most likely mastered the art of seduction. You might want to google how not to be seduced, these men have this way of making you feel like they KNOW you, their are a huge amount of women being seduced in this manner.

Posted by No1delete2

MS: his wife not yet ex who he is seperated from

A General Rule: Don't ever get involved with a man who still has ties to another woman.

I was married to a Libra woman for 20+ years; I had women approach me soon after I'd filed for divorce, and I turned them down. I waited several months after the final decree to start dating again.

Some men bounce back from divorce quicker than others, but a "separated" man is still a married man...

Thanks sweetie i know it was a red flag situataion, he had been seperated for 18 months, in that time they had tried to work things out, but as he said it shouldn't of happened because all they did was argue, that in itself satisfied me into believing that their was know chance of him going back....

you call it fussy they call it needy, casual dating behavior is not following up and balling a man out over ruining your evening, that doesn't say casual, it says needy, I am not giving you a hard time, just a little conscious nudge to let you know how your behavior can be mistaken as needy when I know that is not how you wanted it to appear.

As for the calming influence, it's magic LOL, it's an art form of hypnotism through casual communication, playa's (I am not saying he's one but their are certain things that indicate he is) their is a huge community of men that are good at gaming women which includes creating this INSTANT rapport, they have a very strong mental pull, they tend to have a great impact fairly quickly on women. This guy is smoothe and a liar so that tells me a little bit about his character, he's most likely mastered the art of seduction. You might want to google how not to be seduced, these men have this way of making you feel like they KNOW you, their are a huge amount of women being seduced in this manner.



Don't think it didn't cross my mind that he is a player...infact at times i thought this guy deserves a medal i just couldn't see the wood from the trees so to speak...magic..lol...No more assclowns for me thanks!...

Posted by MissSting
Thanks for your input....i hear what you are saying i can honestly say i'm not desperate or needy..fussy yes! fussy who i spend my time with and have fun with. I saw my time with him as casual dating, nothing serious ....not my normal behaviour with guys i have dated in the past, he had this calming influence on me, it's hard to explain, hence why i didn't react, i'm still trying to work out how he did that...

"I saw my time with him as casual dating, nothing serious"


Then why the existence of this thread?

YOu sound like a Gemini ... to have a self-image that is the complete opposite of how you present yourself.

Obviously, you're a Scorpio ...


It was just after he fucked you that he pulled away and decided he wasn't that into you ...... your Scorpio ego must be seething, since you all falsely believe you are the sexual goddesses.



Reality check ..... you don't do it for him, even after you've fucked him.

Posted by P-Angel
Obviously, you're a Scorpio ...


It was just after he fucked you that he pulled away and decided he wasn't that into you ...... your Scorpio ego must be seething, since you all falsely believe you are the sexual goddesses.



Reality check ..... you don't do it for him, even after you've fucked him.

P-Angel..sweetie,i call it my pride has been hurt not my ego...

Posted by MissSting

Posted by P-Angel
Obviously, you're a Scorpio ...


It was just after he fucked you that he pulled away and decided he wasn't that into you ...... your Scorpio ego must be seething, since you all falsely believe you are the sexual goddesses.



Reality check ..... you don't do it for him, even after you've fucked him.

P-Angel..sweetie,i call it my pride has been hurt not my ego...

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Makes no difference whether it's pride or ego ..... you missed my point.


You make this thread which describes your ((pride)) injury, you even admit to this injury to me just right here, saying it's pride hurting, not ego ........ yet, make the comment that it was just a casual thing, nothing serious.



If it's not serious, then why all this whining that the man did what a man does with a woman who isn't serious .. fuck her and walk away.

Fucking a man in a casual setting, with no commitment in place, or even a promise to be serious .... is just being a slut, handing out pussy .... he took it, and walked away.


So what? You think you have an original problem here? You think something happened to you that is serious?

If it was serious to you, serious enough to hurt your pride and serious enough to you to come in here crying about it ... then why in the fuck did you let him get a piece of your ass?




::: shakes head :::::

And the answer is because you were playing with him to manipulate him ..... you tell him it's nothing serious, you play the part that it's no pressure on him because it is just a casual thing, no questions, nothing serious ... then as soon as you fuck him, now all of a sudden ...

.. it's suppose to mean something emotionally, and now that you've fucked him, what are your options in capturing him.




Why else would you care that he's taken a step back?

I thought it wasn't nothing serious.

Women just amaze me, they are so double-standard, it isn't even ridiculous, it's beyond ridiculous.


She would use her vagina to attempt to capture him .... and then forever punish him if he bases the relationship around sex.

Then why the existence of this thread?

YOu sound like a Gemini ... to have a self-image that is the complete opposite of how you present yourself.



Your point is..? Fact is i liked him enough to date him, so where is the line in the sand past which you're not supposed to like them more??....there isn't one..

You dont' get it, most people don't ... because I guess it's too real to think in terms of what the self is actually doing .. so, it pretends as though I'm talking about the "other" person, or something "other" than what I said.


This isn't about how much you should or shoudn't like him .... this isn't about the line in the sand in terms of how much you like this man.

You appear desperate to one responser here, and she said so ... and she would be correct. I didn't think so initially, but, now that you are adamant on being oblivious to I'm saying and 'pretending' that it is something else ...... is a sign of guilt.



"i hear what you are saying i can honestly say i'm not desperate or needy..fussy yes! fussy who i spend my time with and have fun with. I saw my time with him as casual dating, nothing serious"


You answered her in defense mode, and when you did ... you said that this is nothign serious ... if this were true, if it wasn't serious, then you wouldn't even care enough to care about this thread.


But, you do care, you are upset, your "pride" has taken a toll on being rejected by a man you are attempting to snare into your web ...



In other words, to break it down to elementary terms, which apparantly you need to comprehend .... your actions don't match your words.



.... again, your words and actions don't match ...... in the Virgo world, this would equal = you're a liar.

Hi, all i havn,t been on in a while. I've just read your lovely reply angel of death ..oops!... excuse me P- Angel.... what a dam cheek ,you have liar indeed

that is one thing i am most definitely not, i would rather tell the truth and get into trouble than lie and have it sat on my conscious...

OH! almost forgot to add virgo guy did phone me, a month later even though i had to glue my hands to my thighs to stop myself from phoning him..lol...Fool spoke to me as though he had been talking to me the day before, that wasn't a good idea on his part ....wink wink lets just say i left him open mouthed..lol.. end of.