Do other Virguys have this problem?

According to what I have read it seems to me as though I have the typical "Virguy" problem with regard to approaching women: namely that the more interested I am, the shyer I become! I would like to hear from other Virguys to see if they agree about this, and if so what do you do about it (how do you overcome this shyness?) I know that this behaviour is probably counterproductive in general because they say that most women want a guy who is "cocky and confident", but the more attracted I am generally the less "cocky and confident" I feel or act! So how do you/can I get over this? (I would be able to respond to encouragement but it doesn't come my way!)

I'm no expert.


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i understand what you are saying. i'm still in the process of overcoming it.

my trick for now is just to devise a plan and take my chances.

Remember the greatest failure is to not try.

my plan usually goes from just being direct to being ridiculous.(i like the ridiculous ones as it eases the nerves)

I'm in the same boat but I'm a scorpio waiting around for my Virgo crush to grow a pear. I'm scared to tell him because I don't want him to get all weird and aloof and we won't hang out anymore.

Have you been giving this person any indicators that you like them?

I was just looking for some general advice really: there isn't any one particular person I am interested in at the moment. It's just that not many women like shy guys, I don't think, so that is discouraging in itself: it's a vicious circle.

Posted by virgodog58
I was just looking for some general advice really: there isn't any one particular person I am interested in at the moment. It's just that not many women like shy guys, I don't think, so that is discouraging in itself: it's a vicious circle.

Really— I am far more attracted to the shy, introverted types (probably beacause I am exactly the same). When I was single if I went out to a party etc the only people that would catch my eye after a scope of the room would be the quiet ones in the corner. I don't tend to be attracted to people who are the life and soul of the party and i run with the saying that still waters run deep and I like depth :-)

virgodog58


Dude...

Sense of insecurities and self doubt makes you shy and distanced, that beautiful being in front of you which makes you petrified is just % 0,000000000000001 of the same thing in day to day life.

Adjust and adapt your mind to the situation in front of you and enjoy the moment.


Feel free and be free..!

Confident, yes. Cocky, no.

Assertiveness is an attractive quality. A guy that knows what he wants and isn't afraid to go for it is hot!