Do You Think My Virgo Ex Would Get Back With Me?

Him:
Sun: Virgo
Moon: Pisces
Venus: Leo

Me:
Sun: Taurus
Moon: Pisces
Venus: Gemini

My Virgo and I were together for 3 years, but we have always been arguing over stupid things. He makes me mad when he cares for his friends and family more than me and it was very obvious he treated me unfairly. Of course I will get jealous so I would complain on and on about it. When I complained or get mad, he gets even madder and he argues back, which escalates things. I admit I can be really stubborn and difficult at times because even when he apologized, I would still keep digging on it. When I get mad, I will yell at him in public because he never backs down either and THAT is why he broke up with me. His issue with me was always that I would yell at him in front of people. He has broken up with me many times over this problem already, but this time he is for real! When I tried to get back with him, he said he can't stand me yelling at him in public, so we can't get back. I told him I'll change, but he actually told me his feelings for me are all gone!

The last time I begged him back, he won't budge because like I mentioned, he kept saying "We can't back get; I can't do this; My feelings for you are all gone; Don't cry for me because it's not worth it; Don't keep pushing it until I ignore you; It's not even about you changing... my feelings are just not there anymore." My last text to him was telling him him to take a week to actually think about it and then I'll contact him again to see if a breakup is what he wants, which he ignored.

Just this Friday, I had told my mom (Pisces) to call him to ask him if he can give me a chance to show him I have changed for him. They used to talk so I thought she can change his mind. At the end of the convo, he said he will give it another few days to think about it. However, my mom had warned me he sounded like he really doesn't like me anymore. I told our mutual friend (Pisces) about what he said to my mom and she helped me call him to see if he was really thru with me. He told her how I mistreated him and he told her to ask me, "Why she want to get back with me anyway? I don't want to be used as someone to just hang out with her when she's bored." My friend called me back for my answers, and she told him my reply. At the end, he said he will take a few days to think about it.

Do you think I have a chance? Please help me! Thank you!

When he has broken up with you before, how long did it take for you to get back together? From my experience of what I cam currently going through..I would leave him alone for awhile. I'd known mine for 17 years and dated for months. I embarassed him out front by being jealous. I didn't know how Virgos worked and him being my friend all those years, I tried to talk and resolve it right away. Went to his house, sent him a card and then once after he shut the door in my face I returned some stuff to him he had given me. When I got home he texted me "FU" and left horrible voce mails saying he never wanted to talk to me ever again and he hated me. He later his friend if I would have just left him alone things would have been different. I now have no choice but to give him space...not only have I lost my boyfriend, but I lost my best friend.

Please, just give him space, because the more you push him, the more you will push him away!

thanks socalgal. all the other times we've broken up, it took me the longest 2-3 days to just beg him back and he'll make reasons to see me again and we'll end up together again. however, this time it's almost more than a week now and this was the first time he seriously told me he lost all his feelings for me. last Friday, he had told my mom he's going to need two more days to decide... today is already Monday and pass the two day deadline, but i still haven't heard from him. i'm wondering what's taking him sooo long to decide. this is torture because if he makes me wait this long and then at the end his answer is still NO then he might as well just say no right now instead of making me hurt even longer. right now i don't know how to move on without his final decision. my guy friends told me to give him extra time to rethink it through but my mom told me to just give up on him because according to her, he sounds definite he's going to reject me and it seems like he's just saying he will rethink to avoid rejecting me upfront... maybe because he doesn't have the guts to say no because he doesn't want to disappoint my mom? who knows. after waiting for so long, it would devastate me if he were to still reject me.

is there anything i can or should do during this waiting period to help better the situation or to convince him? i haven't had direct contact with him since last Monday. i was planning to send him an email explaining in details how i'm going to change in the relationship, but all my friends think it's useless because nothing i say or do could change his mind.

i'm sorry to hear that you're going through something similar. it must be so painful. how are you coping w/ it? how long ago was this?

The fight happened 3 weeks ago and it was about 2.5 weeks ago he left the nasty voicemails. The only thing, and I repeat ONLY thing I have in my favor is the long friendship we have..so basically, he knows me but never saw this before. His friend is going to talk to him about my illness. I know he really, really cared for me all those years and more so the last three months and I think I REALLY hurt him. His friend (who I only met about 6 weeks ago) told me that in the 10 years he has known him he talked about me all the time...I was the one who got away. He was soo happy when I finally dated him. I figure if I leave him alone, then eventually he will ask his friend about me or I will somehow come up in the conversation....he will know what is going on in my life without having to talk to me.

As far as your situation goes...just let him be. My ex Virgo once said that absence does make the heart grow fonder. On the other hand, if you do what I did it will push him away. If you didn't know, Virgos are always analyzing situations...sometimes testing us. One time we were talking about something and he remembered days later and had been thinking about it. He calls me up at 11:00 pm wanting to talk about something which was said days before. A lot of times they also feel guilty about things they said. Mine would tell me later that he did and he felt stupid.
I am really glad I gave him the check because Virgos do not like the feeling they are being used and taken advantage of, so now he knows that I am not that way.

yeah... i have posted on your other post on what i think about your situation. i think the best thing is to scoop around with the help of your mutual friends to see how he's feeling and of course a little convincing from the friends would be good. also, i don't think it hurts to write him an email of how you feel... i prefer email because the person can choose to read it at their leisure time (or not) but the choice is theirs.

as for my situation, i couldn't take it anymore and didn't want wait around for him to text me... so i took the initiative and texted him, "would you need more time for your decision or? if so, i can give you more time. if not, you let me know. FYI i sent you an email." i lied that i sent the email already just to see if he cares enough to tell me he didn't get it, so 10 minutes later, he texted me back, "i didn't get your email and i been thinking very hard about this, i will talk to you tomorrow when you are free." i texted him back, "i'm sorry about that... i just resent it to you. sure... i hope u read my email first before you tell me your decision tomorrow. thank you."

i'm hoping his decision would be what i want to hear... but i really don't know. i want to think something positive out of it because if he doesn't want to give me a chance, he could've just said it straight out when i texted him... that would've been the perfect chance there. what do you think about this? thanks!