Drummer Virgo came back into my life.....

I knew it lol what u going to do

Hello Virgos and anyone else who wants to comment.
Some may remember what brought me to DXP and for those that don't let me tell you. It was a gorgeous and sweet drummer boy who is a Virgo born on 9/6 or 9/7 (I'm forgetting now...duh). We had incredible chemistry and an amazing sex life. We were both out of long term relationships so I really didn't know what I wanted and I didn't know what he wanted. We had an amazing 3 months until he started drifting away in that he would take longer to answer texts and wouldn't initiate contact so finally he sent me a long email detailing that he was going to try a relationship with someone else because they seemed to fit together on more levels but that he really liked me and it had nothing to do with the person I was and that he really respected me and my demeanor but that he had liked this girl for a long time and wanted to give it a try. I wished him luck and gave him my blessings. I wished his band well and that he would find happiness and success in every area of his life. I received the email 4/2/10.
I moved on despite really missing him. I started dating and have been having a ball actually when out of the blue he texts me like on 6/2/10 asking me how was I doing. We ended up texting back and forth for awhile. He shared that he was going through a lot and that he was single again. I eventually went to see him. We talked for hours and actually connected very deeply and he even told me what had caused the break up and that he was going through other stuff too. He said, "You have such wisdom behind those bewitching eyes." I thought that was very sweet. We ended up making sweet and passionate love that night and slept entwined and snuggling all night. Morning came too soon and no promises were made by either of us. Well, found out him and the ex tried to get back together but being the good and honest person he is, he told her what had transpired between us.....

I found this out when I texted him. I purposely made it very generic b/c I had a weird feeling that he was trying to work things out with her. I knew they were going touring and wanted to give him well wishes. He texted back to ask who it was and that's when I found out he had deleted my number at her request. I wished him luck with it and told him I would not text again but that he knew how to find me on myspace if he ever wanted to talk in the future. I have his email so I looked him up on facebook and found out he is single again. He is on tour but coming home next weekend. I don't know if he will contact me again but I hope so to be honest.
Since I was the one he contacted in his moment of weakness and he told me he had missed me it made me feel he still has some sort of feelings for me.
What do ya'll think about this turn of events? I may have just been a booty call and to be honest...I was okay with that b/c I really, really enjoy being with him and our sex life is phenomenal!!!! I hadn't had any loving in a long time so it was nice in that respect too.
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Posted by virgoking
I knew it lol what u going to do

Ha ha...not sure b/c the ball is really in his court now. If I text him and tell him I know he is single now than he will know I spied on him in order to know that....lol. I guess I will just have to see if he contacts me through myspace b/c that is actually how we met in first place since he doesn't have my number anymore.

I believe I warned you that this guy would dump you....I'm sorry to hear what has transpired but I had a gut feeling that if he wasn't including you into his whole life then he wasn't as into you as he may have appeared to be....I totally agree with Seavixen...move on and if your smart you wouldn't be so easy to get next time, he got his ego boost, the validation that he can still pull women and thus he got his woman back, the woman he truly wants to be with...You know sometimes we women are way too understanding and we get used by men...This is the time to be a bitch, to be a person that won't allow a man to have her time, body, energy when he's wrapped up into another woman...You made a huge error sleeping with him without getting things straight with him....Your sending out the wrong messages...one of the messages is that he can have you without doing anything to get you into his life, another message your sending is that your desperately in love with him and he can walk in and out of your life as he chooses and you will always be his fair weather friend, be his doormat...

He feels friendship with you (friends are people we can go to when were down and out), apparently he doesn't feel love in the way that you do and doesn't carry the kind of deep attraction he feels for the woman that most likely doesn't want his ass all that much (least that's how she most likely makes him feel...neglected) which keeps him challenged and drawn into her.

This guy is so not good enough for you, he's also using you....Using you as a stepping stone to get to another woman, stepping over you to get to someone else...What an assclown to sleep with you and dump you all over again, you should feel angry, this is the time to FIND AND USE your inner bitch and dump this clown the next time he comes around...Don't let him use you like this, he doesn't respect you or he wouldn't treat you like this.

Don't give him the opportunity to dump you again....If your smart you will cut him off, cut communication and move on, let his ass simmer with the woman he's having relationship troubles with and you go live your great life....Cut him off and don't let him back in until he's shown he's worthy of your time and energy and he's made some kind of effort beyond text messages.

Find your inner bitch (your inner strength) and use it

Posted by Shaka_laka_boomboom
"Drummer Virgo came back into my life.."

Let him drum his way back into your punani 🙂

lol apparently he already has and now he's out again

Posted by seavixen2
SPP...that's enough for the Virgo dude. See ya later for him. I respect him for his honesty and all that jazz but he slept with you while still having feelings for her, he deleted your number for her. She is clearly the one who holds the key to his heart, despite him thinking you are wise and have bewitching eyes. The sex and snuggling just made shit tougher. And that's why one night stands and fwb are evil sometimes. It plays tricks on your heartstrings and mind. Ego boost for Virgo guy (like he needs that..he's in a band already). I can't call him a jerk, or player because it does take two to tango but this guys feelings are already wrapped up in someone elses clutches. Who has time for that— If he can't make up his mind and know what he wants...then too bad for him. Now may not be the time for you guys. Oh well mermaid...toooooooo many fishes in the sea that are waiting for your company😄 Keep swimming girly.

I like what you had to say Seavixen. I have to say in his defense that he truly is a good and decent person though. He is very spiritual (Hinduism) and I don't think he did it out of pure selfishness or manipulation. He did know I would be there for him and he did call me but it was my fault too. I did want him again (even physically) and I was willing to go and comfort him. My bad I know but than again I liked our arrangement except for wanting to hear him play and be closer but now I know why that didn't happen either and it was b/c this other woman is the sister to two of his bandmates so she was usually there.
I can tell you that I am not ready to give up the fun I am having meeting new and interesting men as I am dating quite a bit. My two songs that are my anthems right now are "Single" by Natasha Bedingfield and "Bulletproof" by La Roux. I don't wish to be tied down right now unless I know that it is extra extra special!!!

This is the other awesome song! Embedding was disabled with the actual video which I like. Oh well. 🙂

Posted by tiki33
Find your inner bitch (your inner strength) and use it

I love it Tiki! I do have an inner bitch and I have been using it a wee bit more and I shall work it some more to get it into prime condition!!! Lol!

Typically bullet proof would not have been a song I thought I would love but yeah the song is great, I have to give it props for it's 80's flashback theme which I love.

Just for the record I'm not saying this guy isn't decent, even decent men use women for egotistical needs, you got something out of it I hope but yeah it's time to move on on on...He knew about this chick as he was dating you at the same time, you were not really what he wanted so he kept you at arms length but yet allowed himself to get involved, he's a bit of a user but that doesn't make him a horrible person...sad you never had him, most likely could have been good but that's how it is in when we put ourselves out there for others.

@ Tiki--I know what you mean. I know he is a good person but we all can be somewhat of a user in one way or another or at certain times. I know he really does like me but I may just not be long term material for him. He also knows that I am kind of anti-serious relationship and that is because I told him that I wasn't really looking for something really serious b/c I was really gun shy when I met him, He also knows that I am through having kids and I know he wants a child or two of his own eventually. I am just a wee bit addicted to him but I have not tried to contact him whatsoever since then. I have been keeping myself busy with my kids and dating other men that I have been meeting on a dating website.

@Valeria--Yes girl, I will be keeping my heart close to my head b/c I am finding out that men play some serious games and I need to be aware and protecting my heart strings! I am having fun though with all of my new man adventures and it is funny to see how they react or if they contact me back when I don't give up the goods..if you know what I mean?? lol 😉

I really like the Libra I am just starting to talk to and I am going to see the actor (Capricorn) again soon as well as a Taurus sometime this weekend! I really don't have time to mess with my sweet little Virgo anyways...he he.

Hope all is well in everyone else's world and thanks for the input b/c ya'll know I am a Pisces and I can get a little emotional and attached to people! I just need to be grounded with some good advice from other's even though a lot of times I know the answer but I don't like it!
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