Virgo Ex

Patience, hang in there.
She's testing you.

Posted by nakae

Most of the time, I play it cool and don't react emotionally to her standoffishness, but it does hurt alot.

I really don't want to deter you, but this revelation of this new person, really is a bad sign.

She's trying to get the emotion and conviction out of you, that you want her. By not showing it and retorting with not reacting isn't helping your case.

I have read a lot about Virgos and Aquas connecting on nothing more than the mind level, and more likely than not, it's the same problem here. She wants it to work, but she just can't feel you...

So what do I have to start doing action wise to turn this around?

Posted by nakae

My question is why can't she acknowledge that what she considered a "friendship" with me was misleading because she knew that I was emotionally invested and just admit that she may have been confused? It's the whole I don't know where you thought I was treating you anything other than a friend...cuddling, sleeping naked in bed with me, tickling, back rubs, long phone conversations etc...what's wrong with this virgo??

aarggg *sob*...how to start healing?

It should not matter to you, why. Sounds like you need more closure, something is unanswered.

She could have been keeping you on the hook, much like Kaleidescorp suggested.

As for admitting "it", Virgos from what I understand don't like to admit to these kind of things or in my case, we usually don't see it the same way you do. We just understand it differently.

Healing is born from time...

She was straightforward and honest, she just did not say what you wanted or expected to hear.

No no I understand her verbally, what I meant was the actions prior to our bbm last night that virgos express themselves through action. And if so then why don't her actions match her words?

Thanks Kaleidscorp, I totally understand the touchy feely friend thing. But this went too far, she stayed at my house to watch my cat whilst I was away and did my laundry. When I got back she said I'll give you back "my" key -the key that was hers before we broke up. To sleeping in a bed naked beside me and her arms wrapped around me. I know I've let this virgo know on more than a couple of occasions how I felt about her. When we first starting speaking again, I sent her a letter telling her in dept of my feelings and that she was my heart. Then throughout the last little while I'd flirt with her, I told her that she was my true love. Seemingly all to fall on deaf ears.

At this point, I can't contend with the thought of a friendship or anything for that matter. She's left it open, and I've left it open. But I won't make the same mistake of misinterpreting her "signals" again. I really believe that she used my feelings and time with me to "get over" me so to speak to solidify whatever it is with this other person. I can't see how you can be so affectionate and intimate one day and then just shut off completely the next. I'm the fool and now it's time to let go.