falling in and out of love

I have observed that Virgos have this rare ability of falling in and out of love (apparently easily) on the basis of logic. And this is because their minds rule their hearts.

What do you say —

I do not agree completely. The Virgos I know and have known, love really hard and are so dedicated and loyal, that their love bond is a strong one and it's hard for them to release it. They will overthink and analyze, bringing logic and practicality into the mix, but I don't think it's easy for them at all.

Now, if it isn't really love for them then they can throw you away like trash in a heartbeat and never look back. My ex-Virguy use to say if you move on and say you don't care then that means you never cared in the first place. He has a point, because no matter who you are, it's really hard to "forget" or disregard people you care about and truly love.

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Posted by iamscorpio
I do not agree completely. The Virgos I know and have known, love really hard and are so dedicated and loyal, that their love bond is a strong one and it's hard for them to release it. They will overthink and analyze, bringing logic and practicality into the mix, but I don't think it's easy for them at all.

Now, if it isn't really love for them then they can throw you away like trash in a heartbeat and never look back. My ex-Virguy use to say if you move on and say you don't care then that means you never cared in the first place. He has a point, because no matter who you are, it's really hard to "forget" or disregard people you care about and truly love.

yes, that. What the OP stated was more of a Capricorn trait...I know because i am one.

ola...im not an expert or anything you can correct me
i think love comes to you only when you keep your heart open to it...if you are CONSTANTLY guarding your heart and ALWAYS assuming everyone is out to hurt you
you miss out on it and end up in and out of relationships searching for it because you dont allow yourself to FEEL!
you think so much that it sucks out all the beauty and fun of it.

If all Virgos were exactly the same this would be a pretty boring forum. For myself, there are characteristics in people that I love. Self worth & kind heartedness being the most beautiful. While, sincerity & virtue being the most admirable. I haven't been in love many times, but when it comes down to the nitty gritty, a virtuos soul is always the girl I fall for. It never changes.

Nah, it is very hard for me to fall and be in Love. Yes, I fall in love using my Logic but... It takes a while for me to make my mind up.
I really analyze the actions of who I plan to fall for before I fall... I am always in fear of falling for the wrong person. Even, if I am in love tho... I'd my logic leads me to realize that this
person is not worthy of my love or is not putting forth as much effort as I am... I will walk away and not think twice about... And, cry and mend my wounds in the
Dark!!!

Okay, I think I need to elaborate.

I used 2 phrases in my original post; first is —on the basis of logic?? and second is —Apparently Easy??.

So my first point is that most of the Virgos I know (including myself) have this quality of keeping our heads and hearts separate from each other. Even if our heart is full of emotions and falling badly for some person but in our heads we are doing our analysis process continuously. Analyzing that if our emotions are being reciprocated or if we are being taken for granted, analyzing all the pros and cons of our relation etc. we can't help it, we can't make our minds stop thinking even if we want to, doing analysis is our innate nature.

And yes our mind rules our hearts. And when we are 100% sure that the person we chose is not the right person for us then we have enough courage and self-discipline to quickly sever ties. I love the words of Virg916 in another post, that I would like to quote here..

Posted by Virg916
I would say strength. Sometimes walking away and never looking back takes courage and discipline. It can hurt sometimes, but it is necessary. We can't control other people's actions, but we control ourselves and how we choose to react...and best believe, Virgos are definitely in charge of themselves. We're no leaders, but we're nobody's followers either.

The other phrase that I used was —Apparently Easy?? and here this word —Apparently?? means a lot. Breaking-up and then falling out of love is never an easy process for us. Our habit of seeing same thing from countless perspectives, thinking and rethinking, analyzing and reanalyzing.. is our worst enemy, and the fact that when we fall in love, we fall really hard makes it so hurting for us to forget someone who was once the most special person of our life. But then again, it is apparently easy. It is easy because we are masters of hiding our emotions and even the closest people around us are not able to get a clue that how heartbroken we are from inside. And they get shocked to see that all of the sudden how cold we became to that loved one and how normal we seem after that break-up. And they think its easy for us to through out of people out of our lives.

It's more so that Virgos can compromise their ideals, and can romanticize easily in order to find a partner suitable. It's easy to then realize the compromise wasn't worthwhile, and they put themselves out for a false premise if things don't work out.

I imagine that if a Virgal falls out of love easily then she wasn't really in love in the first place... Maybe what looked to you like love--wasn't.

I have a hard time letting go of people I've worked hard on keeping around & getting to know.

I don't love anyone not even my fish

Posted by harry99
This thread is making me sad, and Im really deressed already.

What is making you depressed from this thread —

Alicia Keys keeps fallin in n outta love... But she's an unemotional Aqua. Lol.

I have to agree. My mind has rationalized breakups and falling in love. I bewilder my friends and myself. I had one Gemini friend who exclaimed, "You can't just pick someone up and throw them away!".

Harry,

Your ex did love you, I wager. Just that she made the breakup feel easier thru the help of her mind. Virgos fall hard and deep when we decide to. But we also exit without fanfare when we finally make up our minds it is over.

Posted by Virgospirit
I have to agree. My mind has rationalized breakups and falling in love. I bewilder my friends and myself. I had one Gemini friend who exclaimed, "You can't just pick someone up and throw them away!".

"Rationalized Breakups" I love this terms, this is exactly what I was trying to convey. Our breakups are based on logic, they seems clear-cut and cold but it never mean that our love for that person was not true and deep. Its just that our minds rules our hearts. If you want to win us, you have to win our minds too along with our hearts as we don't follow our hearts blindly. I think out of all zodiac signs we are one of the best in self-control and hiding the pain of going against our hearts.

Posted by harry99
This thread is making me sad, and Im really deressed already.

me too... it feels like they dont care others feelings just because they afraid to get hurt.