Feel like I'm going mad lol help needed

Hi all this is my first time posting although I have spent a lot of time on this forum trying to gain some insight into the Virgo male I have fallen for!
It's a long story but I will try to keep it as short as possible!
I met this Virgo man at work and I felt a connection with him the second I met him! We exchanged numbers and he offered me help and advice as I was new in the company.
From that day we kept in touch by text and phone calls every day and night, usually chatting about random stuff. I was in a relationship at the time and he knew this as he asked me if I had a bf first time I met him, however the connection I felt to this guy was so intense that after a few months I realised that I was developing a deep attraction to him and this wasn't fair on my bf, I ended the relationship in feb. We have always been good friends and when I had ended my relationship I asked him if he'd like to maybe see a movie or have dinner with me sometime, he said no! I asked a couple of times after this as we still maintained contact but hd turned me down I think 3 times! So I tried to move on with my life and even dated a couple of other guys, my Virgo guy would laugh with me at my dating disasters until one day outta the blue he suggested being FWB to say I was shocked was an understatement and after a while I agreed ( I am going to admit right now that I got into it to try to get closer to him in the hope it would lead to more- wrong I know!!!) anyway the first time we hooked up was a disaster, awkward and I was sooo nervous, it didn't go at all well so I thought that was it and we never saw each other for a while, although we still text every say and called! We ended up hooking up again about 6 weeks ago and he has stayed over at my house several times since, the awkwardness is gone and we have an amazing time together. Last time he was here he surprised me by snuggling up with me on sofa and being really affectionate as this isn't usually what he does! He knows I like him a lot, I've told him before, we seemed so close on his last visit that I felt maybe we were getting somewhere but again this week he seems distant, it's like he's playing a game but I admit I play along cos I'm scared to reveal how I feel for him incase he rejects me.
He will text saying things to lead me to tell him how I feel for example he will say if I ever come back lol and I will say u better come back, he will reply why— And if I say because he will reply because what—

as I said I think he may want me to admit how I feel but I'm not sure if this is a game to him
I'm falling hard for him and want to know should I tell him? Also as a side note he never ever puts a x on my texts lol I asked him why once and he said he just doesn't do it but I've notice him put a x on fb msgs to a colleague we are both friends with!!! Think he's playing and I should move on or tell him how I feel lol—? Any help or advice greatly appreciated 🙂

Hi and thanks for the response, I understand the friends with benefits part but what I'm struggling with is the other side of this situation, all the snuggling and affection he has started showing me. Maybe it is just me as I've never done the fwb thing before but I didn't think affection played a part in it. I do have strong feelings for him as well so please dont think I'm blaming him for this in any way I did enter into this situation knowing it was just about sex.

Well I've done it! Lol u psychic— Last night after posting my reply i got a text from him, we are going to an event tonite for work and I had said it was going to be difficult to behave! He asked me why and I replied c'mon u know why! He said he didn't and asgain asked me why- my reply was well u have got to know how much I really like u I'd have to be blind not to have noticed lol! He text back saying he had no idea but ok! Not quite the response I'd been hoping for but I told him that I'd felt this way for a while but he shouldn't feel weird about it.

He's not said very much more tbh so not sure what to expect although I imagine you're right and he will need time to take it in and analyse it, he's very deep.

Reading your post ^^^^ has made me feel better about waiting it out and I also feel better for telling him!

Here's hoping I've made the right decision lol x

Thank u for the insight as well, sometimes I walk away because it's easier than dealing with things properly but think ur totally right that I should be honest and next time I have a proper opportunity to talk to him I will tell him the truth about trying to get closer to him 😉 x

Well I've done it, I've told him everything I'm feeling and I've told him I have to walk away because I'm hurting so much. He's told me he never intended to hurt me and I know he didn't.
Gonna miss him soooo much and I've also just lost a great friendship. Had to do it tho cos really can't gonon feeling like this 😢

We're all mad here

I'm sorry, I've missed a part of the story, we were out at a party the other night with colleagues and some of his family were also there, I spent the night socialising with his sisters and cousins and had a great time, before we went we had dinner with a friend of his whom he told me knows about us, over dinner he said to the guy, in front of me, remember no one knows about us so don't say anything the guy then asked when we were telling people, his response to this was to say oh it's not her it's me I'm not getting into a relationship I just don't want to! It was awkward but I dealt with it with as much class as I could muster and simply ate my salad. The night went on and as I said I had a great time, a few of us ended up at his apartment later and I stayed the night with him again. The day after he text asking if I was ok as hd thought I'd been a bit quiet, I explained again that I have feelings for him but know I can't have him and sometimes it hurts... He replied oh ok!!! Yesterday was a low point for me as I messaged him a cpl times and he didn't reply till hours later with a one word answer. He then text later asking how I am and that's when I told him I have to walk away, I spent most of last night crying, to the point I look like an alien today. He told me maybes he shouldn't have suggested the fwb thing and I told him this was my fault not his as I knew how I felt before we started that and I had hoped it would make us closer. He said he doesn't want me to be hurt and hd never intended to hurt me, I told him he hadn't hurt me I'd hurt myself and I haven't heard from him since 😢

Thank you, I have heard from him today actually, he started by making a comment on my Facebook on a photo which then led to a cpl texts and then hd called me, we chatted mostly about random stuff at work and about how the night out went. I'm going to tread very carefully from now on but I'm thinking at least he's made an effort to talk to me. No I will never get into another fwb situation, lesson learned! 😢