Fine Line

Have you ever felt like "S/He's the one, my soulmate, my everything", and you just knew that you wanted to spend the rest of your life with that person. Your search is over . . this is my place, my beloved?

How many times?

If it's more than once, and the two of you are no longer together, then what does that tell about the feeling? Is wasn't REAL?

What if it's been 5 times, or, 10?

At which point does a person stop to consider that this feeling, that's so overwhelming I can hardly breathe with, or, without him/her . . is lust, and therefore, within yourself the search must be made?

If it is "true love", and there are more than one, then, maybe there isn't just "One" . . maybe there is suppose to be many. In this theory . . there is no such thing as commitment, how can there be "exclusive"?

P-Angel,

I've heard that everyone is in your life for "a reason, a season, or forever." This didn't make too much sense to me till after my divorce.

My ex-hubby, a Cancer, was indeed my soulmate and still is. (I'm a Scorp.) I am still learning things from his way of being, his profound soulfulness and intuition that I really needed to learn. And I wouldn't have learned them without being split from him.

So, after the pain, I felt, feel, a deep sense of love and gratitude. A cosmic love that "understands" that we all need each other to become whole.

I recently met a Gem whom I consider to be another soul-mate. We have an amazing attraction for each other....but I doubt we will be "together" as husband and wife, or in any other way. Yet he came into my life for a reason....I know what the reason is...don't want to say right now.

IMHO

Eagle Girl

I've only felt the "soulmate, everything, THE ONE" feeling once in my life.

It was with a person that I'm not compatible with. 😢
I can't even begin to fathom the reason for it when we seemed to be so wrong for each other. I mean, he was happy to be with me for whatever he could get from me, but didn't want to offer me anything. I was happy giving to him and being with him until it just got old and I was sick of giving and never receiving. Anything.

I held out and tried to be patient thinking that at SOME point he'd want to reciprocate at least a *little*........ But - nothing. nada. zip. zero.

Sorry, I don't think that helped. lol

Forgot to add about the last line - commitment.

There is a such thing as "commitment" and being "exclusive" but it's a conscious choice. It means that you are willing to forsake all others for this one person. Even if one of the "others" also happens to be one of your "soulmates." Of course this makes honouring a commitment much more difficult.

The reason why it's so difficult is because it's a *sacrifice*. Life is full of sacrifices.

I won't debate whether or not monogamy is a natural state - I think it is for some, but not for others. But for both groups, commitment to one person is still a choice.

Hmmmm...

Souls. Reincarnation. Etc.

I have read, and found quite interesting, an opinion about soulmates, reincarnation, and etc.

It went something like this:

At the birth of a soul, it is split, so that there is only one other soul (half-soul) that can complete the other. However, these souls that complete one another, will most likely fail as a relationship in this world, as the bond is wayyyy to strong for humans to cope with. The human body is merely a vessel for these souls to exist in the physical world as we know it, there are of course other vessels (other lifeforms of course).

Souls age through many lifetimes, through each lifetime, a new lesson is learned. Groups of incomplete souls often choose to be reincarnated during similar times and places. For instance, in one lifetime, a particular soul could be the spouse of another soul. In the next, the soul could be the child of the other, in the next, the soul could be the others worst enemy, etc, etc. All in order to achieve knowledge and experience in order to pass on to what was called "the next plane of existence".

I don't remember it all, word for word, and I can't even recall the source, but it was an interesting read.

Thus, I think there is The One, and in this lifetime, I may end up with The One, or I may not. But non-matching souls can have successful relationships, and this is typically the case we see in our existence in the physical world.

Older souls are much more likely to have those committed exclusive relationships, and don't tend to make a big splash in their lifetimes, younger souls are wilder, and middle aged souls, are a mix between. And you see these traits in people, young, middle aged, old, but I'm talking ages on a cosmic scale, not our miniscule 100 years (if we're lucky).

But remember this, all souls in existence in the physical world still have lessons to be learned, so forgive these souls for their flaws. (Especially us virgos who confuse the crap out of so many people 🙂)




Yeah, that's not something you'll see alot from virgos, atypical huh? Supernatural, paranormal theories, the subjective rather than objective, I blame my pisces moon 😉

if you consider how many people there are in this world and then consider how many of them we actually meet in a lifetime...[yea not alot] we all drift to a certain person whatever thier sign there are millions of compatible possibilities out there lots of potential soulmates many people are fickle or just human depends on your outlook and the one you meet now who you connect with on every level may not be the one you connect with in 5..10..15years not because it wasnt real then or it was just some superficial affair but because people change and grow differently it was still important

never felt like that-be bit overwhelmin!! - not sure i missing out - would question it too much

My train of thought on this topic was leading more towards human behaviour IF we believed that there are many loves, instead of "soulmate", and how we would view the commitment, the love itself, in this theory.

However, I was thinking in different terms than how we feel about love as we live with the current programming. We are programmed to believe in "one" love and that's how we approach a love relationship.

What if we all knew from the day we were born, that we could only own "one" car in our lifetime . . wouldn't we spend years picking it out? Polishing it everyday? It would be our prize possession. We don't, because we know we can trade it in.

If we believed, because we all were taught and programmed from the very beginning that there are many loves, we will fall in and out of love multiple times within our lifetime, there is no "one" soulmate . . then the meaning of "love" would change.

Wouldn't the subsconsiuos value we put on "love" change, and the regard we hold for the person change if we believed that we are suppose to trade that person in, as soon as the next came along?

Wouldn't a lot of things change? Such jealousy? What would that be for, if around the next corner, another was waiting? Commitment . . there wouldn't be one.

If you were allowed only "one" of anything . . it would be cherished . . and that's the mindset we have as we search for our perfect partner. We move through the world according to our programming, and my only point is, wouldn't how we feel about a partner change if our programming were different?

We all know that when we partner with someone, there is an adjustment. We make comprimises, we overlook flaws, we find acceptance within ourselves for the other person . . however, if we believed that we are supposed to have many loves, how willing would we then be to make these adjustments?

Most women I know started thinking about marriage as very young girls, and have in their heads, "For better, or for worse, forsaking all others until death do we part" when approaching most new relationships.

Just in the small amount of time I've been on the planet, I've seen these changes. Someone in my age group, saw their grandparents and parents, stay with their spouses, "forever", even if they were unhappy because they believed that you bind yourself to someone until you die. However, most young people today come from broken homes, so the value they put on thier partners has changed. If they aren't happy, within their definition of happiness, they're out, without much effort in comprimising themselves and without even caring for the other's happiness during the little time they were together, for thier parents divorced, so what's the point in trying to make the other person happy . . just look for someone else.

I suspect in another couple hundred years, the constitution of marriage might not even exist.

there is only one partner destined for each person. some people who had relationships that ended are infatuated with the thought that this is their soulmate. love is not an illusion. it only comes in one form not in many forms. it involves great responsibility, compromise and commitment to make it work. love obeys, it is patient, it is forgiving, it supports the other to whatever is it that makes them happy, it never fades, it's not jealous, it trusts and it persists. yeah it's a neat idea but that's what love is suppose to mean. there's no other explanation/excuse for this.

when two people share mutual feelings of love they both have different ways of giving it. to be able to make it survive constant communication is very important. communicating not just for the sake of communicating but communicating to solve their own differences. each partner should be responsible to know what are their partner's needs and try to meet them. love+hate=relationship