First Meeting with Virgo Man

This Virgo guy expressed he liked me by email by way of a dating site I'm on. I responded but was a bit leary based on his profile. He put on here that he makes a lot of money, travels for work and likes to have free time to just spontaneously do things. Well after some back and fourth texting trying to get to know something of him before the first meet. I told him about constraints with my situation and that he didn't mind I was a mother and that I couldn't spontaneously do things as I need planning. I asked him if he mind at all but he didn't give me a straight answer just a "I don't plan things I just spontaneously do things".

Well he was eager to meet me it seems like because he was in town for work and was off for the rest of the weekend. He wanted me to come out and eventually I gave in and met him last night. Now the first thing he did when he came out to me was stand tall and just held my back with one hand kinda giving a slight inward embrace. Ummmm he was stiff as a board though and I didn't know if I should have given a peck on the cheek or hugged back with a little more embraced he seemed rigid.

Now he was asking me where we should go? what we should do? as we walked around and around the casino trying to find a place. Then he said let's get drinks and finally just settled at a bar where we got our beverages and sat at the bar for a bit as we exchanged words. Thing is he asked me what I did I told him and then he asked no more; I kinda felt a sense of dismissal from him what I was picking up after telling him what I did. In turn I asked him what he does that he travels so much and he said he works with the military and hesitated to tell me more. I kinda said softly "I guess I won't ask any more questions" and he said quietly too "yea you shouldn't".

So I tried to keep the conversation engaging trying to get to know him. He wanted to leave the bar and go elsewhere and we went outside and walked and there we talked a little more. I was asking him most questions he asked me a few but still he was trying to decide what to do which was driving me crazy! I asked what he felt like doing? dancing? lounging? Mind you he is visiting for work and he expected me as the "local" to know where all the spots are. I felt really overwhelmed by his need to make up his mind. He says that he may call it a night and head back to his hotel.

He sounds like he wanted sex. That he was "in town" and hoped you were going to spontaneously sleep with him. He asks you out and doesnt even offer to take you for a bite to eat or to go dancing? It didn't have to be an expensive place. Sounds like a loser to me.

Something is wrong with the website I wasn't finished; it kept saying there was no other user posts so I couldn't continue to add more to my encounter. Anyway, where I left off we were lounging at a quieter bar and we sat and talked when he mentioned he was gonna head back to his hotel room. Again, I was trying to be engaging to make conversation and what not. He just answered here and there on things I mentioned and asked. At one point he asked me what I was thinking? I told him for a guy that seems like he has it all what was his intentions on the dating site? (On his profile he put that he wanted to find someone and delete his profile). He kept quite and didn't say a word about his reasons. Though he didn't put off the "I want to get to know you" vibe it was more of an analyzing scoping out vibe.

I asked him if he just take things as it comes and he said yes and again he mentioned that he is gonna head back to his hotel room very soon which it came around and we left. We were going around the casino again trying to find the exit that I met him at. We found it and this is how it ended. He said he needed to use the restroom and when he found one by the escalator I had to go down to the exit of the casino. He said I'm gonna use the restroom and head to my truck and he asked if "I was good from here?" I told him "yea" then he did again...lol. He put his hand on my back did the inward stiff embrace and said "I'll see you later"... I just walked away thinking that he is not interested and I will never see that sexy, handsome creature again! But as I walked down the escalator I felt behind my back that he was watching me as I left. That was a feeling but I could be wrong he just walked off.

It's been two days no text no call nothing and he told me he comes to Vegas every month for work so? I haven't texted or call because I feel I'm out of his league. But I really want him to know that first meeting was hard for me to engage with him because he was too overwhelming with what he should do? I didn't expect that and was quite put off by it but he is attractive and well reason why I stayed and tried to engage. What was this Virgo guy doing? Why would he say he likes me but then doesn't give a good meeting to start with being indecisive and putting off vibes he wasn't into me? Then confusing me with him telling me he will see me later? So do you all think he really meant that he will see me later? Or was he being polite? (I will never see you again!)

Healthy, safe people are always direct in their interactions with a person. Narcissists are NEVER direct. NEVER.