Help! I'm a virgo, he's and aquarius!!!!!!!!!!!

I am dating an aquarius, that's all I seem to attract, but this one is special, 95.5% of the time he's the greatest, but then that other 4.5% of the time I want to ring his neck, because he closes himself off when he has problems.
Why? When I said I'll be there even if he was broke, cripple, and blind!

They like thier privacy and are sometimes introverted to think.

Actually, I see alot of similarities in Virgo and Aquarius, especially in that area. Maybe you two are too much alike?

...actually, we are not alike, he likes to got out clubbin, me I'd rather stay home,(actually when he first approached me he said he felt like i could keep him out of trouble) he's jealous and doesn't show it, i'm jealous and definately show it, he prefers cars, i prefer trucks, he's 20, im 27. He's just so confusing, like he shows no emotion (okay most of the time he does), but dares me to be with someone else (he says I know better.) There are times when I want to ring his neck, and then there are times i feel like I could just be there through anything, (Am I confused?) I have never felt like this, I feel like he is causing me to become patient (can you imagine a relaxed patient virgo) and deal with things on someone else's terms, this is very hard for virgo's...

mssxvirgo,

I wasnt reffering to all the traits, just the one you posted. "because he closes himself off when he has problems." The virgo I was with for years did the same exact thing, and most aquarius's I have known handle problems the same way. Your situation must be different, hope it works out for you.

Sunshine...

msvirgo.....hi......Ms. Aquarius here.....understanding your situation very well as I was with a Mr. Virgo for 3 and half years!! - so I understand you when you say you would go to the ends of the earth and be there for your Mr. Aquarius.

However, when I have a problem, that's exactly how I become....distant, remote, unavailable emotionally.....and it's not because I want to hurt anybody in any way......the bottom-line is I feel I am BURDENING someone else with MY problem - I feel I am putting the problem on someone elses shoulders when I should be able to solve the problem for myself....and so I go silent and think and think and think - and when people ask what's wrong?, what's up?.....I will say "nothing"! They know I am not myself, I know I am not myself but I will not talk about the problem at the time. When I have solved the problem as best I can, then and only then might I talk about it to someone else......but at the time it's happening someone could promise me the moon! but I will not speak about it......and that's just the way with aquarians.....or me anyway!!! So let him have his 4.5% privacy time, don't worry about it.....

As for not showing his jealousy........that's very aquarian:-) feel but don't show!!! - because if you show it, then the other knows that you care deeply and if they know that, then they know you can hurt them and possibly reject them at some stage and to be rejected is the greatest hurt of all and so we put on our our heart-proof vests in case of hurt......it takes a long time for that vest to come off...but you are a virgo and if you do it slowly and gently, it will happen.....you just got to have the "patience"!!

Mr. Virgo used say to me....open your heart, say and tell me everything that's inside.....whaatever else he was, he taught me that lesson but it took ages for me to do!!

Anyway, I digress..................good luck with your Mr. Aquarius........he'll probably drive you crazy every which way but it will be delicious crazy:-)

A x

...thanx for the help !

Aquarian/Virgo- Not a match made in heaven as they say. In the long run. There is a mental affinity there with little emotions. Come back in about 10 years and write how it's working then. I have known too many of that combo that didn't work out very well in the end.

Virgo - stick to another Earth or Water sign.

...actually, we are not alike, he likes to got out clubbin, me I'd rather stay home,(actually when he first approached me he said he felt like i could keep him out of trouble) he's jealous and doesn't show it, i'm jealous and definately show it, he prefers cars, i prefer trucks, he's 20, im 27. He's just so confusing, like he shows no emotion (okay most of the time he does), but dares me to be with someone else (he says I know better.) There are times when I want to ring his neck, and then there are times i feel like I could just be there through anything, (Am I confused?) I have never felt like this, I feel like he is causing me to become patient (can you imagine a relaxed patient virgo) and deal with things on someone else's terms, this is very hard for virgo's...

Mssxvirgo - Did you know you just pointed out what your problems will be with this relationship? One thing he's young - men at that age or any age for that matter tend to be immature often emotionally.

But what you wrote is in contrast - my advice, don't lose who you are on this person - already you seem to be. That is not a good sign. I see problems here for you with this guy. He sounds selfish and not someone who wants to get serious. I think you need to re-evauate this one. At 27 why get yourself all tied up with a creep?

"One thing he's young - men at that age or any age for that matter tend to be immature often emotionally, He sounds selfish and not someone who wants to get serious. I think you need to re-evauate this one. At 27 why get yourself all tied up with a creep?"


...okay, let me just say (1) I don't think his age has anything to do with it, (2)he's not an immature person, (3)I can talk to him about anything, (4)he's not a creep, he's actually alot more level headed than the knuclke heads I've met around my age, and (5)he is no where near selfish! Believe me it takes alot for me to get hung up, I don't think I've lost myself, I am way too selfish to allow myself to be lost, now intrigued maybe, but not lost. Keep in mind here that I AM am a virgo and once I feel my pride is being jepordized by someone or something, I drop them or it like a bad habit. No problems, no arguments, just trying to find out how to deal with his fickle mind. I just said 94.5% of the time he's the greatest, how do you get being a creep out of that. And if it's the fact that he goes out, hey my partying days are over, I work graveyard and have little time for it. But I sure as hell don't mind him going out because know he's still young and needs to have his fun. But believe me I know that he cares about me, because he tells meand it shows. I have a motto, "If you can take him he was never mine! So try your hardest!

He's not the one - trust me on that. All of what you say that's fine. ANd that is how you feel for now.

At the beginning everything looks good. The true nature may take longer than 6 months or a year. As you said you are intrigued, not in love. That's another matter. Talk to me after two or three years.

At 27 what are you looking for, I would think someone with more substance than a 20 year old. You are just beginning to know yourself - at what looks good at 27, maynot at 37.
If I overstep please forgive me - but I don't think in your 20's most don't have a clue. Sometimes I think we women should just wait until we are around 30 or 35 to even begin to think about getting serious. I hope you don't stay confused, but it was just something you said in your post - that made me write what I did.
Whatever you do, I wish you good luck.

And if you are certain of him - why did you post these messages. You should know what you want from this. We can't help you, only give an opinion.

...that's what the question was!

I must offer an apology to you guys on the board here with this topic. If I sound a little caustic it's because you guys are so young to worry about if you are compatible with someone - or if something is going to work. Only you know that and the other person involved. Sometimes when we discuss men in astological terms - we aren't really seeing the big picture. Some of this has nothing to do with astrology- it's just a man thing. Firstly we know that most men fear commitments and the "L" word just scares the B'Jesus out of them. That has nothing to do with astrology.

You guys are just young to be hung up so to speak. Miss Virgo what I was trying to say was a guy at 20 maybe serious, maybe level headed - but look at how far he has to go in terms of school, career, partying, and whatever young men do at that age. Girls come and go in their lives all the time.

I guess at my age (55) I see other things to be serious about. Yes I am a Scorpio and I am involved with a Virgo - and have been for several years. It's a good match for me and I am at peace with him. But that's me - I've been 27 and believe me - men were not that important to me at that age. My schooling was and starting a career. Men came later.

If you come to message board and it is fun sometimes to compare things and thoughts, asking about if you are going to make a go of relationship, then one needs to go and re-think it. I read some of these posts and can see what will be the end results. Women on this post want a man to do what they want them to do - no man alive is going to be the end or be all of what you want.

So enjoy your youth -

And no Miss Virgo - in my opinion the Aquarian won't be your last love. At 27, you have a way to go yet.

lol,yeah i was thinking of posting that the first time but neglected to post it due the circumstances of that moment on the aqua board on the privacy and inner thoughts topic.😛It'd be good to get both virgos and more aquas opinions.I think there may be some other virgos who used to mainly hang out on that board too maybe they'll actually log in to chat about it too.