HELP VIRGO

I am a cancer male - dated a virgo man for 10 months - very close relationship, fell in love, a horrible and hurtful breakup. Now after 8 months - I decide to make peace for closure. UGH!
I contacted him - and spoke - pleasant conversation - but I think I should have left well enough alone. Help you virgos - !

I think that when a virgo is done with you. He gets annoyed if you try to get back in his life. He considers you the past. Old news. Just my experience. And he will be pissed off if he already has it in his mind that "you and he" have no chance if you try 'again' to attempt to change his mind. It is like you are not praising his intution. Virgo's suck. You are better off with out him. GO find you a sweet loving healthy cancer man.(smile)

two cancer men = Heaven. Been there done that. Completely awesome karma baby!

Actually, he was very excited that I did contact him, and now wants to build this incredible friendship. He wants to see me. Hmmm... I don't know. I don't think I am ready for all that. I initially said I wanted to, but I don't think it's a good idea. Really.

When you say you think you should have left well enough alone, it sounds like it wasn't all just for closure, but that a little part of you wanted to see if there was a spark. I am a female Virgo, and once I do not want to see someone again, unless it was ended as such to remain friends, I would not want to be involved in the opposite persons closure. Especially after 8 months. Sorry, I don't mean to sound cold, but that's how I would feel.

It's no use - I just need to forget and move on, basically.

man I am right there with you. I am an idealistic, fun loving, ARIES you can ever imagine. A type that wants to fix everything and make amends. I still long for my virgo. Who I KNOW is way over me! It sucks because I am so inclined to call him. But I am aware that he would see it as unsalvagable and realistic. Sucks for me. But if 'he' is still interested in seeing you and there is still a dual interest involved. I say go for it. Sounds like you have a chance to make up!

Female Virgo speaking here.

When Virgos are done with you, they are done with you. They keep in touch with you because they want to make you feel better. When they say "remain friends", they mean it. There will not be a spark in your friendship. They might even have sex with you if you are still sexually attracted to them. But don't take it serious.

I apology for my frankness. The Virgos I talk about are those who have less self-awareness. There are still a lot of decent Virgos out there. Get one who does not keep you hanging there.

actually lately, he is the one who has been contacting me via email or phone. I just need to make up with him - nothing else. Im dating someone else now anyway.

Will a virgo also disappoint in a friendship?
After all, he wants to be friends, he is my ex - risky?

It is risky if you are more attached to him than he does to you.

This saddens me that immensely. I know in my heart that we cannot be lovers, friends or anything else at this point.
We are suppose to have drinks tomorrow night - I should just cancel. It would be nice to catch up - but will it kill me later?

yes, don't do it.

Ugh! I think I am going to throw up!

Don't do it!! What happened was in the past. Concentrate on the NOW. ANd what you learned from it. Build a more beautiful tommorow.....by staying home.

I have to put peace to this! I have to!
I have no other agendas or motives. I am all over that! I have to make peace with him, if I don't, it will always bother me! Peace is good! I am doing this for me, not him.

OK then you have answered your own question. Go and get your closure.

Well, I did it and I'm so glad that I did. Quite honestly, we had a wonderful, fun time - I was never so focused, direct, strong, charismatic than I was with him. He saw a side of me that he's never seen in the relationship. We ended very, very peacefully - and hopefully, a true blue friendship will come of it. Thanks all for your advice!

So, are you going to see him again? Would you try to portray that changed and confident friend to him again or if there's a spark— (Sorry for my chopped up English!) I'm going thru a similar scenario. I'm a Virgo female and my ex is a Pisces female. I would like to be friends and see her again. I know she dumped me and yet I still feel like she did it because of my Virgoish ways. (Don't get me started on what I mean by that! There's a lot to over look.) I've dated and had a very sweet relationship with a great girl after she dumped me that I would still like to repair. Yet, I don't believe I'll get that chance. She's also a Pisces- (go figure). Where am I going with this? I think it's great that you saw your past, and it was a nice reunion. Also, that you embraced the learning experience. Yet, didn't you already know the definition of what the past means? I still want to see her (my ex). I guess I should be one to take my own advice. Sorry if I've been of no help. Actually, getting the closure is not such a bad idea. Geez, I'm really trying to convince myself! What a Wack-o! lol

I see your point. However, I saw him with no agenda or motive to get back with him. He broke up with me - but I took the higher ground and made peace and amends with "the past". We had a horrible and abrupt breakup. I had to make peace for me - it helps me move to the next level, and I feel such peace in my heart. (I am a cancer by the way). The ironic thing is, he is now contacting me to "hangout" and such. I could tell there is still feelings for me (from him), but I was so strong, and so happy I did what I did. I feel so liberated! I am a much different person than I was back then, but I had to "peace the past". It sounds weird, but it's the truth!

It's all about forgiving and letting go. This is not an easy process, believe me - it takes time, but when the heart finally gets there - it's there!